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Asking a girl out

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  • 03-01-2017 12:29am
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    johnyy92
    Registered Users Posts: 18 ✭


    Hi i just have a quick question. I met this girl one night over the Christmas which i have not seen in years. She is a few years older than me and we were talking for a good half hour. Anyway over that time i got the vibe that she was scoping me out and was possibly interested. I was going to ask her out but between mutual friends moving around we got separated. I rarely see this girl and I dont have her number. I was just wondering if i asked her out over facebook would that be acceptable. Also i deactivated my Facebook account three years ago so i would only be signing in to send her a message.

    I have this message in mind

    Hi (Name), (Name) here, I was talking to you there the other night. I deactivated this account years ago and I only signed in to talk to you as I may not run into you again. I was just wondering if you would be interested in going for dinner and a few drinks some night when your around ?. I would have asked you the other night but it didn’t seem appropriate at the time. Sure let me know what you think anyway.

    Any input into my approach would be much appreciated and a girls opinion on her point of view.


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    #2
    mansize
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,521 ✭✭✭✭mansize


    that sounds a bit creepy to me tbf


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    Plugguy
    Registered Users Posts: 126 ✭✭Plugguy


    I say go for it.


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    johnyy92
    Registered Users Posts: 18 ✭johnyy92


    so how would you approach it


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    Fr_Dougal
    Registered Users Posts: 9,167 ✭✭✭Fr_Dougal


    Too long winded.

    "Hey x, great seeing you again the other night. Do you fancy going for drinks sometime?

    Cheers,
    Johnny "


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    Fleawuss
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,681 ✭✭✭Fleawuss


    In before
    "Are u ok hun?"


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    The Backwards Man
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,299 ✭✭✭✭The Backwards Man


    In my day if you liked girl you asked her da for a couple of cows or a handful of acres of grazing ground.


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    magentis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,249 ✭✭✭magentis


    johnyy92 wrote: »
    so how would you approach it

    From behind if possible.


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    Father Hernandez
    Registered Users Posts: 11,217 ✭✭✭✭Father Hernandez


    Go for it but don't mention anything about deactivating your account and the only reason you're online is to talk to her. Some people are just not that active on FB, play it of as that.

    Add her first, if she accepts, ask her how she is, did she have a good night that night, etc, if it's going well back and forth for a while then ask her for her number & a drink.

    Nothing ventured, nothing gained


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    johnyy92
    Registered Users Posts: 18 ✭johnyy92


    Theres always one


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    Plugguy
    Registered Users Posts: 126 ✭✭Plugguy


    Just say you enjoyed meeting her and ask would she like to meet up again.


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    Ted111
    Closed Accounts Posts: 990 ✭✭✭Ted111


    can you put up a sketch map of her house and garden. mark out
    positioning of bins and trees etc...


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    gifted
    Registered Users Posts: 4,875 ✭✭✭gifted


    If she's interested she'll let you know...women are good at dropping hints...it's us men that are thick at picking up the hints lol lol


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    retro:electro
    Registered Users Posts: 21,039 ✭✭✭✭retro:electro


    Don't say the bit about deactivating your account. It's pointless and cringey and makes you sound weird


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    johnyy92
    Registered Users Posts: 18 ✭johnyy92


    Yeah but theres very little on my account as i havent used it in years would that not be creepy?


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    Fleawuss
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,681 ✭✭✭Fleawuss




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    Valentina
    Registered Users Posts: 4,281 ✭✭✭Valentina


    johnyy92 wrote: »
    Hi (Name),

    Great seeing you the other night. I was just wondering if you would be interested in going for a few drinks some night?

    Cheers,
    (Name)

    Job done.


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    Joeseph Balls
    Registered Users Posts: 3,710 ✭✭✭Joeseph Balls


    johnyy92 wrote: »
    Yeah but theres very little on my account as i havent used it in years would that not be creepy?

    No,
    Just so as dougal said.

    "Hey x, great seeing you again the other night. Do you fancy going for drinks sometime?

    Cheers,
    Johnny "

    Except if your names not Johnny, don't sign off as Johnny. That would be wierd


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    BOHtox
    Registered Users Posts: 4,314 ✭✭✭BOHtox


    Definitely a bit long-winded in my opinion. No need for your life story and deactivating your account and all that.

    Just play it cool. But definitely do it! If she says no she says no. The sun will still rise the next day and you'll be a stronger man for building up the courage to ask.

    Also keep us posted. This could really be a great thread 😂


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    Rmgblue
    Registered Users Posts: 300 ✭✭Rmgblue


    Less is more!! No need to tell her about reactivating your Facebook, you will sound too needy and needy is not cool! Best of luck!


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    Miss Demeanour
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,383 ✭✭✭Miss Demeanour


    As previous posters said....say nothing about reactivating account. Just ask.....life is too short and the worst she can say is no.


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    #22
    johnyy92
    Registered Users Posts: 18 ✭johnyy92


    Alright thanks for the help lads


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    whiskeyman
    Registered Users Posts: 12,564 ✭✭✭✭whiskeyman


    Ask her over for some streaming movies and relaxing times


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    Dr Crayfish
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,960 ✭✭✭Dr Crayfish


    johnyy92 wrote: »
    Yeah but theres very little on my account as i havent used it in years would that not be creepy?

    If you're really hot, nothing is creepy


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    Fr_Dougal
    Registered Users Posts: 9,167 ✭✭✭Fr_Dougal


    johnyy92 wrote: »
    Alright thanks for the help lads

    Make sure you time your message right. Evening time after say 8pm but before 9.30pm should be good.

    If you don't use FB a whole lot, don't add her as a friend.


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    Ted111
    Closed Accounts Posts: 990 ✭✭✭Ted111


    Fr_Dougal wrote: »
    Evening time after say 8pm but before 9.30pm

    - Monday to Thursday obviously.

    I would suggest a window of 6.30 to 8.10pm on Friday.

    What are your thoughts on Saturday? It's a tough one.


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    #27
    mansize
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,521 ✭✭✭✭mansize


    Can I smash your back doors in?


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    #28
    ElChe32
    Registered Users Posts: 2,690 ✭✭✭ElChe32


    Attach a "dick pic" too, I hear that's what all the young wans are doing these days..

    She'll think you are trendy.


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    Birneybau
    Registered Users Posts: 10,237 ✭✭✭✭Birneybau


    mansize wrote: »
    Can I smash your back doors in?

    He's in the middle of asking a girl out, wait your turn.


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    The Backwards Man
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,299 ✭✭✭✭The Backwards Man


    Fr_Dougal wrote: »
    Make sure you time your message right. Evening time after say 8pm but before 9.30pm should be good.

    If you don't use FB a whole lot, don't add her as a friend.

    What if she's at bingo?


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    Birneybau
    Registered Users Posts: 10,237 ✭✭✭✭Birneybau


    The Backwards Man wrote: »
    Fr_Dougal wrote: »
    Make sure you time your message right. Evening time after say 8pm but before 9.30pm should be good.

    If you don't use FB a whole lot, don't add her as a friend.

    What if she's at bingo?

    Show her your balls? Eyes down...


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