Cheating.

decky1 · 15-04-2019 2:29pm #1

Anyone been hurt by a 'Cheating wife' how did it effect you then and now?

Your Face · 15-04-2019 2:38pm

I'll never forget it.
We were at the kitchen table.
I looked straight into her eyes and asked her;
'Did you renege on me?!'

She haughtily threw down her cards and coldly walked off.

Boom_Bap · 15-04-2019 2:40pm

Monopoly will never be the same since she skimmed and extra tenner out of the bank

jimgoose · 15-04-2019 2:41pm

I'm convinced my conniving Toaster is using some sort of app to cheat at electronic Scrabble.

OMM 0000 · 15-04-2019 2:42pm

An ex cheated on me.

I could handle the actual cheating, but it was her gaslighting & lying which bothered me the most.

People can make mistakes, but when someone proves you really can't trust them, it's over.

gozunda · 15-04-2019 2:43pm

jimgoose wrote: »

I'm convinced my conniving Toaster is using some sort of app to cheat at electronic Scrabble.

Forget the wife. The cat has been found talking to Alexa. They are up to no good ...

decky1 · 15-04-2019 2:51pm

OMM 0000 wrote: »

An ex cheated on me.

I could handle the actual cheating, but it was her gaslighting & lying which bothered me the most.

People can make mistakes, but when someone proves you really can't trust them, it's over.

yes the sneaking around and the lies over the years, it's a bit hard to shake off. If they don't love you anymore why can't they just tell you and everyone can move on.:mad:

kneemos · 15-04-2019 3:05pm

jimgoose wrote: »

I'm convinced my conniving Toaster is using some sort of app to cheat at electronic Scrabble.

God knows what it gets up to in the cupboard.

jimgoose · 15-04-2019 3:14pm

kneemos wrote: »

God knows what it gets up to in the cupboard.

It's a She. I mean "toaster" in the Battlestar Galactica sense.

Hande hoche! · 15-04-2019 3:16pm

jimgoose wrote: »

It's a She. I mean "toaster" in the Battlestar Galactica sense.

Fracking machines.

B.A._Baracus · 15-04-2019 4:36pm

Got cheated on once too.
You know what makes her more of a cu*t tho? :pac: when her blatant lies were being obvious and something was going on she looked me dead in the eye and said it was all in my head and I was being paranoid. I would later find out eveything. of course not through her. could never tell the truth.

what. a. cu*t.

givyjoe · 15-04-2019 4:39pm

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

Got cheated on once too.
You know what makes her more of a cu*t tho? :pac: when her blatant lies were being obvious and something was going on she looked me dead in the eye and said it was all in my head and I was being paranoid. I would later find out eveything. of course not through her. could never tell the truth.

what. a. cu*t.

I pity the fool.. said no one ever before in response to any of your previous posts

15-04-2019 4:51pm

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

Got cheated on once too.
You know what makes her more of a cu*t tho? :pac: when her blatant lies were being obvious and something was going on she looked me dead in the eye and said it was all in my head and I was being paranoid. I would later find out eveything. of course not through her. could never tell the truth.

what. a. cu*t.

I think people like that can't even be honest with themselves. Really would like to know how someone like that's mind works. Is it a case of "this guy is so fking stupid I can just say I'm doing nothing wrong and he'll believe me and I can go on riding on the side" or is it "I am perfect so it's impossible for someone perfect like me to be doing something like this therefore he's imagining it" ....

Why not just call it a day? Bizarre.

Pherekydes · 15-04-2019 8:51pm

Things my ex-wife said to me: It's not you, it's me. I need to get my head together. You're the only one I've ever loved. There's no one else.

Things my ex-wife did: Had a child (with the 'no one else'). Lived with him. Married him.

Good riddance. :pac:

World smallest violin part: She's now a widow.

PARlance · 15-04-2019 8:55pm

Pherekydes wrote: »

Things my ex-wife said to me: It's not you, it's me. I need to get my head together. You're the only one I've ever loved. There's no one else.

Things my ex-wife did: Had a child (with the 'no one else'). Lived with him. Married him.

Good riddance. :pac:

World smallest violin part: She's now a widow.

Good man, how did you kill him?

rgodard80a · 15-04-2019 9:03pm

decky1 wrote: »

Anyone been hurt by a 'Cheating wife' how did it effect you then and now?

Not directly hurt by a cheating wife, it was her husband that did most of the damage.

Pherekydes · 15-04-2019 10:40pm

PARlance wrote: »

Good man, how did you kill him?

I gave him lung cancer.

Although many would claim it was the fags...

Blitzkrieger · 16-04-2019 12:28pm

I read a book once that referenced a huge DNA study - a lot more children turned out to be illegitimate that you would think. A lot more.

decky1 · 16-04-2019 4:15pm

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

Got cheated on once too.
You know what makes her more of a cu*t tho? :pac: when her blatant lies were being obvious and something was going on she looked me dead in the eye and said it was all in my head and I was being paranoid. I would later find out eveything. of course not through her. could never tell the truth.

what. a. cu*t.

C**t does'nt even begin to describe these, when you find out all the pieces seem to fit into place, the things they said and did at that time seem out of place for them to be saying.

King of Kings · 16-04-2019 4:29pm

The one chap I'd suspicions about ended up living with her and getting married too her. ðŸ€£
But i was a paranoid freak and it was really insulting that I'd be so suspicious ...haha

Seems plenty of same stories as above .stupid lies and getting caught out by change of behaviour...

In answering the OP I was pissed off cos we'd a kid together and felt bad for him but was delighted when she left. She had sucked the joy out of everything with her lies and deception.

Was kinda funny I helped her move out of the house and a card from your man fell out of the box I was carrying. I laughed as I handed it to her...

I'd a really good few years enjoying myself. Met somebody else then and got married again...like a dope...ha...actually no it's completely different now. Actually what I had previous was a disaster compared to my marriage now.

I see my son (he 17 now) whenever I want so it's all good. Dont see her much cos i deal with my son. She pretty much dead to me...bar occasional whatsapps.

uck51js9zml2yt · 16-04-2019 4:31pm

I cheated in a spelling test once...got caught and the teacher beat me with the leg of a chair.

kowloon · 16-04-2019 9:41pm

Blitzkrieger wrote: »

I read a book once that referenced a huge DNA study - a lot more children turned out to be illegitimate that you would think. A lot more.

I'm sure those DNA kits that are becoming big sellers are exposing quite a lot of that.

Dalomanakora · 16-04-2019 9:49pm

Not a wife, but my long term partner had an affair. We broke up around 9 months ago.

The cheating isn't that bad. It's painful, but like everyone said already, the lies are worse.

What hurt me the most is a toss up between two things - knowing that he was too busy shagging her while I was on the brink of death in hospital with sepsis to visit, that hurt.

Or that because I have a mental illness (which has been stable and unmedicated for 4 years), he convinced me I was mentally unwell again and imagining it, to the point where I went to my doctor seeking help. Thankfully she reassured me I wasn't unwell

But they hurt an awful lot more than the cheating. Cheating is bad, but the callous, nasty stuff is far worse.

But sure it's grand. These things happen. We've all been through relationships that turned bad, and we all get through them

i wish the two of them a long, happy relationship because the longer they're happy together, the longer they're not hurting people

tony1980 · 16-04-2019 9:51pm

Dalomanakora wrote: »

Not a wife, but my long term partner had an affair. We broke up around 9 months ago.

The cheating isn't that bad. It's painful, but like everyone said already, the lies are worse.

What hurt me the most is a toss up between two things - knowing that he was too busy shagging her while I was on the brink of death in hospital with sepsis to visit, that hurt.

Or that because I have a mental illness (which has been stable and unmedicated for 4 years), he convinced me I was mentally unwell again and imagining it, to the point where I went to my doctor seeking help. Thankfully she reassured me I wasn't unwell

But they hurt an awful lot more than the cheating. Cheating is bad, but the callous, nasty stuff is far worse.

But sure it's grand. These things happen. We've all been through relationships that turned bad, and we all get through them i wish the two of them a long, happy relationship because the longer they're happy together, the longer they're not hurting people

What a great attitude!

cj maxx · 16-04-2019 9:54pm

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

Got cheated on once too.
You know what makes her more of a cu*t tho? :pac: when her blatant lies were being obvious and something was going on she looked me dead in the eye and said it was all in my head and I was being paranoid. I would later find out eveything. of course not through her. could never tell the truth.

what. a. cu*t.

I know the type! Blatant blatant lies that she even trips herself up on . Nothing better than lying to me in front of her friends, who all nod and agree even though most, if not all of them know exactly what she’s like. In my case she was narcissistic fcuking psychopath. Good riddance

Dalomanakora · 16-04-2019 9:54pm

tony1980 wrote: »

What a great attitude!

Ah sure there's no point in having a bad attitude about it, that won't make my life any better.

He obviously wasn't the right man for me despite what i thought, so meh, i genuinely hope he's found whatever it is he's looking for.

cj maxx · 16-04-2019 10:00pm

Dalomanakora wrote: »

Not a wife, but my long term partner had an affair. We broke up around 9 months ago.

The cheating isn't that bad. It's painful, but like everyone said already, the lies are worse.

What hurt me the most is a toss up between two things - knowing that he was too busy shagging her while I was on the brink of death in hospital with sepsis to visit, that hurt.

Or that because I have a mental illness (which has been stable and unmedicated for 4 years), he convinced me I was mentally unwell again and imagining it, to the point where I went to my doctor seeking help. Thankfully she reassured me I wasn't unwell

But they hurt an awful lot more than the cheating. Cheating is bad, but the callous, nasty stuff is far worse.

But sure it's grand. These things happen. We've all been through relationships that turned bad, and we all get through them i wish the two of them a long, happy relationship because the longer they're happy together, the longer they're not hurting people

the bit about your mental issues and how he/she treated you is so true . Google tells me it’s called Gaslighting. Stay strong.

Lotus Flower · 16-04-2019 10:07pm

Dalomanakora, well done on staying so strong. A nightmare scenario

Dalomanakora · 16-04-2019 10:09pm

Thanks for the really kind posts!

I'm all good though! My doctor telling me I was still healthy and stable was enough to renew some strength in me. I was mad to even allow someone's actions to have that kind of effect on me. But you live and learn

I'm happy now anyway so no harm done really!

ChikiChiki · 16-04-2019 10:14pm

OMM 0000 wrote: »

An ex cheated on me.

I could handle the actual cheating, but it was her gaslighting & lying which bothered me the most.

People can make mistakes, but when someone proves you really can't trust them, it's over.

I have a similar outlook around humans and the mistakes we can make. An ex cheated on me and broke down and confessed. I actually felt sorry for her at the time. She was genuinely remorseful.

We tried to make it work but to be honest the trust was gone so I called it a day.

rgodard80a · 16-04-2019 10:16pm

Blitzkrieger wrote: »

I read a book once that referenced a huge DNA study - a lot more children turned out to be illegitimate that you would think. A lot more.

Illegitimate means born out of wedlock, not that the mother cheated.
So a DNA test won't tell you that, only a birth cert and marriage cert.

fergus1001 · 16-04-2019 10:31pm

rgodard80a wrote:

Illegitimate means born out of wedlock, not that the mother cheated. So a DNA test won't tell you that, only a birth cert and marriage cert.

yes but DNA testing will show up if the father is not the father

decky1 · 17-04-2019 10:55am

Dalomanakora wrote: »

Not a wife, but my long term partner had an affair. We broke up around 9 months ago.

The cheating isn't that bad. It's painful, but like everyone said already, the lies are worse.

What hurt me the most is a toss up between two things - knowing that he was too busy shagging her while I was on the brink of death in hospital with sepsis to visit, that hurt.

Or that because I have a mental illness (which has been stable and unmedicated for 4 years), he convinced me I was mentally unwell again and imagining it, to the point where I went to my doctor seeking help. Thankfully she reassured me I wasn't unwell

But they hurt an awful lot more than the cheating. Cheating is bad, but the callous, nasty stuff is far worse.

But sure it's grand. These things happen. We've all been through relationships that turned bad, and we all get through them i wish the two of them a long, happy relationship because the longer they're happy together, the longer they're not hurting people

best wishes for the future , you seem like a real fighter and you will beat this and find happiness.

Junkyard Tom · 17-04-2019 11:03am

She kept coming back later-and-later each evening and became more aloof than ever. Got up one morning and she was gone. She had moved in with a neighbour and I never saw it coming. She just couldn't stop herself when it came to getting premium brand foods and all manner of interesting toys. I'll never forget Miss Tiddles.

decky1 · 17-04-2019 11:05am

cjmc wrote: »

I know the type! Blatant blatant lies that she even trips herself up on . Nothing better than lying to me in front of her friends, who all nod and agree even though most, if not all of them know exactly what she’s like. In my case she was narcissistic fcuking psychopath. Good riddance

Narcissistic never gave that word much thought till this happened she love doing things for people and then telling everyone who she had helped etc, shes got on her high horse and said she's staying in the house as [sob sob] she's nowhere to go and half the house is her's[although she never worked since we got married] , her long time lover/c**t won't have anything to do with her as he heard she was with someone else ironic if nothing else.:rolleyes:

LollipopJimmy · 17-04-2019 11:26am

I was about to propose to my girlfriend when my roommate Joseph barged into the room out of nowhere, tripped, and fell over, breaking a glass table with his face. Totally ruined the mood. Now I don't know Joseph THAT well, don't even remember where he was from, but let's say I put my plans on hold to help him through his injuries.

Joseph had gotten a big glass shard in his eye, making him completely blind in that eye. He was walking around with one of those big cotton pads on his eye for a couple of months. Then suddenly, he disappeared, along with my girlfriend.

Apparently they'd bonded during the time after his injuries, and eloped together, leaving me behind without as much as a note. I tried to track them down, but never could.

In conclusion, if it hadn't been for Joe with his cotton eye, I'd have been married a long time ago. Where did you come from, where did you go? Where did you come from, cotton eye Joe?

Dalomanakora · 17-04-2019 12:13pm

decky1 wrote: »

best wishes for the future , you seem like a real fighter and you will beat this and find happiness.

Thank you

I've already found happiness thankfully. I'm not currently dating or anything like that but I'm very happy

cj maxx · 17-04-2019 10:17pm

decky1 wrote: »

Narcissistic never gave that word much thought till this happened she love doing things for people and then telling everyone who she had helped etc, shes got on her high horse and said she's staying in the house as [sob sob] she's nowhere to go and half the house is her's[although she never worked since we got married] , her long time lover/c**t won't have anything to do with her as he heard she was with someone else ironic if nothing else.:rolleyes:

I know! Acts holier than thou, she’s the bread winner, super mom, house keeper etc and it’s ALL bull**** . She has a cabal around her who spread her bull**** but actually anyone who isn’t related to her have left, and got on with their own lives and don’t have much to do with her now

decky1 · 18-04-2019 5:22pm

cjmc wrote: »

I know! Acts holier than thou, she’s the bread winner, super mom, house keeper etc and it’s ALL bull**** . She has a cabal around her who spread her bull**** but actually anyone who isn’t related to her have left, and got on with their own lives and don’t have much to do with her now

seen a bit of this a few girls who used to call in to her never do now,one in particular used to go out with her to meet this guy and drive his van home for him when he got too drunk, the whole thing is like something out of Dallas,:eek:

18-04-2019 5:32pm

I'm suddenly picturing every crying-chair on the Worst Houses/ Flats to Rent thread

decky1 · 25-04-2019 11:19am

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

I'm suddenly picturing every crying-chair on the Worst Houses/ Flats to Rent thread

anyone else know what this means????????????

razorblunt · 25-04-2019 11:56am

decky1 wrote: »

anyone else know what this means????????????

There's been a particular feature on that thread of houses, with a single, depressing chair left alone in a forlorn, depressing room in a forlorn, depressing house.

Its presume its main use was for people to sit, reflect and cry.

realdanbreen · 25-04-2019 1:57pm

Surely a small little bit of cheating is OK no?
I mean would you prefer to be with a fella who doesn't cheat but would bore the hole off you and is as mean as shyte or with a fella who mightn't be shall we say squeaky clean but is great craic!

Dalomanakora · 25-04-2019 2:05pm

realdanbreen wrote: »

Surely a small little bit of cheating is OK no?
I mean would you prefer to be with a fella who doesn't cheat but would bore the hole off you and is as mean as shyte or with a fella who mightn't be shall we say squeaky clean but is great craic!

It's not an either or situation, jaysus. I've been with a few men who didn't cheat and were also great craic ffs :pac:

Sorry about that · 25-04-2019 2:15pm

Blitzkrieger wrote: »

I read a book once that referenced a huge DNA study - a lot more children turned out to be illegitimate that you would think. A lot more.

I read most of that in Pat Mustard's voice.

realdanbreen · 25-04-2019 2:32pm

Dalomanakora wrote: »

It's not an either or situation, jaysus. I've been with a few men who didn't cheat and were also great craic ffs :pac:

You say you've 'been' with a few men who didn't cheat but were great craic.
But I take it they're not around now so that doesn't really count.

Pherekydes · 25-04-2019 3:02pm

realdanbreen wrote: »

You say you've 'been' with a few men who didn't cheat but were great craic.
But I take it they're not around now so that doesn't really count.

It's still not an either/or situation.

theteal · 25-04-2019 3:11pm

realdanbreen wrote: »

Surely a small little bit of cheating is OK no?
I mean would you prefer to be with a fella who doesn't cheat but would bore the hole off you and is as mean as shyte or with a fella who mightn't be shall we say squeaky clean but is great craic!

You wouldn't have issue with your missus being prone to the odd ride around town because she's good craic?

Also, if someone bores the "hole off you", you perhaps don't get into a relationship with them in the first place. . .

realdanbreen · 25-04-2019 3:52pm

theteal wrote: »

You wouldn't have issue with your missus being prone to the odd ride around town because she's good craic?

Also, if someone bores the "hole off you", you perhaps don't get into a relationship with them in the first place. . .

See there's the difference, you see cheating or playing around as getting 'the ride'.
Sexy guys with the old touch of charisma could play around/flirt for ages without doing that. But when they do...... wow!

Dalomanakora · 25-04-2019 4:10pm

realdanbreen wrote: »

You say you've 'been' with a few men who didn't cheat but were great craic.
But I take it they're not around now so that doesn't really count.

Haha, you're gas. It's totally possible to be with someone who is loyal and great craic and still end up not being compatible!

They're still around, we're friends because friendship worked better for us. They're still great craic and as far as I'm aware they're not cheating on their girlfriends either

theteal · 25-04-2019 4:22pm

realdanbreen wrote: »

See there's the difference, you see cheating or playing around as getting 'the ride'.
Sexy guys with the old touch of charisma could play around/flirt for ages without doing that. But when they do...... wow!

Nope, I see cheating as cheating, "the ride" being the top end of the spectrum. I don't see flirting as cheating.

Cheating.

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