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would you hook up with someone who was attached?

  • 06-10-2014 4:49pm
    #1
    guest2014
    Closed Accounts Posts: 214 ✭✭guest2014


    in my younger days it would not bother me if I pulled a woman who had a boyfriend (if i didn't know the boyfriend). but after been in a couple of relationships and knowing how it would feel to be cheated on i have changed my thinking on the matter. what do the rest of ye think?

    would you hook up with someone who was attached? 135 votes

    yes, only if they were not married
    0% 0 votes
    yes, even if they were married
    16% 22 votes
    no, not if they were married
    66% 90 votes
    no, if they were attached in any way.
    17% 23 votes


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  • #2
    0byme75341jo28
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,571 ✭✭✭0byme75341jo28


    Me likey fanny so yes.


  • #3
    whiskeyman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,564 ✭✭✭✭whiskeyman


    If she's attached to my bedpost, I reckon that's fair game.


  • #4
    Generic Dreadhead
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,870 ✭✭✭✭Generic Dreadhead


    Y U NO USE POLL OPTION!?!

    Edit: good job!


  • #5
    Stefan Red Pope
    Posts: 0 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Stefan Red Pope


    absolutely not


  • #6
    Fat Christy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,866 ✭✭✭Fat Christy


    No. I'm in a LT relationship, I would hate to be cheated on.


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  • #7
    indigo twist
    Closed Accounts Posts: 500 ✭✭✭indigo twist


    Nope. I'd get no thrill at all from it. Can't understand why anyone would. I have more self-respect than that.


  • #8
    castletownman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,506 ✭✭✭✭castletownman


    In fairness if a girl neglected to tell you before you hooked up, and you were genuinely unaware that she was attached, then the blame cannot be put on the lad.

    So in that scenario, I would.


  • #9
    Fat Christy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,866 ✭✭✭Fat Christy


    castletownman wrote: »
    In fairness if a girl neglected to tell you before you hooked up, and you were genuinely unaware that she was attached, then the blame cannot be put on the lad.

    So in that scenario, I would.

    You didn't fecking know.....that doesn't count.

    EDIT: Men can neglect to tell you that they are in a relationship too you know. ;)


  • #10
    0byme75341jo28
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,571 ✭✭✭0byme75341jo28


    Aren't poll option 1 and poll option 3 the same thing...? :confused:


  • #11
    AnonoBoy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,559 ✭✭✭✭AnonoBoy


    When I was younger I did it.

    As an older fatter wiser man I wouldn't because I'm older and wiser fatter now.


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  • #12
    castletownman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,506 ✭✭✭✭castletownman


    Fat Christy wrote: »
    You didn't fecking know.....that doesn't count.

    EDIT: Men can neglect to tell you that they are in a relationship too you know. ;)

    I know that. I wouldn't be into chasing fellas though ;)


  • #13
    sbsquarepants
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,812 ✭✭✭✭sbsquarepants


    So long as they weren't attached to someone I knew, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest. The way I look at it is, it is their job to keep their promises, not mine, if their happy to go ahead why should I care if their married or whatever.
    It's my job to keep my promises, which I do. If I end up in bed with some woman despite being in a relationship, it's hardly her fault now is it? The reverse also applies.


  • #14
    KomradeBishop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,981 ✭✭✭KomradeBishop


    Would any of the people saying 'yes', tell a partner they're in a serious relationship with, that they were happy to do this when single?

    N.B. Poll missing a 'Yes, if the relationship were open' option.


  • #15
    OldNotWIse
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,468 ✭✭✭✭OldNotWIse


    Isaac Ancient Rodeo wrote: »
    Aren't poll option 1 and poll option 3 the same thing...? :confused:


    Head hurts.... :)


  • #16
    Lalealynn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 272 ✭✭Lalealynn


    Never never never x 1 million. I have never cheated either. Never never never.


  • #17
    Miss Lizzie Jones
    Closed Accounts Posts: 347 ✭✭Miss Lizzie Jones


    AnonoBoy wrote: »
    When I was younger I did it.

    As an older fatter wiser man I wouldn't because I'm older and wiser fatter now.

    Same with one exception. I'm female. :)


  • #18
    Nib
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,088 ✭✭✭Nib


    Isaac Ancient Rodeo wrote: »
    Aren't poll option 1 and poll option 3 the same thing...? :confused:
    No..


  • #19
    OneArt
    Registered Users Posts: 1,910 ✭✭✭OneArt


    Only if their partner's okay with it and/or they don't tell me. If not, then no.


  • #20
    bunnymunro
    Registered Users Posts: 91 ✭✭bunnymunro


    I'm in a relationship and a complete horndog so I had to be honest and say yes I would. Not that I have but if the opportunity comes along I doubt I'd say no..


  • #21
    darkpagandeath
    Closed Accounts Posts: 24,465 ✭✭✭✭darkpagandeath


    People do it all the time with no idea.


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  • #22
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    I did once with a married woman. I didn't get a thrill out of the fact she was married but I really liked the girl and things had been going downhill for a long time with her husband.


  • #23
    AnonoBoy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,559 ✭✭✭✭AnonoBoy


    darkpagandeath wrote: »
    People do it all the time with no idea.

    Sleep sex? :confused:


  • #24
    0byme75341jo28
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,571 ✭✭✭0byme75341jo28


    Nib wrote: »
    No..

    Yes, only only if they were not married = I would, but only if it was not with a married man/woman.

    No, not if they were married = I wouldn't if it was with a married man/woman.

    Sounds like the same thing to me... :p


  • #25
    Generic Dreadhead
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,870 ✭✭✭✭Generic Dreadhead


    Yeah, the options read like ****e

    Better would be:
    I would screw a married person
    I would screw a person with a partner but not married
    I would not screw a person who has a partner no matter what stage their relationship is at


  • #26
    indigo twist
    Closed Accounts Posts: 500 ✭✭✭indigo twist


    Daveysil15 wrote: »
    I did once with a married woman. I didn't get a thrill out of the fact she was married but I really liked the girl and things had been going downhill for a long time with her husband.

    But would you just not kind of think, what kind of a person has so little respect for herself and for her partner and for you that she'd do that? It would be an incredible turn-off for me. I mean, surely if she liked you, she'd just ... be with you? Not him? Why be second-best? That whole situation sounds quite sad, I can't understand how you having sex with another man's wife made any one of the three of you happy.


  • #27
    Yer Aul One
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 664 ✭✭✭Yer Aul One


    indigo twist wrote: »
    I can't understand how you having sex with another man's wife made any one of the three of you happy.

    Probably the sex part


  • #28
    indigo twist
    Closed Accounts Posts: 500 ✭✭✭indigo twist


    Yer Aul One wrote: »
    Probably the sex part

    Yeah but isn't sex with someone who actually wants to be with you nicer ...?

    Rather than with someone who sees you as their second (third? fourth?) choice?


  • #29
    deseil
    Closed Accounts Posts: 333 ✭✭deseil


    For sex yes if they were atattractive.

    For an affair No.


  • #30
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    indigo twist wrote: »
    But would you just not kind of think, what kind of a person has so little respect for herself and for her partner and for you that she'd do that? It would be an incredible turn-off for me. I mean, surely if she liked you, she'd just ... be with you? Not him? Why be second-best? That whole situation sounds quite sad, I can't understand how you having sex with another man's wife made any one of the three of you happy.

    People can fall out of love. Would you rather she stayed in an unhappy marriage? She was happy with me, I was happy with her. She eventually got a divorce and the husband went back to Poland, so I wasn't exactly second best.


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  • #31
    Yer Aul One
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 664 ✭✭✭Yer Aul One


    indigo twist wrote: »
    Yeah but isn't sex with someone who actually wants to be with you nicer ...?

    Rather than with someone who sees you as their second (third? fourth?) choice?

    Nicer, yea sure.

    Better sex, certainly not!


  • #32
    smcgiff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,943 ✭✭✭smcgiff


    Isaac Ancient Rodeo wrote: »
    Me likey fanny so yes.

    Don't know why, think I was channelling my 6 year old self, but this made me laugh out loud.

    But, no... I wouldn't... almost certainly not... not even Halle Berry... Unless... no, definitely not.


  • #33
    Holsten
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,971 ✭✭✭Holsten


    Hell no.

    If they'll cheat with you they'll cheat on you.


  • #34
    B.A._Baracus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,206 ✭✭✭✭B.A._Baracus


    So the poll is currently topped at 62.00% for 'no, if they were attached in any way'

    Now I know my own life experiences / examples as one man can't be applied to everyone in the world. But from what I have vastly witnessed I do not believe 62% of people wouldn't.

    I've seen guys blatantly chat up a girl after hearing she had a boyfriend. Not on bother on them then going home to sleep with them.... I've seen guys who knew the boyfriend, still didnt stop them. Ahhhh I could go on and on. Witnessed some rather messed up things. Let's just say no way 62% of people wouldnt.


  • #35
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    indigo twist wrote: »
    Yeah but isn't sex with someone who actually wants to be with you nicer ...?

    Rather than with someone who sees you as their second (third? fourth?) choice?

    What makes you think the person doesn't want to be with you? That doesn't make any sense. We're not talking about hookers here are we?


  • #36
    Uriel.
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,061 ✭✭✭Uriel.


    I've heard married women are for more kinking, generally, than single women...

    Additionally, for the younger persons amongst us, copping a married woman is likely to = milf.

    Resistance may be futile


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  • #37
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    I had to google "kinking" It means a tight curl, twist, or bend in a length of thin material, as one caused by the tensing of a looped section of wire. lol.


  • #38
    Cupcake_Crisis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21,448 ✭✭✭✭Cupcake_Crisis


    I've been cheated on, it's really awful, so I would never knowingly get up to no good with someone else's other half. But I have been put in the position where I was the other woman and I hadn't a clue. I felt just s awfil as when it had been me on the receiving end.


  • #39
    UCDVet
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,894 ✭✭✭UCDVet


    Cupcake_Crisis wrote: »
    I've been cheated on, it's really awful, so I would never knowingly get up to no good with someone else's other half. But I have been put in the position where I was the other woman and I hadn't a clue. I felt just s awfil as when it had been me on the receiving end.

    Cheaters are going to cheat, that's what I always say. Better a girl with a husband sleep with me (std free) than some other guy who might have aids! I'm really doing a public service.


  • #40
    B.A._Baracus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,206 ✭✭✭✭B.A._Baracus


    UCDVet wrote: »
    Cheaters are going to cheat, that's what I always say. Better a girl with a husband sleep with me (std free) than some other guy who might have aids! I'm really doing a public service.

    Can't get a mental image out of my head of a husband grabbing you by the shirt with one hand... and with the other repeatedly punching you in the face :pac:

    UCDVet: Man... i was doing a public service
    Husband: *punch*
    UCDVet: if it wasnt me, someone else would have shagged your wife 3 times in your bed ...
    Husband *punch* *punch* *punch*.


  • #41
    flutered
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,702 ✭✭✭flutered


    a toe curler is a toe curler, is a toe curler.


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  • #42
    bb1234567
    Registered Users Posts: 5,513 ✭✭✭bb1234567


    I wouldnt want to be with anyone whos a cheater so...the fact that theyd cheat on their partner is such a big turnoff in itself


  • #43
    DoYouEvenLift
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,188 ✭✭✭DoYouEvenLift


    There are billions of women in the world. I'm not desperate and/or beta enough to compromise even a strangers relationship when there are that many other possible options. I can understand someone thinking that the other is going to cheat on their partner regardless so it may as well be with them, though.

    The funniest scenario is when people who hookup with someone in a relationship and end up being with them themselves and are still surprised when they go on to also cheat on them.


  • #44
    TheBeardedLady
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,086 ✭✭✭TheBeardedLady


    No. Sex has never been hard to get that I've been driven to such desperate measures (and even then I'd opt for a twiddle than sex with a coward).

    I actually had a casual thing with a guy for a while who was cheating on his girlfriend. I had no idea at all and when it all came out, she sent me abusive messages via Facebook and even when I explained to her that I didn't know about her, she continued to blame me. Stupid woman put the blame on the wrong person and they're still together. Who'd knowingly get involved in that kind of drama?


  • #45
    shalalala
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,710 ✭✭✭shalalala


    I couldn't. I would feel so guilty even though I wouldn't have been the one that did the cheating!

    My ex had hooked up with someone with a boyfriend before me. Always made me feel icky, just seemed cheap or something ( though the lies and std didn't help :pac:)


  • #46
    Czarcasm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,076 ✭✭✭✭Czarcasm


    DoYouEvenLift wrote: »
    There are billions of women in the world. I'm not desperate and/or beta enough to compromise even a strangers relationship when there are that many other possible options. I can understand someone thinking that the other is going to cheat on their partner regardless so it may as well be with them, though.

    The funniest scenario is when people who hookup with someone in a relationship and end up being with them themselves and are still surprised when they go on to also cheat on them.


    You're not what enough? :pac:


  • #47
    DoYouEvenLift
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,188 ✭✭✭DoYouEvenLift


    TheBeardedLady wrote: »
    No. Sex has never been hard to get that I've been driven to such desperate measures (and even then I'd opt for a twiddle than sex with a coward).

    I actually had a casual thing with a guy for a while who was cheating on his girlfriend. I had no idea at all and when it all came out, she sent me abusive messages via Facebook and even when I explained to her that I didn't know about her, she continued to blame me. Stupid woman put the blame on the wrong person and they're still together. Who'd knowingly get involved in that kind of drama?


    She obviously has little self respect. If someone cheats on you the trust is instantly ruined and can never be completely normal again so the relationship has ran its course. Same goes for men who get cheated on and don't hold their partner accountable and take it out on the other guy she cheated with, unless it was one of his close friends doing it, then he should be mad at both of them.


  • #48
    Fat Christy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,866 ✭✭✭Fat Christy


    Czarcasm wrote: »
    You're not what enough? :pac:

    Beta. An alpha wouldn't have to run off with someones squeeze.

    An alpha would also break up with his/her partner if they weren't happy. Alpha's aren't cowards. I only date alpha's. :)

    You beta?


  • #49
    Mongfinder General
    Registered Users Posts: 1,992 ✭✭✭Mongfinder General


    I would hook up with an attached party but only if she is a size 14.


  • #50
    Czarcasm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,076 ✭✭✭✭Czarcasm


    Fat Christy wrote: »
    Beta. An alpha wouldn't have to run off with someones squeeze.

    An alpha would also break up with his/her partner if they weren't happy. Alpha's aren't cowards. I only date alpha's. :)

    You beta?


    Yes I'm much betta now Christy after that explanation :p

    I don't bother with that PUA nonsense though tbh ;)


  • #51
    Henlars67
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,272 ✭✭✭Henlars67


    If I don't know the boyfriend/husband then I would, no problem.

    If I did know him, then absolutely not, unless he was somebody I don't like, in which case I definitely would


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