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What would you do if you found out your sister in law had

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  • #52
    weldoninhio
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,311 ✭✭✭✭weldoninhio


    Just imagine that she told him, they talked and moved on wit their lives.

    Then come back to AH when you’ve made up another new fantasy story in your head.


  • #53
    Oink
    Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 2,159 Mod ✭✭✭✭Oink


    Capt'n Midnight wrote: »
    Actually it's
    The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.

    Ah here can you give a warning next time. I don’t come to AH on a Saturday evening to learn stuff and sh!t.

    Back on topic - bros before hos obviously.


  • #54
    Sunny Disposition
    Registered Users Posts: 2,806 ✭✭✭Sunny Disposition


    Told him last night. He doesn’t really know what to think. Stayed at my house last night, he didn’t see this coming, think he wants to take his time before making any decisions, which is good. He isn’t angry, yet anyway, just taken aback.


  • #55
    Deebles McBeebles
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,865 ✭✭✭Deebles McBeebles


    Sunny Disposition wrote: »
    Told him last night. He doesn’t really know what to think. Stayed at my house last night, he didn’t see this coming, think he wants to take his time before making any decisions, which is good. He isn’t angry, yet anyway, just taken aback.

    Oh the anger will come. Best of luck to you and your brother. For what its worth, I think you had to do it.


  • #56
    steddyeddy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,564 ✭✭✭✭steddyeddy


    Candie wrote: »
    It's their business. If you're absolutely, definitely, 100% sure it was a one-off and will never happen again and her remorse is genuine, it doesn't seem worth upsetting the brother and possibly breaking up a marriage.

    Either way, this isn't your story to tell and while you can steer her one way or another via threats etc., telling him yourself is a bad idea. People tend to shoot the messenger and the worse the news is, the more they get shot.

    Tread carefully and be sensible.

    I'm not criticising but if your sibling knew that your partner had an affair with someone else you'd expect them to keep it secret? It's probably personal preference but I'd want my siblings to tell me I was being cheated on and probably lied to.


  • #57
    steddyeddy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,564 ✭✭✭✭steddyeddy


    Sunny Disposition wrote: »
    Told him last night. He doesn’t really know what to think. Stayed at my house last night, he didn’t see this coming, think he wants to take his time before making any decisions, which is good. He isn’t angry, yet anyway, just taken aback.

    You did the right thing. He's your brother. Why hide his partner's dishonesty from him? I don't get why people are saying it's nothing to do with you.


  • #58
    Taxburden carrier
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 557 ✭✭✭Taxburden carrier


    If it was my sister in law , I’d track down the person they’d cheated with, break their white stick and kick their guide dog.


  • #59
    pq0n1ct4ve8zf5
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,070 ✭✭✭✭pq0n1ct4ve8zf5


    Normally I'd be in the stay out of it camp but a sibling, no way.

    Sure sometimes affairs are once off, better off not confessing and just doubling down on your commitment and copping yourself on to fcuk but they do have a habit of coming out and if I found out my partner had been unfaithful and my sibling hadn't told me I honestly think I'd take that harder than the affair!


  • #60
    Sunny Disposition
    Registered Users Posts: 2,806 ✭✭✭Sunny Disposition


    I don't believe that his wife won't do the same thing again, ultimately. No real choice. I hope he leaves her honestly. Me and him are going to America the week after next for him to have a change of scene and get a bit of perspective.


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  • #61
    ArrBee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 830 ✭✭✭ArrBee


    Sunny Disposition wrote: »
    I don't believe that his wife won't do the same thing again, ultimately. No real choice. I hope he leaves her honestly. Me and him are going to America the week after next for him to have a change of scene and get a bit of perspective.

    "bit of perspective" = coke and hookers?


  • #62
    Sunny Disposition
    Registered Users Posts: 2,806 ✭✭✭Sunny Disposition


    ArrBee wrote: »
    "bit of perspective" = coke and hookers?
    No, certainly don't want to be indulging over there. Going to go to a few sights, that kind of thing. Probably walk around the city a lot too.


  • #63
    steddyeddy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,564 ✭✭✭✭steddyeddy


    Maybe there's no right or wrong here but it's interesting the range in views on affairs people have. Is a once off affair not that bad? How would you get the impression from someone that it's a once off?


  • #64
    _blaaz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,646 ✭✭✭_blaaz


    steddyeddy wrote: »
    Maybe there's no right or wrong here but it's interesting the range in views on affairs people have. Is a once off affair not that bad? How would you get the impression from someone that it's a once off?

    Tbf virtually everyone cheats eventually

    For some people its such a fright at taught of what they stand to lose cops them on


  • #65
    Wheety
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,512 ✭✭✭Wheety


    Would it be different if a man cheated on your sister with another man? I have a feeling some people would think that was worse than two women.


  • #66
    Poor Uncle Tom
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,546 ✭✭✭✭Poor Uncle Tom


    I need to know how she holds her liquor?


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  • #67
    steddyeddy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,564 ✭✭✭✭steddyeddy


    _blaaz wrote: »
    Tbf virtually everyone cheats eventually

    For some people its such a fright at taught of what they stand to lose cops them on

    Maybe but I'd move onto another if my partner cheated. I think I'd actually break up with her if I cheated too.


  • #68
    idnkph
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 669 ✭✭✭idnkph


    Poor Uncle Tom wrote:
    I need to know how she holds her liquor?


    By the ears??


  • #69
    Todd Gack
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 551 ✭✭✭Todd Gack


    Two lesbians. Sisters. I'm just watching.


  • #70
    Sajid Javid
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 116 ✭✭Sajid Javid


    That is adultery and adultery is a sin, Ignoring a sin has it risks. If down the road your sister in law decides she is 100% lesbian and files for a divorce and children are involved the division of any assets will be less favorable to your brother who may end up homeless telling him now would give him time to make a choice maybe allow him take control of the finances and put some assets beyond her reach.
    The majority of applications for Judicial separation are filed by the woman at a time of their choosing after all available family money has been relocated for the benefit of the wife, loans my be taken out and knew cars purchased leaving you brother hanging by his balls.Not telling him could end up proper mistake and blood is thicker than water unless of course she was giving you a licking that would change everything


  • #71
    Nikki Sixx
    Closed Accounts Posts: 426 ✭✭Nikki Sixx


    OP your post is very vague. Are we talking strap ons, dildos, vibrators or lick-outs? Could you be more specific?


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  • #72
    Nikki Sixx
    Closed Accounts Posts: 426 ✭✭Nikki Sixx


    Sajid Javid wrote: »
    That is adultery and adultery is a sin, Ignoring a sin has it risks. If down the road your sister in law decides she is 100% lesbian and files for a divorce and children are involved the division of any assets will be less favorable to your brother who may end up homeless telling him now would give him time to make a choice maybe allow him take control of the finances and put some assets beyond her reach.
    The majority of applications for Judicial separation are filed by the woman at a time of their choosing after all available family money has been relocated for the benefit of the wife, loans my be taken out and knew cars purchased leaving you brother hanging by his balls.Not telling him could end up proper mistake and blood is thicker than water unless of course she was giving you a licking that would change everything

    A lot of the above happened to Ross in friends.


  • #73
    mvl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,229 ✭✭✭mvl


    Not that OP needs our advice anymore ... while I wouldn't have said anything direct to the brother, I would have suggested to the wife it's a shame she doesn't feel she can share *this* with her husband.
    - Also wonder if in reality it is possible for the brother in law to know she was exploring with another woman, but the husband had not suspected anything: these things resurface naturally.


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