Where to meet a farmer?!

incognito_2019 · 16-10-2019 2:29pm #1

Ok so I’ve gone incognito as I’ve a few posts on my other account that identify who I am and wanted to start on a fresh slate! So since I was small I’ve always wanted marry a farmer but alas it hasn’t happened and at mid 30s it may never! But I am giving it another go, I am on the usual apps POF and tinder but they just seem to be time wasters these days and I’ve only ever met up with two people from either after hours of pointless scrolling and a lot of pointless messages! Tried a different dating site dedicated to farmers but it’s a paid one so not sure if there are many on it these days when there are lots of free sites available. I am not a farmer myself so I’m not regularly hanging around marts or anything like that and I live in a large enough town, closest city being Dublin… I saw a post a few days ago about farming men in their forties who never found anyone as the lifestyle isn’t the most sociable and it got me thinking, life is too short to hang around waiting for things to happen, so any ideas?!

Purple Mountain · 16-10-2019 2:30pm

I'm sure you'll get a few PMs here after that

incognito_2019 · 16-10-2019 2:32pm

Haha you never know, well i'll go from penpals on tinder to penpals on this instead!

Purple Mountain · 16-10-2019 2:34pm

You missed the Ploughing Championships.
There was a heap of men in overalls there.
What about the back of the Irelands Own?

incognito_2019 · 16-10-2019 2:39pm

Yeah I did see ads in the farmers journal but I presumed they were not real ads or do people still use that sort of advertising?! BTW part time farmer is just fine, looking for a country lad you could say!!

ganmo · 16-10-2019 2:42pm

find out where your local macra is based and touch base with them.

incognito_2019 · 16-10-2019 2:45pm

ganmo wrote: »

find out where your local macra is based and touch base with them.

Would they provide a list of eligible men?! Good idea not sure how I could get involved though I think I would be an outsider!!

Purple Mountain · 16-10-2019 2:56pm

You do know though that being married to a farmer requires a certain amount of dedication/patience/compromise.
I know because I grew up on a dairy farm.
They work 7 days a week. Holidays are rare. Nights out and trips are often scuppered if there's a cow or sheep about to give birth.
Work starts at 6am, might not see them until 14 hours later.
Forget summer holidays, it's their busiest period.
I'm just painting you a realistic picture here.

incognito_2019 · 16-10-2019 3:14pm

Purple Mountain wrote: »

You do know though that being married to a farmer requires a certain amount of dedication/patience/compromise.
I know because I grew up on a dairy farm.
They work 7 days a week. Holidays are rare. Nights out and trips are often scuppered if there's a cow or sheep about to give birth.
Work starts at 6am, might not see them until 14 hours later.
Forget summer holidays, it's their busiest period.
I'm just painting you a realistic picture here.

Ah yes I’ve my eyes wide open don’t worry, that doesn’t put me off

Limestone Cowboy · 16-10-2019 3:18pm

You're a few weeks late but lisdoonvarna any weekend in September would be a good shout.

davidk1394 · 16-10-2019 3:22pm

First question is what age bracket are you looking for? Have you ever been on a farm or worked with animals? Are you ok with long hours during the year, the smell of shíte sometimes or being being woken up at an ungodly hour because theres a difficult calving/lambing or theres stock on the road.

Macra is a good start to find a young farmer, another place is Lisdoonvarna (nothing but check shirts and brown boots as far as the eye can see), Galway races is a good bet and if your from Dublin head into coppers of a Saturday night and theres surely a culchie there.

Welding Rod · 16-10-2019 3:29pm

Done Deal ...... genuine offers only ........

Donald Trump · 16-10-2019 3:34pm

Lets get your vital stats out of the way first so that everyone knows what they are getting themselves into

How much road frontage do you have?

The Nutty M · 16-10-2019 3:36pm

Back of the farmers journal.

One smart pwick said that was where I met my missus. I laughed

In fairness though,if ya try too hard it'll never happen. I honestly don't see why the occupation of a person has any bearing on a first meeting.

uck51js9zml2yt · 16-10-2019 3:43pm

I know a bachelor farmer. He's 66 has free travel and a few fields with some nice heifers in them.
He's farmer all his life and wouldn't be short a few bob contrary to what he would say.

He hangs around my place occasionally. I'm not a farmer, am younger and happily married to a farmer's daughter

BarryD2 · 16-10-2019 3:48pm

davidk1394 wrote: »

First question is what age bracket are you looking for?

She or he (you can't assume nowadays!) says they are mid 30s, so time may be marching on etc.

16-10-2019 3:51pm

Join your local ICA?
I'm sure the members would be happy to make some introductions.

incognito_2019 · 16-10-2019 4:13pm

The Nutty M wrote: »

Back of the farmers journal.

One smart pwick said that was where I met my missus. I laughed

In fairness though,if ya try too hard it'll never happen. I honestly don't see why the occupation of a person has any bearing on a first meeting.

Ah it hasn’t really but always imagined myself ending up on a farm, I’d be happy to meet the right person regardless of profession!

incognito_2019 · 16-10-2019 4:13pm

BarryD2 wrote: »

She or he (you can't assume nowadays!) says they are mid 30s, so time may be marching on etc.

It’s never too late!

incognito_2019 · 16-10-2019 4:15pm

Eric Quaint Idiot wrote: »

I know a bachelor farmer. He's 66 has free travel and a few fields with some nice heifers in them.
He's farmer all his life and wouldn't be short a few bob contrary to what he would say.

He hangs around my place occasionally. I'm not a farmer, am younger and happily married to a farmer's daughter

No problem with an older man but 66 is stretching it a bit far ðŸ™‚

Kimbot · 16-10-2019 4:18pm

incognito_2019 wrote: »

No problem with an older man but 66 is stretching it a bit far &#55357;&#56898;

as they say, the older the berry, the sweeter the taste :P

PhilOssophy · 16-10-2019 4:21pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Join your local ICA?
I'm sure the members would be happy to make some introductions.

I don't think the OP is a lesbian......

uck51js9zml2yt · 16-10-2019 4:25pm

incognito_2019 wrote: »

No problem with an older man but 66 is stretching it a bit far ðŸ™‚

The less time to the reading of the will

US2 · 16-10-2019 4:39pm

Wanting to marry someone purley because of their occupation is very weird.

incognito_2019 · 16-10-2019 4:47pm

US2 wrote: »

Wanting to marry someone purley because of their occupation is very weird.

Well all I’m saying is if there are farmers out there who would love to meet someone and settle down but haven’t yet because the busy lifestyle makes it difficult and lack of social life then I would like to try and meet one of these people! If I end up with someone in a totally different profession I’ll be equally happy, I’m not that shallow!

Castlekeeper · 16-10-2019 5:03pm

incognito_2019 wrote: »

Well all I’m saying is if there are farmers out there who would love to meet someone and settle down but haven’t yet because the busy lifestyle makes it difficult and lack of social life then I would like to try and meet one of these people! If I end up with someone in a totally different profession I’ll be equally happy, I’m not that shallow!

There used to be a website for people with country interests called muddymatches.com
Also whatever country pursuits you might be into or otherwise in your local area is a good start. Macra can be waste of time if you're over 25, and it attracts a kind of a safe crowd which you may or may not fit in with.
Best of luck out there, stay classy

Bullocks · 16-10-2019 5:08pm

I reckon an ad in the journal would be worth the price of it .
Macra meetings and outings are brilliant for people to mingle
What do you work at and could you spare a bit of time to work a saturday in the office of a mart or volunteer at any local agricultural show ?
Out of interest what are the attractions to pairing up with a farmer ?

uck51js9zml2yt · 16-10-2019 5:11pm

US2 wrote: »

Wanting to marry someone purley because of their occupation is very weird.

I can't help thinking this is a wind up.

bogman_bass · 16-10-2019 5:30pm

1 word: Macra

The largest dating agency in the country. I added up 40+ Marriages I could think of that started trough Macra and I’ve been to 2 more Macra weddings since then.

K.G. · 16-10-2019 5:42pm

Do you know single farmers scarce enough around here.get a job in vets mart coop but definitely not pub or machine dealer s

handlemaster · 16-10-2019 5:58pm

incognito_2019 wrote: »

Ok so I’ve gone incognito as I’ve a few posts on my other account that identify who I am and wanted to start on a fresh slate! So since I was small I’ve always wanted marry a farmer but alas it hasn’t happened and at mid 30s it may never! But I am giving it another go, I am on the usual apps POF and tinder but they just seem to be time wasters these days and I’ve only ever met up with two people from either after hours of pointless scrolling and a lot of pointless messages! Tried a different dating site dedicated to farmers but it’s a paid one so not sure if there are many on it these days when there are lots of free sites available. I am not a farmer myself so I’m not regularly hanging around marts or anything like that and I live in a large enough town, closest city being Dublin… I saw a post a few days ago about farming men in their forties who never found anyone as the lifestyle isn’t the most sociable and it got me thinking, life is too short to hang around waiting for things to happen, so any ideas?!

im sure you would get more farmer's on grinder they dont have much time for romance and most would ride anything

Gods Gift · 16-10-2019 6:05pm

I’m 39 and would love to settle down, but terrified of changing tax bands.

incognito_2019 · 16-10-2019 6:26pm

bogman_bass wrote: »

1 word: Macra

The largest dating agency in the country. I added up 40+ Marriages I could think of that started trough Macra and I’ve been to 2 more Macra weddings since then.

But would it be unusual for someone not connected to farming at all to join?! I’m not familiar with it at all

incognito_2019 · 16-10-2019 6:27pm

Eric Quaint Idiot wrote: »

I can't help thinking this is a wind up.

Not a wind up at all!!

incognito_2019 · 16-10-2019 6:36pm

Bullocks wrote: »

I reckon an ad in the journal would be worth the price of it .
Macra meetings and outings are brilliant for people to mingle
What do you work at and could you spare a bit of time to work a saturday in the office of a mart or volunteer at any local agricultural show ?
Out of interest what are the attractions to pairing up with a farmer ?

I work in a 9-5 office job with the odd weekend thrown in, yes could definitely get involved in a show. Does anyone actually respond to those ads nowadays though? I’m not sure where the attraction came from, life on a farm has always appealed to me for some reason, I’m not stuck on the idea but it would be nice to meet someone and a bonus if they are into farming

Muckit · 16-10-2019 6:41pm

Gods Gift wrote: »

I’m 39 and would love to settle down, but terrified of changing tax bands.

It's well proven that married people are much better off. The trick is staying married!!

High bike · 16-10-2019 6:59pm

Perfect timing for the bpsðŸ˜‚

Welding Rod · 16-10-2019 8:21pm

Would a lad with both hips done be out of the question?
Still has most of his own teeth if that would help?

brookers · 16-10-2019 9:06pm

incognito_2019 wrote: »

Ah yes I’ve my eyes wide open don’t worry, that doesn’t put me off

plus it is so up and down, i wouldnt marry a farmer if you paid me, if their sheep dont sell, they depressed, if their sheep get best prize at the show they on top of the world, up and down moods, no money, wet all the time.....

kerryjack · 16-10-2019 9:10pm

There is a few of them lads down here and they haven't a notion of setting down. There are having too good a time. They get plenty of it as they say themselves why would you buy a cow when you can get milk for nothing. These guys can travel and it's all in the phone these days and there is some hotel in limerick you can hire out a room by the hour and they are back in the local at closing time job done.

Buford T. Justice XIX · 16-10-2019 9:14pm

Welding Rod wrote: »

Would a lad with both hips done be out of the question?
Still has most of his own teeth if that would help?

Good to hear you got the second hip done, how are you finding it?:D

Purple Mountain · 16-10-2019 9:17pm

Buford T. Justice VI wrote: »

Good to hear you got the second hip done, how are you finding it?:D

Never mind the hips, they don't lie.
How's Rods rod doing?

Gods Gift · 16-10-2019 9:20pm

Purple Mountain wrote: »

Never mind the hips, they don't lie.
How's Rods rod doing?

All the rodding wore out the hips.

bogman_bass · 16-10-2019 9:29pm

incognito_2019 wrote: »

But would it be unusual for someone not connected to farming at all to join?! I’m not familiar with it at all

Only 2 farmers on my club

Say my name · 16-10-2019 9:29pm

It's getting to be a very dangerous place around here now!

Incognito_2019. Are you any good at paperwork?

patsy_mccabe · 17-10-2019 12:23am

kerryjack wrote: »

There is a few of them lads down here and they haven't a notion of setting down. There are having too good a time. They get plenty of it as they say themselves why would you buy a cow when you can get milk for nothing. These guys can travel and it's all in the phone these days and there is some hotel in limerick you can hire out a room by the hour and they are back in the local at closing time job done.

That's The Stickit Inn. :rolleyes:

blindside88 · 17-10-2019 12:34am

I imagine most farmers would be wary of someone not from a farming background looking to marry someone just because they’re a farmer. Handy way to make a million. Marry a farmer, ride him a couple of times for good measure. Divorce within a year with a handy few acres or a big wad to let him keep the land.

I’m not saying that’s what your at but it’s the first thought on a lot of lads minds. (Not a farmer myself but about 30% of my customers are)

Lesalare · 17-10-2019 12:38am

OP, why do you want to marry a farmer?

Can't you guys put your Tinder radar thing to Roscommon or the depths of Kerry and set age to 50-70?

JJayoo · 17-10-2019 12:43am

There are social dancing events held often, full of jiving farmers

handlemaster · 17-10-2019 7:52am

blindside88 wrote: »

I imagine most farmers would be wary of someone not from a farming background looking to marry someone just because they’re a farmer. Handy way to make a million. Marry a farmer, ride him a couple of times for good measure. Divorce within a year with a handy few acres or a big wad to let him keep the land.

I’m not saying that’s what your at but it’s the first thought on a lot of lads minds. (Not a farmer myself but about 30% of my customers are)

Farmers are rich ?

blindside88 · 17-10-2019 9:11am

handlemaster wrote: »

Farmers are militaires?

I assume you mean millionaires? Most Farmers are very asset rich between land, stock and machinery and in a lot of cases are worth a million or more on paper. If they are divorced the spouse is entitled to half of this, so either the farmer sells off assets, hands over land or finances to pay off the divorcing spouse.

Where to meet a farmer?!

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