How old would you date?

Arduach · 24-01-2021 2:23pm

44 year old male. 34-48 age group. And no covert narcissists like my last relationship, seriously wreck your head.

Irish_rat · 24-01-2021 3:01pm

KathleenGrant wrote: »

Need to know or would like to know? There is a difference.

Haha. Well you said 20 years younger it would be interesting to know. Maybe tell us what they're age was ðŸ˜…

Irish_rat · 24-01-2021 3:02pm

LilacNails wrote: »

Went out with someone 10yrs older than me. Kinda want them back.

Do tell us. What are they doing now?

Hellokitty1212 · 24-01-2021 3:06pm

IAMAMORON wrote: »

My nerves are exhausted after the amount of touching they got last night.

They were kept fervently busy by my divine 27 year old lover. She rocks.

She may rock but she fictional!

Sam Hain · 24-01-2021 3:07pm

purifol0 wrote: »

Dating - half my age plus 7

Riding - half my age (I wish)

Don't think a 14 year old should be posting on this subject.

Sam Hain · 24-01-2021 3:08pm

Irish_rat wrote: »

Do tell us. What are they doing now?

Someone sexier.

99nsr125 · 24-01-2021 3:11pm

AdrianBalboa wrote: »

My husband and I discussed this a few weeks ago. The traditional view is very misogynistic: it’s considered alright, in the media, if some greasy middle aged man is creeping on younger women. Especially so if his wife is portrayed as some shrew or, forgive me for using a disgusting term, a “Karen” shrilly henpecking him in rollers while waving a rolling pin.

Alternatively if a woman is involved with a younger man she is accused of being some demented sex pervert à la Samantha in SATC, “mutton dressed as lamb” or a cougar (there is no equivalent term for a man). Ephebophilia is excusable if the elder of the couple involved is a male.

I may have strayed in the past with younger men but that was a long time ago, we have had marriage counselling and we need to move on. I warned my husband that if he ever considered leaving me for a young one that I would ride him so hard in the courts all he would have left are the ****ing fillings in his teeth. We’re in our early forties.

It's a hardwired biological drive

Younger women are more fertile

Great double standard there by the way

chrissb8 · 24-01-2021 3:45pm

No older than 5 years really tbh (I'm early 30's). I mean I would go and have a fling with someone even older than that and probably push it out to 50 in that case. But as far as having a relationship, I couldn't see it working. The emotional and maturity difference would be markedly different.

.anon. · 24-01-2021 3:49pm

chrissb8 wrote: »

No older than 5 years really tbh

I don't like to be judgmental, but that's awfully young.

Intuitive · 24-01-2021 3:55pm

Plumbthedepths wrote: »

I’d view a 30 year old (male/female) dating a 17 year old as a predator.

So would I to be honest. It may be legal but it ain't right. Too much of a power imbalance there

Tauriel · 24-01-2021 4:03pm

Hellokitty1212 wrote: »

Celine Dion and her now late husband. 12 too - never sat well with me that.

I think it's the same with Mary-Kate Olsen and her ex-husband.

BuboBubo · 24-01-2021 4:03pm

In my mid 40s. If himself left I'd consider 35 - 55. I'm female.

Church on Tuesday · 24-01-2021 4:06pm

Hellokitty1212 wrote: »

She may rock but she fictional!

Just like all the other accounts.

SCOOP 64 · 24-01-2021 4:09pm

When you get over 50 you keep all options open.

BattleCorp · 24-01-2021 4:25pm

Hellokitty1212 wrote: »

Celine Dion and her now late husband. 12 too - never sat well with me that.

Catherine Ryan does a great skit on that relationship.

SCOOP 64 · 24-01-2021 4:34pm

Hellokitty1212 wrote: »

Celine Dion and her now late husband. 12 too - never sat well with me that.

28 year age difference,she was 18 when they were a item he was 46, just makes you wonder what it was she seen in the older man,
say he was delighted.

Hellokitty1212 · 24-01-2021 4:36pm

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

28 year age difference,she was 18 when they were a item he was 46, just makes you wonder what it was she seen in the older man,
say he was delighted.

It has the whiff of grooming about it to me - it may not be that but you get an uneasy feeling.

Antares35 · 24-01-2021 4:46pm

I think age gaps are only really relevant where one party to the relationship is young. I had a relationship with a man who was in his late fifties when I was thirty. It had nothing to do with a lack of self esteem as someone implied earlier. You can fall in love with the person, as I did. I liked the fact that he was mature and didn't fúck around with game playing etc. In the end we broke up for reasons unrelated to the age gap but I don't regret the time we had together, it was a very happy period in my life.

Being honest yes I did occasionally worry that if we settled down and had children, that the probability was those children might lose their dad young, and that was a worry for me, but I don't think you can just assume any woman with an older man is a gold digger and any man with a younger woman is a predator. Those are such tired old clichés.

breezy1985 · 24-01-2021 4:53pm

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

28 year age difference,she was 18 when they were a item he was 46, just makes you wonder what it was she seen in the older man,
say he was delighted.

My issue with this kinda thing is you only have the couple's word that it was all kept nice and innocent till she came of age like as if a switch was flicked when she turned 17 or whatever and suddenly they were attracted to the girls and they weren't at least being seedy before hand.
Personally I don't know how you can come to fancy someone you knew since they were 12 and you an adult.

As I type this MJs "You are not alone" comes on the radio

pgj2015 · 24-01-2021 5:29pm

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

28 year age difference,she was 18 when they were a item he was 46, just makes you wonder what it was she seen in the older man,
say he was delighted.

I wouldn't be. why would a 46 year old want to be in a relationship with an 18 year old?

Thats very creepy.

BattleCorp · 24-01-2021 5:34pm

pgj2015 wrote: »

why would a 46 year old want to be in a relationship with an 18 year old?

Because an 18 year old chassis is usually in better nick than a 46 year old one. There are exceptions though, but these aren't that common.

Seriously though, how could a 46 year old put up with listening to an 18 year old. They'd wreck your head.

Edgware · 24-01-2021 5:38pm

lucalux wrote: »

I know one guy who seriously considered breaking up with his (13 years younger than him) girlfriend, because her sex drive was too high

Oooh Matron!

pgj2015 · 24-01-2021 5:40pm

BattleCorp wrote: »

Because an 18 year old chassis is usually in better nick than a 46 year old one. There are exceptions though, but these aren't that common.

Seriously though, how could a 46 year old put up with listening to an 18 year old. They'd wreck your head.

she still only 18, thats not right. like imagine introducing her to your parents or even friends.

BattleCorp · 24-01-2021 5:44pm

pgj2015 wrote: »

she still only 18, thats not right. like imagine introducing her to your parents or even friends.

T'wud be strange alright. The wife wouldn't be mad about me doing something like that.

That said, Celine Dion did stay with yer man for donkey's years until he died. So who knows.........true love n all that.

Hellokitty1212 · 24-01-2021 5:58pm

BattleCorp wrote: »

T'wud be strange alright. The wife wouldn't be mad about me doing something like that.

That said, Celine Dion did stay with yer man for donkey's years until he died. So who knows.........true love n all that.

Oh I have no doubt it was true love for her from the start, it was Rene’s motives early in that makes me a tad queasy unfortunately.

pgj2015 · 24-01-2021 6:05pm

BattleCorp wrote: »

T'wud be strange alright. The wife wouldn't be mad about me doing something like that.

That said, Celine Dion did stay with yer man for donkey's years until he died. So who knows.........true love n all that.

fcuk that love $hite man.

24-01-2021 7:11pm

Hellokitty1212 wrote: »

Oh I have no doubt it was true love for her from the start, it was Rene’s motives early in that makes me a tad queasy unfortunately.

Sex, just like every other relationship.

Hellokitty1212 · 24-01-2021 7:13pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Sex, just like every other relationship.

She was 12 - that was my concern.

purifol0 · 24-01-2021 7:29pm

Sam Hain wrote: »

Don't think a 14 year old should be posting on this subject.

Well folks we've eliminated rascism and sexism but ageism is just fine it seems.

breezy1985 · 24-01-2021 7:32pm

purifol0 wrote: »

Well folks we've eliminated rascism and sexism but ageism is just fine it seems.

It's probably best 14yos don't come on here telling us how old they are willing to go in case some adults on here start getting ideas

ILoveYourVibes · 24-01-2021 8:03pm

purifol0 wrote: »

Well folks we've eliminated rascism and sexism but ageism is just fine it seems.

im not ageist ..i just wonder would i have a lot in common with a person with much of an age diff ...dunno

could we relate?

purifol0 · 24-01-2021 9:28pm

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

im not ageist ..i just wonder would i have a lot in common with a person with much of an age diff ...dunno

could we relate?

Uhuh so where'd you get the idea that I'm 14 anyway?

Galwayguy35 · 24-01-2021 9:47pm

Late 30s to early 50s.

Galwayguy35 · 24-01-2021 9:48pm

AdrianBalboa wrote: »

My husband and I discussed this a few weeks ago. The traditional view is very misogynistic: it’s considered alright, in the media, if some greasy middle aged man is creeping on younger women. Especially so if his wife is portrayed as some shrew or, forgive me for using a disgusting term, a “Karen” shrilly henpecking him in rollers while waving a rolling pin.

Alternatively if a woman is involved with a younger man she is accused of being some demented sex pervert à la Samantha in SATC, “mutton dressed as lamb” or a cougar (there is no equivalent term for a man). Ephebophilia is excusable if the elder of the couple involved is a male.

I may have strayed in the past with younger men but that was a long time ago, we have had marriage counselling and we need to move on. I warned my husband that if he ever considered leaving me for a young one that I would ride him so hard in the courts all he would have left are the ****ing fillings in his teeth. We’re in our early forties.

Rocky must be thanking his lucky stars hw wakes up beside you every morning.

24-01-2021 10:13pm

Hellokitty1212 wrote: »

She was 12 - that was my concern.

There was no relationship when she was 12.

Qwertyminger · 24-01-2021 10:18pm

Yeah the 12 year old was just resting in his house

KathleenGrant · 24-01-2021 11:21pm

IAMAMORON wrote: »

My nerves are exhausted after the amount of touching they got last night.

They were kept fervently busy by my divine 27 year old lover. She rocks.

The one thing i have learned is that the more a person needs to impress you about their sex lives the more chance it is make believe.

KathleenGrant · 24-01-2021 11:26pm

Irish_rat wrote: »

Haha. Well you said 20 years younger it would be interesting to know. Maybe tell us what they're age was ðŸ˜…

He was 34. I was more than 20 years older..
Still same age difference believe it or not.

YellowLead · 24-01-2021 11:29pm

KathleenGrant wrote: »

He was 34. I was more than 20 years older..
Still same age difference believe it or not.

Full blown relationship or just shagging?

Leg End Reject · 24-01-2021 11:31pm

KathleenGrant wrote: »

He was 34. I was more than 20 years older..
Still same age difference believe it or not.

This is like one of those maths riddles. X is 4 years older than Y, Y is 10 years older than C, but Z is twice the combined age of X and Y. How old is C?

*scratches head*

The Inbetween is mine · 24-01-2021 11:33pm

Leg End Reject wrote: »

This is like one of those maths riddles. X is 4 years older than Y, Y is 10 years older than C, but Z is twice the combined age of X and Y. How old is C?

*scratches head*

Kathleen is 59 ?

Do I get a gold star?!

KathleenGrant · 24-01-2021 11:40pm

YellowLead wrote: »

Full blown relationship or just shagging?

A bit in between. I know we both had a very strong emotional connection but i would never openly date him. It was very physical though.I'd like to think i gave him a lot but i also taught him a lot. I know he wasn't young and he may have had experience before me but he was very definitely lacking in expertise. I am pretty sure the next woman was happier because of me.

KathleenGrant · 24-01-2021 11:41pm

The Inbetween is mine wrote: »

Kathleen is 59 ?

Do I get a gold star?!

You do. **** but that is older than i thought i would ever admit to here.

24-01-2021 11:50pm

Caspian Ugly Pennon wrote: »

my tinder age range for the ladies is 27-36, and them to have no kids.....

Must be slim pickings with the no kids rule?

IAMAMORON · 25-01-2021 1:47am

KathleenGrant wrote: »

The one thing i have learned is that the more a person needs to impress you about their sex lives the more chance it is make believe.

In fairness Kay the best sexual partners that I ever had were less keen to judge.

I am a hard station.

You know for a fact the best ride you ever had was a tale unexpected.

bb1234567 · 25-01-2021 2:11am

I'm very open minded about ages but I've always ended up being interested in and getting on well with guys my own age, back when I was dating. Even if I was in the mood to get with a guy much older which sometimes was something that aroused me I would have always somehow just ended up gravitating to/hitting it off with a guy who usually happened to be about bang on my age..no matter whether it was online, at a club whatever. Overall of the guys I'd tend to be attracted to and potentially would want to date ,90% seems to fall in the 20-28 age range, I'm 24. Although I find lots of guys anywhere from 18-50 hot.

KathleenGrant · 25-01-2021 9:28am

IAMAMORON wrote: »

In fairness Kay the best sexual partners that I ever had were less keen to judge.

I am a hard station.

You know for a fact the best ride you ever had was a tale unexpected.

I don't understand what you mean by that last sentence.

rapul · 25-01-2021 9:34am

Moronic post is all Kathleen!

pickarooney · 25-01-2021 9:39am

AdrianBalboa wrote: »

My husband and I discussed this a few weeks ago. The traditional view is very misogynistic: it’s considered alright, in the media, if some greasy middle aged man is creeping on younger women. Especially so if his wife is portrayed as some shrew or, forgive me for using a disgusting term, a “Karen” shrilly henpecking him in rollers while waving a rolling pin.

Alternatively if a woman is involved with a younger man she is accused of being some demented sex pervert à la Samantha in SATC, “mutton dressed as lamb” or a cougar (there is no equivalent term for a man). Ephebophilia is excusable if the elder of the couple involved is a male.

I may have strayed in the past with younger men but that was a long time ago, we have had marriage counselling and we need to move on. I warned my husband that if he ever considered leaving me for a young one that I would ride him so hard in the courts all he would have left are the ****ing fillings in his teeth. We’re in our early forties.

Why, in your first example do you describe the man as 'greasy' and 'creeping' and in the second simply as 'woman' and 'involved' and claim that the first one is all right but not the second?

'cougar' is not a negative term. 'sugar daddy' a little more so.

Court cases involving male and female teachers having sex with students completely contradict your assertion.

You having an affair being acceptable while your husband doing the same is in unforgivable offence just piles hypocrisy on top of the double standard and outright lies of the rest of your post.

Tig98 · 25-01-2021 9:40am

As a gay 23 year old my range is 21 to 30. Generally by the time a man is 30 you can tell if he takes care of himself or not, its a good indication of the future.

We all know the "half your age plus seven" for dating younger, any rule of thumb for the other way?

How old would you date?

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