Asking a girl out

Father Hernandez · 03-01-2017 1:36pm

Also, don't forget to let us know how you get on if you do message her !

Kimbot · 03-01-2017 1:41pm

KERSPLAT! wrote: »

You make it sound creepy, it's a 2 second search of someones name. Everyone is on FB these days, if you want to find someone, go there.

I was going to suggest a FB message before adding her but I know that it doesn't deliver to their inbox unless you're friends.

Add her, if she accepts then ask her out on a date.

FB now sends you a message asking you to accept the message if you are not already friends

SteM · 03-01-2017 1:41pm

Stakeout her office to try and meet her, I think she works for Sagman, Bennett, Robbins, Oppenheim and Taft.

Peregrine · 03-01-2017 1:49pm

jonnycivic wrote: »

FB now sends you a message asking you to accept the message if you are not already friends

Yeah, you get a "message request" on Messenger now. Not sure about the webpage. It's still a bit odd. I don't think I got a notification about them, they just popped up on screen.

Just add her. You knew her years ago, you've got mutual friends and you were talking recently. I don't get what the problem with adding her on facebook is.

And definitely don't get her phone number from friends to call her. That's creepy.

Kimbot · 03-01-2017 1:49pm

Peregrine wrote: »

Yeah, you get a "message request" on Messenger now. Not sure about the webpage. It's still a bit odd. I don't think I got a notification about them, they just popped up on screen.

Just add her. You knew her years ago, you've got mutual friends and you were talking recently. I don't get what the problem with adding her on facebook is.

Yeah, I got a notification on the main site and also thru the app too.

Winterlong · 03-01-2017 1:51pm

Yup, just add her. If she ignores your friend request then so be it.
If she accepts then PM her and see how it goes from there.

Good luck Op. Let us know how you get on.

kfallon · 03-01-2017 1:52pm

Candie wrote: »

Wot he sez.

Also, say nuthin' about facebook and don't add her first.

And mind your punctuation in the message, little things can put people off at first.

So no dick pic OP..... :P

Potential Underachiever · 03-01-2017 1:54pm

Even by adding her on FB days after meeting is pretty much saying you're interested OP, do it, ask her, what's the worst that can happen?

Sam Kade · 03-01-2017 2:06pm

StupidLikeAFox wrote: »

Bear in mind that if you are not friends on fb the message may not be seen. I'd add her first, if she is interested in you she won't mind

He'll have to find her Facebook page first, he's surely a troll bored after Christmas.

hairyprincess · 03-01-2017 2:21pm

jamesbere wrote: »

Dear member of the opposite sex

I'm a male of breeding age looking for companionship.

Have you road frontage?

Hercule Poirot · 03-01-2017 2:23pm

The only obvious option is to hire a PI to follow her for a few weeks until you can identify regular occurrences in her schedule, e.g., she may eat at the same place for lunch every Tuesday. Once identified you can be there to "bump into her" and tell her how much you love the smell of her hair after she showers and that the Pantene Pro-V is doing wonders for her natural shine. This is how normal, 21st Century people go about these things and she in turn will appreciate the effort you have made to get to know her routine - good luck.

TerrorFirmer · 03-01-2017 2:26pm

I can't believe people suggested sending a message on Facebook was creepy and in the same sentence advised him to get her number from her friends and just cold-call her? That's infinitely more awkward.

johnnyskeleton · 03-01-2017 2:26pm

1. Become a mysterious billionaire con man.

2. Throw lavish houseparties during the Long Island summer season.

3. Invite everyone she knows and extend an open invitation to them.

4. Get surly each time she doesnt come so befriend her cousin.

5. Eventually she comes to the party.

6. [Details are sketchy]

7. Happy ending.

arayess · 03-01-2017 2:35pm

Atari Jaguar wrote: »

So it's not creepy to get a persons number from someone and ring them up out of the blue? Jaysus.

no it's not , it's a very reasonable thing.

got your number from x (added to the message) sorts that out

I'm interested to know why it would be creepy to ask soembody for somebody elses number?

jmayo · 03-01-2017 3:54pm

dar100 wrote: »

How is she much older than you now!! Was she not much older last time you seen her

She hasn't aged well ?

johnnyskeleton wrote: »

1. Become a mysterious billionaire con man.

2. Throw lavish houseparties during the Long Island summer season.

3. Invite everyone she knows and extend an open invitation to them.

4. Get surly each time she doesnt come so befriend her cousin.

5. Eventually she comes to the party.

6. [Details are sketchy]

7. Happy ending.

Is that not most of Donald Trump's bio ?

circadian · 03-01-2017 3:56pm

Ask her if she likes to watch Netflix and chill. It's all the rage these days I hear.

tigger123 · 03-01-2017 4:10pm

johnnyskeleton wrote: »

1. Become a mysterious billionaire con man.

2. Throw lavish houseparties during the Long Island summer season.

3. Invite everyone she knows and extend an open invitation to them.

4. Get surly each time she doesnt come so befriend her cousin.

5. Eventually she comes to the party.

6. [Details are sketchy]

7. Happy ending.

Not sure if there would be much of a happy ending there.

Hercule Poirot · 03-01-2017 4:14pm

arayess wrote: »

I'm interested to know why it would be creepy to ask somebody for somebody elses number?

OK then, can I have your sister's phone number please?

corner of hells · 03-01-2017 5:19pm

Get her name tattoed on your neck, send pic to her.

If that doesn't work , get into her bathroom and wait in her shower overnight.

She'll be pleasantly surprised.

_Whimsical_ · 03-01-2017 5:24pm

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

Too long winded.

"Hey x, great seeing you again the other night. Do you fancy going for drinks sometime?

Cheers,
Johnny "

Go with this,exactly this!
Be casual, you're risking coming across intimidatingly intense right now, no one wants an interview for the position of your future wife. Girls are well used to men coming on too strong and generally it's unsettling, even if you like them. See how she responds to the above and then if she agrees see where she's at with it all before you start revealing you're seriously invested in the idea of you two. If she says no to this she really wouldn't have said yes to a more forward approach.

carrieb · 03-01-2017 5:38pm

As a girl I'd say definitely don't put in the bit about deactivating the account etc. It does sound a bit creepy!
You don't need to explain the state of your account to anyone! I barely use FB except for private messages and groups so my page is very empty, none of anybody's business! Many people are the same.
I'd be very short and sweet.
"It was great to see you the other night. Just wondering if you'd like to go out for a drink sometime?" Don't say much more then that. I'd cut straight to the chase. At least she can say yes or no straight away without dragging it into a long chat and you not knowing if she's being polite or is actually interested. Go for it.

carrieb · 03-01-2017 5:42pm

Permabear wrote: »

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That might put a mutual friend in an awkward position though. I always hated if someone asked me for someone else's number. You'd have to check with the person and then it becomes a big thing. I never really like a friend asking me "is it ok if I give X your number" either... FB message is far more simple and easily forgotten/brushed over. A phone call could be very awkward too!

wherearemykeys · 03-01-2017 6:00pm

carrieb wrote: »

As a girl I'd say definitely don't put in the bit about deactivating the account etc. It does sound a bit creepy!
You don't need to explain the state of your account to anyone! I barely use FB except for private messages and groups so my page is very empty, none of anybody's business! Many people are the same.
I'd be very short and sweet.
"It was great to see you the other night. Just wondering if you'd like to go out for a drink sometime?" Don't say much more then that. I'd cut straight to the chase. At least she can say yes or no straight away without dragging it into a long chat and you not knowing if she's being polite or is actually interested. Go for it.

This - agree. Straight to the point.
I have all the privacy settings on my Facebook page so my page always looks blank if you're not a friend.

Maximus Alexander · 03-01-2017 6:17pm

Also tell her you think she might be your one true love.

Goya · 03-01-2017 6:24pm

KERSPLAT! wrote: »

You make it sound creepy, it's a 2 second search of someones name. Everyone is on FB these days, if you want to find someone, go there.

I was going to suggest a FB message before adding her but I know that it doesn't deliver to their inbox unless you're friends.

Add her, if she accepts then ask her out on a date.

Oh I don't think it's remotely creepy - and by jiminy would I have an auld stalk myself! But you know the way some people can be funny about what they perceive as stalking.

The Princess Bride · 03-01-2017 7:42pm

This thread reminds me of Ciara and our Bryan.
I wonder whether they're still together?

mansize · 03-01-2017 7:56pm

The Princess Bride wrote: »

This thread reminds me of Ciara and our Bryan.
I wonder whether they're still together?

Fake friends thread was fake

Lt Dan · 03-01-2017 8:09pm

Tell her that you want to fit inside her like a warm kitten

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8wrJZa4ICg

arayess · 03-01-2017 9:11pm

Hercule Poirot wrote: »

OK then, can I have your sister's phone number please?

, I don't know you .
He has friends in common is it's not a complete random ask and your request isn't the same thing

Radiosonde · 03-01-2017 10:23pm

arayess wrote: »

, I don't know you .
He has friends in common is it's not a complete random ask and your request isn't the same thing

He's a fictional Belgian detective. Smooth accent; small, tidy moustache. Your sister could do worse.

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