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25-08-2012, 13:06   #1
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Adults living with their parents...

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As someone in their late 20's living with their ma (and 2 siblings of late 20's), it's driving me up the wall. Unemployed and for the time being, dependent on her for a roof over my head. I give rent, daily job seek, get up around 9,10, do odds and ends around the house that need done and pretty much keep a bit of a low profile. Yet this does not curtail the underlying tension and arguments that spark out of nowhere. She's regularly stubborn, irrational and reactive which leads to needless arguments. Are all Irish mammy's like this? She's in her mid 50's and her behaviour is getting petty and ridiculous. These bouts are a feature now, myself as the regular target. There is no talking, its very much a defiant 'my way or the high way' kinda tripe.


I'm curious as to how other folks well into their 20's and upwards are managing living with their parents. Do they find themselves caught up in regular needless disputes? Of course theres 2 sides to every coin and I am not claiming to be an angel but these particular sparked reactions are the hall marks of a unbearable, irrational, petulant child.
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keep your low profile and take up some voluntary work in the meantime if you can manage it or even a job blocker like FAS or jobbridge..
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The idea of having to live in the family home again makes me feel ill. I get on with the folks really well, but that's mainly because I don't live with them. If I did, we'd all be killing each other.
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you need to leave Ireland, go to a country where there is work and get a job, your a big human now time to fly the nest and let mammy have a rest, it will do you the world of good.
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As someone in their late 20's living with their ma (and 2 siblings of late 20's), it's driving me up the wall. Unemployed and for the time being, dependent on her for a roof over my head. I give rent, daily job seek, get up around 9,10, do odds and ends around the house that need done and pretty much keep a bit of a low profile. Yet this does not curtail the underlying tension and arguments that spark out of nowhere. She's regularly stubborn, irrational and reactive which leads to needless arguments. Are all Irish mammy's like this? She's in her mid 50's and her behaviour is getting petty and ridiculous. These bouts are a feature now, myself as the regular target. There is no talking, its very much a defiant 'my way or the high way' kinda tripe.


I'm curious as to how other folks well into their 20's and upwards are managing living with their parents. Do they find themselves caught up in regular needless disputes? Of course theres 2 sides to every coin and I am not claiming to be an angel but these particular sparked reactions are the hall marks of a unbearable, irrational, petulant child.
Has she always been like this or is it a more recent thing? Could she be maybe going through the 'change'?
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you need to leave Ireland, go to a country where there is work and get a job, your a big human now time to fly the nest and let mammy have a rest, it will do you the world of good.
Last I checked the only place hiring is Australia, which brings with it all the other necessities i.e money. A few extra details would be handy...
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Are all Irish mammy's like this?
Yes.
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Is the thread title not an oxymoron? Only kidding, I've experienced the same.

I guess the reality is she expected to have an empty house at this stage (regardless of how much she loves her children).

In the past we've had full blown arguments over hypothetical situations, then it's forgotten the next day.
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Has she always been like this or is it a more recent thing? Could she be maybe going through the 'change'?
This is the thing, it seems to be subtly progressive. It wasnt always like this, I cant tell if its circumstantial, biological or both.
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I know a lad in a very secure full time job thats still living at home and he's 30. Of all people that should be getting that reaction of their mother its this lad :-P
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Last I checked the only place hiring is Australia, which brings with it all the other necessities i.e money. A few extra details would be handy...

someone help me out here, im at work.
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Has she always been like this or is it a more recent thing? Could she be maybe going through the 'change'?
Don't underestimate how much validity there could be in this suggested explanation. Honestly.
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As someone in their late 20's living with their ma (and 2 siblings of late 20's), it's driving me up the wall. Unemployed and for the time being, dependent on her for a roof over my head. I give rent, daily job seek, get up around 9,10, do odds and ends around the house that need done and pretty much keep a bit of a low profile. Yet this does not curtail the underlying tension and arguments that spark out of nowhere. She's regularly stubborn, irrational and reactive which leads to needless arguments. Are all Irish mammy's like this? She's in her mid 50's and her behaviour is getting petty and ridiculous. These bouts are a feature now, myself as the regular target. There is no talking, its very much a defiant 'my way or the high way' kinda tripe.


I'm curious as to how other folks well into their 20's and upwards are managing living with their parents. Do they find themselves caught up in regular needless disputes? Of course theres 2 sides to every coin and I am not claiming to be an angel but these particular sparked reactions are the hall marks of a unbearable, irrational, petulant child.
Menopause alert! Good luck op!
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I'm 21 and moved back home with the mammy for a number of reasons, to save money for college and to help her with the bills, to keep her company, she hates living on her own. it's worked out grand. She can be fierce annoying but then I assume I can too, stay out of each others way most of the time, I'm usually in college or gone to friends houses, it at home I am usually in my domain, my bedroom and she is in hers the living room. If she starts doing her mammy thing I am very good at tuning her out.

Try to spend a good few hours outside of the house everyday, whether you go to friends houses or volunteer or whatever, if your gone for most of the day she can't whine at ya.
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I haven't lived at home for nearly 3 years but every now and then i still get my crazy ole wan ringing me in a fit of rage looking for unpaid rent and to clean my room. I don't know how anyone could put up with that everyday.

Mammys be crazy!
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