meeting people online what do you think

the Guru

I was just MSN chatting to my mate in London , about when I'm getting married and Life abroad etc , I asked him about his love life and conquests he advised that he met some chick online last Friday had fun with her etc .... which I said good luck to him.

Now this is where it gets interesting , he advised me that I missed the boat regarding meeting people online there are so many people out there that want to meet up for sex only etc not for relationships.... but also sometimes he does meet them again, and when I have been in London with him and I have met some of them , some really interesting and some well not so bright but I have met them. This person and I have been very good friends for years and before I met my present GF we when out a lot together.

Now I have never been interested in Internet dating I believe there is a stigma attached to it, I have always enjoyed the hands on approach.

What do you folks think about online hook ups and dating ??????

garthv

Well I've "gotten lucky" a few times over the internet,
Met up with a whole group (IRC) and got talking to one individual in particular from which a relationship has bloomed. I realise there is stigma's related to it but its really up to yourself.
Not on the relationship side but boards.ie constantly has meetups where we go out for beers and have a laugh, connect a face to the nick.
At the end of the day whats the worst that could happen?

Roy16

I dont think there is anything wrong with as nobody is actually doing anything wrong.

I have heard of this before but i have never actually looked into this. Where would go on the internet to meet people or is there a website.

Nevyn

Please explain how this is a PI for you or else this thread will be moved to a more suitible forum.

the Guru

he meets all the girls from hot or not ,

I dont think hes doing anything wrong but its just not my cup of tea and he should understand that im settled down now !!

You can move it if its not the right forum

Nevyn

the Guru wrote:

I dont think hes doing anything wrong but its just not my cup of tea and he should understand that im settled down now !!

Well it is your friend to who you should be telling this to and if it is what he wants to do let him but just tell him to play it safe and make sure he practices safe sex.

the Guru

Thaedydal, I don't care what he does he's an adult that's how he gets his kicks , I was just interested how many people here were into online dating and what there thoughts where on the subject.

azezil

I've met about 30 (rough guess maybe its more i honestly can't remember) guys tru the internet. Mixed results, had 2 long term (long for me) relationships, made some friends, had some sex... I don't see anything wrong with it!

Couple of things I would advise, don't take too much of what is said to you before you meet up for granted, when I first started I used to think these guys were so incredibly sweet, and used to talk for months before meeting up, just for them to turn around when / after we met and say "I was just looking for a shag". I always make sure to get some pic's, make sure they're recent too, and if at all possible see them on web cam, pictures are really not a good way to judge how someone looks, its harder to make poses and get the lighting 'just right' when you're live on cam

Fast_Mover

u not think u have to be attractd to the person off hand and all that..with internet dating u dont no who at the other side of the computer..!

suppose with the net you can see more what the person like with appearences not getting in way/important...

im in two minds...think the traditional way more for me tho... i still enjoy chatn to people tho none the less...weird to think that i havnt a clue what ye all look like and ye me..and how i prob never will..anywho different strokes for different folks as they say...

Nalz

Fast_Mover wrote:

u not think u have to be attractd to the person off hand and all that..with internet dating u dont no who at the other side of the computer..!

suppose with the net you can see more what the person like with appearences not getting in way/important...

im in two minds...think the traditional way more for me tho... i still enjoy chatn to people tho none the less...weird to think that i havnt a clue what ye all look like and ye me..and how i prob never will..anywho different strokes for different folks as they say...

I second that, though my mates brother did it and he's with a hot blonde 2 years...they tell everyone about it all the time.

Q:"where did you meet?"
A: "oh we met on the world wide web"

gets old!!

Jonny Arson

I don't have any stigma or apprehension towards people dating online but I know alot of people do. Just the last week on another MB there was a thread where someone set up a false female persona so they could take the piss out of all the blokes who tried to contact this ''girl''. Pathetic really but it proved to me that there's a common widespread misconception that everyone who does this desperate, weird etc. That's BS. I never done it myself but If you meet the right person who's good for you then and makes you happy so what?

jonny68

Nothing wrong with it at all,many years ago people might have thought it as weird but it's the norm now and easier to meet a girl/guy online if your looking to that is than some sh*t bar or club,i met a girl before online and ended up actually going out for quite sometime,i know lads who have met girls online many times before for sex and one or two like i did in the past have actually ended up going out with the person so absolutely nothing wrong with it and anyone who thinks there is, is IMO living in the past.

simu

Nothing wrong with it imo. Just don't expect love at first sight! You get a mixed bunch of people - some great, some creepy, most in between - just like anywhere else.

Rockee

So what websites do you go to meet people online??? The likes of Yahoo chat are a waste, everyone seems to be on drugs in there...can never get a sensible conversation going!

Lone Stone

i met a girl from ballyfermot a few years ago of the internet
we actualy first met years and year nad years before that in iol chat
and exchanged numbers when we were like 13 or 14
and talked for a while lost touch.

then one nite i was pissed drunk and seen a name in my phone had no idea who it was and rang it we were both in shock and she rememberd me rite away
took me a few minets to remember being drunk and all :op and by this time i was like in my 20's <- and she was like 19 or 18

i fell in love with her =D (but never said it cause i dont like to throw that word around)we talked every night met up she was my ideal looking girl short and sexy, but we lost touch again after an argument i dont know think she lost her phone or some thing but i really miss her still =( and havent been able to get in touch with her again we only went out a few times but we knew each other so well and got on so well that it was like we knew each other forever....

and now well still miss her think about her alot wish i could find some way to get in touch with her again =(

Rockee

Where on the net though did you meet her? Was it chatroom or what? I remember bout 5 years ago using yahoo chat for the first time and you could meet load of people. Now its full of people talking about nothing...just loads of smileys and random words that dont equate to much...

rsynnott

I've done it a few times; not completely disastrous

Rockee

In chat rooms? Just curious

Lone Stone

Rockee wrote:

Where on the net though did you meet her? Was it chatroom or what? I remember bout 5 years ago using yahoo chat for the first time and you could meet load of people. Now its full of people talking about nothing...just loads of smileys and random words that dont equate to much...

it was on iol.com's chat room but it's not there any more they removed it dunno why...

i would be very weary of meeting just anyone of the net tho especialy in a chat room. I added someone to my msn b4 and it was some gay guy pretending to be a girl which really freaked me out :eek:

this is what id recomend b4 you meet anyone of the net

1: get a picture not one but a few,anyone can just nab some pics of someones profile somewhere.
2: talk on the phone for a while! tell alot about a person by the way they talk on the phone chat rooms are very impersonal .
3: if are going to meet do it in a very public place:
why ? because if you see him/her comeing and she/he is dam ugly run like the wind boy! :v:

rsynnott

Rockee wrote:

In chat rooms? Just curious

Gaydar. I'm not sure what the equivalent, if any, is for straight people.

Gordon

Moved from PI.

NoDayBut2Day

My first inclination is to say that meeting people online and having relationships is great for some people, but it wouldn't work for me. I like to be there with the person and meet them that way. I've made a lot of good friends through online forums, but it was always just a friendship thing.

However, I know internet dating that has worked out for the best; my Spanish professor actually met her husband online. Thought that was interesting, as you don't see many cases like that, but yeah... depends on the people involved in the relationship and what they really want to get out of it.

garthv

www.okcupid.com
Ive never used a dating site for it though..Always managed to do it through IRC

Ruu_Old

If you are comfortable enough with meeting someone online, then sure g'wan i met my wife online thru IRC. we first went our separate ways, i moved to London (she is from America). I moved back to Ireland, we chatted again and started to get really close so decided to meet for a few days. I flew over to the states, had a blast (This is cutting a long story short, there was many trips for both of us back and forth to and from Ireland). We got married in May 2004 in the states, all my family and friends were over. Still married and living in the US, having a great time and couldnt be happier

LovelyHurling

Online dating, I dunno, havent ever known anyone who tried it. I cant see how it can compare to the real thing teither... unless you're a shy person, but even so, its porbs better to just throw some looks at girls in a pub.

I can see how people in the countryside who perhaps feel castaway from a real social scene would revert to this, and I don't want to seem like im ridiculing internet dating, but (opinion) certainly the words desperate and unhealthy spring to mind. Sounds very old fashioned I know, but its a concept Ive never got my head around... must be very awkward when you do eventually meet for a drink?

kensutz

Rockee are you really that desperate to know how other people met girls/guys? You've been insistent on wanting to find out how and where they did meet up.

Manic Moran

I have met a lot of people from the 'Net. Indeed, I make it a policy to meet as many as I can.

Yes, there's the dating/romance thing, I've 'hooked up' with a fair few Netizens, and my Fiancee is Net-Found, but just on ordinary social levels as well.

When I emigrated to the US, I went onto a wargaming mailing list and said 'Lads, I'll be in San Francisco next week, who's in the area?" Some chap who barely knew me from Adam replied "Come on over, stay on my couch, I'll help you find your feet."

I have since met up with people from military, firearms and gaming fora, to no ill effect, as well as social clubs and dates. Admittedly, it's less of a worry for me than some, I'm a 6'5 thirty-year-old male, so I can take risks that 20-year-old 5'7 women can't.

NTM

Preset No.3

I would think that its ok, as long as you feel comfortable with it and try and check out the other person as much as you can. Happened myself recently, met someone online and then to MSN, good chat bout loads of stuff, but just a few different things didnt add up for me! After a few placed questions I figured she wasnt the 23 yr old that I thought she was, but a school kid!! Scared the **** out of me, and has damppen my interest in talking to people online again.

mise_me_fein_V2

What age was she?

You know if she's at least 16 you were ok.

joejoem

the Guru wrote:

What do you folks think about online hook ups and dating ??????

Are they all ugly? That would be my big worry.


Not that I'm shallow or anything.

Lux23

I think you are better of going to meets of websites like this one. You may get to meet someone you like that way and it is alot safer then meeting someone on your own. I know this is a generalisation but in my experience foreign lads seem to approach girls alot more readily then Irish men. And its just not in pubs I have been chatted up in parks, at bus stops and even HMV. I never seen an Irish lad do that.

mise_me_fein_V2

Sure that's why we drink so much...to come out of ourselves.

Kiera

mise_me_fein_V2 wrote:

Sure that's why we drink so much...to come out of ourselves.

Yeah some drunken eejit drooling over us is a real turn on!!

joejoem

Kiera wrote:

Yeah some drunken eejit drooling over us is a real turn on!!

farts would turn you on :rolleyes:

Kiera

joejoem wrote:

farts would turn you on :rolleyes:

Only your farts, Joejoem!!

joejoem

Kiera wrote:

Only your farts, Joejoem!!

Well I cant blame you there, who doesnt love the smell of butter

faceman

My cousin (who is a real lady's man and considered to be quite good looking) met his wife on the web. Hes irish, shes from japan. They live in the UK now with their daughter.

Ive dated mots off the web. Great way to meet ppl without the BS of pubs n clubs.

cregser

Just had a flick through hot or not there, there's actually a few hot and interesting girls on there.

[EDIT]I wonder what she's after?

Flukey

The internet is now just another place where you can meet people. It is a little different, but going back a few years, people had pen pals. The internet is a modern equivalent in some ways. I have lots of friends on the net and that I have actually met in person, even from and in other countries. I also know couples who have met through the net and are now married. We are all people here, we gather together, so it is very similar to other places we meet. There are risks, but in some ways it is safer in that the first contact isn't direct and there is that level of safety in that, even if the other person may be lying about themselves. People can lie to your face too. Most people are legit and just ordinary people. So there are some pros to meeting people this way and getting a chance to evaluate them at a safe distance as it were.

Nalz

Flukey wrote:

The internet is now just another place where you can meet people.

Fair point. Never thought of it that way but isnt also fair to say that over half the population of the world have access to the net? How many of them are weirdos? Odds are slightly higher than penpals.

But I know...you could meet a weirdo in the local this weekend either

rsynnott

Trilla wrote:

Fair point. Never thought of it that way but isnt also fair to say that over half the population of the world have access to the net? How many of them are weirdos? Odds are slightly higher than penpals.

No, it's not. Over half the population of the world have still, apparently, never used a telephone.

And there are lots of weirdos in real life as well

Ruu_Old

The amount of ads certainly here in the states about different online dating companies is unreal! Every second or third ad is an online dating one.

Saskia

I think its rather sad and pathetic. Its impossible to get a feel of how someone really is over the internet. If its just a shag then fine but if you're looking for something a bit more substantial id look elsewhere then the internet. Speed Dating for example.

AngryBadger

I've done it a few times, and it's always worked out well

AngryBadger

Ok, this is a very big issue, so I've taken one for the team.

...I went onto that "HotorNot" site and said I'd like to meet every irish girl on it....I'll let you all know how it turns out

faceman

Saskia wrote:

I think its rather sad and pathetic. Its impossible to get a feel of how someone really is over the internet. If its just a shag then fine but if you're looking for something a bit more substantial id look elsewhere then the internet. Speed Dating for example.

Uve obviously never tried. But if its impossible to get to know someone over the internet, then where does the sex enter it? Do u think that meeting someone in the niteclub/bar drunk is a better idea??

ST*

AngryBadger wrote:

Ok, this is a very big issue, so I've taken one for the team....I went onto that "HotorNot" site and said I'd like to meet every irish girl on it....I'll let you all know how it turns out

haven't done this in quite a while but here goes I'm on there too
Knowing my luck I will wind up with you lmao
Here you shoulda put this on your 'talk about me' column:

Originally Posted by AngryBadger
the problem a lot of guys have is that they tend to take women at their word, so when women talk about respect, equality, and various other buzzwords, men assume that's the actual fact. then we get confused all the way to hell when the opposite turns out to be the case.

AngryBadger

Shock_treatment wrote:

haven't done this in quite a while but here goes I'm on there too
Knowing my luck I will wind up with you lmao
Here you shoulda put this on your 'talk about me' column:

Originally Posted by AngryBadger
the problem a lot of guys have is that they tend to take women at their word, so when women talk about respect, equality, and various other buzzwords, men assume that's the actual fact. then we get confused all the way to hell when the opposite turns out to be the case.

Lmao that's a dam good idea, look for the guy in the Superman costume

kaimera

unless you happen to have a can of Dr.Pepper with you...whats the worst that can happen?

nps meeting folk from teh web, made some great mates and a have a relationship out of a meeting aswell

ST*

kaimera wrote:

unless you happen to have a can of Dr.Pepper with you...whats the worst that can happen?
nps meeting folk from teh web, made some great mates and a have a relationship out of a meeting aswell

LMFAO, dont you mean a can of pepper-spray? especially if it is Angry badger No worries, I've done this a few times before- and it was grand.
Made some good friends out of it too. Haven't done it for a while though :eek:

StupidLikeAFox

Its amazing the amount of girls on that site that are "up for a laugh". Is that a code word for horny as ****?

EDIT: And if i ever got the notion, this would be my first stop!
http://meetme.hotornot.com/r/?emid=GLHZBSS