Would you date a bisexual woman?

mr_fegelien · 28-11-2020 6:15pm #1

Being bisexual is stigmatized moreso among men than women. I wonder what you'd think of dating one.

There's a belief that bisexual people are more likely to cheat which is false.

walshtipp · 28-11-2020 6:18pm

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Being bisexual is stigmatized moreso among men than women. I wonder what you'd think of dating one.

There's a belief that bisexual people are more likely to cheat which is false.

No, I would probably not date one. They possibly are more inclined to cheat because of being attracted to both genders, more temptation. I'm no expert though.

accensi0n · 28-11-2020 6:18pm

They're twice as likely to cheat.

The Continental Op · 28-11-2020 6:19pm

Only if I could date her bisexual partner at the same time.

The Mighty Quinn · 28-11-2020 6:19pm

accensi0n wrote: »

They're twice as likely to cheat.

Surely it just means they've twice the options of cheatee if they decide to be cheaters.

Would imagine it makes them no more or less likely to actually cheat?

Esse85 · 28-11-2020 6:20pm

Depends how hot she was.

The Mighty Quinn · 28-11-2020 6:21pm

I'd imagine also that many men would be a little enticed by the more favourable possibility of a mff threesome

mr_fegelien · 28-11-2020 6:22pm

walshtipp wrote: »

No, I would probably not date one. They possibly are more inclined to cheat because of being attracted to both genders, more temptation. I'm no expert though.

That's false no? Someone who casts a wider net of attraction doesn't mean they have an increased temptation to cheat.

walshtipp · 28-11-2020 6:25pm

mr_fegelien wrote: »

That's false no? Someone who casts a wider net of attraction doesn't mean they have an increased temptation to cheat.

It depends on the person.

Smee_Again · 28-11-2020 6:27pm

I am, doesn’t bother me at all. She picked me over everyone else, I’m doubly special.

Let’s be honest if a woman wants to cheat she can do so without much effort so the idea that a bisexual woman is more likely to cheat is bollox.

Paul Weller · 28-11-2020 6:29pm

I have dated a bisexual woman...it was great, when we were together there were no issues of either of us looking at other women..... relationship just came to a natural conclusion when she moved away

circadian · 28-11-2020 6:31pm

walshtipp wrote: »

No, I would probably not date one. They possibly are more inclined to cheat because of being attracted to both genders, more temptation. I'm no expert though.

Absolute nonsense. I'm bisexual, as is my wife. Neither of us have cheated on one another. I don't know anyone that is more inclined to cheat based on their sexuality. Morality and personal choice plays a much larger part.

walshtipp · 28-11-2020 6:33pm

circadian wrote: »

Absolute nonsense. I'm bisexual, as is my wife. Neither of us have cheated on one another. I don't know anyone that is more inclined to cheat based on their sexuality. Morality and personal choice plays a much larger part.

I don't think your wife would tell you if she cheated. That's kind of the whole point.

accensi0n · 28-11-2020 6:51pm

The Mighty Quinn wrote: »

Surely it just means they've twice the options of cheatee if they decide to be cheaters.

Would imagine it makes them no more or less likely to actually cheat?

Was just joking. Look at who the OP is, the whole thread is already a joke by default.

eviltwin · 28-11-2020 6:52pm

walshtipp wrote: »

I don't think your wife would tell you if she cheated. That's kind of the whole point.

I’d never cheat on my husband and I say that as someone more attracted to women than men. If you’re the kind of person who cheats then you’ll cheat. Sexual orientation doesn’t come into it.

The Continental Op · 28-11-2020 7:05pm

eviltwin wrote: »

I’d never cheat on my husband and I say that as someone more attracted to women than men. If you’re the kind of person who cheats then you’ll cheat. Sexual orientation doesn’t come into it.

I think you have it there 100%. Some people will cheat others won't. I've had a few opportunities but at the time didn't even realize them for what they were.

tbh its hard enough to have one partner so I can't see the point of trying to balance two at the same time - despite my earlier comment :pac:

JustAThought · 28-11-2020 7:08pm

eviltwin wrote: »

I’d never cheat on my husband and I say that as someone more attracted to women than men. If you’re the kind of person who cheats then you’ll cheat. Sexual orientation doesn’t come into it.

I don’t agree with you - if your appetite streatches into something you are attracted to and your partner does not have the basix equipment to ehem deliver the good then I would imagine yu would be more likely to feel the loss/need and cheat to scratch that itch.

gigantic09 · 28-11-2020 7:17pm

Paul Weller wrote: »

I have dated a bisexual woman...it was great, when we were together there were no issues of either of us looking at other women..... relationship just came to a natural conclusion when she moved away

By any chance was she called 'the jam'?. ðŸ˜Š

Saralace · 28-11-2020 7:18pm

Would a sex change be involved

eviltwin · 28-11-2020 7:19pm

JustAThought wrote: »

I don’t agree with you - if your appetite streatches into something you are attracted to and your partner does not have the basix equipment to ehem deliver the good then I would imagine yu would be more likely to feel the loss/need and cheat to scratch that itch.

Either you trust someone or you don’t. I’ve never cheated on a partner and never would, I don’t think with my libido and have more respect.

Minime2.5 · 28-11-2020 7:19pm

The Continental Op wrote: »

Only if I could date her bisexual partner at the same time.

So your bisexual too then?

The Continental Op · 28-11-2020 7:28pm

Minime2.5 wrote: »

So your bisexual too then?

While its my native language I sometimes fail it at but by my logic - no and by any other logic I could be wrong 50% of the time.

28-11-2020 10:01pm

I'm a bisexual male, and I've never cheated. Plenty of opportunities to cheat, but it's never appealed to me. People who cheat are likely to cheat again, and again. There's an addictive aspect to it, and I have enough addictions as it is.

OP, I have dated bisexual men/women, and I had no problems with them. I've had more problems with heterosexual partners, TBH.

mr_fegelien · 28-11-2020 10:09pm

Deleted User wrote: »

I'm a bisexual male, and I've never cheated. Plenty of opportunities to cheat, but it's never appealed to me. People who cheat are likely to cheat again, and again. There's an addictive aspect to it, and I have enough addictions as it is.

OP, I have dated bisexual men/women, and I had no problems with them. I've had more problems with heterosexual partners, TBH.

What has your experience dating straight women been? I kind of feel that many wouldn't be keen about dating a bi-guy.

28-11-2020 10:09pm

Have we figured out yet if Mr. Fegelien is actually a Boards-bot designed to create discussion? I mean look at the post history. Four "interesting" topics in the last 24 hours alone. Date an alcoholic, visit an escort, sex overrated, bisexual dating, would you save a woman, minimum wage enough to live on, vasectomies, using drugs at work, dating in the workplace, LGBT people getting disowned, travelling to asia as a 'non-white', God discussion.. just seems like a trawled net of 'popular topics' discussions.

I'm growing more suspicious as the days pass...

Don't get me wrong - more interesting than anything I post, but still...

Rubberchikken · 28-11-2020 10:12pm

If you were bisexual you'd hardly need to date;)

Galwayguy35 · 28-11-2020 10:16pm

Sure I would.

The subject appeared on the site a few years ago and surprisingly quite a few women said they wouldn't date a bisexual man.

Kraftwerk · 28-11-2020 10:19pm

I'll date anyone that'll have me.

skooterblue2 · 28-11-2020 10:55pm

Deleted User wrote: »

I'm a bisexual male, and I've never cheated. Plenty of opportunities to cheat, but it's never appealed to me. People who cheat are likely to cheat again, and again. There's an addictive aspect to it, and I have enough addictions as it is.

OP, I have dated bisexual men/women, and I had no problems with them. I've had more problems with heterosexual partners, TBH.

People who cheat are someway deficient, they cannot feel fulfilled in a normal relationship due to some deep issue.

breezy1985 · 28-11-2020 10:57pm

I have done. It was the same as a straight woman except maybe there was less not more talk of a 3some from her than any straight GF I had

EICVD · 28-11-2020 10:58pm

walshtipp wrote: »

No, I would probably not date one. They possibly are more inclined to cheat because of being attracted to both genders, more temptation. I'm no expert though.

Someone has trust issues

28-11-2020 11:01pm

Rubberchikken wrote: »

If you were bisexual you'd hardly need to date;)

Why not? Genuinely curious about that logic. (Yup, I'm single in my 40s and actively dating)

mr_fegelien wrote: »

What has your experience dating straight women been? I kind of feel that many wouldn't be keen about dating a bi-guy.

Few women have cared. If anything they like me more because I have broader experience, and can deal with a greater variety of personalities.

mr_fegelien... people are individuals.. which means you won't know what they think until they tell you, and even then, they won't know fully how to express themselves. Some might care, but I've found an honest/direct conversation removes any hesitation. At the end of the day, they're with me because I make them feel good.

28-11-2020 11:04pm

breezy1985 wrote: »

I have done. It was the same as a straight woman except maybe there was less not more talk of a 3some from her than any straight GF I had

Err.. I found bisexual women talk less about threesomes and are more likely to propose one (having found someone willing already), whereas straight women are more likely to talk and talk about having one but not actually commit themselves.

In any case, in my experience, a 3some is always a mistake because it opens the door to an open relationship, which tends to end relationships.

Sardonicat · 28-11-2020 11:04pm

JustAThought wrote: »

I don’t agree with you - if your appetite streatches into something you are attracted to and your partner does not have the basix equipment to ehem deliver the good then I would imagine yu would be more likely to feel the loss/need and cheat to scratch that itch.

You imagine wrong. I'm bisexual. I've managed to make it to nearly 50 years without cheating on or with anyone. I despise cheating. And your post is typical of the utter nonsense accusations fired at bisexuals all the time.

JasonStatham · 28-11-2020 11:07pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Have we figured out yet if Mr. Fegelien is actually a Boards-bot designed to create discussion? I mean look at the post history. Four "interesting" topics in the last 24 hours alone. Date an alcoholic, visit an escort, sex overrated, bisexual dating, would you save a woman, minimum wage enough to live on, vasectomies, using drugs at work, dating in the workplace, LGBT people getting disowned, travelling to asia as a 'non-white', God discussion.. just seems like a trawled net of 'popular topics' discussions.

I'm growing more suspicious as the days pass...

Don't get me wrong - more interesting than anything I post, but still...

It's several blokes at once I think. In After Hours there's a poster masquerading as three different people and they keep thanking each other's posts. It's sickening.

Oh, and to answer this thread. No, I wouldn't date a bisexual woman.

28-11-2020 11:08pm

Have dated a couple and would do so again.

I think bisexuals are the most misunderstood people on the planet.

Spore · 28-11-2020 11:10pm

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Being bisexual is stigmatized moreso among men than women. I wonder what you'd think of dating one.

There's a belief that bisexual people are more likely to cheat which is false.

Date one? I'd marry one!!!

Kylta · 28-11-2020 11:24pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Have we figured out yet if Mr. Fegelien is actually a Boards-bot designed to create discussion? I mean look at the post history. Four "interesting" topics in the last 24 hours alone. Date an alcoholic, visit an escort, sex overrated, bisexual dating, would you save a woman, minimum wage enough to live on, vasectomies, using drugs at work, dating in the workplace, LGBT people getting disowned, travelling to asia as a 'non-white', God discussion.. just seems like a trawled net of 'popular topics' discussions.

I'm growing more suspicious as the days pass...

Don't get me wrong - more interesting than anything I post, but still...

Jaysus, thank you, I've been saying that for ages

rapul · 30-11-2020 1:03am

Been there done that, prefer things simpler these days, would ya be well!

30-11-2020 1:06am

rapul wrote: »

Been there done that, prefer things simpler these days, would ya be well!

Simple, depends on who you're with (and what you're bringing with you)... not their sexual orientation.

jmlad2020 · 30-11-2020 1:07am

Personally I'd stay away as the bisexual people I do know are very confused people, who are desperate for affection and deep down don't really know what they want.

But if I came across a strong minded one who didn't give off those vibes maybe

PsychoPete · 30-11-2020 1:09am

No because when it comes to cheating she has two genders to choose from, I don't like them odds

Wibbs · 30-11-2020 4:33pm

Have done and more than once. See no issue and no extra tendency to cheat either. Never mind that I can't see how it would lead to a tendency to cheat. "Oh she might get attracted to a woman". Yeah well she might get attracted to another man too.

circadian · 30-11-2020 7:39pm

PsychoPete wrote: »

No because when it comes to cheating she has two genders to choose from, I don't like them odds

Speaks more of your ignorance and insecurities than anything else.

circadian · 30-11-2020 7:45pm

jmlad2020 wrote: »

Personally I'd stay away as the bisexual people I do know are very confused people, who are desperate for affection and deep down don't really know what they want.

But if I came across a strong minded one who didn't give off those vibes maybe

Jesus wept.

PsychoPete · 30-11-2020 7:48pm

circadian wrote: »

Speaks more of your ignorance and insecurities than anything else.

If she was to cheat there is a 50% chance of it being a man and a 50% chance of it being a woman, that's a 100% chance of her cheating. It's simple math

NickNickleby · 30-11-2020 7:51pm

Rubberchikken wrote: »

If you were bisexual you'd hardly need to date;)

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say "haha, I get it!". Although I suspect you knew the proper word is : hermaphrodite. (is there a himaphrodite?)

ok, ok, I'm off topic, but I suspect its a joke thread.

Tpcl20 · 30-11-2020 8:06pm

I'm in my thirties and everyone I know with a fulfilling love life (about four couples total, all the other relationships I've observed in my cohort have broken down or are absolutely painful) each has an open relationship.

It requires a level of maturity, communication and honesty which a lot of people are very uncomfortable with but it suits some people perfectly. We don't get jealous when thinking of our partner with another sexual interest because we want them to have pleasurable experiences beyond what we can give them. They are most intimate with us so it is not threatening to our status. That said, watching your old doll climax uncontrollably because her friend is going down on her is a singular experience that not everybody is going to enjoy. I like to see what presses her buttons, to me it's like getting an education.

Usually the arrangement is that you can have a sexual relationship with people of the same gender, but you must be open with your spouse about it. In my case, my wife doesn't mind if I see other women. Now that I think of it, I never bother. I'm not as pushed about it as her. She is really only attracted to women. She'd have the odd glance at a man who's really her type, but she has very little interest in them sexually and she would never pursue them.

Before covid, we'd occasionally have friends over for a threesome. We have similar taste in women except she likes them a bit skinny whereas I prefer a nice tush. Still, I'm hardly going to complain. We would never invite anyone over who we reckon is skanky or might have the clap etc. It is a serious consideration you have to make, and once we didn't actually have sex with a girl we liked because she decided it seemed risky and gave me a signal and we made our excuses. Haven't quite been able to look that one in the eye since.. I obviously always sheathe up during a threesome but it's harder for women to have safe sex because it's fairly down and dirty stuff, so I defer to her for anything in the hygiene department. We get tested after any new partner just to make sure we're safe and it's all been fine which is terrific because the last thing you want is venereal disease, oof.

Regrettably, I doubt we'll be getting up to any shenanigans like that for a fairly long time now.

Wibbs · 30-11-2020 10:51pm

PsychoPete wrote: »

If she was to cheat there is a 50% chance of it being a man and a 50% chance of it being a woman, that's a 100% chance of her cheating. It's simple math

Maths. And though I have dyscalculia even I can tell that's bollocks. You missed the part of your own sentence IF she were to cheat. Yes then that would be 100%. If she weren't that would be a 0% chance. Her bisexuality would have nothing to do with it. I've gone out with a few bi women(for some reason) and only one cheated and she did so with the possessor of a penis. The only other time I know was going out with a stealth slapper who cheated she was so straight you could use her as the standard for measuring straight things.

30-11-2020 11:12pm

Wibbs wrote: »

Maths. And though I have dyscalculia even I can tell that's bollocks. You missed the part of your own sentence IF she were to cheat. Yes then that would be 100%. If she weren't that would be a 0% chance. Her bisexuality would have nothing to do with it. I've gone out with a few bi women(for some reason) and only one cheated and she did so with the possessor of a penis. The only other time I know was going out with a stealth slapper who cheated she was so straight you could use her as the standard for measuring straight things.

I've had a variety of bisexual partners (m/f), and none of them cheated on me. I've had one woman cheat on me, and she was heterosexual.

Anyway, the 50% logic is flawed because many bisexuals have their own preferences. So, for myself, as I get older I'm more interested in women, than men, whereas when I was younger, I was more interested in a more balanced mix, but even so, I've had a few more girlfriends than boyfriends. Same again with my casual partners. So in terms of attraction, few bisexuals would operate on a 50/50 split of the genders.

People want to create some kind of mystique about bisexuals, like we're completely different creatures. We're individuals... just like he is. The only difference is that we don't limit ourselves to one gender...

The White Wolf · 01-12-2020 2:33pm

These threads are always the craic seeing people demonstrate who is the billy big balls.

Can't see myself having an issue with it but something tells me it'd be exhausting if you're someone who can't control your thoughts.

Would you date a bisexual woman?

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