The Online Dating Thread Part II Mod Warning Read First Post/or Post 7389

Larianne · 09-02-2012 11:38am

Elessar wrote: »

Met another 'curvy' lady masquerading as a slim girl :mad:

When will this end??

I don't think it will to be honest. And I now understand why some guys ask to be added to Facebook as its the best way to see what someone is currently like.

Dovies wrote: »

Morning my online friends

2nd date last night - really good night, lovely restaurant etc and chatted all night BUT I still dont fancy him! Even after a couple of beers and had my beer goggles on I still thought nahhhh! HELP!!

Yes I know I have to say something etc etc but Im no good at taking my own advice!

Been there, done that. I wouldn't take it any further to be honest. Be upfront and honest and leave it at that.

lilyjclare wrote: »

No thats the problem he has sad nothing to me about going out on date.

Hmmm.. I understand most people online are doing a juggling act of talking to two or three people at once but he didn't have to mention the date at the weekend. Is it not kinda an unwritten rule of knowing people are talking to others but you don't mention it?

I'd probably say something like "well if it doesn't work out with the date, gimme a mail" and leave it there.

lilyjclare · 09-02-2012 12:21pm

Great advise - im going to send message and lets watch this space!

09-02-2012 12:54pm

I've met a few women who claim to have athletic/thin bodies when realistically they're far from it. But then again I'm guessing guys could do the same?

stargazer 68 · 09-02-2012 12:55pm

Deleted User wrote: »

I've met a few women who claim to have athletic/thin bodies when realistically they're far from it. But then again I'm guessing guys could do the same?

Hell yeah!! :eek:

Dravokivich · 09-02-2012 12:56pm

I say I'm average because I'm average height and my body fits my frame.

Larianne · 09-02-2012 12:59pm

Deleted User wrote: »

I've met a few women who claim to have athletic/thin bodies when realistically they're far from it. But then again I'm guessing guys could do the same?

I find guys lie more about their height. 5'10 my ass! :rolleyes: :pac:

stargazer 68 · 09-02-2012 12:59pm

One of the sites gives you a drop down menu on how good looking you are: Stunning, good looking, average and - cant remember the last one. I put average - wouldnt like to come across as big headed even though Im only fabilis!

:D:cool:

hollypink · 09-02-2012 1:04pm

Dovies wrote: »

One of the sites gives you a drop down menu on how good looking you are: Stunning, good looking, average and - cant remember the last one. I put average - wouldnt like to come across as big headed even though Im only fabilis! :D:cool:

I haven't seen that before - I wonder do many people select 'Stunning'!

Larianne · 09-02-2012 1:05pm

Dovies wrote: »

One of the sites gives you a drop down menu on how good looking you are: Stunning, good looking, average and - cant remember the last one. I put average - wouldnt like to come across as big headed even though Im only fabilis! :D:cool:

Really? :eek: Oh no.

stargazer 68 · 09-02-2012 1:06pm

hollypink wrote: »

I haven't seen that before - I wonder do many people select 'Stunning'!

Dont remember seeing any but definitely a lot of good lookings - matter of opinion I always say lol

09-02-2012 1:13pm

I think I put down athletic. I've a slim build, so I don't have an "average" body as such, but I'm not thin either.

I love the OKCupid options - with Jacked and Used Up.

Larianne · 09-02-2012 1:14pm

Deleted User wrote: »

I think I put down athletic. I've a slim build, so I don't have an "average" body as such, but I'm not thin either.

I love the OKCupid options - with Jacked and Used Up.

Is this a new thing?

09-02-2012 1:18pm

Larianne wrote: »

Deleted User wrote: »

I think I put down athletic. I've a slim build, so I don't have an "average" body as such, but I'm not thin either.

I love the OKCupid options - with Jacked and Used Up.

Is this a new thing?

Nope, don't think so. Noticed it there a while ago.

Evan La Crey · 09-02-2012 1:30pm

manafana wrote: »

had been chatting to gal, getting on well etc, arrange date bit down line as suited us both.

Sent her text midweek had been few days without chat, no response, 2days now no response, not sure what make of it going from all chatty to nothing, reckon might had good date and im not out picture.

I was chatting to a girl for about 2 weeks via an online dating site and we seemed to be getting on really well. Then all of a sudden, NOTHING. I waited, wondered. Was it something I said? Had she met someone else? Should send her a message asking what happened? What I did wrong, for future reference or something? I decided not to. To play it cool. That way I could only come out of it with my pride, or maybe, just maybe she'd eventually message me again and she'd have been on holidays or something.

And eventually, after another two weeks, she did reply, apologising for her lack of contact. Her laptop had broken and she had no other Internet access. Now, a month later, things have really progressed and we are going out and I'm so glad I played it cool.

So that's my tip for you here: play it cool. There might be an explanation. But if you keep texting her you might come across too desperate and you'll lose her anyway.

I hope there is an explanation and it works out for you. Good luck.

starlit · 09-02-2012 1:38pm

Larianne wrote: »

Is this a new thing?

Seems to be. Didn't spot that the last time I were on OkC. What does it actually mean though american terms I suppose. Jacked up and used up???

Misticles · 09-02-2012 1:41pm

I put average. I'm not fat and I'm not skinny. So I reckon average. I have gained a few since the job gave me expenses when I was in London but am actively trying to get rid of it!

Larianne · 09-02-2012 1:46pm

Misticles wrote: »

I put average. I'm not fat and I'm not skinny. So I reckon average. I have gained a few since the job gave me expenses when I was in London but am actively trying to get rid of it!

I've average down myself.

I think it's quite subjective though. But some people do take the píss a little. :pac:

09-02-2012 2:12pm

What bemuses me is when women have "athletic"/"thin" put down and yet have photos up that clearly show they aren't.

awec · 09-02-2012 2:14pm

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Larianne · 09-02-2012 2:23pm

awec wrote: »

Thankfully don't have this issue, 6'3. :cool: :pac:

Good for you! :pac: I may be slightly taller than 5'10 myself. :cool: But I think guys round up their heights a teeny bit!

Cravez · 09-02-2012 2:27pm

Thought id throw in my experience

Was a lurker of this thread for a while a couple of months back, was interesting to get everyone's experiences regarding online dating. Gave it a go (POF) and had been contacting members and them to me, not much luck on either side of things.

Came across a profile of a girl I was interested in, had loads of similar interests and she was gorgeous too. Sent her an e-mail, not a reply

I didn't want to be the kind of person who would be chasing people up on messages, but I was really keen on getting a reply from this girl and thought she was just getting flooded with mails (which was the case

). I re-sent her another mail and attached a gift to the mail so it would standout from the rest, which worked and she read the mail and replied and we setup a date.

Long story short we've been going out 3 months and things are going great. Was her birthday and the 3 month dating mark on the same day just at the weekend and we are both keen so far

. It was my first online date too and having being someone who has had confidence issues for most of my life I'm glad my first date in a long time was with someone I clicked with

In a nutshell, always luck out there for someone in finding someone they click with, no matter how you may 'think' you feel about yourself in terms of confidence

Beefy78 · 09-02-2012 2:28pm

awec wrote: »

Thankfully don't have this issue, 6'3. :cool: :pac:

Short-arse.

6'5 :P

awec · 09-02-2012 2:30pm

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ecoli · 09-02-2012 2:48pm

Have to say I put down athletic myself I know there are alot of people who put this down but doing athletics for the past 14 years on a regular basis (10+ sessions a week) I think I qualify right?:D

In terms of height as a few people have mentioned I think this tends to be the male equivalent of the body type and from speaking to girls in the past there is a general consensus among alot of them that you need to take 1"-2" off what ever they say when men say there height which is kinda silly at the end of the day its better to be smaller and honest than seem taller and be a liar. Says more about a mens character by lying

(Looks nervously at my own profile and this is probably a tiny bit generous to:D)

Larianne · 09-02-2012 2:51pm

Michael C - that's a great little story. Delighted for ya!

Itwasntme. · 09-02-2012 2:59pm

Ha. Had no clue about the rule of taking off an inch or two-went on a date and the 5' 9 was a tad shorter than me and I wasn't even in heels. Lesson learned.

If I am going to be subjected to a public declaration of my weight- FFS man up and say you're not that tall. It's okay. Loads of little petite wimmins out there tailor made to suit you and if you're into taller girls, well, Sarkozy has the right idea with the shoe lifts. :-)

KTRIC · 09-02-2012 3:56pm

It seems to be that a lot and I mean a lot of Irish men over estimate their height. I'm 6ft 4 (193cm) and a broad build (not fat :rolleyes:) and get it regularly from smaller guys that tell me I'm not 6ft 4 at all, I must be taller / smaller.

Larianne · 09-02-2012 4:15pm

KTRIC wrote: »

It seems to be that a lot and I mean a lot of Irish men over estimate their height. I'm 6ft 4 (193cm) and a broad build (not fat :rolleyes:) and get it regularly from smaller guys that tell me I'm not 6ft 4 at all, I must be taller / smaller.

Yep. Dunno what measuring tapes they be using!

Maguined · 09-02-2012 4:41pm

KTRIC wrote: »

It seems to be that a lot and I mean a lot of Irish men over estimate their height. I'm 6ft 4 (193cm) and a broad build (not fat :rolleyes:) and get it regularly from smaller guys that tell me I'm not 6ft 4 at all, I must be taller / smaller.

I do this all the time, I am 6ft even and guys that are between 0-2 inches taller its fine but whenever someone tells me they are 6'3 or more I always guess wrong as it feels they should be taller than what they look.

That_Guy · 09-02-2012 5:05pm

Was chatting to a girl over the weekend on POF. All was going well until the crazies took hold of her and she went on saying how lonely she was and how I was the last hope for her to ever be in a relationship. :eek:

I sent a message back with the following:

"Meep meep"

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Looking back now it was a bit dickish to send that.

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