Curious to know how many couples get loans ++

PinkLady2016 · 11-06-2019 10:09am

Mollyb60 wrote: »

We had a smallish wedding, about 80 guests in the Conyngham Arms in Slane. I think it was about €60 a head and it was a really great venue. No bridesmaids/groomsmen, hotel decorated the room we were married in (civil ceremony) and the reception room as part of the package
£700 for my dress (bought in NI where we live)
£700 for the grooms suit (bought in NI)
€2000 for the band,
€1500 for the photographer
€200 for the cupcakes (no cake)
€50 for my bouquet and a buttonhole for the groom
€3000 on the honeymoon (cruise)

That was about the extent of the big things.

I'm getting married in the same venue as you next year. What did you think of that venue? Did you like it? Were keeping costs low and going to have a small wedding party

CheerLouth · 12-06-2019 3:33pm

PinkLady2016 wrote: »

I'm getting married in the same venue as you next year. What did you think of that venue? Did you like it? Were keeping costs low and going to have a small wedding party

I'm getting married there next month! Am happy to report back afterwards if you like! So far, I can't fault them - they've been excellent to deal with. My cousin got married there last year too & it was a fantastic day! If our day is half as good as hers, we'll be on a winner!

Inspector Coptoor · 13-06-2019 12:00am

Gonna keep this relatively short.

Married almost 5 years and with my wife for 16 years.

Proposed 7 years ago and started saving for the wedding from that point.

Spent €28k on a fantastic wedding with 240 guests and 80 for day 2 and 40 for day 3.
No loan.
All paid up front and in cash.

Don’t regret a thing.

I couldn’t take out a loan for a wedding.

Only loan currently is mortgage.
Long may it last

Neyite · 13-06-2019 9:46am

Inspector Coptoor wrote: »

Gonna keep this relatively short.

Married almost 5 years and with my wife for 16 years.

Proposed 7 years ago and started saving for the wedding from that point.

Spent €28k on a fantastic wedding with 240 guests and 80 for day 2 and 40 for day 3.
No loan.
All paid up front and in cash.

Don’t regret a thing.

I couldn’t take out a loan for a wedding.

Only loan currently is mortgage.
Long may it last

If people had the capacity to save €28k in a 2 year period like you and your missus then they wouldn't need to consider getting a loan.

iamwhoiam · 13-06-2019 10:07am

Neyite wrote: »

If people had the capacity to save €28k in a 2 year period like you and your missus then they wouldn't need to consider getting a loan.

Exactly . People can be very judgmental without knowing the circumstances of others means . I see nothing wrong in a small credit union loan to make it easier on some people . Some people take a loan from parents and pay it back after the wedding
I have never understood this notion of judging others for doing what is best for them

PinkLady2016 · 13-06-2019 10:12am

Inspector Coptoor wrote: »

Gonna keep this relatively short.

Married almost 5 years and with my wife for 16 years.

Proposed 7 years ago and started saving for the wedding from that point.

Spent €28k on a fantastic wedding with 240 guests and 80 for day 2 and 40 for day 3.
No loan.
All paid up front and in cash.

Don’t regret a thing.

I couldn’t take out a loan for a wedding.

Only loan currently is mortgage.
Long may it last

If you can use saving rather then a loan its a great idea and that's what myself and my partner are doing. Imagine paying off a wedding and a mortgage that would be really tough going. After all a wedding is a party and you can have it as big or small as you want.

Mollyb60 · 13-06-2019 10:35am

PinkLady2016 wrote: »

I'm getting married in the same venue as you next year. What did you think of that venue? Did you like it? Were keeping costs low and going to have a small wedding party

Yep we had a fantastic day. My only complaint would be lack of air conditioning in the rooms but that's a rare complaint for Ireland. We just got an ridiculously warm day for it. The staff were all amazing and the food was really gorgeous. The gardens were lovely for the guests to sit out in and we took a few pictures there rather than leaving the party. The stairs down to the garden are a bit steep so you'd want to watch kids and drunken people on it but it was fantastic to get all our guests on the steps for a group photo. As I said we had about 80-90 people at the wedding and I thought that was a good amount for the room. There was plenty of space between the tables and it wasn't too crowded. The bedrooms are lovely, the breakfast was delicious and we had a brilliant day there. Would definitely recommend it.

CheerLouth wrote: »

I'm getting married there next month! Am happy to report back afterwards if you like! So far, I can't fault them - they've been excellent to deal with. My cousin got married there last year too & it was a fantastic day! If our day is half as good as hers, we'll be on a winner!

Congrats CheerLouth! Hope you have a fantastic day.

PinkLady2016 · 13-06-2019 11:53am

Mollyb60 wrote: »

Yep we had a fantastic day. My only complaint would be lack of air conditioning in the rooms but that's a rare complaint for Ireland. We just got an ridiculously warm day for it. The staff were all amazing and the food was really gorgeous. The gardens were lovely for the guests to sit out in and we took a few pictures there rather than leaving the party. The stairs down to the garden are a bit steep so you'd want to watch kids and drunken people on it but it was fantastic to get all our guests on the steps for a group photo. As I said we had about 80-90 people at the wedding and I thought that was a good amount for the room. There was plenty of space between the tables and it wasn't too crowded. The bedrooms are lovely, the breakfast was delicious and we had a brilliant day there. Would definitely recommend it.

Congrats CheerLouth! Hope you have a fantastic day.

Thanks for your review. Seems like its not too bad for a wedding there. They said to me that they close off the hotel for a wedding. It does look nice and I like the décor. What did your guests think of it? I have a few fussy ones coming. Very hard to keep everyone happy lol

CheerLouth · 13-06-2019 11:54am

Mollyb60 wrote: »

Congrats CheerLouth! Hope you have a fantastic day.

Thank you so much

Mollyb60 · 13-06-2019 1:40pm

PinkLady2016 wrote: »

Thanks for your review. Seems like its not too bad for a wedding there. They said to me that they close off the hotel for a wedding. It does look nice and I like the décor. What did your guests think of it? I have a few fussy ones coming. Very hard to keep everyone happy lol

Oh stop, my mother was an absolute nightmare in the run up. I made the wedding planner (whose name I've totally forgotten) aware that she was a fussy eater and she couldn't have been more understanding. She left a plate of undressed scones aside especially for her with tea following the ceremony and was so helpful with the menu too. Because my mother specifically wanted vegetable soup as the starter (which wasn't on the menu) they added in a soup course following the starter free of charge just so she would get a starter.

I had no complaints on the day of the wedding and have had comments that people really enjoyed it so I'm happy enough with that. But of course no one is ever gonna tell me that they didn't like my wedding day!

The décor is fab though. One of my friends was in ecstasy going around instagramming all the cute little quirks in the lounge/sitting room areas. :rolleyes: And I have some really gorgeous photos of the interior.

And yes, the hotel was closed off for the wedding. AFAIK they do allow folks into the restaurant area when the wedding is seated for dinner but I think it's just for those 2/3 hours or so and no one noticed because everyone was in the reception room.

irishgirl19 · 16-06-2019 9:56pm

We took out a loan. Wanted to save for it but a few unexpected circumstances that came up knocked that on the head.
Don't regret it. Only thing I do regret is not putting the generous cash gifts we got towards some of the balance

laoch na mona · 24-06-2019 9:22pm

roughly 10k budget including the honeymoon, gone slightly over that now, we each borrowed 2k from the credit union, the rest is being paid out of our wages, trying to keep our saving up at the same time as we're looking to buy a house in the next year or so.

lisasimpson · 30-06-2019 9:45am

Some people are just very bad with money and see nothing wrong with booking a venue that 100 euro per head and then a year later be crying they don't have enough for a deposit and cant get a mortgage.. If you think you will get money from guest to pay it back your wrong. I know of 2 weddings where people got absolute nothing from certain guest.(bare in mind one couple could well afford to give something)
I was at a wedding last year almost 400 guest no expense spared and neither come from overly well off families. In the lead up the bride told me how much it was costing. Personally I couldnt justify it. She doesn't seem to overly regret it either in fact she made a face when I said I will be having a simple one with a out 160 at it
Getting married next year myself. I had been saving for a mortgage on my own before I met my partner. So that money will be used but wont be blowing all my savings on it. It will be a simple affair just 1 bridesmaid no extra such as photoboths candycarts or wedding favours( will make a donation to a charity that is close to us instead). We are still paying our mortgage and who knows if I needed help to start a family that doesn't come cheap either

jesso22 · 30-06-2019 9:26pm

LizzeyBenett wrote: »

How many couples get loans to pay for their wedding ? How did you afford yours or how much did you spend ?

The whole budget for our wedding is €7000. Made sure we could get a loan from the credit union before we told anyone we were getting married. We will have it comfortably paid within 3 years. We just bought a house, so what little savings I have left I'm trying to replenish somewhat. So that after the 3 years i can start on home improvements!
I suppose it depends on your income really, and length of time you have to pay it back

MissShihTzu · 05-07-2019 10:42pm

Panthro wrote: »

I'm Irish and herself is from UK.
If we ever get hitched it would be a bit of a balls. I'd like to invite 30odd people but I know it's a bit of an ask to get them all over here.
Considered getting a massive air b n b house and renting it for them.

Realistically we'd probably have the ceremony in UK, meal afterwards, few drinks.
Then organise a band and a buffet somewhere back home.

Bit it's a balls and I've no idea how much it would cost us.

Had to jump in there! I'm English, my husband is Irish. We originally planned to marry in London, but the cost was too high, even for a small wedding. So we switched it to here, which was far cheaper believe it or not! We had money between us, his parents and his sister also contributed.

Came in about 13k and we had everything. Being English, I did not expect much in the way of cash gifts, as people travelled from the West Indies as well as the UK but we did get a nice amount which came as a pleasant surprise.

Curious to know how many couples get loans ++

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