People who tell you how honest they are

suicide_circus · 11-11-2020 2:02pm #1

"You know me, I'm a straight shooter"

I have a colleague in work who consistently stirs the excrement at every opportunity and always prefaces it with something along the lines of; "I don't do drama, as you know" :rolleyes:

Do you know anyone like this who doth protest too much? Do these people realise how transparent they are?

the beer revolu · 11-11-2020 2:23pm

"I tell it like it is" = "I'm a total arsehole"

Hangdogroad · 11-11-2020 2:27pm

The worst are people who say "I swear on my mothers, childs, etc life". Used soley by lying sociopaths.

Allinall · 11-11-2020 2:28pm

Hangdogroad wrote: »

The worst are people who say "I swear on my mothers, childs, etc life". Used soley by lying sociopaths.

or orphans with no kids.

Trigger Happy · 11-11-2020 2:28pm

I say what I like and I really like what I say.

SuperSean11 · 11-11-2020 2:30pm

There’s usually a but in that sentence.

dxhound2005 · 11-11-2020 2:33pm

A lot of posts have TBH in them, which I find strange. Why do they need to state they are being honest? Worse again is TBF which is usually followed by some biased statement.

11-11-2020 2:36pm

dxhound2005 wrote: »

A lot of posts have TBH in them, which I find strange. Why do they need to state they are being honest?

One usage would be to emphasise you're not joking. Like the opposite of adding LOL!

fonecrusher1 · 11-11-2020 2:36pm

No offence but ...... i'm just about to say something extremely offensive about you as a person.

suicide_circus · 11-11-2020 2:38pm

fonecrusher1 wrote: »

No offence but ...... i'm just about to say something extremely offensive about you as a person.

"No disrespect but you're a total geebag"

GreeBo · 11-11-2020 2:39pm

Anything that anybody tells you about themselves is typically a lie.

No one who is actually "kind, honest, caring, brave, outspoken, etc, etc" actually has to bother to say that to people.

Anyone who tells people these things is to be avoided.

jimgoose · 11-11-2020 2:39pm

Well Minister, if you ask me for a straight answer, then I shall say that, as far as we can see, looking at it by and large, taking one thing with another in terms of the average of departments, then in the final analysis it is probably true to say, that at the end of the day, in general terms, you would probably find that, not to put too fine a point on it, there probably wasn't very much in it one way or the other. As far as one can see, at this stage.

the beer revolu · 11-11-2020 2:42pm

I'm not racist......

11-11-2020 2:43pm

this basically holds true for people who tell you anything at all about the type of person they are, tbh

11-11-2020 2:45pm

the beer revolu wrote: »

I'm not racist......

Neither am I. If the other bugger wants to run off ahead let them off.

The Continental Op · 11-11-2020 2:45pm

My mother always says "You're not going to believe this" whenever she has some totally unbelievable story to tell. At this stage its just flags the start of a story that no one would ever believe.

IAMAMORON · 11-11-2020 2:46pm

My door is always open.

Trust me, I will let you know if I am not happy with you.

This is a two way street.

I don't suffer fools.

I swear on my mothers grave.

Look at me, why would I lie to you?

No one else knows this, so what I am going to tell you must be kept between you and me , ok?

I had raisins with my porridge this morning, I like to get off to a good start.

I have only ever slept with a handful of men, I am not a slut.

zanador · 11-11-2020 2:51pm

IAMAMORON wrote: »

I have only ever slept with a handful of men, I am not a slut.

It's ok, babes, we wouldn't judge you if it were more

fonecrusher1 · 11-11-2020 2:51pm

People who spout the old "if I have a problem with someone I say it to their face".

No you don't really. Maybe very very occasionally when called for but no more than anyone else. When someone says this its mostly posturing / trying to sound tough. If you said exactly what you think of everyone you encounter to their face you'd end up a very lonely person. Or possibly dead.

JohnnyFlash · 11-11-2020 2:54pm

A lot of school of hard knocks and university of life sorts tend to think of themselves as plain speakers. Jackeens are notorious for it.

Iscreamkone · 11-11-2020 2:55pm

"You can trust me, my brother's a priest."
My first instincts were correct - this individual did not turn out to be trustworthy.

Spacific · 11-11-2020 3:00pm

"I don't care what people think"

Insults everyone and gets upset and can't figure out why nobody likes them.

biko · 11-11-2020 3:09pm

the beer revolu wrote: »

I'm not racist......

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iqq7O2HqTUk

biko · 11-11-2020 3:13pm

It's just a saying of course but it's a bit strange.
"If I'm honest then..." implies they're usually not honest but we all know they probably are.

McGinniesta · 11-11-2020 3:14pm

I don't like people. I have no real interest in making other people happy or sad.

I'm not a sociopath or a psycho but I have no interest in cushioning other people from the truth.

If I don't like someone then they'll be told straight to their face. I'd be so much happier if other did the same to me.

The Continental Op · 11-11-2020 3:15pm

"Basically what I mean is" I haven't a clue how to explain anything.

Jequ0n · 11-11-2020 3:20pm

What I find more puzzling is that people expect others not to lie to them

McGinniesta · 11-11-2020 3:29pm

Jequ0n wrote: »

What I find more puzzling is that people expect others not to lie to them

We don't. That's the issue.

Jequ0n · 11-11-2020 3:39pm

McGinniesta wrote: »

We don't. That's the issue.

You’d be surprised how many people want to believe in the decency of mankind though. Sitting ducks

The Tetrarch · 11-11-2020 3:43pm

GreeBo wrote: »

Anything that anybody tells you about themselves is typically a lie.

A comment I like is "everyone is a hero in their own story".
"Their own story" is heavily edited.

CrabRevolution · 11-11-2020 3:56pm

dxhound2005 wrote: »

A lot of posts have TBH in them, which I find strange. Why do they need to state they are being honest? Worse again is TBF which is usually followed by some biased statement.

"With all due respect..." followed by a deranged rant showing no respect.

SilentBee · 11-11-2020 4:05pm

lol I used to work with a lad like this. All his sentences started with a "believe you me mate" followed by the most ridiculous **** you can think of. good times.

Church on Tuesday · 11-11-2020 4:21pm

dxhound2005 wrote: »

A lot of posts have TBH in them, which I find strange. Why do they need to state they are being honest? Worse again is TBF which is usually followed by some biased statement.

Just a turn of phrase TBF.

PhilOssophy · 11-11-2020 4:25pm

CrabRevolution wrote: »

"With all due respect..." followed by a deranged rant showing no respect.

Beat me to it...."With respect...." followed by exactly what you say.

gozunda · 11-11-2020 4:27pm

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

Just a turn of phrase TBF.

True - there's a lot of in-built redundancy in everyday language. Speech or text can look quite stark without it

PhilOssophy · 11-11-2020 5:47pm

Is there anything to be said for "at the end of the day"?

.anon. · 11-11-2020 5:53pm

gozunda wrote: »

True - there's a lot of in-built redundancy in everyday language. Speech or text can look quite stark without it

Sure this is it. You know yourself.

Cee-Jay-Cee · 11-11-2020 6:18pm

Iscreamkone wrote: »

"You can trust me, my brother's a priest."
My first instincts were correct - this individual did not turn out to be trustworthy.

Better still " You can trust me, my father was a priest"

Arghus · 11-11-2020 6:21pm

Loads of straight shooters here on boards, according to themselves anyway.

py2006 · 11-11-2020 6:57pm

** wrong thread

11-11-2020 7:14pm

McGinniesta wrote: »

I don't like people. I have no real interest in making other people happy or sad.

I'm not a sociopath or a psycho but I have no interest in cushioning other people from the truth.

If I don't like someone then they'll be told straight to their face. I'd be so much happier if other did the same to me.

I have a different opinion to yourself when it comes to other people. I do like them and care about my impact on them. But I like the realness of your post. Authenticity with who we are is far far greater than platitudes and faux empathy.

Boards can be a really kind and supportive place at times. I've read posts from people going through a tough time and thought how lovely it was to see encouraging responses. I've done so myself. Yet I just wonder. It can feel like a bandwagon. One person offers sympathy, then everyone else does because they will feel rubbish to be the only person not.

I know people care of course and am aware how cynical my post must seem. It's just all the "thoughts and prayers* stuff makes me question the authenticity and the intent.

In saying all of that I haven't a clue what another's internal self is and shouldn't speculate on the intent of their message. After all I have reached out on here and done so from a place of giving a fùck about that person so why should others be different?

cannotlogin · 11-11-2020 7:49pm

I'm a straight shooter roughly translates to I've the emotional intelligence of a two year old, lack empathy, am blunt and aggressive, cannot compromise, think I'm always right and my opinion is the only one worth listening to, am arrogant and ignorant in equal measures and am an all round twat.

KaneToad · 11-11-2020 7:51pm

GreeBo wrote: »

Anything that anybody tells you about themselves is typically a lie.

No one who is actually "kind, honest, caring, brave, outspoken, etc, etc" actually has to bother to say that to people.

Anyone who tells people these things is to be avoided.

This is Facebook, in a nutshell.
"Look at me, how I want you to see me..."

11-11-2020 7:52pm

cannotlogin wrote: »

I'm a straight shooter roughly translates to I've the emotional intelligence of a two year old, lack empathy, am blunt and aggressive, cannot compromise, think I'm always right and my opinion is the only one worth listening to, am arrogant and ignorant in equal measures and am an all round twat.

"You don't want to cross me"

*rolls eyes*

dxhound2005 · 11-11-2020 7:56pm

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

Just a turn of phrase TBF.

gozunda wrote: »

True - there's a lot of in-built redundancy in everyday language. Speech or text can look quite stark without it

It's a turn of phrase of sorts, but it is telling the reader that there is no other opinion allowed except the one which is claimed to be fair. When it is accompanied by a statement which is unfair e.g. "TBF all Yanks are thick" it is not the proper turn of phrase.

Something like IMO (but certainly not TBH) would be better, and I do agree that without some of these turns of phrase text can look stark.

gozunda · 11-11-2020 8:09pm

dxhound2005 wrote: »

It's a turn of phrase of sorts, but it is telling the reader that there is no other opinion allowed except the one which is claimed to be fair. When it is accompanied by a statement which is unfair e.g. "TBF all Yanks are thick" it is not the proper turn of phrase.

Something like IMO (but certainly not TBH) would be better, and I do agree that without some of these turns of phrase text can look stark.

Well an obvious remedy to this - is to respond with the same use of language to make it an equitable playing field.

So simply start any relevant response using whatever phrase you belive they are using for one upmanship..or gloss over the comment. Whichever is suitable.

That said the normal usage of "tbh" or "tbf' is not literal in my experience

dxhound2005 · 11-11-2020 8:18pm

gozunda wrote: »

Well an obvious remedy to this - is to respond with the same use of language to make it an equitable playing field.

So simply start any relevant response using whatever phrase you belive they are using for one upmanship..or gloss over the comment. Whichever is suitable.

That said the normal usage of "tbh" or "tbf' is not literal in my experience

I sometimes respond with "I think your are being unfair", or "Thank you for your honesty". It might wake some of them up.

.anon. · 11-11-2020 9:26pm

"I'd do anything* for anyone"

*Terms and conditions apply. This depends on my availability, the nature of the request, whether or not I can be arsed and whether or not I can boast about what a good friend I am afterwards. If there's nothing in it for me, I'm afraid you're on your own.

meeeeh · 11-11-2020 9:31pm

'I'm a good person...' Usually said by someone who has nothing but bad things to say about others. You either are good person or you are not no need to advertise it.

Capt'n Midnight · 11-11-2020 10:37pm

"The louder he talked of his honor, the faster we counted our spoons,"
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

the purple tin · 11-11-2020 10:48pm

People that are always going on about how hard they work, run off my feet, I'm a busy man etc. are lazy, workshy spoofers.

People who tell you how honest they are

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