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18 and unmotivated

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  • #52
    seamus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 68,317 ✭✭✭✭seamus


    Naggdefy wrote: »
    I might have been a bit like that at 13/14 but by 18 you'd have grown out of that.
    You'd be the exception then in my experience. There are very few "go-getters" in the under-23 cohort on a weekend morning. Unless they're young parents you won't hear from them before lunchtime. Without a job to go to, most days are just another Saturday.

    The only time I was unemployed was for about a month when I was 21. I stayed in bed till 12 and stayed up till 2/3am. Because I could.


  • #53
    Naggdefy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,981 ✭✭✭Naggdefy


    seamus wrote: »
    You'd be the exception then in my experience. There are very few "go-getters" in the under-23 cohort on a weekend morning. Unless they're young parents you won't hear from them before lunchtime. Without a job to go to, most days are just another Saturday.

    The only time I was unemployed was for about a month when I was 21. I stayed in bed till 12 and stayed up till 2/3am. Because I could.

    I suppose there was no choice in my house either. We got up early and worked, it was expected, tough love but wouldn't have it any other way :)

    We were loved and I had great parents.


  • #54
    beauf
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,648 ✭✭✭✭beauf


    Naggdefy wrote: »
    I suppose there was no choice in my house either. We got up early and worked, it was expected, tough love but wouldn't have it any other way :)....

    You may not have realized it but that was only possible because you co-operated.
    Regardless of how reluctantly.


  • #55
    beauf
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,648 ✭✭✭✭beauf


    seamus wrote: »
    You'd be the exception then in my experience. There are very few "go-getters" in the under-23 cohort on a weekend morning. Unless they're young parents you won't hear from them before lunchtime. Without a job to go to, most days are just another Saturday.

    The only time I was unemployed was for about a month when I was 21. I stayed in bed till 12 and stayed up till 2/3am. Because I could.

    There is a difference being mostly unmotivated, and being unmotivated about everything.


  • #56
    AckwelFoley
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,556 ✭✭✭✭AckwelFoley


    Naggdefy wrote: »
    I suppose there was no choice in my house either. We got up early and worked, it was expected, tough love but wouldn't have it any other way :)

    We were loved and I had great parents.

    My motivation was always not by how much my mother shouted, but how little my father shouted. Pretty much driven to not disappoint him, make him proud of me.

    I'm a grown man now and probably still the same.


  • #57
    Naggdefy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,981 ✭✭✭Naggdefy


    beauf wrote: »
    You may not have realized it but that was only possible because you co-operated.
    Regardless of how reluctantly.

    We weren't reluctant though. We enjoyed it. We felt proud to do our work well and make our parents proud too. We had our own cattle etc. Myself and my brother loved outdoor work, the tougher the better.


  • #58
    Naggdefy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,981 ✭✭✭Naggdefy


    AckwelFoley wrote: »
    My motivation was always not by how much my mother shouted, but how little my father shouted. Pretty much driven to not disappoint him, make him proud of me.

    I'm a grown man now and probably still the same.

    Agreed.

    We were actually never shouted at. An example was given and you followed.


  • #59
    beauf
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,648 ✭✭✭✭beauf


    I think its hard to understand someone being unmotivated, if you've never suffered with it, or had to deal with someone suffering from it.


  • #60
    AulWan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,653 ✭✭✭AulWan


    I think some of the answers are a little harsh. Not everyone has figured out what they want to do with their lives by the age of 18, nor is everyone is motivated by money, or even the prospect of earning money. Some people are only motivated by what sparks an interest in them, whether that is cars, or something else.

    I'd go back to the issue of putting him on the car insurance. I'd put him on it with the strict condition that he has to pay for his own insurance, and if he is not passed his test yet, it might motivate him to do so as in the interim he'll only be able to drive with a fully insured driver. if he defaults on paying it, tell him you will let his part lapse.

    Driving is something he does want to do, so give him a chance. Which could then lead to him wanting to move to the next stage and buy his own car.... and so it goes ....


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  • #61
    HildaOgdenx
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 7,369 Mod ✭✭✭✭HildaOgdenx


    By chance I saw somewhere that the ESB is recruiting apprentices nationwide shortly, OP.
    I have nothing to do with them, but I believe they are a good employer.

    https://www.esbnetworks.ie/careers/apprenticeships


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