Going on Dates

JustCoz · 13-01-2006 08:10PM #1

What do people think of going on dates? It's not really a done thing in Ireland like it is in America or other countries. Personally I find them sort of embarrassing and awkward if you don't know the person that well and they never really lead anywhere.

What do other people think? Do you go on dates often?

anthonymcg · 13-01-2006 08:12PM

Depends on your definition of a "date". If you met someone in a bar and then you went to the cinema a week later isn't that a date?

JustCoz · 13-01-2006 08:17PM

Yeah exactly. I think that would be a date. Loads of my friends are always going on dates with people they meet on nights out but I dn't think I'd ever meet up with someone you met on a night out. I'd find it way too awkward but that's just me

Nalz · 13-01-2006 08:21PM

In the words of Des Bishop

"Irish people dont date...they shift"

scuba steve · 13-01-2006 08:26PM

ha ha, that crazy Des Bishop!

hullaballoo · 13-01-2006 08:29PM

JustCoz wrote:

What do people think of going on dates? It's not really a done thing in Ireland like it is in America or other countries. Personally I find them sort of embarrassing and awkward if you don't know the person that well and they never really lead anywhere.

What do other people think? Do you go on dates often?

Will you go out with me?

hullaballoo · 13-01-2006 08:29PM

Did I just make things awkward?

JustCoz · 13-01-2006 08:31PM

Ha ha! Are you playing reverse psychology hullaballoo?

susanna · 13-01-2006 08:32PM

I do find them really awkward, but I suppose you have to take the chance, you might go out with someone and really hit it off

Le Rack · 13-01-2006 08:36PM

DAtes aren't the done thing in Ireland its just that simple... I know a few couples who go on the odd date but you still here them say things about awkwardness and nervousness...

One boyf I had we used to do stupid little things, like he "took me for dinner" one day, we went to the chippie and he paid! We had a tea party in front of the fire one day... that was fun!

Is the cinema really a date place anymore cuz mostly people just go to the cinema these days so they have somewhere dark to shove their tongues down eacothers throats, they don't go as a couple to snuggle up and watch the film?

hullaballoo · 13-01-2006 08:36PM

At least you didn't say "I don't think so".

Repli · 13-01-2006 08:36PM

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JustCoz · 13-01-2006 08:42PM

I think that if someone has the courage to ask you out in the first place you should be nice to them. That "I don't think so" girl is an idiot

Font22 · 13-01-2006 08:44PM

hullaballo that girl was an idiot! bet shes kicking herself now! just coz- boys are stupid, throw stones/boulders/grenades at them. i hate boys, except for my dad and hullaballo!

Le Rack · 13-01-2006 08:45PM

Does anyone else hate it when a guy says "we're such good freinds I don't want to ruin that, I just don't know if we'd work out as a couple" Firstly, you'll never know if you don't try and secondly, if you are such good friends then what harm can come of just giving it a go? Especially when it's acommonly known fact that the both of you actually like eachother?

Font22 · 13-01-2006 08:46PM

like i said..........guys are stupid

kjt · 13-01-2006 08:49PM

Le Rack wrote:

Does anyone else hate it when a guy says "we're such good freinds I don't want to ruin that, I just don't know if we'd work out as a couple" Firstly, you'll never know if you don't try and secondly, if you are such good friends then what harm can come of just giving it a go? Especially when it's acommonly known fact that the both of you actually like eachother?

Possibly... because when it doesnt work out you's cant be friends at the end of it all. Just my personal history. (too emotionally attached and so on...)

Le Rack · 13-01-2006 08:54PM

I'm friends with all my ex's and I was best friends with some of them before we went out... however I am only 18 and have a grand total of 7 real ex's that I actually went out with...

JustCoz · 13-01-2006 08:56PM

Well considering you're only 18 thats an impressive love life!

rick_fantastic · 13-01-2006 08:56PM

Le Rack wrote:

Does anyone else hate it when a guy says "we're such good freinds I don't want to ruin that, I just don't know if we'd work out as a couple"
Firstly, you'll never know if you don't try and secondly, if you are such good friends then what harm can come of just giving it a go?

its just a nice way of saying not interested.

id never take a girl out to the cinema on a date, especially not the first time i see them after scoring them in a niteclub

cant beat nice meal / bottle of wine and bit of proper conversation

Le Rack · 13-01-2006 09:05PM

rick_fantastic wrote:

its just a nice way of saying not interested.

I know but it's wicked irritating, it's much easier and nicer to just say summit simple to the effect of "You're a really good friend and all but I just don't see you in that light"

See? Much easier, with the other one, it's knida like "hmm so they like me but they think we're too good friends..."

Eminem · 13-01-2006 09:06PM

It depends how close you are as best mates Because if it happends and dosent work out it sucks;)

sprinkles · 13-01-2006 09:10PM

I think its fairly common thing.

I've been on a good few over the years.....

That is if your taking about when you meet a girl out some night, swap numbers and arrange to meet up or "go on a date as you put it".

Doesn't have to be to the cinema either....pub, ice skating (best one yet in terms of activity imo), funderland, gig, etc..etc..

Le Rack · 13-01-2006 09:11PM

Be warned teen rant fast approaching!

I'm still friends with my ex's yeah, but there's also guys who are like my best friends, my mam was like their second mother, and we've had "encounters" and didn't work out as a proper relationship but we still stayed friends... maybe I just lead a very simple life!

Fobia · 13-01-2006 09:15PM

Le Rack wrote:

Especially when it's acommonly known fact that the both of you actually like eachother?

Le Rack wrote:

know but it's wicked irritating,

Don't mean to nitpick, but if it's a commonly known fact that the both of you like eachother, how does him saying he's simply not interested add up? I'm not sure what you mean by "like", maybe that's causing my confusion..

nitrogen · 13-01-2006 09:17PM

They're normally quite important if you're looking for a relationship!

Whether it'ss called a date in Ireland or not, you still have dates, whether it be meeting in a pub with mates or the cinema.

Eminem · 13-01-2006 09:17PM

Ye fair enough it can i got with one of my best mates before we just got sick of it and went back to being best mates but i went out with of my best mates another time and it didnt work .

Le Rack · 13-01-2006 09:18PM

I'm using a bad example with a complicated history. We did like eacother, a lot, there was an incident, a common friend sh!t stirrin, he said he wanted to go out with me, until the stirrir... and it's a small town, people get around, he got this other one, efore eventually going out with my best friend, the "love of his life"

TheVan · 13-01-2006 09:27PM

Personally I lament the non-existence of dates!

I went on a good few with my ex back in the day and much prefer dinner, the cinema and random activities much more than meeting some girl in a nightclub! Also with my dance skills I reckon my stronger environment is the date one rather than the nightclub!

However I think Irish people say they'd love dates but actually shy away from them in the end?

And no, not many.....

JustCoz · 13-01-2006 09:46PM

However I think Irish people say they'd love dates but actually shy away from them in the end?

I second that. It's not really much of an Irish thing is it?

Repli · 13-01-2006 09:53PM

I had a date once. It was August 8th 2003.

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