Drink problem

spahndirge

Fun girl wrote:

I cant just move out though I wouldnt be able to for at least 6 months due to money problems and also as bad as my problems are with my mother i'd miss my little brother and sister and i have to look out for my dad too.

The big problem here is that you're stuck in a situation you can't leave. Parts of your family depend on you and maybe it isn't easy to see because things are a bit messed up. I'd recommend quiting drink or taking it easier because the family enviroment is very close knit and everyone picks up on everyones problems easily, since you have a good relationship with some of your family, your drinking may be only adding to the problems.

In all honesty, drinking is pretty much the selfish thing to do here because of not being able to deal with things, which is understandable, but is going to make other people feel worse about the situation. It's not nice to see someone in moments of self destruct mode, I've never allowed people to see me like that, so I could be as selfish as I want and know that what I was doing was only having an effect on me.

From the sounds of things, you don't have much room to maneuver around, and sticking to drinking in that position will not lead you with a lot of options. When I started drinking it was to get over some problems, it wasn't while I was having those problems which is what you are doing. Drinking to drown sorrows is sometimes a good thing, but drinking while you are in the middle of problems can sometimes make them a lot worse.

AARRRGH

Fun girl wrote:

I'm going to stay up in my room for the weekend because I just couldn't be bothered doing anything else but sleeping

So your solution is as follows -

Stay living in a possibly abusive home
Drink everyday
Sleep
Not bother doing anything else

Why do you think this will solve your problems?
Why are you finding it so hard to accept personal responsiblity for your problems and do something about it?

No one is going to sort out your life for you. Sleeping and drinking won't sort it out. Staying at home won't sort it out. Doing nothing about it won't sort it out.