May 2021

okeydokeys22 · 23-09-2020 9:08am #1

Hi all,

Beeen waiting a while for a may thread but no sign of one so I'll get the ball rolling.

Will be 8 weeks in Thursday, due may 5th, first baby.

The last 3 weeks have been dreadful for nausea but it seems to have eased off the last few days.

Had an early scan last at 7+1 and could see the heart beat fluttering away ☺

rosie087 · 23-09-2020 3:19pm

I'm glad you started one, I've been lurking around!

I was 8 weeks yesterday, due on May 4th and it's also my first baby! Had an early pregnancy scan yesterday and all went well.

Feeling pretty brutal myself, I'm nauseous most of the time and absolutely exhausted. I had been taking Pregnacare supplements in the morning and then read that they can make you feel worse so now take them before bed - things have definitely improved but hoping this all clears up after 12 weeks!

okeydokeys22 · 23-09-2020 3:28pm

rosie087 wrote: »

I'm glad you started one, I've been lurking around!

I was 8 weeks yesterday, due on May 4th and it's also my first baby! Had an early pregnancy scan yesterday and all went well.

Feeling pretty brutal myself, I'm nauseous most of the time and absolutely exhausted. I had been taking Pregnacare supplements in the morning and then read that they can make you feel worse so now take them before bed - things have definitely improved but hoping this all clears up after 12 weeks!

I stopped taking the pregnacare a few days ago as I swore they were making my nausea worse. I feel so much better have stopped taking them. I'm just taking regular folic acid now and eating well.

GingerLily · 24-09-2020 1:07am

Hi! I'm 8 weeks today (dlp 30th July), I think that makes me due on the 12th? I'm getting an early Scan in 2 weeks so hopefully they'll be able to help me see if my dates are correct (I feel I'm off?)

I've had no real nausea, I'm worried that it's a bad sign, but my breasts are so sore, killing me for the past 3 weeks at least.

I'm still taking my fertility vitamins, the manufacturer said you should use them up, I think they seem to have everything you need for the first trimester? Definitely enough Folic Acid anyway, I double checked that.

Is anyone else going for a private scan so you can have a partner with you? I booked mine today, I had thought they might ease up restrictions but it's looking less likely where I am (Dublin).

Thanks for starting the thread, I was also chicken!

okeydokeys22 · 24-09-2020 9:06am

GingerLily wrote: »

Hi! I'm 8 weeks today (dlp 30th July), I think that makes me due on the 12th? I'm getting an early Scan in 2 weeks so hopefully they'll be able to help me see if my dates are correct (I feel I'm off?)

I've had no real nausea, I'm worried that it's a bad sign, but my breasts are so sore, killing me for the past 3 weeks at least.

I'm still taking my fertility vitamins, the manufacturer said you should use them up, I think they seem to have everything you need for the first trimester? Definitely enough Folic Acid anyway, I double checked that.

Is anyone else going for a private scan so you can have a partner with you? I booked mine today, I had thought they might ease up restrictions but it's looking less likely where I am (Dublin).

Thanks for starting the thread, I was also chicken!

Yes I went for a private early scan last weekend with my husband, he was allowed in and it was fantastic for him to see the heartbeat. There's lots of private clinics that offer them in Dublin, approx €100. Just check that your partner is allowed in as they each have different restrictions.

I'm public in the rotunda so as it stands he won't be allowed into the 12 week scan but will be allowed into the 20 week scan. That's subject to the situation not changing so fingers crossed.

Has anyone told anybody their news yet? I'm finding it increasingly difficult to hide with parents/siblings and feel maybe I should just tell before family start guessing.

There's only so many times a gal can turn down a glass of vino without rasing suspicion!

rosie087 · 24-09-2020 10:22am

okeydokeys22 wrote: »

Has anyone told anybody their news yet? I'm finding it increasingly difficult to hide with parents/siblings and feel maybe I should just tell before family start guessing.

There's only so many times a gal can turn down a glass of vino without rasing suspicion!

I'm brutal, I couldn't keep it in at all! Both our families know, and I've blabbed to a couple of friends... everytime I see someone I have to give myself a pep talk to stay quiet!

I also got a private scan this week in Ultrasound Ireland and they were allowing partners in once they lived in the same household and hadn't been abroad etc.

okeydokeys22 · 24-09-2020 6:09pm

rosie087 wrote: »

I'm brutal, I couldn't keep it in at all! Both our families know, and I've blabbed to a couple of friends... everytime I see someone I have to give myself a pep talk to stay quiet!

I also got a private scan this week in Ultrasound Ireland and they were allowing partners in once they lived in the same household and hadn't been abroad etc.

Yeah it is really difficult to stay quiet. Especially after you have an early scan, its almost like you think your at 12 weeks because you've seen the heartbeat and they say everything is fine but just have to remind myself it's still so early.

I think I'll tell parents siblings this weekend though. The way I look at it is that God forbid, anything bad happens they'll be told then anyway as I'll need support.

xeroshero · 24-09-2020 10:01pm

Hi ladies... I'm technically due at start of June but this is 3rd baba, had 2 section previously so this will be a May baba I'm sure.... hope ye dont mind me gate crashing!

rosie087 · 25-09-2020 11:57am

okeydokeys22 wrote: »

I think I'll tell parents siblings this weekend though. The way I look at it is that God forbid, anything bad happens they'll be told then anyway as I'll need support.

Enjoy the big reveal! But yeah I think it's fine to tell the people who would be your support network.

@xeroshero you're very welcome! Congrats on pregnancy no. 3!

Aurian_loh · 27-09-2020 12:05pm

Hi all, I'm a bit of a long time lurker on boards but figured I finally had a good reason to actually sign up and get active.

I'm 7 weeks today with our first so everything is very new. Thankfully no crazy symptoms yet. Just a little achy and tired. But then again I always feel tired so no big change.

We told our immediate family this weekend because we needed to tell someone but that will be it for a while. Helps when we are both working from home these days and dont see anyone.

Looking forward to hanging out with everyone for the next few months.

okeydokeys22 · 27-09-2020 4:23pm

Aurian_loh wrote: »

Hi all, I'm a bit of a long time lurker on boards but figured I finally had a good reason to actually sign up and get active.

I'm 7 weeks today with our first so everything is very new. Thankfully no crazy symptoms yet. Just a little achy and tired. But then again I always feel tired so no big change.

We told our immediate family this weekend because we needed to tell someone but that will be it for a while. Helps when we are both working from home these days and dont see anyone.

Looking forward to hanging out with everyone for the next few months.

Welcome and congratulations!

Crazy how fast this first trimester Is going already. Won't be long until our 12 week scansðŸ˜€

GingerLily · 30-09-2020 10:29am

Hows everyone's morning sickness? Mine came on for the first time after ordering a cheeky pizza, I think pepperoni is now going to be band from the house for the next 8 months, I get waves of it still, crackers and carby meals help a lot.

Don't think I'm as bad as most, fingers crossed it doesn't get too bad!

GingerLily · 30-09-2020 10:33am

Is anyone else getting sensitive gums or changes in their mouth? I've some issues anyway (partial erupting wisdom tooth, had it 10 years at this stage), but it's very irritated lately. I've a dentist visit anyway next week (booked since before I was pregnant) so I'm not too worried, but wondering if others have noticed any gum/mouth changes yet?

rosie087 · 30-09-2020 11:38am

GingerLily wrote: »

Is anyone else getting sensitive gums or changes in their mouth? I've some issues anyway (partial erupting wisdom tooth, had it 10 years at this stage), but it's very irritated lately. I've a dentist visit anyway next week (booked since before I was pregnant) so I'm not too worried, but wondering if others have noticed any gum/mouth changes yet?

Haven't noticed any changes in my gums but my sickness isn't great. I'm grand in the mornings but from about 3pm onwards I'm in bits. Not actually vomiting, the nausea is just brutal.

Counting down the days till 12 weeks and hoping it improves then

GingerLily · 30-09-2020 12:11pm

rosie087 wrote: »

Haven't noticed any changes in my gums but my sickness isn't great. I'm grand in the mornings but from about 3pm onwards I'm in bits. Not actually vomiting, the nausea is just brutal.

Counting down the days till 12 weeks and hoping it improves then

What foods do you find help with your nausea?

I'm having a few crackers now, beige food is generally what I feel safe eating, but trying to eat fish though for the omega oils, harder this last week

Aurian_loh · 30-09-2020 6:38pm

GingerLily wrote: »

Hows everyone's morning sickness? Mine came on for the first time after ordering a cheeky pizza, I think pepperoni is now going to be band from the house for the next 8 months, I get waves of it still, crackers and carby meals help a lot.

Don't think I'm as bad as most, fingers crossed it doesn't get too bad!

Thankfully I don't seem to have any nausea. Was a little the week after my missed period but once I did the test and confirmed I was positive it seems to have eased off. Almost like my body was just waiting for me to notice I was pregnant. Fingers crossed it stays that way.

okeydokeys22 · 30-09-2020 8:36pm

rosie087 wrote: »

Haven't noticed any changes in my gums but my sickness isn't great. I'm grand in the mornings but from about 3pm onwards I'm in bits. Not actually vomiting, the nausea is just brutal.

Counting down the days till 12 weeks and hoping it improves then

I'm the same, not vomiting but the nausea is relentless. It's like having the hangover from hell without the alcohol. Just an all day extreme quesyness.

I'm also finding it hard work brushing my teeth, the toothbrush keeps making me gag! It would be funny if it wasn't so awful. And as for mouthwash, no chance!

rosie087 · 01-10-2020 9:30am

okeydokeys22 wrote: »

I'm the same, not vomiting but the nausea is relentless. It's like having the hangover from hell without the alcohol. Just an all day extreme quesyness.

I'm also finding it hard work brushing my teeth, the toothbrush keeps making me gag! It would be funny if it wasn't so awful. And as for mouthwash, no chance!

I obviously jinxed myself yesterday, the vomiting hit me. The hangover from hell is definitely what it feels like.

I'm a bit concerned about work, I'm working from home which is great but I was so bad yesterday I ended up calling in sick, which obviously isn't going to be sustainable.

@Aurian_loh glad you're not suffering and hopefully it stays that way for you, that would be great!

GingerLily · 01-10-2020 9:47am

rosie087 wrote: »

I obviously jinxed myself yesterday, the vomiting hit me. The hangover from hell is definitely what it feels like.

I'm a bit concerned about work, I'm working from home which is great but I was so bad yesterday I ended up calling in sick, which obviously isn't going to be sustainable.

@Aurian_loh glad you're not suffering and hopefully it stays that way for you, that would be great!

I completely emphasis with you, early pregnancy feels just like a hangover, a long hangover. Can't wait for the second trimester, I get pockets of good energy but the minute I'm too productive my nausea sets in again

Working from home is a god send for me, I wouldn't be able to get through it otherwise, I'm under so much pressure at work and it's all due end of this month, not ideal but at least after this is done I can tell them I'm pregnant and can't take on the workload I used to.

MissElle · 01-10-2020 3:09pm

Hi all!

Thanks for setting up the thread (I was hanging around keeping an eye out for one ). I’m 9 weeks tomorrow on my first pregnancy. Got discharged by my fertility clinic so anxiously waiting for my booking visit. Feeling sick most days and the tiredness a killer! But happy and excited also. Hope everyone feeling ok

okeydokeys22 · 01-10-2020 3:16pm

MissElle wrote: »

Hi all!

Thanks for setting up the thread (I was hanging around keeping an eye out for one ). I’m 9 weeks tomorrow on my first pregnancy. Got discharged by my fertility clinic so anxiously waiting for my booking visit. Feeling sick most days and the tiredness a killer! But happy and excited also. Hope everyone feeling ok

Welcome and congratulations on your pregnancy. We were trying to conceive for 13 months and had just undergone the initial fertility tests when I found out I was pregnant.

I admit to being very naive thinking it would just happen for us. I count my blessings every day that it happened in the end, I have the utmost respect and admiration for couples that have serious difficulty conceiving.

Aurian_loh · 03-10-2020 7:24pm

Today the tiredness has really hit with a bang. We had some shopping to do in town and halfway through I just wanted to go home and did not care about anything. Came home and went straight to bed for a nap where I have been since.

Then I got all weepy because I had told my husband I would cook dinner but I just dont have the energy. He however typically was not worried at all and told me that's what weekends are for, being lazy.

Think I'm also getting a cold so that isn't helping with the overall feeling of eugh!!!!

okeydokeys22 · 05-10-2020 3:40pm

Aurian_loh wrote: »

Today the tiredness has really hit with a bang. We had some shopping to do in town and halfway through I just wanted to go home and did not care about anything. Came home and went straight to bed for a nap where I have been since.

Then I got all weepy because I had told my husband I would cook dinner but I just dont have the energy. He however typically was not worried at all and told me that's what weekends are for, being lazy.

Think I'm also getting a cold so that isn't helping with the overall feeling of eugh!!!!

Having day like that myself today. Did the food shop early this morning, and by the time I got back home, I brought the shopping in, sat at the kitchen table and had a little cry from pure exhaustion and just general lack of energy. Starting to feel like ill never feel like myself anymore.

It's like I need a rest after every little simple household chore I do.

9+4 today so roll on this 12 week energy resurgence

FA101 · 05-10-2020 8:09pm

Hey everyone ðŸ‘‹

I am 9w1d today, billionth pregnancy but no living children yet. Had a scan last week at 8w3d and all looked good. I am suffering with this persistent preggo hangover business, its awful however I never had sickness with previous pregnancies so I'm hoping this is a good sign!

I'm booked for NIPT test on Thursday, Panorama. Hopefully not too early, and that the turnaround time for results is quick enough!

How is everyone else?

gigglybits · 06-10-2020 12:50pm

Hi

8 weeks here, had early scan just after 6 weeks and everything looked good. Like you FA101, I'm feeling the preggo hangover with nausea and much tiredness.

Have tried registering for the Domino's Scheme by email but i just keeps bouncing back, has anybody else managed to register?

rosie087 · 06-10-2020 2:30pm

FA101 wrote: »

Hey everyone &#55357;&#56395;

I am 9w1d today, billionth pregnancy but no living children yet. Had a scan last week at 8w3d and all looked good. I am suffering with this persistent preggo hangover business, its awful however I never had sickness with previous pregnancies so I'm hoping this is a good sign!

I'm booked for NIPT test on Thursday, Panorama. Hopefully not too early, and that the turnaround time for results is quick enough!

How is everyone else?

I'm sorry for your loss with the other babies and have everything crossed for you that this one will be the one! Hopefully the sickness is a good sign that everything's working as expected!

gigglybits wrote: »

Hi

8 weeks here, had early scan just after 6 weeks and everything looked good. Like you FA101, I'm feeling the preggo hangover with nausea and much tiredness.

Have tried registering for the Domino's Scheme by email but i just keeps bouncing back, has anybody else managed to register?

You've just reminded me that I need to get the skates on and try and register for this, will let you know if I have the same issues.

I'm 10 weeks today and the nausea has subsided a bit but I'm still exhausted, hope you're all keeping well!

GingerLily · 06-10-2020 3:42pm

gigglybits wrote: »

Hi

8 weeks here, had early scan just after 6 weeks and everything looked good. Like you FA101, I'm feeling the preggo hangover with nausea and much tiredness.

Have tried registering for the Domino's Scheme by email but i just keeps bouncing back, has anybody else managed to register?

What's the Domino's Scheme?

Edit: I just checked, I didn't even consider that tbh! My health insurance give me half back from consultation fees and covers the birth so I just went semi private, having my first official scan in 2 weeks. My family seem to have okay pregnancies but quite nightmarish birth stories so I always assumed I'd be safest in the hospital, my sister and mum have the same frame as me!

rosie087 · 06-10-2020 3:52pm

GingerLily wrote: »

What's the Domino's Scheme?

It's an option if you're going public, it's a combined midwifery and GP led maternity service so your appointments are done through them rather than consultants. You would have some of your appointments in local clinics rather than the main hospital.

I think it's only available in certain areas/hospitals and you have to be considered a low risk pregnancy but it might be worth looking into - http://www.nmh.ie/pregnancy/community-midwifery-service.13604.html

*Edit: Just realised that link above is only for Dublin but google Domino and your area/hospital and you should find out more if it's available.

GingerLily · 06-10-2020 3:54pm

First scan is on Friday, it's an early scan, doing it privately so my husband can be there, I've not seen anyone yet officially about my pregnancy so it'll feel official then!
NIPT testing next week and my 12 week scan the week after, really worried I've got my dates wrong because I'm a late ovulator so I might be a week behind what my calculator is telling me, hopefully it won't matter too much.

gigglybits · 06-10-2020 8:45pm

I didn't manage to get in on Dominos scheme on last child, they have a limited number of places and book up rapidly. I just really like the thoughts of a comfortable room, with my music, lights down low and a midwife that I have met before (in Holles Street). I think they encourage a drug free birth but you still have the option (totally not how first birth went!) However, I probably don't qualify as I am now considered geriatric!

Hope everyone is feeling well.

Porklife · 09-10-2020 6:47pm

Hi guys, hope it's ok to swing by and say hello.
I found out a week ago that I'm 6 weeks pregnant. Had my first scan to confirm and all is well. I have a constant mild headache/heavy headed feeling and severely chapped lips which is apparently common enough.
They say its dehydration but I'm drowning myself with water and juices!
My bf flipped when he found out and actually moved out:(
Heartbreaking but I can't let it upset me at this crucial stage. I need to be strong and know in my heart things happen for a reason and I...or should I say we..me and little one..will be ok.
Hope everyone is feeling ok this evening. I miss vino!!!

GingerLily · 09-10-2020 9:38pm

Porklife wrote: »

Hi guys, hope it's ok to swing by and say hello.
I found out a week ago that I'm 6 weeks pregnant. Had my first scan to confirm and all is well. I have a constant mild headache/heavy headed feeling and severely chapped lips which is apparently common enough.
They say its dehydration but I'm drowning myself with water and juices!
My bf flipped when he found out and actually moved out:(
Heartbreaking but I can't let it upset me at this crucial stage. I need to be strong and know in my heart things happen for a reason and I...or should I say we..me and little one..will be ok.
Hope everyone is feeling ok this evening. I miss vino!!!

Hi! I read your thread on PI and my heart broke for you

Nice to see you hear though, I can totally empathise with all the pregnancy symptoms - I nap almost every day after work, and headaches are getting starting!

Giving up wine was easier than I thought, after a week or so I didn't want it

FA101 · 10-10-2020 8:54am

rosie087 wrote: »

I'm sorry for your loss with the other babies and have everything crossed for you that this one will be the one! Hopefully the sickness is a good sign that everything's working as expected!

Thanks Rosie087 ðŸ˜Š I did the Panorama and the scan looked good for that! Hangover days are reducing too so I feel better.

Has anyone gained weight already? I've put on almost 10lbs, but probably eating way more to help the nausea. Freaked out because if I keep on this path I'm going to have a lot of work to do once bub is born!!

GingerLily · 11-10-2020 10:58am

I had my first scan on Friday, I'm 9 weeks rather than 10 apparently, kind of knew that (I was tracking my ovulation).

I keep looking at the pics and videos, got a short 3 second clip of the jelly bean doing a little shimmy and it's adorable

anyone else obsessed too? So nice to see the baby exists, until now it's only been the symptoms!

So hard not tell tell people, soon though, soon

Porklife · 11-10-2020 10:08pm

GingerLily wrote: »

I had my first scan on Friday, I'm 9 weeks rather than 10 apparently, kind of knew that (I was tracking my ovulation).

I keep looking at the pics and videos, got a short 3 second clip of the jelly bean doing a little shimmy and it's adorable anyone else obsessed too? So nice to see the baby exists, until now it's only been the symptoms!

So hard not tell tell people, soon though, soon

Aww doing a little shimmy

That's lovely Ginger, very happy for you. I'm feeling positive and happy today for the first time since I found out. No reason other than its pretty amazing to be growing a little human being even if it is without the dad. Big love to all

LegacyUser · 12-10-2020 10:02am

Posting here as anon; too chicken to use my real account. Im a Dad here, an excited long term boards user.

We are actually due in very early June, but we had many complications with number 1 [who came naturally at 38 weeks] and also "geriatric" in pregnancy terms - So no chance at all they let us go to term.

We have had 2 confirmed pregnancies that ..er.. had issues well along the line since we had number 1, so fingers and toes crossed here that things work out. The other half is being super dooper conscious to avoid stress and we are being very on point with eating well and what not.

GingerLily · 27-10-2020 5:07pm

I'm 12 weeks this week, excited to start telling people, told my in-laws last week just before lockdown

What's everyone doing about telling people on lockdown? I'm going to tell my siblings this week on a zoom, but I think I might wait until I see my wider circle of friends to make it "official".

I found out my Rhesus Negative so have to have another blood test to find out what the baby is, husband is positive so who knows! Anyone other negative bloods types here?

Also found out my NIPT results, I'm low risk for everything which was great news.

gigglybits · 27-10-2020 6:32pm

Congrats GingerLily, that's brilliant news. How long did it take for results to come back?

I'm 12 weeks soon and would struggle to hide the belly/boobs at this stage, they have shot out this time round, however I have not seen friends outside of zoom in the past month so it doesn't matter.

We haven't figured out how we will tell people yet, probably family over phone and friends with a funny picture on WhatsApp.

GingerLily · 27-10-2020 7:12pm

gigglybits wrote: »

Congrats GingerLily, that's brilliant news. How long did it take for results to come back?

I'm 12 weeks soon and would struggle to hide the belly/boobs at this stage, they have shot out this time round, however I have not seen friends outside of zoom in the past month so it doesn't matter.

We haven't figured out how we will tell people yet, probably family over phone and friends with a funny picture on WhatsApp.

8 days only for the results, we expected another week as they have to go to the US, it ended up being good timing as we got the results the same day as my 12 week scan and the last day before lockdown so we just knew we should tell the in laws (my mom's passed away, no parents on my side to tell).

I know what you mean, I look a stone bigger even though I actually am 3 kgs lighter than I was 2 months ago. My tummy is much bigger but unfortunately it looks just like lockdown weight at the moment and not pregnancyðŸ€£ I'm excited for an obvious bump

gigglybits · 27-10-2020 10:44pm

Yes, I've lost half a stone while looking much bigger. I've found wearing maternity tops definitely makes me look pregnant whereas baggy tops were just making me look a bit overweight. It will be a relief to let everyone know and just embrace showing the pregnancy bump.

8 days is a good turn around, I should have mine by next week so.

Thankfully the initial tiredness and morning sickness has mostly disappeared. I wouldn't say energy levels are 100% but I seem to get a lot done in the morning before slowing down in the afternoon.

rosie087 · 28-10-2020 4:34pm

I wasn't expecting to lose weight but am also down a few kgs. The nausea is pretty much gone but I'm still exhausted come 6pm, early to bed every night or I'm a right nightmare to be around.

I'm on the Domino scheme now so had my first appt with a midwife yesterday at 13 weeks, waiting on the results of my bloods now (I should know what my blood type can't remember for the life of me). Got my Harmony results back and all are low risk so I'm delighted.

Told my parents and my partners parents recently, but don't know how to tell friends really. It's our first and feels a bit weird to just text them, and I'm not usually a caller!

I'm not sure when to say it to work, how much notice do they need?

GingerLily · 28-10-2020 7:09pm

rosie087 wrote: »

I'm not sure when to say it to work, how much notice do they need?

I told my manager, just to explain why I had been sick one week for two seperate reasons. You should inform them about attending appointments as its paid leave, so I'm telling my manager about my appointments but I refuse to discuss maternity leave until the new year!

I'm in no rush to announce to work in general, hoping nearer Christmas to announce as we're so busy right now, I think it'll be nicer in December

Speaking of leave, we should qualify for the increased 'Parents Leave', which will be amazing, 5 extra weeks of leave and benefits

Aurian_loh · 02-11-2020 1:48pm

I have reached the 12th week. And I have my first hospital appointment next week. Very excited for that to make it a little more real. Going for a private scan a week after that so my husband can see also. He is understandably not too thrilled about missing out.

I told my closest friends last month. Was supposed to meet in person and tell them then but the gradual covid restrictions put an end to that so settled for a video call instead. Will now rely on my mam to spread the word along the family gossip line ðŸ˜‚ðŸ˜‚ðŸ˜‚ðŸ˜‚

bri007 · 02-11-2020 3:08pm

Will we meet the criteria for the 5 weeks leave with benefits for May birth? As the guidelines are only coming into effect from April 2021?

GingerLily wrote: »

I told my manager, just to explain why I had been sick one week for two seperate reasons. You should inform them about attending appointments as its paid leave, so I'm telling my manager about my appointments but I refuse to discuss maternity leave until the new year!

I'm in no rush to announce to work in general, hoping nearer Christmas to announce as we're so busy right now, I think it'll be nicer in December

Speaking of leave, we should qualify for the increased 'Parents Leave', which will be amazing, 5 extra weeks of leave and benefits

GingerLily · 02-11-2020 6:09pm

bri007 wrote: »

Will we meet the criteria for the 5 weeks leave with benefits for May birth? As the guidelines are only coming into effect from April 2021?

Mums qualify from April 2021-
Maternity leave (26 weeks paid and 16 weeks unpaid) must start before due date
Parents leave (5 weeks paid) must be taken in first 2 years
Parental leave (26 weeks unpaid) taken for first 12 years

Partners qualify for -
Paternity leave (2 weeks) first 6 months
Parents leave (as above)
Parental leave (as above)

*paid leave means you should get benefits from the government, employer may or may not pay you also

It's very confusing but that's how I've worked it all out, if anyone wants to correct me please so

**EDITED to remove the error about parent leave

andreac · 02-11-2020 8:01pm

Those 5weeks parents leave are for babies born after nov 2019 not April 2021. But it only comes into affect from April 2021. Hope that helps

bri007 · 03-11-2020 9:58am

Thanks, that’s great. Initially my girlfriend was worrying that I will only get the two weeks and have to use up all annual leave when the baby is born.

It will be great to get the 5 weeks and not affect holiday leave.

andreac · 03-11-2020 10:35am

bri007 wrote: »

Thanks, that’s great. Initially my girlfriend was worrying that I will only get the two weeks and have to use up all annual leave when the baby is born.

It will be great to get the 5 weeks and not affect holiday leave.

Yeah those 5 weeks are great and don't forget about your paternity leave too of 2 weeks. So you get 7 then altogether :-)

bri007 · 03-11-2020 10:53am

That’s brilliant, thanks for your help. I forgot about the other 2 weeks, 7 weeks will be a great. That has just made my day thanks a mill

andreac wrote: »

Yeah those 5 weeks are great and don't forget about your paternity leave too of 2 weeks. So you get 7 then altogether :-)

Tatevik · 04-11-2020 5:26pm

Hi all, I'm also due in May, this is my first pregnancy after almost 4 years trying to conceive. I'm 14 weeks on Saturday and due on the 8th of May. Had my first scan in the Rotunda on Friday and all good, was so amazing to see the baby and hear the heartbeat. Told family and friends over the weekend so it feels very real now!! We're both over the moon

No morning sickness at all thank god, just feel a bit nauseous from time to time when I'm hungry so been snacking a lot more than I usually do. Hoping I stay feeling well throughout the pregnancy! I'm signed up for the Domino scheme, they made the appt for me at my booking visit so all good

rosie087 · 05-11-2020 1:02pm

Tatevik wrote: »

Hi all, I'm also due in May, this is my first pregnancy after almost 4 years trying to conceive. I'm 14 weeks on Saturday and due on the 8th of May. Had my first scan in the Rotunda on Friday and all good, was so amazing to see the baby and hear the heartbeat. Told family and friends over the weekend so it feels very real now!! We're both over the moon No morning sickness at all thank god, just feel a bit nauseous from time to time when I'm hungry so been snacking a lot more than I usually do. Hoping I stay feeling well throughout the pregnancy! I'm signed up for the Domino scheme, they made the appt for me at my booking visit so all good

Congratulations! I'm also on the Domino scheme, I'm really impressed so far!

May 2021

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