What's your ultimate age limit (upper&lower!) when dating?

Vela · 04-04-2019 5:44pm #1

What age+gender are you and what's your ultimate age limit when it comes to dating someone older or younger?

I'm a 32 yr old woman and I reckon 28-46 is my limit. When I was younger I always dated guys a lot older than me and still tend to go for older, but I find I'm more open to guys my age or a bit younger now since that means they're at least late 20s. Although, I was getting messages from 23/24 year olds until I sorted out my dating app settings :rolleyes:

My younger sister is early-20s but always dates older (wonder where she got that from:pac:), so we've ended up overlapping on Tinder matches etc. and having to check with each other on who we're talking to. That's been a bit of a strange feeling, to say the least!

Tacklebox · 04-04-2019 5:45pm

I'm 43 so 37 up as far as 55 would be my limit while I was dating.

Always preferred the mature women, ever since I seen Dallas as a kid I had crushes on the more edgy cougar types

lbc2019 · 04-04-2019 5:48pm

50-35 Im 39 MSM

Pyr0 · 04-04-2019 6:25pm

I'm 29 and my minimum age is 24 and max would be early/mid 30's, if they're younger than my sister then forget about it!

Gimme A Pound · 04-04-2019 7:01pm

Don't have one. Just once he isn't too young or too old for me personally.

Your Face · 04-04-2019 7:03pm

PM sent

pleas advice · 04-04-2019 7:06pm

half my age, plus 7. or twice (my age minus seven)

Bunny Colvin · 04-04-2019 7:06pm

Five years below my age, three years above. Obviously that's broadly speaking.

Marcus Rashford · 04-04-2019 7:07pm

Lowest 22, highest 45

(please note I’m 87)

Kivaro · 04-04-2019 7:10pm

Marcus Rashford wrote: »

Lowest 22, highest 45

(please note I’m 87)

Is that breast size you're talking about Marcus?

This is it · 04-04-2019 7:16pm

I'd leave it open to +/- 5 years though I prefer my own age or a little older. Tough question to answer with so many other variables like maturity, etc.

not yet · 04-04-2019 7:22pm

Vela wrote: »

What age+gender are you and what's your ultimate age limit when it comes to dating someone older or younger?

I'm a 32 yr old woman and I reckon 28-46 is my limit. When I was younger I always dated guys a lot older than me and still tend to go for older, but I find I'm more open to guys my age or a bit younger now since that means they're at least late 20s. Although, I was getting messages from 23/24 year olds until I sorted out my dating app settings :rolleyes:

My younger sister is early-20s but always dates older (wonder where she got that from:pac:), so we've ended up overlapping on Tinder matches etc. and having to check with each other on who we're talking to. That's been a bit of a strange feeling, to say the least!

Would ya stretch to early 50s;) with me own hair and teeth, I also have a great collection of Johnny Cash, records that is, not money..

04-04-2019 7:23pm

This is it wrote: »

Tough question to answer with so many other variables like maturity, etc.

Emotional maturity is the clincher for me, whether she be 27 or 37.

Greentopia · 04-04-2019 7:53pm

Female and have a partner now but I've had relationships with guys a few years older than me and one guy 22 years younger. Age was never a determining factor for me on how well I get on with anyway or how attracted I am to them, be they friend or prospective partner. Well within reason anyway :pac:

What's behind their ears and how kind and thoughtful they are are far more important.

Vela · 04-04-2019 8:08pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Emotional maturity is the clincher for me, whether she be 27 or 37.

Yeah, I get that completely. When I was a teenager, my boyfriend was in his 20s because I was definitely more emotionally mature than most 16-year-olds. But it's mainly been my experience that men mature a bit later than women, so they're playing catchup until around 27 when it starts to level out. I think that's why I'd be more open to dating someone a bit younger now, whereas I wouldn't have considered it at all a few years ago.

Vela · 04-04-2019 8:11pm

Greentopia wrote: »

Female and have a partner now but I've had relationships with guys a few years older than me and one guy 22 years younger. Age was never a determining factor for me on how well I get on with anyway or how attracted I am to them, be they friend or prospective partner. Well within reason anyway :pac:

What's behind their ears and how kind and thoughtful they are are far more important.

22 years? Holy sh1tamoly. Mind me asking what age ye both were?

petes · 04-04-2019 8:15pm

Lilly Eager Sidecar wrote: »

Don't have one. Just once he isn't too young or too old for me personally.

So then you do

ginandtonicsky · 04-04-2019 8:18pm

I’m 33, youngest I could fathom is maybe a 30/31 year old guy but really I prefer older. I’d say oldest would be 40 or so, but guy I’m massively into now is 43 so I’m pretty open on older guys.

Main decider would be does he have his sh1t together.

Pherekydes · 04-04-2019 8:40pm

My first gf was older than me, and so's my current wife.

My lower limit is 18 months younger to I won't say how older. At the moment, 61 ± 5 days is my limit.

My wife has approved this post. :pac:

zapitastas · 04-04-2019 9:07pm

Greentopia wrote: »

Female and have a partner now but I've had relationships with guys a few years older than me and one guy 22 years younger. Age was never a determining factor for me on how well I get on with anyway or how attracted I am to them, be they friend or prospective partner. Well within reason anyway :pac:

What's behind their ears and how kind and thoughtful they are are far more important.

What's behind their ears? Just give it a good scrubbing and the dirt should fall away

Yer Da sells Avon · 04-04-2019 9:17pm

Pyr0 wrote: »

I'm 29 and my minimum age is 24 and max would be early/mid 30's, if they're younger than my sister then forget about it!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Ktu9LOcOPo

I'm 37 and my lower limit would be 30-ish. I can't imagine having an enormous amount in common with anyone younger than that. Upper limit would probably be mid-40s. Not much older than that anyway - I don't want to catch the menopause.

Gimme A Pound · 04-04-2019 11:45pm

petes wrote: »

So then you do

Oh yeah but I don't have exact figures. However I suppose that means vague figures so probably late 20s to late 40s.

wakka12 · 05-04-2019 12:59am

Im 23, I think I wouldnt date a guy under 20 and while Im attracted to guys up to their 40's I cant imagine I would get along that well romantically with a guy over about 28/29

lainey_d_123 · 05-04-2019 1:09am

Vela wrote: »

Yeah, I get that completely. When I was a teenager, my boyfriend was in his 20s because I was definitely more emotionally mature than most 16-year-olds. But it's mainly been my experience that men mature a bit later than women, so they're playing catchup until around 27 when it starts to level out. I think that's why I'd be more open to dating someone a bit younger now, whereas I wouldn't have considered it at all a few years ago.

This is very true. When I was 29, I wouldn't have dreamed of dating a 25-year-old, but now at 33 I wouldn't think twice about dating a 29-year-old. That's actually my preferred age bracket now for dating.

AllForIt · 05-04-2019 1:09am

I'm age limitation fluid. As I get older fluidity kicks in.

Just kidding. But seriously, I find as I get older I fancy guys who I know I wouldn't have when I was 10/15 years younger (older ppl).

And likewise I fancy less ppl who are 10/15 years younger than me , where when I was their age, I would have.

Greentopia · 05-04-2019 2:05am

Vela wrote: »

22 years? Holy sh1tamoly. Mind me asking what age ye both were?

Well he was 27 so...

I look after myself and have always looked young for my age so guys tend to think I'm younger than I am. Then when they realise I'm a lot older they're hooked anyway buahahahahaha...

or not.

We were only together a few months though. His beloved Mamma would not have been pleased I think if he had brought me home to meet her :pac:

Erik Shun · 05-04-2019 7:35am

Youngest has been 19 years younger...the other end of the scale, about 10 years older...age is but a number .......or so I keep telling myself

Hector Savage · 05-04-2019 7:57am

Just waiting for permabear to come on and tell us all how he is 45 and shagging a 19 year old....

BeerWolf · 05-04-2019 8:20am

Why stop with age when even death can't stop love;

Karen Greenlee

YFlyer · 05-04-2019 8:25am

Half my age.

JonnyMarbles · 05-04-2019 9:33am

Greentopia wrote: »

Well he was 27 so... I look after myself and have always looked young for my age so guys tend to think I'm younger than I am. Then when they realise I'm a lot older they're hooked anyway buahahahahaha... or not.

We were only together a few months though. His beloved Mamma would not have been pleased I think if he had brought me home to meet her :pac:

27 and currently going after a 48 year old. She's hot

Kivaro · 05-04-2019 9:39am

YFlyer wrote: »

Half my age.

Right, that's your upper limit.
What's your lower limit?

Vela · 06-04-2019 9:52pm

Had a 48 year old message me on another site after setting up this thread. &#55357;&#56837;

I dunno man, I think maybe that's a stretch too far.

greencap · 06-04-2019 9:56pm

Bush and bag.

Strumms · 06-04-2019 10:04pm

Am 39 and going out with a 30 year old last 4 years. Not by design and I’ve no hard and fast rules but in fairness she is a very mature girl, a full time career as a psychologist and quite ‘settled’ as a person. Other relationships only a year or two in the difference.

vectorvictor · 06-04-2019 10:10pm

Strumms wrote: »

Am 39 and going out with a 30 year old last 4 years Not by design and I’ve no hard and fast rules but in fairness she is a very mature girl, a full time career as a psychologist and quite ‘settled’ as a person. Other relationships only a year or two in the difference.

Four different people or some form of time machine? I don't know which is more impressive

Strumms · 06-04-2019 10:15pm

vectorvictor wrote: »

Four different people or some form of time machine? I don't know which is more impressive

Both would be :pac:

06-04-2019 11:15pm

Met my partners when I was 27 and they were 25 and 17. Still together. Really did not even consider age at the time or now. For me it was all about a connection or no connection.

A user of boards put it well once. If you like someone despite or regardless of their age that's one thing - if you like someone because of their age you might have an issue.

Fr_Dougal · 06-04-2019 11:36pm

Age doesn’t really matter, within reason. Someone who has their sh1t sorted, isn’t a drama queen, and doesn’t dwell on the past. I’ve learned that you cannot fix someone who is ‘broken’, don’t even try.

This is it · 06-04-2019 11:53pm

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

Age doesn’t really matter, within reason. Someone who has their sh1t sorted, isn’t a drama queen, and doesn’t dwell on the past. I’ve learned that you cannot fix someone who is ‘broken’, don’t even try.

Hopefully I'm not 'broken'!

RobertKK · 06-04-2019 11:57pm

I am playing bitlife on my phone, I have come to realise one should go for as old as possible once they have some wealth, get married before they die and you can build wealth that way.

Vela · 07-04-2019 12:09am

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

Age doesn’t really matter, within reason. Someone who has their sh1t sorted, isn’t a drama queen, and doesn’t dwell on the past. I’ve learned that you cannot fix someone who is ‘broken’, don’t even try.

Oh, I gave up on that long ago.

Gas-lighting drama queens often come with a penis attached. And it takes a lot of time and experience to see that they'll simply never change. Or be "fixable".

You can't fix someone who doesn't have the self awareness to realise what they need to work on.

Emme · 07-04-2019 1:46am

Yer Da sells Avon wrote: »

Upper limit would probably be mid-40s. Not much older than that anyway - I don't want to catch the menopause.

The last I heard the menopause wasn't contagious.

fash · 07-04-2019 7:45am

Deleted User wrote: »

Met my partners when I was 27 and they were 25 and 17.

Polyamorist?

Woke Hogan · 07-04-2019 9:34am

Deleted User wrote: »

Met my partners when I was 27 and they were 25 and 17. Still together. Really did not even consider age at the time or now. For me it was all about a connection or no connection.

A user of boards put it well once. If you like someone despite or regardless of their age that's one thing - if you like someone because of their age you might have an issue.

You started going out with one of your partners when he or she was seventeen? Did you go to their debs?

I'm in my late 50s and happily married for many years but if something happened to my wife I suppose I'd go out with someone aged around 30-50. I couldn't go out with someone older than me, no way.

Edgware · 07-04-2019 10:31am

Woke Hogan wrote: »

You started going out with one of your partners when he or she was seventeen? Did you go to their debs?

I'm in my late 50s and happily married for many years but if something happened to my wife I suppose I'd go out with someone aged around 30-50. I couldn't go out with someone older than me, no way.

Nothing wrong with a nice gummy blow job

Vela · 07-04-2019 1:11pm

Woke Hogan wrote: »

You started going out with one of your partners when he or she was seventeen? Did you go to their debs?

I was in the reverse situation with my bf at the time, and yeah he came! It was grand! (maybe not so much for him:pac:)

Emme · 07-04-2019 7:19pm

Woke Hogan wrote: »

You started going out with one of your partners when he or she was seventeen? Did you go to their debs?

I'm in my late 50s and happily married for many years but if something happened to my wife I suppose I'd go out with someone aged around 30-50. I couldn't go out with someone older than me, no way.

Yet you expect the person who you would date to go out with somebody significantly older than them.

Also somebody aged 30-50 is more likely to be around to care for you than somebody your own age.

cannotlogin · 07-04-2019 7:29pm

I'm mid 30s female.

Couldn't see myself with anyone under 30 or over 45 but depends on the person really.

Nearly everyone I've been with has been same age or 5 years old with one except, I dated a 27 year old when I was 17 & doing my Leaving Cert - didn't see anything wrong with it at the time but looking back it was all kinds of wrong but of course I wouldn't listen to anyone who said that at the time.

EmmetSpiceland · 07-04-2019 7:32pm

Vela wrote: »

I was in the reverse situation with my bf at the time, and yeah he came! It was grand!

I hope you used protection.

Vela · 07-04-2019 7:46pm

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

I hope you used protection.

Walked into that one!

What's your ultimate age limit (upper&lower!) when dating?

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