Deal breakers and turn-off's in dating!

Feisar · 11-02-2020 11:45am

Widdershins wrote: »

Hehe. An ex boyfriend used to pick his nose and wipe the snot on either his pants or whatever was beside him . Not me obviously.

I couldn't care less about farting, it's involuntary and just natural gas. I just ignore it. I very rarely do it but probably because I don't really eat meat.

I used to get wind from veggie smoothies

Deebles McBeebles · 11-02-2020 11:47am

Widdershins wrote: »

Hehe. An ex boyfriend used to pick his nose and wipe the snot on either his pants or whatever was beside him . Not me obviously.

I couldn't care less about farting, it's involuntary and just natural gas. I just ignore it. I very rarely do it but probably because I don't really eat meat.

That's rotten! I'm not claiming to never have picked my nose but f*cking hell.

Farting is great. It is best ignored or laughed about if the sound catches your funny bone.

Leg End Reject · 11-02-2020 11:48am

I thought vegetarians were renowned for their farting?

Widdershins · 11-02-2020 11:56am

I know it is terrible but he could be quite pretentious so the furtive way he did it used to make me smile to myself.

I don't eat many vegetables either lol

Homelander · 11-02-2020 12:52pm

lainey_d_123 wrote: »

See, I don't understand this. I already said that intolerances are so on are grand, or obviously any kind of medical issue. What is a 'limited palette' if it isn't just a synonym for fussy? Why do you not have a choice?

People like what they like. I don't see the point in trying to force people to eat what they don't like within reason.

Obviously, something like refusing to eat anything but chips and nuggets as an adult, is not on.

But if an adult expresses a dislike of certain meats or vegetables, I don't see the issue, despite some people treating it as some form of immaturity.

I've been accused of being fussy before for not eating a lamb dinner because I can't stand lamb. It's not a case of "it's not my favorite", it literally makes me feel sick. I cannot help that, there is no choice involved.

Floppybits · 11-02-2020 12:58pm

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

I honestly don't know why any gender would be posing with kids TBH. Very odd.

I mean, it's a dating site. Keep it to pics of you, your friends or adult siblings.

Why would anyone be putting up pics of themselves with their friends or siblings? I wonder how their friends feel about there pic appearing a dating website. To me any pic being used on a dating site should just be of the person and not include their friends, their family, their puppy or pics of themselves with dog or bunny ears.

lainey_d_123 · 11-02-2020 1:24pm

Homelander wrote: »

People like what they like. I don't see the point in trying to force people to eat what they don't like within reason.

Obviously, something like refusing to eat anything but chips and nuggets as an adult, is not on.

But if an adult expresses a dislike of certain meats or vegetables, I don't see the issue, despite some people treating it as some form of immaturity.

I've been accused of being fussy before for not eating a lamb dinner because I can't stand lamb. It's not a case of "it's not my favorite", it literally makes me feel sick. I cannot help that, there is no choice involved.

There's a big difference between not being able to stand lamb (I can't, either) and not eating anything bar a few familiar foods.

KiKi III · 11-02-2020 1:29pm

Floppybits wrote: »

Why would anyone be putting up pics of themselves with their friends or siblings? I wonder how their friends feel about there pic appearing a dating website. To me any pic being used on a dating site should just be of the person and not include their friends, their family, their puppy or pics of themselves with dog or bunny ears.

Profiles that only have photos of the person on their own make them seem self-involved/ like they have no friends. The main pic should always be alone though, and ideally taken in the last six months.

Don’t see why any friends who have photos on insta/ Facebook would have any major objections to being in the background of a tinder picZ

SusieBlue · 11-02-2020 1:35pm

KiKi III wrote: »

Profiles that only have photos of the person on their own make them seem self-involved/ like they have no friends. The main pic should always be alone though, and ideally taken in the last six months.

Don’t see why any friends who have photos on insta/ Facebook would have any major objections to being in the background of a tinder picZ

I'll get slated for this but I also like if they have a pic with a few friends because it gives a rough indication of their height without having to ask.

FWIW, I have a few full length pics of just myself, and some with my friends too to give an indication of my height and weight too. Fair is fair :pac:

I won't swipe right to anyone who just has close up pictures of their face.

One eyed Jack · 11-02-2020 1:42pm

Floppybits wrote: »

Why would anyone be putting up pics of themselves with their friends or siblings? I wonder how their friends feel about there pic appearing a dating website. To me any pic being used on a dating site should just be of the person and not include their friends, their family, their puppy or pics of themselves with dog or bunny ears.

Why would anyone do whatever means they are more successful on a dating app? The answer is in the question. Simply because it works, and there is plenty of evidence to show it works. It doesn’t do anything for you personally because you’re not into that sort of thing and prefer ‘passport photo only’ so to speak whereas someone else may build up a whole mental image and expectations from seeing a guy posing on his mountain bike in full rigout with a dog on a leash up the mountains in the arsehole of nowhere. Women are not the only people who prefer to present a curated photoshopped image of themselves, guys are just as notorious for it. Because it works.

The dogs trend for what it’s worth, is called ‘dogfishing’

Dogfishing: When online daters pose with adorable pets that aren’t theirs

That’s why people include in their profile photos their children, their granny, their friends, anything they imagine won’t make them look like a desperate loner or a convicted serial killer or just a grumpy, up his own arse bastard who’s no fun (I’ve never been photogenic

) - it’s not very attractive.

11-02-2020 1:50pm

MarkY91 wrote: »

Does that mean everyone should own a car?

No

nthclare · 11-02-2020 1:53pm

SusieBlue wrote: »

I'll get slated for this but I also like if they have a pic with a few friends because it gives a rough indication of their height without having to ask.

FWIW, I have a few full length pics of just myself, and some with my friends too to give an indication of my height and weight too. Fair is fair :pac:

I won't swipe right to anyone who just has close up pictures of their face.

I usually think the friends are better looking

Widdershins · 11-02-2020 2:03pm

Dating sites. Amazing how everyone's into kayaking.

11-02-2020 2:14pm

Widdershins wrote: »

Dating sites. Amazing how everyone's into kayaking.

I took the kayak out for a walk earlier, selfie stick keep getting in the way so progress was slow.

11-02-2020 2:47pm

Widdershins wrote: »

Dating sites. Amazing how everyone's into kayaking.

surely you mean cycling?!!:eek::eek::eek:

Half of single Irish men over 40 seem to be out on their carbon fiber super dooper bikes every weekend - completely bet into their lycra gear, helmets and sunglasses - so you haven't a clue what they look like! But its hard to hide those lumps and bumps in lycra cycling gear - very unforgiving

11-02-2020 2:54pm

Floppybits wrote: »

Why would anyone be putting up pics of themselves with their friends or siblings? I wonder how their friends feel about there pic appearing a dating website. To me any pic being used on a dating site should just be of the person and not include their friends, their family, their puppy or pics of themselves with dog or bunny ears.

I've often come across men's profiles that have just one photo up - a group one - with about 5 men!!! So I'm there wondering which one it is! It always turns out its the one I don't fancy at all - all his mates are usually gorgeous though . Now I just don't bother swiping on anyone who just has a group photo. How hard is it to put up one decent photo showing your face without caps, sunglasses and other props?

(I have cats and I love dogs. But they don't appear in photos on any dating sites, neither do my kids. I also don't think any of my friends would be happy to be in a group shot on Tinder but maybe that's just an age/generational thing)

Widdershins · 11-02-2020 2:58pm

Deleted User wrote: »

surely you mean cycling?!!:eek::eek::eek:

Half of single Irish men over 40 seem to be out on their carbon fiber super dooper bikes every weekend - completely bet into their lycra gear, helmets and sunglasses - so you haven't a clue what they look like! But its hard to hide those lumps and bumps in lycra cycling gear - very unforgiving

Cycling would be more likely but they *say* theyre into kayaking, along with bodybuilding and a hundred other things they've probably never done.

There was one with a photo of himself snuggled up to a woman, but her face had a big yellow sticker on it (photoshop sort of thing). Photos of ex gf on a dating site. Hmmm

I think some people treat those sites like a hobby too

Greyfox · 11-02-2020 3:21pm

Widdershins wrote: »

Cycling would be more likely but they *say* theyre into kayaking, along with bodybuilding and a hundred other things they've probably never done.

Yeah in tinder land it seems once you do something once your allowed to use it as a hobby even if the rock climbing you did was 4 years ago

job seeker · 11-02-2020 3:27pm

Widdershins wrote: »

Dating sites. Amazing how everyone's into kayaking.

Or CrossFit..

nthclare · 11-02-2020 3:31pm

Dating sites and apps are like flicking through a destination catalogue from the 80's

Oh look if you meet me, ill be gorgeous, adventurous and intriguing.

I'll be happy, look great with you and I respond to you if you have a photo, but dare you question me for not responding to your mail after its in black and white that I will respond to all mails.

Ill rise a row online, accuse you of being a psycho or needy, then lie and say I was going to get back because I was busy.
But in reality I've no interest whatsoever because you're not my type.
But ill create some drama anyhow because I'm bat **** crazy.

I can say in my profile I respond to everyone, but I don't have to respond to everyone if I don't want to...

Oh then you've the surfer type who's standing in their wetsuit in the kitchen in Offaly somewhere taking a selfie in a lidl wetsuit.. Goes to beach once a year..

jaxxx · 11-02-2020 4:32pm

lainey_d_123 wrote: »

See, I don't understand this. I already said that intolerances are so on are grand, or obviously any kind of medical issue. What is a 'limited palette' if it isn't just a synonym for fussy? Why do you not have a choice?

You answered your own question.

Greyfox wrote: »

The majority are just cowards not willing to try something new. It's a pain when you want to cook something for people. I understand people not liking things but turning common things down you haven't properly tried is silly

Majority, but not all.

Assetbacked · 11-02-2020 4:35pm

Feisar wrote: »

Dated a lady that was big into that stuff, tis fun as a novelty however if it's the only way one gets off it becomes a bit onerous. Plus the want to continually push the boundaries and you end up in some weird places!

Go on...

Leg End Reject · 11-02-2020 4:37pm

Assetbacked wrote: »

Go on...

And give full detail ...

Snails pace · 11-02-2020 4:39pm

Some one who eats their food with their mouth open. I personally can't handle it with anyone. Be it a date, family or friends

Ficheall · 11-02-2020 4:41pm

nthclare wrote: »

Dating sites and apps are like flicking through a destination catalogue from the 80's

Oh look if you meet me, ill be gorgeous, adventurous and intriguing.

I'll be happy, look great with you and I respond to you if you have a photo, but dare you question me for not responding to your mail after its in black and white that I will respond to all mails.

Ill rise a row online, accuse you of being a psycho or needy, then lie and say I was going to get back because I was busy.
But in reality I've no interest whatsoever because you're not my type.
But ill create some drama anyhow because .

I can say in my profile I respond to everyone, but I don't have to respond to everyone if I don't want to...

Oh then you've the surfer type who's standing in their wetsuit in the kitchen in Offaly somewhere taking a selfie in a lidl wetsuit.. Goes to beach once a year..

TLDR;

I'm bat **** crazy

I moved your TLDR to the end of your post so it's easier to find

Feisar · 11-02-2020 4:55pm

Leg End Reject wrote: »

And give full detail ...

Hahaha, no, yis aren't going to get me to put pen to paper on those episodes!

Leg End Reject · 11-02-2020 4:57pm

Feisar wrote: »

Hahaha, no, yis aren't going to get me to put pen to paper on those episodes!

Dealbreaker: people who give tantalising snippets of information, then refuse to elaborate.

:pac:

jaxxx · 11-02-2020 6:10pm

Feisar wrote: »

Hahaha, no, yis aren't going to get me to put pen to paper on those episodes!

It's fine. You don't have to say a thing. Just nod if it was anything like this

Feisar · 11-02-2020 6:12pm

jaxxx wrote: »

It's fine. You don't have to say a thing. Just nod if it was anything like this

Did I not already say somewhere in this thread,

No sky to high
No sea to rough
No muff to tough!

Leg End Reject · 11-02-2020 6:14pm

Feisar wrote: »

Did I not already say somewhere in this thread,

No sky to high
No sea to rough
No muff to tough!

But it sounds like you're the one who needed to be tough. Tell us, we won't tell anyone else.

Promise.

Redneck Reject71 · 11-02-2020 6:15pm

Feisar wrote: »

Did I not already say somewhere in this thread,

No sky to high
No sea to rough
No muff to tough!

Ah ok so it was like a rodeo,heh.

Rufeo · 11-02-2020 6:41pm

Snails pace wrote: »

Some one who eats their food with their mouth open. I personally can't handle it with anyone. Be it a date, family or friends

My brother does this. Drives me up the wall. Told him a few times, but he still does it. Absolutely crazy carry on. I suspect people who do this need air to successfully chew their food; you know like an oven or a cement mixer. Gross. Haha.

Church on Tuesday · 11-02-2020 7:55pm

Floppybits wrote: »

Why would anyone be putting up pics of themselves with their friends or siblings? I wonder how their friends feel about there pic appearing a dating website. To me any pic being used on a dating site should just be of the person and not include their friends, their family, their puppy or pics of themselves with dog or bunny ears.

I actually agree with this TBH but I guess if they insist on having people in their pics it should at least be adults.

Assetbacked · 12-02-2020 12:12am

Feisar wrote: »

Did I not already say somewhere in this thread,

No sky to high
No sea to rough
No muff to tough!

Some form of water sports and candle wax on the vagina?

Ladybird18 · 12-02-2020 12:14am

Game players.
Wasting my time so bye. ðŸ‘‹

jimbobaloobob · 12-02-2020 1:41am

Ladybird18 wrote: »

Game players.
Wasting my time so bye. ðŸ‘‹

Is that computer gamers?

Personally I hate ignorance to what's around us. Racism and dirty finger nails.
Not necessarily in that order.

12-02-2020 1:46am

Rufeo wrote: »

My brother does this. Drives me up the wall. Told him a few times, but he still does it. Absolutely crazy carry on. I suspect people who do this need air to successfully chew their food; you know like an oven or a cement mixer. Gross. Haha.

Yeah..people I work with do this too..I'd be nearby just cracking up..feel like saying to them 'did your mother not teach you to close your mouth when you're eating..'

Slurping tea too..jesus..I'm getting annoyed just typing it..

job seeker · 12-02-2020 8:33pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Yeah..people I work with do this too..I'd be nearby just cracking up..feel like saying to them 'did your mother not teach you to close your mouth when you're eating..'

Slurping tea too..jesus..I'm getting annoyed just typing it..

That’s basic manners! Though, I cannot see how they need to chew with their mouth open! Do they think that they’ll suffocate???

Ubbquittious · 25-07-2022 8:11pm

Girls who can't change a dhrum of gas and don't have some redeeming skill to make up for it like tractor driving, pulling a good pint of Beamish, chainsawing

combat14 · 25-07-2022 8:42pm

in no particular order:

fat, dog or cat freaks, smokes, cant drive or hold down a job, poor personal hygiene, self-obsessed, controlling or critical, drink/drug problems, no ambition or plan to save/invest i.e. spends all their money on absolute non-essentials while not contributing anything whatsoever to relationship, poor kissers and selfish lovers, overly religious or anti-religious, work-aholics, women with baby rabies or who constantly bad mouth their exs or stop them seeing their children, regular fish eaters, vegetarians or vegans, people who watch tv all day and not open to holidays or adventures plus conspiracy theorists, overly opinionated, anti-vaxers, "make me laugh"ers, happy wife happy lifers

this is a great exercise starting to narrow the few billion options down 🤣

job seeker · 25-07-2022 9:55pm

Seen one recently where a woman had the following o her profile. "Make me laff!" I assume she means to laugh. So both would be huge turnoffs. Someone wanting to be entertained and not capable of spelling a simple verb.

job seeker · 25-07-2022 9:56pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119386769#Comment_119386769

That's all standard stuff to be fair! You're not asking for much!

sporina · 25-07-2022 10:03pm

low self esteem.. for me, men who try to give the impression that they are better than they are.. in what ever regard.. money, status, cars, jobs, intelligence, etc..

to me.. nothing is more attractive than someone who is happy in their own skin.. can call a spade a spade.. quietly confident but not arrogant

YellowLead · 25-07-2022 10:04pm

Conspiracy theorists. People who boast about scamming social welfare. People whose cars are full of rubbish. People who are too clingy and needy. People who don’t think for themselves. People who tuck in their shirt/tee-shirt. People who don’t speak properly and over abbreviate in text ‘u’, ‘dem’

Furze99 · 25-07-2022 10:22pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119386769#Comment_119386769

Doesn't leave you much choice!

Pissy Missy · 25-07-2022 10:27pm

I remember going on a date with a guy from a rough estate. I didn't know this at the time after meeting him on a dating site. I tried to be non judgemental and give him the benefit of the doubt but on our first date he pissed in the bushes, spat on the street and was cautious.. afraid his 'ex' would see him on a date cause apparently he's rougher than she is and would beat my face in. Because I didn't want to be judgemental or because I'm crazy, I gave it way more time than I should have. When I eventually told him I wasn't interested, he told me that was grand and then he did it doggy style with an ex outside a supermarket with no protection😳🤢🤮 Obviously went straight to the sex clinic to get tested.

Another guy told me that he was into drugs and told me about his ex how she just had an abortion (their child) and other personal intense stuff that usually isn't synonymous to first date conversation.

A guy I met in a nightclub seemed thankfully normal, only after the drink wore off he asked me to dress into sexy underwear and have sex with another guy while he watched 🙈

So yeah the joys of dating

Deal breakers and turn-off's in dating!

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