Songs you can't listen to because they are too emotional for you

DareGod · 17-12-2015 2:05am #1

2005 was probably one of the most emotional years for myself, personally (due to death and losses.) One of the biggest songs in my world that year was Coldplay's "Fix You." It's an emotional song already, without the added emotion of ones own situation. Anyway, any time I hear that song now, it's like being punched in the stomach, because it brings me right back to the situation I was in that year, and I cannot listen to it.

Are there any songs that do that to you? And why?

Gaygooner · 17-12-2015 2:06am

No matter what- played at my 14 year old cousins funeral after she was killed in an RTA

DareGod · 17-12-2015 2:06am

Gaygooner wrote: »

No matter what- played at my 14 year old cousins funeral after she was killed in an RTA

Jesus, that's rough

ArtSmart · 17-12-2015 2:08am

The Chicken Song

Gaygooner · 17-12-2015 2:08am

DareGod wrote: »

Jesus, that's rough

Hit an run in effect - upstanding member of the community - prick

The Backwards Man · 17-12-2015 2:09am

Cherish by Madonna

Playing in the background when I got the call my Ma died suddenly and then again when I got the call a good friend had committed suicide.

I can still listen to the song though, and I think it's pretty apt in fairness, just well up when I hear it.

Gaygooner · 17-12-2015 2:09am

She died in December too. She's now longer dead than she was alive. Still heartbreaking

ArtSmart · 17-12-2015 2:10am

Where do you go to my lovely.

Makes me wanna hit everyone and everything around me.

Fooking dreadful song.

Potential-Monke · 17-12-2015 2:10am

I find when i'm in the need of a good cry, i throw on Young@Heart's cover of Fix You:

The story behind it is necessary to get the full effect: the man singing used to do that song with his best friend for donkeys years, and he died shortly before this performance. Truly emotional stuff.

ArtSmart · 17-12-2015 2:11am

Wait -

My mellow is getting harshed here...

Colser · 17-12-2015 2:11am

Sam Smiths song Im not the only one,love it but cannot listen to it.:(

One eyed Jack · 17-12-2015 2:22am

Funeral song of a close friend. Still gets to me even listening to it now.

Diamond Doll · 17-12-2015 2:26am

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T8YCSJpF4g4

Me and my fiance used to listen to this and dream about the house and life and family we were going to build together.

Needless to say, it didn't work out!

It was a very happy carefree time, and it's hard to listen to the song now.

NachoBusiness · 17-12-2015 2:28am

Luther Vandross, Dance With My Father.

me_irl · 17-12-2015 2:29am

Opening this thread like....

...and leaving like.

The Backwards Man · 17-12-2015 2:30am

NachoBusiness wrote: »

Luther Vandross, Dance With My Father.

That'll be one for me some day too.

mckar · 17-12-2015 2:31am

In the arms of an angel - Sarah mclachlan

the evasion_kid · 17-12-2015 2:37am

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lgGKSjiw0HQ

Mesrine65 · 17-12-2015 2:40am

Cliché, but it is what it is...

PARlance · 17-12-2015 2:41am

Thread should have been saved until Christmas Day for maximum depression.

Mesrine65 · 17-12-2015 2:42am

PARlance wrote: »

Thread should have been saved until Christmas Day for maximum depression.

:pac::pac::pac:

Bongalongherb · 17-12-2015 2:43am

MyStubbleItches · 17-12-2015 2:43am

Two for me, first one was played at my younger brother's funeral at age 15. Losing My Favourite Game - The Cardigans. As someone else above said its like a punch in the stomach when I unexpectedly hear it.

Second one, Burn by Ray LaMontagne. My mother was diagnosed with cancer at 58 and died within 5 weeks and I used to play this driving home from the hospital. Never hear it on radio but it's in my music library and I haven't been able to play it since.

inthepit · 17-12-2015 2:44am

"July" Was on radio in borrowed AlphaRomeo as I went to nephews funeral,bright sunny song,bright sunny evening,dark dark day.
Lakes of Ponchatrain,always reminds me of a mate that passed away far too young.
Always a tear in my eye.

The Backwards Man · 17-12-2015 2:47am

Cheers OP, you have us all crying like onion peelers at a redundancy announcement.

inthepit · 17-12-2015 2:47am

"July" Was on radio in borrowed AlphaRomeo as I went to nephews funeral,bright sunny song,bright sunny evening,dark dark day.
Lakes of Ponchatrain,always reminds me of a mate that passed away far too young.He sang it so beatifully
Always a tear in my eye.

NachoBusiness · 17-12-2015 2:55am

The Backwards Man wrote: »

That'll be one for me some day too.

Funnily enough, I used to think (as a teenager / early twenties lout) that way whenever I heard the Mike & The Mechanics song, The Living Years when my Dad was still alive. That line, 'I wasn't there that morning, when my father passed away, I didn't get to tell him, all the things I had to say..' used to make me think, 'Jesus, one day I might hear that song and relate to it' and then I'd be extra nice to him.. for a half an hour or so :P

Azalea · 17-12-2015 3:08am

Mesrine65 wrote: »

Cliché, but it is what it is...

Ah jeez, yep - those are heartbreaking, especially if they have personal resonance... :-/

I think most people know Tears In Heaven is about Eric Clapton's little boy dying due to a fall from a high-rise building

but I only found out quite recently that Jesus To A Child is about George's partner dying of a brain haemorrhage a few years beforehand.

endacl · 17-12-2015 3:12am

Opened thread in anticipation of leaving a silly light-hearted response. Read posts.

Didn't.

The Backwards Man · 17-12-2015 3:13am

NachoBusiness wrote: »

Funnily enough, I used to think (as a teenager / early twenties lout) that way whenever I heard the Mike & The Mechanics song, The Living Years when my Dad was still alive. That line, 'I wasn't there that morning, when my father passed away, I didn't get to tell him, all the things I had to say..' used to make me think, 'Jesus, one day I might hear that song and relate to it' and then I'd be extra nice to him.. for a half an hour or so :P

Suppose this is the place to put this, my oul lad says to me recently that when he kicks out he wants to be cremated and his ashes scattered at sea, I says to him Jesus, you better put that in writing, because this is Donegal and people will say I'm just too mean to bury you, and he says, ah it'll be grand, you'll sort it out.

So anything by The Stranglers makes me misty at the minute:pac:

Azalea · 17-12-2015 3:13am

Bright Eyes by Art Garfunkel. Simply can't. It doesn't thankfully mean anything significant in my life but it's just such a heartbreakingly sad song IMO...

The Backwards Man · 17-12-2015 3:23am

Azalea wrote: »

Bright Eyes by Art Garfunkel. Simply can't. It doesn't thankfully mean anything significant in my life but it's just such a heartbreakingly sad song IMO...

Great tune, the kind that makes you hug any pet about the place. Maybe not a snake.

twowheelsonly · 17-12-2015 3:28am

This version of a Billy Joel classic..

Still very raw but my daughters' little girl was born sleeping last October and I stumbled across this whilst looking for suitable songs for a funeral service. Absolutely tears me apart but I love it and is a reminder of a beautiful life that could have been. Finding it very hard to listen to now and can only listen to it using headphones as everyone else erupts in tears if they hear it

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CjSix58CXQQ

https://youtu.be/CjSix58CXQQ

Canis Lupus · 17-12-2015 3:33am

the evasion_kid wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lgGKSjiw0HQ

BettePorter · 17-12-2015 3:36am

'Somethings gotta hold of my heart' Marc almond and gene pitney! Was number 1 the week my mother died and although it doesn't make ne sad as such, it takes me right back to that week and if I close my eyes I could be there in the moment again.

sunbeam · 17-12-2015 3:46am

Winter by Tori Amos. Reminds me of my dad who was diagnosed as terminally ill 20 years ago this Christmas.

https://youtu.be/_PDlGUdDF8Y

Bongalongherb · 17-12-2015 3:53am

endacl wrote: »

Opened thread in anticipation of leaving a silly light-hearted response. Read posts.

Didn't.

I slipped up there myself.

Thinking of the song that is too emotional to hear for myself is hard. If I find it from the locked memory modules of my brain I will post it.

Canis Lupus · 17-12-2015 3:58am

I cry every time.

hatrickpatrick · 17-12-2015 3:58am

Wildest Dreams by Taylor Swift. Listened to it when I was already in a fairly miserable pool of nostalgia for old flames and friends, so the whole theme of wondering if someone remembers you hits me right in the feels. And I dunno, the whole aspect of already knowing something is going to end badly before you even start, I'm not really sure but something about this song makes me bawww like a baby.

Grace Kelly by Mika is a silly one because it's not that emotional itself, but my first major crush danced with me to it and I never really got over her, so can't really hack that one either

XplaygirlX · 17-12-2015 4:13am

The rose & the wind beneath my wings by Bette midler. In the arms of an Angel by Sarah McLaughlin

CaliforniaDream · 17-12-2015 4:13am

My mother passed in August so a lot of songs make me cry at the moment, but my Dad had this song playing as her coffin was carried out of the church. It was the only song during the service and my heart breaks equally for my mother and my Dad being left alone.

XplaygirlX · 17-12-2015 4:15am

I'm in the exact same situation as you Californiadream. So sorry for your loss

KungPao · 17-12-2015 4:27am

After GTA Vice City came out (2002/3) I was on a Flock of Seagulls buzz. I went to visit my bro in the UAE, and his wife and son. For this trip I had a CD full of that band's MP3s to pass the time at lights out. Was a strange and wonderful trip looking back. Me being an awkward 21yo in the Middle East, visiting some of my family and staying in his great place. But shortly after, my bro's young son died. It really affected me.

To this day I can't listen to that band. I know it sounds funny...a flock of seagulls...but listening to them really brings me back to that time, which was the the last meaningful time I spent with my nephew.

Ruu · 17-12-2015 4:37am

Merry Christmas, Darling by the Carpenters. I was away from the missus one Christmas a few years ago. We are very attached to one another and it was very difficult being away at that time!

beyondbelief67 · 17-12-2015 4:42am

+1 for Mike and the mechanics the living years. I just can't listen to it without getting choked up, and wishing I had told my dad everything I wanted to say, but being a typical 16 year old and thinking he'd be around forever and him being only 39, unfortunately there was lots unsaid.

KungPao · 17-12-2015 4:58am

BettePorter wrote: »

'Somethings gotta hold of my heart' Marc almond and gene pitney! Was number 1 the week my mother died and although it doesn't make ne sad as such, it takes me right back to that week and if I close my eyes I could be there in the moment again.

That song has always haunted me (the original and Almond version) but has no personal emotional connection. The vocals and feelings are so strong.

PLL · 17-12-2015 5:00am

I have so many, can't remember at the moment, but music makes me very emotional and I associate it with many things.

I was at the funeral of my cousin's father (related through his mother) they've been divorced for years and I didn't know him very well but when this song got to the chorus it felt like I'd been punched, had to really hold the tears in so it didn't look like I was crying over a man I hardly knew, but the song made me think about the pain my cousin must be in. I just wanted to go collect my 4 year old and hold on very tight to her.

https://youtu.be/0n67dSG35L4

DareGod · 17-12-2015 5:12am

hatrickpatrick wrote: »

Wildest Dreams by Taylor Swift. Listened to it when I was already in a fairly miserable pool of nostalgia for old flames and friends, so the whole theme of wondering if someone remembers you hits me right in the feels. And I dunno, the whole aspect of already knowing something is going to end badly before you even start, I'm not really sure but something about this song makes me bawww like a baby.

Grace Kelly by Mika is a silly one because it's not that emotional itself, but my first major crush danced with me to it and I never really got over her, so can't really hack that one either

You'll probably be surprised but Grace Kelly by Mika, and his whole debut album in fact, is also a slightly emotional one for me - for similar reasons.

DareGod · 17-12-2015 5:16am

CaliforniaDream wrote: »

My mother passed in August so a lot of songs make me cry at the moment, but my Dad had this song playing as her coffin was carried out of the church. It was the only song during the service and my heart breaks equally for my mother and my Dad being left alone.

XplaygirlX wrote: »

I'm in the exact same situation as you Californiadream. So sorry for your loss

My greatest fear is my mother dying. I have no desire to continue living without her. I have no idea how people go on without their mothers. I suppose that having a lover/spouse/child helps. I have none of those things, and I have no desire to have any of those things right now. My point is: I have no idea how you guys do it. My own mother was extremely close to her mother, who died when my mam was in her mid 30s. Last year I asked my mam how she coped with losing her mother, who she was so close to. I can't really remember her response, probably because it wasn't the answer I was hoping for.

Try to ignore my ramblings. Long story short, I'm sure that losing ones mother is one of the toughest experiences in the world, and I hope that you guys are okay. Lets all be in this together.

CaliforniaDream · 17-12-2015 5:28am

XplaygirlX wrote: »

I'm in the exact same situation as you Californiadream. So sorry for your loss

Thanks. To say it sucks is a massive understatement. I'm sorry that you're going through it too.

DareGod wrote: »

My greatest fear is my mother dying. I have no desire to continue living without her. I have no idea how people go on without their mothers. I suppose that having a lover/spouse/child helps. I have none of those things, and I have no desire to have any of those things right now. My point is: I have no idea how you guys do it. My own mother was extremely close to her mother, who died when my mam was in her mid 30s. Last year I asked my mam how she coped with losing her mother, who she was so close to. I can't really remember her response, probably because it wasn't the answer I was hoping for.

Try to ignore my ramblings. Long story short, I'm sure that losing ones mother is one of the toughest experiences in the world, and I hope that you guys are okay. Lets all be in this together.

It's not something you can prepare for or imagine how you'd feel until it happens. I hope that day is as long in the future as possible for you. I'm going through a divorce as well so I don't have that support at home, nor do I have kids. I don't know if that's better or worse tbh, because it just truly sucks no matter what.
My mother was almost the same age as me when her mother passed away and because I wasn't born at the time, I never really asked her about it. She lost both parents and a brother by her mid-30's. I'm 30 this year and don't know how I'd cope if I was in her shoes. It just reminds me of how great a person she was and all I can do is live my life as best I can in her memory. She was far from a saint, but she loved life, laughed all the time and did her best.

Give your mother a cuddle the next time you see her.

DareGod · 17-12-2015 5:32am

CaliforniaDream wrote: »

Thanks. To say it sucks is a massive understatement. I'm sorry that you're going through it too.

It's not something you can prepare for or imagine how you'd feel until it happens. I hope that day is as long in the future as possible for you. I'm going through a divorce as well so I don't have that support at home, nor do I have kids. I don't know if that's better or worse tbh, because it just truly sucks no matter what.
My mother was almost the same age as me when her mother passed away and because I wasn't born at the time, I never really asked her about it. She lost both parents and a brother by her mid-30's. I'm 30 this year and don't know how I'd cope if I was in her shoes. It just reminds me of how great a person she was and all I can do is live my life as best I can in her memory. She was far from a saint, but she loved life, laughed all the time and did her best.

Give your mother a cuddle the next time you see her.

F**k. I don't know what to say to that. Thank you for your honesty and for your words. I wish you all the best. I hope you find strength somewhere.

Songs you can't listen to because they are too emotional for you

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