Are you Petty?

Deemed as Normal · 30-01-2021 4:40pm #1

Is anyone here petty? Be honest. It's easy to say that we should instead be focused on the bigger picture in live, but every now and then we can't pretend something doesn't annoy us. Do you like to get your own back on people over small things to prove a point? Do you like giving someone a taste of their own medicine? And do you prefer to do it in such a way that the other person will be wondering whether it was you, or whether it was deliberate? Do you like to bring up something someone said in the past at the right moment in order to point out how someone is full of sh1t? In any case, I think people are a lot more petty people out there than what we are led to believe. So it's important to recognise such behaviour.

Take myself for example - if someone bangs their car door into mine when parked next to me (pet hate), or parks terribly at my expense, I may leave a nasty note on their car! Here's a few stories of my own pettiness. Tell me if if you think it's mean, or if it's fair game. And if you do not think such behaviour is mean, then tell if you think it's immature?

Story of pettiness

Recently I had a disagreement with two rough ladies (no masks) who wanted to skip a Covid19 queue to get into our store. They pretended to misunderstand the queue system, and I had to explain clearly how it worked and that they'd to go back to the start. They tried to get me to re-explain it to wear me down, but it didn't work. The more reasonable of the two ladies said to the other "look we'll have to get back". The other turned to her and said (right in front of me) "over him?". She then asked to see a manager. So what I did eventually, was I pretended to call a manager with the walkie talkie, and had these two stand to the side. Then after about 2 minutes I did actually called the manager. He took quite a while to come out! The manager ended up letting them in, but not after a big argument which seemed to upset them quite a bit!

Story two

I used to work security once, and the staff were supposed to have their bags checked by me or a manager before going home. Anyway one day as this staff member walked past me, he said to two other floor staff "I'm just gonna have Eoin (manager) check it because it's just so awkward doing it with him". He could've at least realised that I was in ear shot.

A few minutes later I could see that he hadn't found a manager, and that he was coming back to look for me to do the bag check. So I walked away towards the back corner of the ground floor, and went up the fire exit stairs to the other section of the store. I knew that the girls in customer service (who he just made the remark to) would tell him which way I went. He presumed I was on the ground floor as no one uses that stairs. By the time he realised that I wasn't downstairs, he went back towards the front of the store in order to use the escalator to go upstairs... the only other place he thought I could be. But I'd gone into the camera room! From there I watched him looking for me for about 3 minutes before he gave up and left without doing any bag check!

He definitely realised what I was up to by the time he left. But he couldn't have been sure. I could easily have deniability if he confronted me. Just as he would have had deniability if I had confronted him about what he had said.

SEPT 23 1989 · 30-01-2021 4:49pm

Wouldn't be bothered

Life is too short

brookers · 30-01-2021 5:07pm

SEPT 23 1989 wrote: »

Wouldn't be bothered

Life is too short

I find this very annoying and I am probably being very petty. It does me no harm or not really my business but couples, husbands and wives who respond to each other on facebook, even though they are sitting on the same sofa. I have a brother in law who would hardly say hello to me, never says anything positive to myself or my husband, yet there he is saying oh yes that was a great movie etc to my sister, even though the two of them are less than a foot away from each other. Are people so desperate to be noticed that they feel they have to do this on facebook....

Montage of Feck · 30-01-2021 5:08pm

Tom Petty

Your Face · 30-01-2021 5:13pm

I dont bother unless I'm able and actually want to escalate a certain situation.

Necro · 30-01-2021 5:20pm

Mod:

Mad_maxx, cop on with the generalisations or don't post in this thread

Guys the standard of posting is shocking so far. Can we avoid the generalisations and stay on topic instead of bashing ethnicities

ThewhiteJesus · 30-01-2021 5:21pm

I can be very petty and have recently admitted to myself it’s my own fear of rejection that’s manifesting itself into pettiness, blaming old arguments and rejections on anyone that brings me back to that feeling, it’s a work in progress.

anewme · 30-01-2021 5:24pm

You might not think you’re Petty Op, but you are definitely freefallin.

notsoyoungwan · 30-01-2021 5:30pm

brookers wrote: »

I find this very annoying and I am probably being very petty. It does me no harm or not really my business but couples, husbands and wives who respond to each other on facebook, even though they are sitting on the same sofa. I have a brother in law who would hardly say hello to me, never says anything positive to myself or my husband, yet there he is saying oh yes that was a great movie etc to my sister, even though the two of them are less than a foot away from each other. Are people so desperate to be noticed that they feel they have to do this on facebook....

I get disproportionately irritated by couples who post on Facebook to wish each other happy birthday/Valentine’s Day/anniversary when they’ve woken up beside each other and probably already had a ride before they posted for everyone to see how loved up they are. I also think that the more gushing the fb post, the more likely it is that the relationship is in trouble. It’s the more modern version of the curse of Hello magazine.

_Brian · 30-01-2021 6:20pm

I’d go beyond petty and say I hold a grudge terribly.

Few people that I consider have wronged me or family members and I would hold a grudge desperately against them.

Buried one recently and I I just couldn’t help but think “who’s putting who in the ground now ya cnut” as coffin was lowered

There are others, I’ll wait my time, never forgive and never forget what they have said or done.

McGinniesta · 30-01-2021 6:38pm

In ways.

We are all a little OCD in ways and pettiness is just an extension of that.

30-01-2021 6:41pm

_Brian wrote: »

I’d go beyond petty and say I hold a grudge terribly.

Few people that I consider have wronged me or family members and I would hold a grudge desperately against them.

Buried one recently and I I just couldn’t help but think “who’s putting who in the ground now ya cnut” as coffin was lowered

There are others, I’ll wait my time, never forgive and never forget what they have said or done.

I’ll do that too but it wouldn’t worry me at all. Basically wrong me once and that’s it, absolutely final. Never a second chance.

Larbre34 · 30-01-2021 6:44pm

Not usually, but if someone acts the dick/entitled/Karen/Billy Big Balls/skobie wan kenobie etc, toward me or someone close to me or someone that can't do anything about them due to their employment etc, and I'm in a position to do so, I'll be Tom Petty and each of the Heartbreakers on their best day.

freshpopcorn · 30-01-2021 6:54pm

I'm good enough.
Sometimes when things happen I might be a little hot headed but after a few minutes I'd be fine.

Strumms · 30-01-2021 7:00pm

_Brian wrote: »

I’d go beyond petty and say I hold a grudge terribly.

Few people that I consider have wronged me or family members and I would hold a grudge desperately against them.

Buried one recently and I I just couldn’t help but think “who’s putting who in the ground now ya cnut” as coffin was lowered

There are others, I’ll wait my time, never forgive and never forget what they have said or done.

In the last 4-5 years... I’ve become the same...

Blot your copybook with me once.. if we are GOOD friends or family you’ll likely get ONE second chance... if you are just a work colleague, casual friend or acquaintance it’s fûck you...no effort shall be imparted your way to smooth the path to cordiality let alone any kind friendship...

But even good friends, family there are limits.

Yamanoto · 30-01-2021 7:16pm

_Brian wrote: »

Buried one recently and I I just couldn’t help but think “who’s putting who in the ground now ya cnut” as coffin was lowered

This made me laugh 😂

razorblunt · 30-01-2021 7:19pm

My mam says I am.
But she would since that awful dinner she cooked me on 2nd august 1994 that meant I don’t call her every Sunday now.

B.A._Baracus · 30-01-2021 7:25pm

Most people are pretty. Not all but most and most won't admit they are... Some do not even realise they are.

I've seen incredible amounts of pettiness when working in retail. As then it's strangers dealing with other strangers. Everyone wants the upper hand. To one up someone in a situation.

_Brian · 30-01-2021 7:59pm

Strumms wrote: »

In the last 4-5 years... I’ve become the same...

Blot your copybook with me once.. if we are GOOD friends or family you’ll likely get ONE second chance... if you are just a work colleague, casual friend or acquaintance it’s fûck you...no effort shall be imparted your way to smooth the path to cordiality let alone any kind friendship...

But even good friends, family there are limits.

Have 2 sisters and their family I don’t talk to, nor do any of my other siblings. They just started treating my mam like **** and bad mouthing my dad who is dead. Ungrateful spoiled bitches .

Potential-Monke · 30-01-2021 9:56pm

It's hard to be petty when you hate everyone equally.

30-01-2021 10:12pm

Potential-Monke wrote: »

It's hard to be petty when you hate everyone equally.

How can you hate everyone if you don't know everyone?

Potential-Monke · 30-01-2021 10:17pm

Deleted User wrote: »

How can you hate everyone if you don't know everyone?

Because if you automatically hate people, and they turn out to be nice, it's a bonus. Doesn't work the other way around.

Maybe hate is too strong a word. Strongly dislike is probably better.

Antares35 · 30-01-2021 10:32pm

_Brian wrote: »

Have 2 sisters and their family I don’t talk to, nor do any of my other siblings. They just started treating my mam like **** and bad mouthing my dad who is dead. Ungrateful spoiled bitches .

Something I never understood when it comes to family, how we are expected to tolerate worse behaviour than we would from strangers, "because they're family". Bull**** - if anything the bar should be higher for how they treat us not lower. I've had this conversation with my mam over her c*nt of a sister who's a spiteful, posh, passive aggressive horror of a human being, until she gets a southern comfort into her and she's anyone's. Mam makes excuses for her "well she's the only sister I have" - so what? If a stranger treated her like that she'd be pulled on it.

I've alienated a lot of my family because they treated me badly, and I know I've the name of the "black sheep" or whatever, but I wouldn't take it from friends or co-workers, I'm not going to take it from them.

milehip · 30-01-2021 10:53pm

_Brian wrote: »

Buried one recently and I I just couldn’t help but think “who’s putting who in the ground now ya cnut” as coffin was lowered

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That's hardcore, would love to know the back story.

mariaalice · 30-01-2021 11:03pm

Does insight not take all the fun out of it? to enjoy being petty you need a good dose of self-rightness without any insight into yourself.

boombang · 30-01-2021 11:06pm

I like to be a courteous driver, let people out, merge etc (I know, what a great guy). However, when somebody tries to to push into my right of way there's no way I let them.

30-01-2021 11:10pm

Potential-Monke wrote: »

Because if you automatically hate people, and they turn out to be nice, it's a bonus. Doesn't work the other way around.

Maybe hate is too strong a word. Strongly dislike is probably better.

And the vast majority turn out to be arseholes anyway, so it’s a good starting point.

PhantomHat · 30-01-2021 11:12pm

Petty as in Tom?
Well I sure am more of a Heartbreaker

JasonStatham · 30-01-2021 11:19pm

Fegelien back!

EndaHonesty · 30-01-2021 11:48pm

I don't hold a grudge.

But they'll never get better than 2 stars on Google. Never.

forumdedum · 30-01-2021 11:49pm

Tom?

Hamachi · 31-01-2021 12:05am

In real life, no definitely not.

However, I’ve discovered that I do have a petty side here on Boards. There’s one particular poster who creeps around threads that interest me, like a fly around sh*t.

Her ridiculous, puerile posting style irritates me and I have an almost uncontrollable urge to give her a wedgie and then flush her head down the bog.

I thank Boards for introducing me to this wench and for bringing out my innate pettiness!

drake70 · 31-01-2021 12:26am

:pac: Ah here, I really need new glasses. I read the title as "Are you Pretty?" :rolleyes:

The answer to which would be a resounding no.

The answer to the actual question would also be no.

COVID · 31-01-2021 12:50am

PhantomHat wrote: »

Petty as in Tom?
Well I sure am more of a Heartbreaker

Why do you have to be a heartbreaker?

Deemed as Normal · 31-01-2021 12:54am

forumdedum wrote: »

Tom?

COVID wrote: »

Why do you have to be a heartbreaker?

Alright lads, knock it off with the Tom Petty jokes.

COVID · 31-01-2021 12:55am

drake70 wrote: »

:pac: Ah here, I really need new glasses. I read the title as "Are you Pretty?" :rolleyes:

The answer to which would be a resounding no.

The answer to the actual question would also be no.

I feel petty, oh so petty
I feel petty, upsetty and shíte
And I'm petty
With anyone who isn't me tonight

Leg End Reject · 31-01-2021 1:25am

Hamachi wrote: »

In real life, no definitely not.

However, I’ve discovered that I do have a petty side here on Boards. There’s one particular poster who creeps around threads that interest me, like a fly around sh*t.

Her ridiculous, puerile posting style irritates me and I have an almost uncontrollable urge to give her a wedgie and then flush her head down the bog.

I thank Boards for introducing me to this wench and for bringing out my innate pettiness!

Is it me? :eek:

31-01-2021 1:35am

Potential-Monke wrote: »

Because if you automatically hate people, and they turn out to be nice, it's a bonus. Doesn't work the other way around.

Maybe hate is too strong a word. Strongly dislike is probably better.

Do you find that people who you encounter pick up on your dislike for them and they react accordingly?

I think it's an unfortunate way to view others. We are all human and all flawed.

.anon. · 31-01-2021 3:19am

boombang wrote: »

I like to be a courteous driver, let people out, merge etc (I know, what a great guy). However, when somebody tries to to push into my right of way there's no way I let them.

If I can predict what they're about to do (and 99% of the time, it's possible), I just back off and leave them to it. People get too worked up about having right-of-way, often to the extent that they'd sooner have an accident than let someone get in front of them.

I can be quite petty when it comes to inconsiderate parking. My own car is old and I don't really care if it gets scratched, so if I see a car parked over the lines in a car park, I'll always make sure to park as close to it as possible. Give them a bit of work to do.

fineso.mom · 31-01-2021 3:44am

I'm only petty in my imagination. In real life I let things go and don't hold a grudge. But if someone annoys me I spend a happy few moments imagining all sorts of gruesome revenge scenarios.

Potential-Monke · 31-01-2021 8:33am

Deleted User wrote: »

Do you find that people who you encounter pick up on your dislike for them and they react accordingly?

I think it's an unfortunate way to view others. We are all human and all flawed.

To be totally honest, I don't notice. Specifically because it's not something I care about anymore. I am who I am. I'm not saying that when I first meet someone I act like I've hated them for ages. I just don't expect anything of them, and everything that's good is a bonus. It works considerably better than my previous approach of giving people the benefit of the doubt and being proven wrong.

I would still engage with new people and wouldn't treat them any differently to anyone else. I honestly believe the vast majority of humanity are selfish, so expecting that and being proven wrong is like a little win. Instead of expecting everyone to be decent, because they're not, a vast majority just are not decent even though they think they might be.

I had a brighter outlook, but then I became a Garda for 9 years and saw how low humanity could go, and even moreso how so many people have deluded themselves into thinking they're good people, when they can't even recognise why they're not.

Being let down often is worse than expecting nothing and being surprised, as you get surprised more often than you would be let down, as anything above the expectation of nothing is a surprise. Complicated way of explaining it, but I'm not the best with words at times. I should also point out that I'm the happiest I have been in about 15 years. Oh, and I've little to no empathy for people outside my circle. Still happier though. Time for bed.

Hamachi · 31-01-2021 8:37am

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Is it me? :eek:

No. You seem far too nice

.

fryup · 31-01-2021 12:42pm

COVID wrote: »

Why do you have to be a heartbreaker?

Deemed as Normal wrote: »

Alright lads, knock it off with the Tom Petty jokes.

Yes i agree, we don't want to be free falling into bad puns otherwise i won't come around here no more and live the life of a refugee.

COVID · 31-01-2021 2:00pm

^

fryup wrote: »

Yes i agree, we don't want to be free falling into bad puns otherwise i won't come around here no more and live the life of a refugee.

I was referencing the Dionne Warwick song.

Who's Tom Petty?

31-01-2021 3:47pm

Potential-Monke wrote: »

To be totally honest, I don't notice. Specifically because it's not something I care about anymore. I am who I am. I'm not saying that when I first meet someone I act like I've hated them for ages. I just don't expect anything of them, and everything that's good is a bonus. It works considerably better than my previous approach of giving people the benefit of the doubt and being proven wrong.

I would still engage with new people and wouldn't treat them any differently to anyone else. I honestly believe the vast majority of humanity are selfish, so expecting that and being proven wrong is like a little win. Instead of expecting everyone to be decent, because they're not, a vast majority just are not decent even though they think they might be.

I had a brighter outlook, but then I became a Garda for 9 years and saw how low humanity could go, and even moreso how so many people have deluded themselves into thinking they're good people, when they can't even recognise why they're not.

Being let down often is worse than expecting nothing and being surprised, as you get surprised more often than you would be let down, as anything above the expectation of nothing is a surprise. Complicated way of explaining it, but I'm not the best with words at times. I should also point out that I'm the happiest I have been in about 15 years. Oh, and I've little to no empathy for people outside my circle. Still happier though. Time for bed.

We all have different ways of being in this world and that's a good thing. You do you

BettyS · 31-01-2021 3:58pm

Deemed as Normal wrote: »

Is anyone here petty? Be honest. It's easy to say that we should instead be focused on the bigger picture in live, but every now and then we can't pretend something doesn't annoy us. Do you like to get your own back on people over small things to prove a point? Do you like giving someone a taste of their own medicine? And do you prefer to do it in such a way that the other person will be wondering whether it was you, or whether it was deliberate? Do you like to bring up something someone said in the past at the right moment in order to point out how someone is full of sh1t? In any case, I think people are a lot more petty people out there than what we are led to believe. So it's important to recognise such behaviour.

Take myself for example - if someone bangs their car door into mine when parked next to me (pet hate), or parks terribly at my expense, I may leave a nasty note on the car! Here's a few stories of my own pettiness. Tell me if if you think it's mean, or if it's fair game. And if you do not think such behaviour is mean, then tell if you think it's immature?

Story of pettiness

Recently I had a disagreement with two rough ladies (no masks) who wanted to skip a Covid19 queue to get into our store. They pretended to misunderstand the queue system, and I had to explain clearly how it worked and that they'd to go back to the start. They tried to get me to re-explain it to wear me down, but it didn't work. The more reasonable of the two ladies said to the other "look we'll have to get back". The other turned to her and said (right in front of me) "over him?". She then asked to see a manager. So what I did eventually, was I pretended to call a manager with the walkie talkie, and had these two stand to the side. Then after about 2 minutes I did actually called the manager. He took quite a while to come out! The manager ended up letting them in, but not after a big argument which seemed to upset them quite a bit!

I don’t think that your story is petty. Some people believe that they have a free pass to do whatever they want. They do not care how they treat others. At least you were reminding them that their behaviour does not go unnoticed and to remind other people that it is not acceptable!

I remember this well-dressed and well-to-do man was taking out money from an ATM. This vile junky was hurling the worst racial abuse that you could imagine at the man taking out the money. I retorted with a scathing cut-down. I didn’t do it to change the behaviour of the junky; it was too late for him. But I wanted the guy at the ATM to know that this man wasn’t speaking on behalf of the others in the queue. Our silence may have been misconstrued as assent with the junky. I spoke so that people would know that saying the horrific things was not acceptable in any society

Antares35 · 31-01-2021 3:59pm

I think a lot of people are bothered about how others view them, but in reality most people are so self absorbed that they don't notice others as much as you would think.

Junkyard Tom · 31-01-2021 4:28pm

Roy Orbison

_Brian · 31-01-2021 4:37pm

milehip wrote: »

That's hardcore, would love to know the back story.

Its quite the backstory, goes back 30 years. There's a real satisfaction seeing the lid put on someone bad and them dropped in the ground, this forgive and forget rubbish is completely over rated.

Deemed as Normal · 31-01-2021 7:50pm

Antares35 wrote: »

I think a lot of people are bothered about how others view them, but in reality most people are so self absorbed that they don't notice others as much as you would think.

But it's when they do that they form their opinion.

HBC08 · 31-01-2021 7:51pm

Deemed as Normal wrote: »

Is anyone here petty? Be honest. It's easy to say that we should instead be focused on the bigger picture in live, but every now and then we can't pretend something doesn't annoy us. Do you like to get your own back on people over small things to prove a point? Do you like giving someone a taste of their own medicine? And do you prefer to do it in such a way that the other person will be wondering whether it was you, or whether it was deliberate? Do you like to bring up something someone said in the past at the right moment in order to point out how someone is full of sh1t? In any case, I think people are a lot more petty people out there than what we are led to believe. So it's important to recognise such behaviour.

Take myself for example - if someone bangs their car door into mine when parked next to me (pet hate), or parks terribly at my expense, I may leave a nasty note on the car! Here's a few stories of my own pettiness. Tell me if if you think it's mean, or if it's fair game. And if you do not think such behaviour is mean, then tell if you think it's immature?

Story of pettiness

Recently I had a disagreement with two rough ladies (no masks) who wanted to skip a Covid19 queue to get into our store. They pretended to misunderstand the queue system, and I had to explain clearly how it worked and that they'd to go back to the start. They tried to get me to re-explain it to wear me down, but it didn't work. The more reasonable of the two ladies said to the other "look we'll have to get back". The other turned to her and said (right in front of me) "over him?". She then asked to see a manager. So what I did eventually, was I pretended to call a manager with the walkie talkie, and had these two stand to the side. Then after about 2 minutes I did actually called the manager. He took quite a while to come out! The manager ended up letting them in, but not after a big argument which seemed to upset them quite a bit!

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I get my pettiness out of me on boards!

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