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What would you do if you found out your sister in law had

  • 21-05-2019 4:13pm
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    Registered Users Posts: 2,806 ✭✭✭


    cheated on your brother with another woman? She is adamant that she is not really a lesbian, just had a fling, but doesn't want her husband to know. Think it's best to let sleeping dogs lie, but not sure.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,671 ✭✭✭GarIT


    Turn it the other way around. If you were cheated on would you want to know?

    If I found out my sister knew I was cheated on and didn't tell me I'd never speak to her again.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,417 ✭✭✭ToddyDoody


    cheated on your brother with another woman?

    I'd need more detail.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,523 ✭✭✭Sonny noggs


    This is currently in After Hours so, the most obvious question - is she hot?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,523 ✭✭✭Sonny noggs


    ToddyDoody wrote: »
    I'd need more detail.

    Including pictures?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,593 ✭✭✭theteal


    AH answer?

    Pics or gtfo!


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 163 ✭✭PinotNero


    theteal wrote: »
    AH answer?

    Pics or gtfo!

    and video....


  • Registered Users Posts: 16,500 ✭✭✭✭DEFTLEFTHAND


    I'd find it pretty amusing tbh.

    I'm sure my brother would too.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,376 ✭✭✭facehugger99


    Demand a threesome as the price of my silence.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 373 ✭✭oLoonatic


    Demand a threesome as the price of my silence.


    This gets my vote too


  • Registered Users Posts: 941 ✭✭✭Tomw86


    As an honest response, I would think you should tell him - he has a right to know. If he finds out you knew, how will he react?
    Also, it sounds like she doesn't want him to know, so are you sure it was a once off?

    Otherwise, please provide more details, including diagrams.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,477 ✭✭✭✭Thelonious Monk


    I'd probably knock one out


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,628 ✭✭✭orourkeda1977


    ask for a threesome


  • Posts: 26,052 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    It's their business. If you're absolutely, definitely, 100% sure it was a one-off and will never happen again and her remorse is genuine, it doesn't seem worth upsetting the brother and possibly breaking up a marriage.

    Either way, this isn't your story to tell and while you can steer her one way or another via threats etc., telling him yourself is a bad idea. People tend to shoot the messenger and the worse the news is, the more they get shot.

    Tread carefully and be sensible.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,453 ✭✭✭Ray Palmer


    Same rule applies regardless of the sex of the other person. It is said women who cheat do so emotionally before the physical so often a bigger deal.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,997 ✭✭✭✭Cuddlesworth


    Candie wrote: »
    It's their business. If you're absolutely, definitely, 100% sure it was a one-off and will never happen again and her remorse is genuine, it doesn't seem worth upsetting the brother and possibly breaking up a marriage.

    Either way, this isn't your story to tell and while you can steer her one way or another via threats etc., telling him yourself is a bad idea. People tend to shoot the messenger and the worse the news is, the more they get shot.

    Tread carefully and be sensible.

    It's never one off.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43,028 ✭✭✭✭SEPT 23 1989


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  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    a rides a ride

    id tell her to tell him. no threats or ultimatums tho


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,314 ✭✭✭✭Grayson


    This is currently in After Hours so, the most obvious question - is she hot?

    and blast her with piss.


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,461 ✭✭✭Bob Harris


    cheated on your brother with another woman? She is adamant that she is not really a lesbian, just had a fling, but doesn't want her husband to know. Think it's best to let sleeping dogs lie, but not sure.

    More like sleeping bitches.


  • Posts: 26,052 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    It's never one off.

    I know that's the popular consensus, but there's no evidence of it's truth. I'm sure (and a quick peruse of PI might well confirm) that many men and women make mistakes and learn from them, never to repeat them.

    If someone is a serial cheater that's one thing and I'd never trust someone with form in that department. We don't know that the SIL is one of those.

    Either way, the OP has to be very careful.


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  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Something something hate crime victim blaming accepting


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,507 ✭✭✭✭kowloon


    Candie wrote: »
    It's their business. If you're absolutely, definitely, 100% sure it was a one-off and will never happen again and her remorse is genuine, it doesn't seem worth upsetting the brother and possibly breaking up a marriage.

    It was you! :eek:


  • Posts: 26,052 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    kowloon wrote: »
    It was you! :eek:

    Sush! ;)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,172 ✭✭✭cannotlogin


    Aren't you the poster that was outraged by a co-worker that drinks 10 pints a week?

    If that bothers you, how are so calm about your sister in law cheating on your brother?!

    Does she need to cheat with your co-worker before you'd consider telling your brother?!

    More importantly, how did you find out-you haven't told us the best part of the story?

    On a serious note, family are everything. I would be more angry with a sibling that didn't tell me than a cheating spouse.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,408 ✭✭✭corner of hells


    Grayson wrote: »
    and blast her with piss.

    And ask about coke and hookers ?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,220 ✭✭✭✭biko


    cheated on your brother with another woman?
    Tell your brother to cheat on her with a man.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,180 ✭✭✭Charles Ingles


    Give her until the weekend to tell your brother, if she doesn't tell your brother yourself


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,124 ✭✭✭✭Danzy


    cheated on your brother with another woman? She is adamant that she is not really a lesbian, just had a fling, but doesn't want her husband to know. Think it's best to let sleeping dogs lie, but not sure.

    End their marriage or let it blow over.

    Your call, you could **** up his life.


  • Registered Users Posts: 653 ✭✭✭Gonad




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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,194 ✭✭✭Zorya


    Hmmmmm going by the 10 pints a week shocker maybe this wild fling amounts to a peck on the cheek or they wore each others lipstick or something....


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,421 ✭✭✭✭Rikand


    Demand a threesome as the price of my silence.

    At the very least demand they do it again and insist on watching


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,867 ✭✭✭SeanW


    Blood is thicker than water. Your primary obligation is to your brother.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,507 ✭✭✭✭kowloon


    Danzy wrote: »
    End their marriage or let it blow over.

    Your call, you could **** up his life.

    On the other hand, you could **** up his life by leaving them together with the side effect of him hating you for not telling him.

    Telling or not telling, it can go horribly wrong either way. You're more qualified to make the call than a message board of people who don't know any of the people involced.

    Personally, I would want to know.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,418 ✭✭✭Infernal Racket


    Now all I want to do is watch lesbian porn.


  • Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 92,454 Mod ✭✭✭✭Capt'n Midnight


    SeanW wrote: »
    Blood is thicker than water. Your primary obligation is to your brother.

    Actually it's
    The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,357 ✭✭✭✭Birneybau


    ...started a clickbait thread? Probably ignore it


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 115 ✭✭Yermande


    Actually it's
    The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.

    That doesn't really roll of the tongue though and you'd also sound like a mental patient or a theology student, albeit that in itself is a very fine distinction.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,376 ✭✭✭Shemale


    cheated on your brother with another woman? She is adamant that she is not really a lesbian, just had a fling, but doesn't want her husband to know. Think it's best to let sleeping dogs lie, but not sure.

    Cheating is cheating, I dont know why gender matters


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,418 ✭✭✭Infernal Racket


    Shemale wrote: »
    Cheating is cheating, I dont know why gender matters

    Cos its girl on girl man. Girl on girl really matters


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,865 ✭✭✭Deebles McBeebles


    Tell me more, tell me more
    Was it love at first sight?
    Tell me more, tell me more
    Did she put up a fight?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,418 ✭✭✭Infernal Racket


    Tell me more, tell me more
    Was it love at first sight?
    Tell me more, tell me more
    Did she put up a fight?

    A walla walla walla oopmh


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,617 ✭✭✭✭_Brian


    Shake her hand, she’s married to a complete tool who treats her like shiit.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,796 ✭✭✭✭Strumms


    So...your brother was cheated on, he doesn’t know but you do.... “I know, I’ll venture over to after hours and see if anyone knows what to do”. Tell the fûcker, it’s obvious she has no intention of and she won’t, the ultimatum might be an idea too but fûck, the guy needs to know, then at least he can decide how to proceed.


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,287 ✭✭✭givyjoe


    Danzy wrote: »
    End their marriage or let it blow over.

    Your call, you could **** up his life.

    Nah, the wife did that.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 290 ✭✭Patty Hearst


    cheated on your brother with another woman? She is adamant that she is not really a lesbian, just had a fling, but doesn't want her husband to know. Think it's best to let sleeping dogs lie, but not sure.

    If it was my brother I would tell him without hesitation.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,043 ✭✭✭Wabbit Ears


    boardsies really do fall for obvious clickbait very easily


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,418 ✭✭✭Infernal Racket


    boardsies really do fall for obvious clickbait very easily

    It's more entertaining than reality


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,514 ✭✭✭valoren


    How did you find out?

    Did she tell you herself or did you find out on the QT?

    Trust...but verify...


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,786 ✭✭✭KathleenGrant


    My cousin's partner cheated on him with a woman, Took him ages to get over it but he did. He said afterwards that he would have found it harder to accept her being with another man.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,235 ✭✭✭✭Cee-Jay-Cee


    Tell her to tell him herself otherwise you will.

    I’d want to know if it were me and would be rightly pissed off I found out later that my sister knew but didn’t tell me.


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