Asking a girl out

johnyy92 · 06-01-2017 11:37pm

Shes not really active on facebook and the message is filtered so it may take a couple of days for a reply. I will keep u posted

JupiterKid · 07-01-2017 2:02am

The suspense is unbearable!!:pac:

Capt'n Midnight · 07-01-2017 3:30am

You are all doing this the wrong way around. Use facebook to find out about her family. Ingrate yourself with them.

When she sees you have her father's blessing it's just a matter of time.

Maximus Alexander · 07-01-2017 4:08am

Still nothing? Looks like she's just not that in to you I'm afraid. You probably should have mentioned deactivating Facebook; I bet leaving that out is what has put her off.

Hammer89 · 07-01-2017 4:23am

So, like, this guy called Johnny, like, sent me a message on Facebook. It went something like, 'Hey babes. I deactivated my Facebook....' Right away I'm thinking, 'Yah, so what happened was Mark Zuckerburg closed your account for ****ing stalking like.' He goes on: 'And I was just wondering if you wanted to meet up on Saturday'. I'm like, 'Yeah, sure, but it'll have to be Sunday because I'm going out with ****ing Graham Dwyer tomrorow night like'. Seriously?! He's a sweet guy who I met over Christmas, but how do I, like, tell him to **** off without coming across as such a bitch like?

07-01-2017 4:24am

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

Still nothing? Looks like she's just not that in to you I'm afraid. You probably should have mentioned deactivating Facebook; I bet leaving that out is what has put her off.

Probably best to send her a follow up message OP, explaining the Facebook deactivation in detail.

Antar Bolaeisk · 07-01-2017 8:13am

Deleted User wrote: »

Probably best to send her a follow up message OP, explaining the Facebook deactivation in detail.

Do not send a follow up message.

Hercule Poirot · 07-01-2017 9:07am

Give it a day or two OP - I reacently sent a Facebook IM to a non-Facebook friend and it was a day or two before I got a response. Admittedly I wasn't asking them out but you get the drift....

It could also be that, unlike what seems like 99% of the population, she may not have her phone glued to her hand, I've often come home from work on a Friday, popped the phone on the mantle piece and not picked up again until the following morning

Good luck, and fair play for taking the chance, there's many that wouldn't have

T-Maxx · 07-01-2017 9:45am

Do you fcuk on first dates?

Does your dad own a brewery?

BOHtox · 08-01-2017 9:45pm

johnyy92 wrote: »

Hi i just have a quick question. I met this girl one night over the Christmas which i have not seen in years. She is a few years older than me and we were talking for a good half hour. Anyway over that time i got the vibe that she was scoping me out and was possibly interested. I was going to ask her out but between mutual friends moving around we got separated. I rarely see this girl and I dont have her number. I was just wondering if i asked her out over facebook would that be acceptable. Also i deactivated my Facebook account three years ago so i would only be signing in to send her a message.

I have this message in mind

Hi (Name), (Name) here, I was talking to you there the other night. I deactivated this account years ago and I only signed in to talk to you as I may not run into you again. I was just wondering if you would be interested in going for dinner and a few drinks some night when your around ?. I would have asked you the other night but it didn’t seem appropriate at the time. Sure let me know what you think anyway.

Any input into my approach would be much appreciated and a girls opinion on her point of view.

Get anything back?

Barry Badrinath · 08-01-2017 9:53pm

BOHtox wrote: »

Get anything back?

Not his foreskin anyway.

Heeeeeyyyyy oooooooooohhhhh

Specialun · 08-01-2017 10:14pm

Not a happy ending id say lads

Hammer89 · 08-01-2017 10:28pm

BOHtox wrote: »

Get anything back?

Johnny here from my other account again.

Yeah, she got in contact with me through her solicitor. She's basically one of these PC types, telling me it's not acceptable to sit outside her client's house all night with my nightvision goggles on. She's still playing hard to get, but I'll get her

Specialun · 08-01-2017 10:42pm

Hammer89 wrote: »

Johnny here from my other account again.

Yeah, she got in contact with me through her solicitor. She's basically one of these PC types, telling me it's not acceptable to sit outside her client's house all night with my nightvision goggles on. She's still playing hard to get, but I'll get her

Stick with it lad. She will come around.

Melisandre121 · 09-01-2017 4:43am

johnyy92 wrote: »

I have her asked. I am just waiting for a response. Did not mention deactivating account and I did not add her.

If you didn't add her the message may have gone into "message requests" which people don't always get a notification for! I went into my requests a while back and there was a message from a guy asking me out, 4 years ago.... oops

Add her!

Specialun · 09-01-2017 7:09pm

Just call to her house op..naked. Tell her you didnt want to delay the inevitable

Steve012 · 09-01-2017 8:06pm

Father Hernandez wrote: »

Go for it but don't mention anything about deactivating your account and the only reason you're online is to talk to her. Some people are just not that active on FB, play it of as that.

Add her first, if she accepts, ask her how she is, did she have a good night that night, etc, if it's going well back and forth for a while then ask her for her number & a drink.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained

IMO best advice given. I'd say go for it, women respect the fact that you went to the trouble of looking for them on FB. Keep it minimal, and even look at the angle of her chasing you then (or back whatever).

Yep yep, women love confidence in a man first and foremost, (I'd sure your well aware of that)
Best of luck OP that I don't know from adamzzz

Steve012 · 09-01-2017 8:18pm

They do indeed, but sure be summer she could be in a 4 month relationship be then!

WE CAN ONLY LIVE IN THE NOW MAN!!! IN THE NOW!

Ha ...

Just hairdressing messing on a Monday

09-01-2017 8:58pm

johnyy92 wrote: »

Hi (Name), (Name) here, I was talking to you there the other night. I deactivated this account years ago and I only signed in to talk to you as I may not run into you again. I was just wondering if you would be interested in going for dinner and a few drinks some night when your around ?. I would have asked you the other night but it didn’t seem appropriate at the time. Sure let me know what you think anyway.

I wouldn't include the bit in bold, seeing as your name would be on your Facebook account, to me it would be bit too formal..Definitely don't say you deactivated your account, she probably won't even know.
Everyone asks people out via Facebook these days, it's the norm. Good luck

Red Eyes · 09-01-2017 10:50pm

Every time when I see that someone posted in this thread, I get a small glimmer of hope that the OP finally gave us an update, but sadly there never is.

BOHtox · 15-01-2017 6:36pm

C'mon OP you're killing us

16-01-2017 9:29am

you could always hang out where she lives with a couch, a plaster cast and a white Van??? say are you about a size 14?????

everlast75 · 16-01-2017 9:32am

Specialun wrote: »

Not a happy ending id say lads

Good point!

OP - there are always dodgy massage parlours to cheer you up!

johnyy92 · 27-02-2017 11:29pm

update: She never replied, I don't know if she got it and I have not seen her since.

gifted · 27-02-2017 11:43pm

johnyy92 wrote: »

update: She never replied, I don't know if she got it and I have not seen her since.

She's gay OP.....just tell yourself that and you'll be grand...now pub time with your mates lol lol

sassyj · 27-02-2017 11:49pm

johnyy92 wrote: »

update: She never replied, I don't know if she got it and I have not seen her since.

If you're not friends on FB, your message would go into filtered messages, I missed a message for months received like this. Bearing in mind I don't have messenger as I hate it, don't know how it works if you have messenger

tomwaterford · 28-02-2017 5:25am

johnyy92 wrote: »

update: She never replied, I don't know if she got it and I have not seen her since.

Did yoy try the poke function.....it still works

punk_one82 · 28-02-2017 6:05am

tomwaterford wrote: »

Did yoy try the poke function.....it still works

Or constant phone calls to her house until she says yes

JackTaylorFan · 28-02-2017 6:56am

johnyy92 wrote: »

update: She never replied, I don't know if she got it and I have not seen her since.

Hi OP, these days the message request function gives the recipient a notification and a chance to read the message discreetly before either chooaing to accept the conversation or ignoring. I would say it's almost a certainty she has seen it. I am sorry. I thought it was kind of sweet - but then again, I'm a bit of a stalker myself. And yes! i'm going to explain some.

So, after Christmas I decided to look up some old mates of mine on FB, that i hqdn't seen in like about 6 years - just to see what had happened. And I tried contacting one or two - just to say "Hey! remember me, the weird person you used to tolerate in college?", or something that pretty much translated as that Anyways, the one guy that did respond, even though, in hindsight, I'm pretty sure he thought I was a total creeper, was polite for the few minutes we chatted, but yeah, kinda wish I had just got amorous with a bottle of gin and passed out on the bathroom floor instead of going on facebook that day.

'cause now, I can't help but feel he thinks I'm obsessed with him and have been for the last half a decade or so... Oh well.. Live and learn, eh?

Maximus Alexander · 28-02-2017 11:56pm

I had a message from a non-friend on Facebook thay I didn't notice for nearly 3 years. It doesn't give you a notification, you have to manually go in and look at them.

You should have just sent a friend request. It would probably look weird to do that now on the off chance she has seen it.

JackTaylorFan · 01-03-2017 8:03am

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

I had a message from a non-friend on Facebook thay I didn't notice for nearly 3 years. It doesn't give you a notification, you have to manually go in and look at them.

You should have just sent a friend request. It would probably look weird to do that now on the off chance she has seen it.

That used to be the case, these days Messenger sends youba notification, if you arw connected in any way - e.g. Mutual friends, Members of the same group, etc

01-03-2017 1:24pm

JackTaylorFan wrote: »

That used to be the case, these days Messenger sends youba notification, if you arw connected in any way - e.g. Mutual friends, Members of the same group, etc

Not always, the other day I stumbled across a message sent to me over 3 months ago.

Asking a girl out

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