At what age/point did you realise you can't house share anymore?

Mrs OBumble · 23-10-2020 12:36pm

Bad news for ya lads; the nursing home most of us will end up in for a while is just a giant house-share.

24-10-2020 7:19am

I made it to 32 house sharing in Dublin having started at 18 when I went to college. I just got to the point where my tolerance for the behaviour of others decreased and I decided to go solo.

I remember being away for five weeks travelling towards the end and the two lads I shared with hadn't emptied the bins once during that time and just allowed all the rubbish to pile up in the kitchen. After a while it just gets tiring having to deal with nonsense like that.

Got my own apartment then for three or four years. My wife house shared from 17 to her mid 30s despite being in a good job. The money we both saved from house sharing during those years definitely contributed towards us being able to buy our family home two years ago.

kapisko1PL · 24-10-2020 7:23am

So shared an apartment for 4 years in college and ten went on to work abroad and had to share a room with another colleague of mine. It was in a work accomodation without any cooking utilities etc. So in otal 5.5 years I was sharing. Now I'm married and have a little apartment in Dublin and couldn't be happier to share it with someone I love.

theboringfox · 24-10-2020 11:16pm

31 when moved in with gf who is now my wife. House shared in college and then working in Dublin. Loved it but by time I was 30 I think I had enough of it. Some of my favourite times sharing house with mates in Dublin. I only ever house shared with friends though.

Gael23 · 26-10-2020 4:44pm

Depends on so many factors. One of the guys I share with is 36 and he sees the money he’s saving by sharing vs renting his own place is savings for a deposit

Daisy78 · 21-12-2020 1:04pm

Probably early thirties but like many was forced to continue doing it in order to save for a deposit. I was 37 when I got own rental place and 38 when I bought my own place. Far later in life than I would have liked but when you are living in an urban area with pent up demand for properties the reality is you don’t have much of a choice but to share with others. I think when you are 18, leaving home for college you have this idealised view of what it will be like, like something out of Friends and the reality can be very different. I’ve had positive experiences flatsharing , made some good friends through it but I’ve equally had very negative experiences and met some very strange people, who if you met them on the street you would think were grand, but as the old saying goes if you want to know me come live with me.

My OH works with a guy from Eastern Europe. He and his family share a house with another family from Romania, have done for a couple of years. Obviously it works for them but honestly it must be bloody hard work. You would want to be very tolerant and patient for an arrangement like that to work.

JimmyVik · 21-12-2020 2:06pm

The age I got married at

Gael23 · 21-12-2020 3:16pm

We have a cleaner so that helps but I have lived with people who were not very willing to reach for the Cif and a sponge so in the case it’s more difficult

Patsy167 · 21-12-2020 3:24pm

100% depends on people you live with in my experience. If everyone is on the same page and respectful, its a pleasure.

tommyombomb · 21-12-2020 4:01pm

Think i am in the minority. Love sharing with people. Almost mid thirties and no slowing down for another year or two until i get my own place. At least when i get to the nursing home in years to come i will enjoy it.

I like maybe one or two days on my own to recharge but prefer being around people for sure.

Gael23 · 21-12-2020 6:07pm

tommyombomb wrote: »

Think i am in the minority. Love sharing with people. Almost mid thirties and no slowing down for another year or two until i get my own place. At least when i get to the nursing home in years to come i will enjoy it.

I like maybe one or two days on my own to recharge but prefer being around people for sure.

Good point, I had a night recently when both the guys I live with were staying with their GFs and irt felt a bit creepy being in the house on my own

Amirani · 21-12-2020 6:13pm

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

Bad news for ya lads; the nursing home most of us will end up in for a while is just a giant house-share.

Well under 10% of people spend any time in a nursing home in their lives.

sammyjo90 · 21-12-2020 6:14pm

Third year of college. It all went down hill from there.

had to endure another 7 years sharing with randomers.. alcoholics, people who skipped out, Animals would be cleaner than some of the people i've lived with.

Since I am no longer sharing with randos, shît neighbours are now my issue. Noisy, arguments over parking. Dogs left to be tortured in the winter weather...kids screaming
A detached house is in my future (i hope) otherwise i may buy a boat or something.

Think i just hate people :pac:

LimeFruitGum · 22-12-2020 11:14am

Late 20s for me. I just couldn’t face auditioning randomers off DAFT anymore, or have strangers foisted upon me by the landlord, or some flatmate pulling a fast one by moving their mates, relatives, or birds in.

I never particularly wanted to house-share, but you have no choice as a student or graduate up from the country in Dublin. I had my own gorgeous city centre flat when I was on Erasmus and it galled me that it was impossible for me to have a similar set up back in Dublin, even in the late 90s. Why would you want to live with strangers if you don’t have to?

Another poster put it very well about feeling you are tiptoeing around other people when it is your home too. I remember one sharing dynamic where the living room TV was commandeered *every night* by the Czech tenants watching their DVDs. I got someone to run the Sky cable up to my room so I could at least watch the TV service we were paying for. The look I would get if I dared pass through the living room while they were watching their DVDs! There were multiple petty issues to the point where I was spending most of my time in my room. That was the one time I ever escalated to a landlord, and I asked them to leave after four months.

I could count the sane & clean flat mates I have had over those 12 years on one hand. For the sake of, I don’t know, 20 quid per head per week/month, get in a weekly cleaner. Someone always slacks off on cleaning in house shares, and it isn’t worth wasting your breath on them.

I got a decent job (for me at the time) when I was 29-30 that allowed me to rent a 1-bed flat nearer the office. The recession was kicking in and lots of friends were getting married and leaving Dublin, so I was able to save a bit over a few years as I wasn’t socializing or traveling as much. I was willing to trade extra rent, and do other budget cutbacks for a quiet life at home.

I loved that apartment, and I loved living by myself after so many years of head wrecking house-shares. I looked after the place very well to the point where my landlady actually gave me a lovely leaving present when I moved out 6 years later to move into my own place

At what age/point did you realise you can't house share anymore?

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