Deal breakers and turn-off's in dating!

AckwelFoley · 29-01-2020 8:55pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Yep. An anti-vaxxer or a flat earther would be an instant turn off.

But probably an easy ride. They'd believe anything you say

Addle · 29-01-2020 8:55pm

Someone who still drinks like they did in their 20s when they’re in their late 30s/40s.
Someone who can’t keep a steady job.

theguzman · 29-01-2020 8:56pm

AckwelFoley wrote: »

But probably an easy ride. They'd believe anything you say

I'd have guessed the opposite questioning everything and would take nothing at face value as the truth. But either stupid or deficient in some other way.

29-01-2020 8:59pm

AckwelFoley wrote: »

But probably an easy ride. They'd believe anything you say

But sweetheart, this IS what 9 inches really looks like.

corner of hells · 29-01-2020 9:01pm

AckwelFoley wrote: »

Rule Number 1 of dating.

Dont tell the wife. Total dealbreaker

Rule number 1 of dating :

Do not stick your dick in crazy , not even the tip.

GreeBo · 29-01-2020 9:01pm

Someone ignorant and/or stupid.
Someone without interests (other than daily mail or love islandy type ****e)

29-01-2020 9:49pm

No longer looking but if I was.

Vegan/vegetarian - just love meat too much, also we are farmers and I’d have no time whatsoever for their anti-farmers rubbish.

Non-drinker and doesn’t like a good session fairly regularly.

Clingy

Sees going out with the lads regularly as anything other than normal and does her own thing with her own friends too.

Thick and not educated.

Not interested to some degree in doing fairly well in work, having a career.

Not getting on with my family.

Fitness fanatic.

Anti-catholic

Ted_YNWA · 29-01-2020 9:55pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Well. Since my last relationship I have quite the list.

Be emotionally available.
Do not let your issues get in the way of having a healthy and intimate relationship.
Kiss me. All the time.
Don't be an anti-vaxxer. I spent three and a half years engaging in all sorts of mental gymnastics to manage that one.
Accept who I am.
No conspiracy theories please.
Listen.
Be kind.
Don't shut down and punish me.
Get to know my friends and family.
Do not even think you can control me and yes I did buy a cushion without your 'permission'.
Use your words.
Let me have your back because I expect you to have mine.

That's enough to be getting on with

I've met some of them & they are the deal breakers.

Gynoid · 29-01-2020 10:04pm

IF I was ever dating a big thing would be smells. I seem to be afflicted by a horribly acute sense of smell. Ordinary human smell is fine, a bit of musk no problem. BUT bad breath, blech! go to the dentist!, greasy hair or collar smell, damp musty clothes that didn't dry properly, strange pungent body odour,

euchhhh... I can't go on....my whole face has puckered up in disgust just thinking about these things.

The Princess Bride · 29-01-2020 10:18pm

In no particular order.

Nail biting, best get your protein from a different source, surely, it tastes better plus your fingers will look better.

Smoking.

Anyone who drinks moderately and often.

Stingy, mean, miserly, miserable penny pinching.

Constant moaning about your ex. Most of us have a history, but there's no need to go on and on about the past.
Repeatedly.

Sexually dysfunctional, (neither willing to admit to nor seek help for it); for the record, it's not that common, it doesn't happen to every guy, and it is a big deal!

Criticising how much washing up liquid I use, seriously, lighten up, who doesn't like bubbles?

Poor sense of humour.

Someone who feels the need to talk about their job almost non stop.
No thank you- I love what I do, but it's not all that I do.

the_pen_turner · 29-01-2020 10:18pm

too tidy or clean freak .obviously has to be somewhat tidy but i find this worse than slightly messy

rapul · 29-01-2020 10:27pm

Has to give good head, will return the favour of course but argh come on

Whereisgalway · 29-01-2020 10:31pm

AckwelFoley wrote: »

Dont get this really.

One spends their entire adolescence and early adult life knocking it out into a crusty sock

At least you didn’t stick a crusty sock in your hairy box as a dare with too much vodka

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 29-01-2020 10:34pm

Motivator wrote: »

Hairy box.

LOL.

I’ve got my money’s worth from this thread anyway!

EmmetSpiceland · 29-01-2020 10:38pm

Whereisgalway wrote: »

At least you didn’t stick a crusty sock in your hairy box as a dare with too much vodka

If the sock was “soaked” with the vodka you’d be getting hammered.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 29-01-2020 10:43pm

rapul wrote: »

Have to agree with the car or at least a licence, no one wants to be a taxi, dealt with that for years, and if she smokes that's a definite no, the smell how would ya be well

I can’t drive and hubs is never my taximan. I always use public transport if it’s just me going somewhere. If we moved to a rural location, I’d learn.

creditcarder · 29-01-2020 10:48pm

Curious about the foreign woman angle? All of my village know that I live abroad :O

creditcarder · 29-01-2020 10:50pm

The Princess Bride wrote: »

In no particular order.

Nail biting, best get your protein from a different source, surely, it tastes better plus your fingers will look better.

Smoking.

Anyone who drinks moderately and often.

Stingy, mean, miserly, miserable penny pinching.

Constant moaning about your ex. Most of us have a history, but there's no need to go on and on about the past.
Repeatedly.

Sexually dysfunctional, (neither willing to admit to nor seek help for it); for the record, it's not that common, it doesn't happen to every guy, and it is a big deal!

Criticising how much washing up liquid I use, seriously, lighten up, who doesn't like bubbles?

Poor sense of humour.

Someone who feels the need to talk about their job almost non stop.
No thank you- I love what I do, but it's not all that I do.

Hmmm, so your always wet without foreplay?

whisky_galore · 29-01-2020 10:54pm

High maintenance.
"Shopping" as a hobby.
Being zero craic and/or offended at everything.

Feisar · 29-01-2020 11:01pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Guys who 'don't like the feel' of condoms :rolleyes:

Or women who say, “it’s ok, I’m on the pill”

Gobb · 29-01-2020 11:01pm

- Is dead
- Is alive but smells dead

29-01-2020 11:04pm

Ted_YNWA wrote: »

I've met some of them & they are the deal breakers.

Teddo!!

Leg End Reject · 29-01-2020 11:07pm

Gobb wrote: »

- Is dead
- Is alive but smells dead

A bit of life is always nice.

jaxxx · 29-01-2020 11:12pm

the_pen_turner wrote: »

too tidy or clean freak .obviously has to be somewhat tidy but i find this worse than slightly messy

I take it then that Monica was your least favourite character in Friends?

Anyone else pissed off that most (if not all forums) use American English? DON'T F*CKING RED UNDERLINE FAVOURITE WHEN IT IS SPELLED 1000000% RIGHT YOU LAZY ASS PIECE OF TURNIP!!!!!!

Deal-breakers and turn offs in dating - I've sadly never been on a date so you know what they say, beggars can't be choosers

I suppose: smoker, someone who's full of themselves, has the sense of humour (DON'T TELL ME HUMOUR IS SPELLED WRONG YOU F*CKING ***** *** *******) of a brick, and just generally isn't nice.

^^ Btw, did my sob story (which is genuinely true, unfortunately) generate any pity there? Ladies? No? Ok then.. .. ..

Anyone have a radio, I wanna turn on Air Supply - All Out of Love.

.. .. .. ..

Ok I'll stop now. Sorry

29-01-2020 11:15pm

Manipulative..

Odyssey 2005 · 29-01-2020 11:15pm

When she takes out her Mickey. That's a deal breaker for me

jaxxx · 29-01-2020 11:17pm

Odyssey 2005 wrote: »

When she takes out her Mickey. That's a deal breaker for me

Wait.. .. this is After Hours isn't it?

.. ..

Yup. Ok then:

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Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 29-01-2020 11:27pm

The Princess Bride wrote: »

In no particular order.

Nail biting, best get your protein from a different source, surely, it tastes better plus your fingers will look better.

Smoking.

Anyone who drinks moderately and often.

Stingy, mean, miserly, miserable penny pinching.

Constant moaning about your ex. Most of us have a history, but there's no need to go on and on about the past.
Repeatedly.

Sexually dysfunctional, (neither willing to admit to nor seek help for it); for the record, it's not that common, it doesn't happen to every guy, and it is a big deal!

Criticising how much washing up liquid I use, seriously, lighten up, who doesn't like bubbles?

Poor sense of humour.

Someone who feels the need to talk about their job almost non stop.
No thank you- I love what I do, but it's not all that I do.

:D:D

This thread is gas. GAS, I tell you.

the_pen_turner · 29-01-2020 11:28pm

jaxxx wrote: »

I take it then that Monica was your least favourite character in Friends?

Anyone else pissed off that most (if not all forums) use American English? DON'T F*CKING RED UNDERLINE FAVOURITE WHEN IT IS SPELLED 1000000% RIGHT YOU LAZY ASS PIECE OF TURNIP!!!!!!

Deal-breakers and turn offs in dating - I've sadly never been on a date so you know what they say, beggars can't be choosers

I suppose: smoker, someone who's full of themselves, has the sense of humour (DON'T TELL ME HUMOUR IS SPELLED WRONG YOU F*CKING ***** *** *******) of a brick, and just generally isn't nice.

^^ Btw, did my sob story (which is genuinely true, unfortunately) generate any pity there? Ladies? No? Ok then.. .. ..

Anyone have a radio, I wanna turn on Air Supply - All Out of Love.

.. .. .. ..

Ok I'll stop now. Sorry

not sure what this is but if it happend on a first date there wouldnt be a second

dinorebel · 29-01-2020 11:37pm

AckwelFoley wrote: »

Dont get this really.

One spends their entire adolescence and early adult life knocking it out into a crusty sock and now all of a sudden a scientifically designed and lubricated latex sock is not comfortable

Think you may of been doing it wrong.

Fr_Dougal · 29-01-2020 11:37pm

An innie. 😶

beejee · 29-01-2020 11:38pm

Anyone would be so lucky.

But an interesting one here: how you behave when the other half isn't around.

If people think that once the other half isn't present they can be as flirtatious as they like and "behave" as single. Seen it so many times with so many people, I honestly think it's more common than not.

Note, this isn't some control-freak behaviour, it's a mutual respect thing. If I'm halfway round the planet, she can rely on me, and I on her.

If you're seriously seeing someone else, and then on a day by yourself some blonde bombshell starts trying it on, you should be able to shut down obvious advances right on the spot. Not a rude thing, not a "have no fun" thing, just not "playing pretend".

Rare thing to find in my opinion, very good sign that things look good between two people.

29-01-2020 11:38pm

jaxxx wrote: »

Anyone else pissed off that most (if not all forums) use American English? DON'T F*CKING RED UNDERLINE FAVOURITE WHEN IT IS SPELLED 1000000% RIGHT YOU LAZY ASS PIECE OF TURNIP!!!!!!

This really pisses me off too..

AllForIt · 29-01-2020 11:43pm

I would agree with the OP - anyone keeping that many pets would be a concern. People like that get upset if you use the pets wrong name or sex.

Assetbacked · 29-01-2020 11:55pm

In terms of dating and wanting more dates, ignoring the low standards required for me to throw it into her, the following are a big turn off for me when dating girls;

Lives at home.
Loves dogs but not cats (high maintenance and controlling).
Over 30 (most likely clingy and needy).
No grasp of sarcasm.
No opinions on current affairs (this is surprisingly common).
Irish.
No plans to have children.
Not vegan.

Jenneke87 · 30-01-2020 12:00am

Assetbacked wrote: »

In terms of dating and wanting more dates, ignoring the low standards required for me to throw it into her, the following are a big turn off for me when dating girls;

Lives at home.
Loves dogs but not cats (high maintenance and controlling).
Over 30 (most likely clingy and needy).
No grasp of sarcasm.
No opinions on current affairs (this is surprisingly common).
Irish.
No plans to have children.
Not vegan.

And how old are you yourself. At some point, the under thirties are no longer an option...

Purple Mountain · 30-01-2020 12:01am

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Well I never actually bought a cushion because "you have no taste". So it was easier.

I'm not happier Leg End, I'm happy

I think you were obviously dealing with a person with 'issues'.

Purple Mountain · 30-01-2020 12:03am

Someone who wants a relationship!

beejee · 30-01-2020 12:04am

The post above on "no opinions on current affairs", that's a tricky one.

If you think regurgitating current affairs makes you interesting, it often times comes across as complete tedium. I've heard it all, 50 times from a hundred places, I don't need to hear it from you too.

Being aware? Yes. Talking more than a little about it? No.

IAMAMORON · 30-01-2020 12:05am

It sounds like a minefield out there....an awful lot of fusspots.

I am happy enough to get a date. I wouldn't be asking anyone who I was not interested in. Once I get them out I am not going to waste my time finding reasons to not go out with them again. As long as I find her attractive ( which I do or I wouldn't have asked her out ) and she is polite and gives me a chance I have no qualms. I don't like women who are too into themselves and seem prudish.

The biggest turnoff I have is when a women has no identity and she seems dull with no interests. I find that terrifying. I don't care if she is obsessed over 1950's dormer room curtains, but she has to have a proper interest in something, " shopping" or " going to the hair dressers" is not an interest by the way.

I love it when my date shows an interest in me. I find that really sexy and kind, not in that particular order. If you show an interest in your date it makes a difference. Much better than worrying about how your breath smells or if you are drinking too much.

Assetbacked · 30-01-2020 12:06am

Jenneke87 wrote: »

And how old are you yourself. At some point, the under thirties are no longer an option...

31, so I have another twenty years I'd say.

It's worth noting that I have been in a relationship for so long that these deal breakers haven't been tested in the dating world. When I was last dating, the only deal breaker was not wanting to sleep with me.

Jenneke87 · 30-01-2020 12:15am

Talking and chewing at the same time
Rude against service staff
A dislike of animals
Stingy
Patronizing
Narrow minded
Someone who goes on and on about all of their achievements (why the need for appraisal?)
Someone who is extremely serious
Bad hygiene
Lacking style (I'd like to see you in something else than a hoodie and trainers)
Wanting children
Fussy eater
Addictions of any kind
Not over his ex/bitter towards women in general

30-01-2020 12:21am

Purple Mountain wrote: »

I think you were obviously dealing with a person with 'issues'.

Which we all have. God knows I could write a book on mine. I think what matters is whether or not there is a willingness to accept and then work on any issues you may have. In saying that there are people who have serious problems in the way of a personality disorder say or narcissism where really you are best off running for the hills.

pgj2015 · 30-01-2020 1:11am

psycho ex who she has a kid or kids with

religious

if she dislikes the police

if she is the type to protest or campaign for causes like the homeless

pessimistic

unorganized

no ambition

two faced

a snob

selfish

no sense of humor

andekwarhola · 30-01-2020 1:14am

Anybody with a deal breaker list in double figures

freshpopcorn · 30-01-2020 1:47am

People who believe everything they read on facebook.

People who vote for People Before Profit, AAA, etc.

People who have a massive hatred for the Gardai.

Idbatterim · 30-01-2020 1:51am

Safe to say many of you wouldn’t be dating “ no te watir charges” brigade !

the_syco · 30-01-2020 2:18am

Dealbreakers (before I even get to the date part);
Unemployed. College ladies not included in this category.
Someone who can't hold a steady job.
If they dislike metal.

Date Dealbreakers;
No sense of humour / politically correct

Religious. Don't mind spiritual types as much.

Not offering to split the dinner bill on 1st or 2nd date.

Huge women, or seeing the rib cage.

Of the mindset that sex is a taboo subject.

Annoyances;
Has kids. I'm unsure if I want kids, as I don't think I'd have the patience for them.

Someone who doesn't know when to stop drinking.

Don't mind non-drinkers, but not anti-drinkers.

Vegan. Vegetarians can be okay sometimes.

whisky_galore wrote: »

"Shopping" as a hobby.

Automatic swipe left.

Tell me how wrote: »

No sex before marriage.

I'd end the relationship on the utterance of such crap!

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 30-01-2020 2:27am

Assetbacked wrote: »

31, so I have another twenty years I'd say.

It's worth noting that I have been in a relationship for so long that these deal breakers haven't been tested in the dating world. When I was last dating, the only deal breaker was not wanting to sleep with me.

At late 40s, you’d be doing very well to score 20 somethings easily. I think celeb men have skewed expectations in this regard.

RubyGlee · 30-01-2020 2:31am

Rude
Doesn’t like animals
Anti smokers
Anti anything left of the mainstream
Anti Vaxxer
Doesn’t keep in good shape
Has no interest in the world around them
Speaks about looking after our own
Has no compassion for others
Doesn’t want to listen to me describe the cute things my dog, cats or horse did today

Deal breakers and turn-off's in dating!

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