Going on Dates

TheVan

JustCoz wrote:

I second that. It's not really much of an Irish thing is it?

It really should be though? I think its a much better way to get to know someone. Also there's the excitement before the date and also you have picked something fun/interesting (hopefully!) and so you'll have great fun!

I think Irish people need to remember that a date doesnt bind you and something great could come out of it!

Lady_Macbeth

eh?! are 'dates' being defined here as general activities done as couple? Sure, if a couple doesn't go on a 'date' then what the hell do they do?! My boyfriend and I will go to the cinema, pub, etc., but are they considered 'dates' as such? If they are and everyone's saying no they don't go on dates then what do y'all do with your other half?! If you mean meeting a person for the first time (properly, after meeting them on a night out that is) then what exactly else is there to do? I mean you're not both going to meet up and just stand and the side of the road swaying to and fro chatting away to each other are you?

Lady_Macbeth

Le Rack wrote:

Is the cinema really a date place anymore cuz mostly people just go to the cinema these days so they have somewhere dark to shove their tongues down eacothers throats, they don't go as a couple to snuggle up and watch the film?

Uh-oh, my boyfriend and I have been misinterpreting the purpose of the cinema so....we go as a couple to snuggle up and watch the film. Heck, they charge enough, I'm not paying to sit in the dark to kiss him!

JustCoz

eh?! are 'dates' being defined here as general activities done as couple?

No, I'm talking about first dates here, or second and third dates. Couples going out isn't a date imo

TheVan

Lady_Macbeth wrote:

eh?! are 'dates' being defined here as general activities done as couple? Sure, if a couple doesn't go on a 'date' then what the hell do they do?! My boyfriend and I will go to the cinema, pub, etc., but are they considered 'dates' as such? If they are and everyone's saying no they don't go on dates then what do y'all do with your other half?! If you mean meeting a person for the first time (properly, after meeting them on a night out that is) then what exactly else is there to do? I mean you're not both going to meet up and just stand and the side of the road swaying to and fro chatting away to each other are you?

Well as far as I know we're talking about meeting up with people for the first time. This isn't necessarily after meeting up on a night out. Think one of the points here is, is it ok to just ask people out, not having scored before? I could be wrong...correct me if i am!
I only used the example of me and my ex cos it was a long term relationship and I haven't any other real experience with dates per se!

daiixi

I reckon dates are great! There's nothing more fun than going out with someone who you hardly know and getting to know them.. Finding out what makes them tick, see if you can shock them, getting those first kisses.. ahhh dates! :D:D

Eminem

Date that sounds so weird to me dont like the word

daiixi

Eminem wrote:

Date that sounds so weird to me dont like the word

What would you prefer to call it?

440Hz

It seems to be an Irish thing alright. i like the idea of a date, but they never seem to happen in this country. One of my best mates just came back after travelling the globe and has spent the whole time since she got back complaining about how Irish guys dont ask people out on dates. When she was in New Zealand she went on dates all the time, and is constantly going on about how much she would love if Irish guys would change their ways... I dont see it happening tbh, but it would be nice!!

buzzandwiks

Lady_Macbeth wrote:

eh?! are 'dates' being defined here as general activities done as couple? Sure, if a couple doesn't go on a 'date' then what the hell do they do?! My boyfriend and I will go to the cinema, pub, etc., but are they considered 'dates' as such? If they are and everyone's saying no they don't go on dates then what do y'all do with your other half?! If you mean meeting a person for the first time (properly, after meeting them on a night out that is) then what exactly else is there to do? I mean you're not both going to meet up and just stand and the side of the road swaying to and fro chatting away to each other are you?

Ye, ye Can someone clear up what Aunty Macbeth said and what do Irish people classify as a date? If you meet someone on a night out and decide to meet up again Id class that as a date, If Irish people dont date then what do they do? whats the difference between going out and a date? To me going out just sounds less formal and cheesey than going out on a date but its the same thing.

Atrocity

meetin up in the pub, maybe going to see a movie. that's as much as I like

Eminem

All i said was i dont like that word dating .Id prefer meeting are shiffting

daiixi

Eminem wrote:

All i said was i dont like that word dating .Id prefer meeting are shiffting

shifting??? that is just odd!

Eminem

Ok you have your opinion and i have mine:)

daiixi

oh yea, I'm not from around this hemisphere.. I meant "what the hell does 'shifting' mean?"

Eminem

It means your not going out with somone but ur shiffting same as meeting them

ergo

daiixi wrote:

oh yea, I'm not from around this hemisphere.. I meant "what the hell does 'shifting' mean?"

*groans*

"shifting" is a term some Irish people use instead of "kissing" or for others "meeting" or in fact "scoring" or.....blah blah

there have been a million threads on this but I can't find any to point you to even in the advanced search section but I can imagine how confusing it would be to someone from another hemisphere...

it does sound ridiculous, I don't use the term anymore myself but did when I was younger, maybe around when I was 18, am now 27, but anyway, that's for another thread
(actually similar to the way Aussies say to "pash" instead of to kiss")

anyway, I wouldn't say the above expressions are interchangable with "dating" because you might go on a few dates before kissing someone or it might never happen. It's true, Irish people don't go on dates like those overseas do, maybe as we get older and as more of us have been away that has started to change. And for me, the cinema is a place I would avoid if I wanted to get to know someone in a date situation, but it is a good place for "snogging" or "making out" or....blah blah...when you're 16 or so :rolleyes:

daiixi

ergo wrote:

*groans*

"shifting" is a term some Irish people use instead of "kissing" or for others "meeting" or in fact "scoring" or.....blah blah

it does sound ridiculous, I don't use the term anymore myself but did when I was younger, maybe around when I was 18, am now 27, but anyway, that's for another thread
(actually similar to the way Aussies say to "pash" instead of to kiss")

anyway, I wouldn't say the above expressions are interchangable with "dating" because you might go on a few dates before kissing someone or it might never happen. It's true, Irish people don't go on dates like those overseas do, maybe as we get older and as more of us have been away that has started to change. And for me, the cinema is a place I would avoid if I wanted to get to know someone in a date situation, but it is a good place for "snogging" or "making out" or....blah blah...when you're 16 or so :rolleyes:

ergh.. it's "snog" not "pash"!!!!!!! It's not the early 1990's anymore!!!!!

I've gone one a few dates with Irish guys since I arrived here...

Either way, dates are good things! "Shifting" still sounds bad!

ergo

daiixi wrote:

ergh.. it's "snog" not "pash"!!!!!!! It's not the early 1990's anymore!!!!!

I've gone one a few dates with Irish guys since I arrived here...

Either way, dates are good things! "Shifting" still sounds bad!

sorry, maybe that should have read Queenslanders and not Aussies, because when I was in Queensland 2 years ago, a girl who was from the sticks used the expression "pash" in everyday speak,

and also my friend "Pat" who pronounced his name with the typically Irish soft "T" so it sounded like "Pash" got quite a bit of slagging off for this

anyway, for me the word "shift" is mid 90's but it's obviously still alive and well here.....

omb0wyn5ehpij9

ergo wrote:

And for me, the cinema is a place I would avoid if I wanted to get to know someone in a date situation, but it is a good place for "snogging" or "making out" or....blah blah...when you're 16 or so :rolleyes:

Last date i went on, i went to the cinema, and had a fantastic time. Granted i did know the girl before going on the date, but we ended up sitting in the car for 3 hours chatting after the cinema.....it felt like about 20 minutes to me

But i dont see anything wrong with the cinema for a date, the film gives you something to talk about after it

ergo

BrynW wrote:

Last date i went on, i went to the cinema, and had a fantastic time. Granted i did know the girl before going on the date, but we ended up sitting in the car for 3 hours chatting after the cinema.....it felt like about 20 minutes to me

But i dont see anything wrong with the cinema for a date, the film gives you something to talk about after it

fair enough, maybe I slagged off the cinema as a date situation a bit much, sure down through the years have been on a good few cinema dates myself, just been trying to avoid it recently,
the main thing is you need to be able to talk to the person before or after be it over coffee, a drink, food or whatever or in the car....
But if she's getting the last bus to the other side of town it's a bit of a disaster :rolleyes:

ah, it's all good really