Things you want to say to husband/boyf/ex's/friends/family/people MOD NOTE POST #1

SaltSweatSugar · 05-07-2020 8:00pm

I’m done with our one sided “friendship”. You know how much sh1t I’ve had to deal with this year between my family issues and Covid.
You know I knew Colm Horkan, you knew how upset I was over his murder, but you never reached out to me, or checked in like I would expect a friend would do.
Not once in the past few months have you contacted me first. You never ask how I am or what’s going on. I’ve messaged you. Yet you still complain to our other friend that you don’t hear from me much.

Friendship is supposed to work both ways. But ours doesn’t. I give up.

LilacNails · 12-07-2020 1:06am

I'd love to be with u right now.

LilacNails · 12-07-2020 1:08am

Cuz I miss u loads....

LilacNails · 12-07-2020 1:23am

I just dont get it.... I'd give u... I've giving at least I think what u wanted how can it not be good enough? Why be so complicated? Do u still think of me? Oh how I would love to just know the truth

Sardonicat · 13-07-2020 7:31pm

I'm very happy to see you have done so well and are happy.

SAMTALK · 15-07-2020 1:42pm

You run a business but you're attitude towards your staff stinks. They work so hard and are so loyal and what do they get in return. More hassles, more sniping. No thanks and no protection in these times.

I hope you will always be lucky and that you don't know any of the hardship that some people have to go through

A little bit of compassion goes a long way

Kitty6277 · 05-08-2020 1:15am

K,

Please make more of an effort. You’re starting to lose me here.

Cutie 3.14 · 19-08-2020 11:04pm

Why do I miss you!?

....you fúcking pr!ck...

Airyfairy12 · 20-08-2020 2:21am

You have been apart of this family for 30 years, how did none of us see you for what you are is beyond me! Why do this? What ever about going behind your wifes back, which is disgusting btw, but to do it to your daughter too. Youre a sneaky, horrible little sh!t as is your ugly new woman. Does her husband know? I doubt it as she just posted a picture the other day of their wedding after party and commented about what a great night it was, You both deserve each other.
Oh how I would love to tell her husband!

flowerchild · 26-08-2020 7:38am

Why do I care? One of life’s mysteries.

Goodigal · 04-09-2020 4:01pm

Just ask me and I will say yes, cos I want to get to know you. You sound sad and in need of a chat.

iamwhoiam · 04-09-2020 4:05pm

Dear former friend
I was there for you whenever you needed me , through all your worries and upsets I sat and listened .
When I needed a friend you were nowhere to be seen and it hurt so badly .

Airyfairy12 · 05-09-2020 12:33am

The two of you are biggest gob****es! How on earth can two mid thirty something year olds be so immature? Youre only with him because he lets you live off his money and you know why he's with you, you have no compatibility whats so ever and you treat each other like dirt. You cheat on him constantly with anyone willing, spend all his money, your father is so involved in your relationship with him it's beyond inappropriate!
How many times are you going to break up and get back together? I am drained from listening to the drama.

Cutie18Ireland · 21-09-2020 1:11pm

You really shouldnt go to this on your own, I appreciate you want to protect me, but I am your daughter and want to be there for you.. like you always are for me.

SaltSweatSugar · 25-09-2020 11:59pm

I love you, I always have and always will but I don’t want you to come home.

Because you’re going to disrupt my life, and dads. I’ve spent so long getting my own sh1t together, and I finally have. You have no idea how much your problem has affected my work and personal life these past few months. I can’t do this for much longer.

You need to get your sh1t together, and sort yourself out, or you’ll lose me.

LegacyUser · 27-09-2020 2:15am

Dear X

Well it was great to bump into you a few weeks ago with your new best friend. Did you realise then that it was the 1st time you seen me face to face in 6 months?
Thinking back over the past 12 months you were well able to call me when you needed my help or had a favour to be done. Yet when I asked you to go places or to even call to see me I got nothing but excuses.

You can find the time/money to meet your new best friend but won't make any effort to do the same for me. You can't tell me you not going out much due to covid either after that day I met you and her.

Do you remember a few years ago when your life was in a total mess and how I was their though it all. I helped you out a lot back then yet where have you been for me over the past 6 months?
Do you know what really annoys me at this stage is your total lack of consideration for me and other people. You being lying to me for months telling me you not going out much due to covid when I found out this was not true. I also found out that you made no effort for months with another friend that I happen to know

You don't dump the freinds you had in past who were good to you and helped you through some tough times. They won't be their in the future if times get tough again.
Unless you make some effort with me soon I won't be their when the next bad patch happens in your life.

LegacyUser · 28-09-2020 9:38pm

Hello Y,
I want to say thanks for your help today. I did not want to aks other people to help me with that. I don't want to let them know I was applying for that job.
The truth is I can't stay here waiting for people and things to change. Certain things that happened over the past few years have proved that some people and circumstances won't change.
I know some people will be supprised to see me their but I have to think of my own long term future. It amazing how some people think I should be their to make life easy for them in the future but refused to help me out in the past.
I hope I get it now and if I do I won't forget your help.

Airyfairy12 · 30-09-2020 3:41pm

No I dont want to go to your house at 2.30 in the morning, dont know what gives you the slightest impression id be even remotely interested. Stop asking me!!

What ever happened to being asked out on a date?

Zanablue · 30-09-2020 6:48pm

Please will the two of you stop arguing. I know you are both trying to do your best this year but I will have no hair left if this keeps up:(

Sardonicat · 30-09-2020 9:01pm

You said that you knew you would find me again one day and I remember smiling to myself and thinking 'I used to believe things like that when I was young, too". Now i'd give anything for you to be right. I hope you were able to stay so full of optimism.

Sheridan81 · 01-10-2020 6:36pm

Nobody knows you're buried in the backyard and the cops have stopped asking questions. What was it you said? "You'll never get away with this!"

Look who was wrong again.

sullivlo · 01-10-2020 7:08pm

Sheridan81 wrote: »

Nobody knows you're buried in the backyard and the cops have stopped asking questions. What was it you said? "You'll never get away with this!"

Look who was wrong again.

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okiss · 14-10-2020 5:10am

Hi V,
You told me what's been happening in your life over the past few years. You will talk about certain things but won't mention others.
I feel that your telling me what you think I want to hear. I know you want to keep me happy for a few reasons. Its easy to tell me you will do X but I have yet to see this happen.
I think you should know at this stage I am getting unhappy with our current situation. I have decided that you have till ¿????¿??

Lavinia · 15-10-2020 6:31pm

some days that never mind ill find someone like you makes sense..

Cutie18Ireland · 22-10-2020 1:18pm

Thank you for this, it means so much.. I miss you everyday

Lavinia · 22-10-2020 5:55pm

I really miss you. It feels unfair to not be able to spend some more time with you as I'd really love that right now..

Airyfairy12 · 22-10-2020 8:04pm

Ive a bit of a crush on you, really want you to ask me out for a socially distanced coffee or pint. You have no idea id even be thinking something like this!

MrsDavis · 23-10-2020 12:21am

C,

Just f**k off. I’m scared of the outcome and you just don’t give a rats ass.

I deserve happiness, I deserve a break.

LegacyUser · 29-10-2020 9:53pm

L~

Nobody set out to go against you and fall out with you. You are constantly living in the past and so much of it has no bearing or prevalence in the here and now. You were no angel yourself and don't kid yourself. You did a lot and harmed and hurt us too. Can you not see our door is closed on you. We are hurt too so don't kid yourself please. You did so much, the book should be thrown at you.

I can't speak for the others but I hope you are really doing well. I hope you are keeping well, warm and safe. I really mean that. Our is closed now but hopefully not forever. Hopefully there might come a time in the future where we can put everything behind us. I really hope you are keeping well and safe. I can't deal with your dram, insults and sh1t. Xxx I miss you so much and I hope you are planning a good Christmas for yourself.

From Me

misstearheus · 05-11-2020 2:46am

Dear Earth / God / Power-lings that be; -

Please please re-surface most recent mislaid item.

:eek::o:rolleyes: Desperately need it!:mad::(

Kindest of kind regards,
Moi.

LilacNails · 05-11-2020 2:57pm

Would have loved if u had asked me to go with you!

Lavinia · 05-11-2020 8:06pm

farewell my friend, yet again.. what is with far away countries that attracts you so much.. you returned previously but will it be the case this time?
i wish you find happiness you are looking for but why part of me thinks you will be back.. some time in the future, few years or few decades..
anyway, id just love to hug you again.. i hope we meet soon.. one way or the other..

Three More Big Sleeps · 11-11-2020 5:38pm

Three More Big Sleeps wrote: »

Dear F,

... I’m no longer angry, F, after wading selflessly through your wake of destruction...

Eleven/eleven; another year and another birthday; gone but not forgotten; gone and certainly not forgiven.

Happy birthday.

Airyfairy12 · 11-11-2020 6:26pm

Why are you expecting things to be different this time? You have gone around in the same circle for almost 20 years. You get back together, things go well for a couple of months, he tries to please you in every way he can, jumps when you say jump, hands you his bank card, does everything you say, takes you on date nights, works 40 hour weeks so you can live like a princess, no intention of ever getting a job or supporting yourself. He's 'allowed' meet a friend for coffee on his days off or after work.
Then none of it's good enough so you push for more, expect him to change who he is, what he does, how he speaks, control his money, dont let him spend anything on himself while you spend his wages and your dole on clothes, the gym, your hair, your big fancy car, takeaways, lunch 3 -5 times a week, you even buy your breakfast every morning. He spends 5 euro on himself, with his own wages and you berate him for spending money that according to you he 'cant afford to spend'.. maybe stop spending all of his wages and he might have a bit left over to treat himself once in a while? Then you crack down on him meeting his friends, his days off should be spent with you..
He gets frustrated and depressed, gets angry, despondent, stops trying to jump through hoops to please you as he realises (again) that it doesnt matter how hard he tries, he will only be good enough for you as long he's a lap dog and a little servant for you to control but then he's not 'man enough' for you so he cant win.
Then the arguments start, you threaten him that you'll leave, you get your father involved to straighten him out, you cheat on him with anyone, even when things are good youre texting other men,
Things turn toxic you start fighting, verbally and physically attacking each other this goes on for months, you break up, wash, rinse and repeat.

I cant listen to it anymore, youre not teenagers youre both mid thirty year old adults! Grow up!

Need to get this out here as if I dont, I will lose a friend expressing my thoughts the next time it's brought up as all our conversations now revolve around her relationship.

LegacyUser · 21-11-2020 2:42am

Hi Z,
So we are back to the same thing as before. The truth is you contacted me early this year after a few years of no contact. Then it became clear why you were keen to contact me.
You wanted me to know how great your life was going and all that you were achiving when meanwhile my life is less than wonderful.
Then you started sextexting me despite your current situation.

During the lockdown a few months ago we were reguarly chatting and sextexting. You have been saying to me for months that we would meet up. I know you were telling me this to keep me happy and to have me available for the sextexts when you feel like it.

A few weeks ago something changed in your life. I knew you were going to by busy with this. You know my situation at the moment but I am not even worthy of message on fb pm asking me how I am. Do you honestly think that once this lockdown is over that I am going to get into a freinds with benefits situation with you?

I have decided that this is not going to happen and the sextexts are coming to an end also. I am sorry if your life is not working out the way you planned but that your fault not mine. D'ont worry I won't cause you any trouble now or in the future as long as your fair with me. You did what you did in the past and the truth is you unwilling and unable to change. I am no longer willing to be their for someone who can't be their for me.
I have to think of myself and my future.

Deja Boo · 21-11-2020 3:31am

M ...because of you.

LegacyUser · 21-11-2020 3:38am

Dear Q,

I hope what you did a few years ago was worth it.

The truth is your partner wants to cheat on you. The lady he was planning to do this with has become aware of you and she won't get involved with him.

The truth is he has been using you for years. You need to read up on your legal rights in your current situation. I think once you do this you do this you will realise just what kind of position you could be left in. It's up to you what you decide to do then. At least after doing this you can make plans to ensure your long term future.
If you continue as you are and if any bad was to happen to him you will be in a far worse position than you expect now. It will be to late to change things then.

Sardonicat · 25-11-2020 10:58pm

I miss you, I miss you, I miss you

I don't know why it's you I miss so much . I'd give anything to know that you're alive and all is well in your world. I miss you and it hurts.

Cutie 3.14 · 26-11-2020 8:17pm

P, why do you pick up EVERYTHING I say the wrong way?
I feel like I can't open up to you atall because you always attack me. And you can't warm to me because I don't open up to you. It has created a viscious circle!

D, get your head out of your arse. Get down off of your high horse. You are not better than anyone. You got this promotion because there was literally nobody else who could take it. If you are so 'academic' try not using the same 4 'intellectual' words over and over and learn some new ones.

T, you are a genuinely lovely person and I'm glad I met you. Im glad you're in my life even if it is sporadically.

S,...I just don't know what to say

okiss · 27-11-2020 3:16am

Dear Y

We are back to almost the same situation as before. I know you think that I am going to get into a freinds with benefit situation with you.
You picked her over me and we both know what happened then. I don't think your all that happy in your current situation so perhaps I am going to be their for some no strings sex and to improve you ego.
Or are you hoping if you and her split up that I am going to be their waiting for you?

I am not willing to get involved with you now and its for a number of reasons. You let me down to many times in the past and I have no interest in being your bit on the side. I can't wait to tell you that a fwb thing is not going to happen and all the reasons why. I know your not going to be to happy.
You have no one to blame but yourself for your current situation.

gggggggggg · 05-12-2020 10:24pm

You wrote before that you tried to fix things between us.

You actually never tried to fix anything. You never had a good or a kind word to say in any of your 1000s of messages of abuse. It was all insults, mocking me, accusations of jealousy towards you, threats to shame me to all and sundry, naked pictures of yourself and pictures in your underwear to show me how much I'm supposed to be missing. The least you could have done was put on a clean bra. Is that really appropriate conflict resolution? Please look to yourself to see nasty. You tried to push and control things to go your way and your way only instead of leaving space between us. Space that you wanted too. Sort your head, your mood and your feelings out please because I'm not responsible for you being so unhappy. I've never seen anyone as poisonous and as revengeful as you. I know you loved calling me a hypocrite too but also look at yourself. Be thankful that you are walking around free. Get fcuked if you think you are going to drag me down with you for another 5 or 10 years. You belong in prison for all that you've done. Other people have been arrested for a lot less. The answers you are looking for is not in my hands. It's over between us and has been for a long time.

Airyfairy12 · 05-12-2020 10:31pm

RIP beautiful girl. It was lovely knowing you even if it was only for a short time. My heart breaks for you, you didnt deserve this. x

gggggggggg · 07-12-2020 12:42am

You're very quick to diagnose personality disorders in others. What makes you qualified? Seriously, what makes you qualified? You're not a doctor in mental health or psychotherapy or anything near it. If you're so experienced in diagnosing personality disorders in others, look inwards to yourself because your own personality and behaviour is also nasty.

Antares35 · 07-12-2020 1:03am

Dear parents

I've given you so many chances to show you care about me but you've failed at every one of them. It is clear to me that your adopted son means more to you than your own flesh and blood. Perhaps you should have stopped at one child, if you weren't capable of loving two.

When I told you that I had been abused, you tore yourselves in two trying to protect the abuser. You victim blamed me for not speaking out as an innocent child. You called me an elder abuser because I was rightfully angry with you for taking his side. You called me an alcoholic because your treatment of me was so bad that drinking was the only way I could numb my grief.

Although we are still on speaking terms, that is only because it makes life easier for me. Don't mistake it for a concession or an endorsement of your behaviour. I consider myself divorced from my family.

I have realised in good time that family comes in many different forms, and we are not tied to those we grew up with.

I am proud of myself for overcoming everything that has crossed my path, without the support of the people who were supposed to protect me. I've educated myself, got a good job and have strong, loyal and functional relationships with my friends, co-workers and, most importantly, my fiancé. I am happy that I have healed enough to allow a wonderful man to love me, unconditionally, and to be the father of my child.

Unlike you, if my daughter ever told me someone hurt her, I would never welcome that person into her home, out of decency, and respect for her. I'm sorry that you couldn't afford me the same basic right, to be safe and loved.

I used to play into your games and buy your sob stories because you are old and I worried about having things on my conscience if you passed away. I don't hope that you die, because I'm not like that, but I know now that if you do die, it doesn't mean I was wrong to stand up for myself, and I have nothing to feel guilty about anymore.

I know I will be a better parent than either of you were.

Oink · 14-12-2020 12:13am

Dear wife, I’m a lucky man. I’ll try and get around to telling you again in the next few days. I wish I was one of those feckers with sunshine coming out of their árse but you seem to tolerate me somehow.

Cutie18Ireland · 16-12-2020 2:59pm

how has it been 11 weeks already

miss you everyday

Sardonicat · 20-12-2020 3:00am

The longing is fading now. Your memory has found the place in my heart it was meant for and it's a comfortable fit.I will dare to believe your assertion. Until then....

Antares35 · 21-12-2020 12:41am

Dear OH

I'm sorry I've been an insufferable cow lately. I've made you feel like you never do anything, and that what you do is never good enough. You're an amazing, patient man and I feel very lucky to be with you.

Sometimes I miss our "old life" where we'd beat around wine bars like silly teens, and where we could travel to nice places at the drop of a hat. But I wouldn't change our daughter for the world, and I know you feel the same.

okiss · 26-12-2020 3:38am

Dear Y

I want to ask you who do you think you are? Do you think I deserve the way you have treated me?
Do you think that I am stupid or gullable when you keep making excuses not to call to my house or meet me following covid rules?
We have not been on lockdown the whole year. You used covid and so many excuses at this stage.
Yet we both know that you have met X more than once over the past few months. Did you feel embarrassed the day you bumped into me when you were with her despite telling me you staying at home a lot of the time due to covid?

Can you remember what your life was like a few years ago? Do you remember the struggles you had? Who was their for you back then? Who stepped in and went above and beyond helping you out then?

Where were you when I needed some one this year? Could you not once step up and give me something to look forward to? I thought with Xmas you make some effort but no. At this stage we are going into another lockdown so it's wait and see what happens next.
The truth is that the whole covid thing will be over in time due to the vaccine.

You should know that unless you start to make some effort for me, I have no intention of dropping all for you when this whole covid thing dies down/ends.

Dark Phoenix · 06-01-2021 1:29am

Today, you made me feel alone and sad. The saddest part is I did nothing to deserve it. All I asked a few years ago was that you blocked the number of the person you betrayed me in the worst way for so to find out today that you are still in contact with them and have no remorse for your actions is unacceptable. The fact that you can never apologise and admit what you did is unacceptable. The fact that you refused to speak to me for the rest of the evening is unacceptable. The truth is that you are a gaslighting alcoholic abuser with no remorse and all the excuses in the world. I have reached the stage where I will hold my head high and refuse to cry or break in spite of it all as I just won’t give you that satisfaction anymore. Your behaviour has only illustrated that in your eyes cheating, lying, gaslighting and systematic control via constant passive aggressive put downs are acceptable so let’s see how it feels when the boot is on the other foot

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