' I don't do Valentines'

jam_mac_jam · 13-02-2020 4:52pm

We usually get cards and a small present for each other. A book or some nice cakes or something like that. Its nice to mark the occasion.

Going out for dinner tomorrow which i haven't done in years but it's a fairly small place so can't imagine it will be too crazy.

Bawnmore · 13-02-2020 5:02pm

I picked up card I know my wife will find funny. Will cook a nice dinner once the kids are in bed and that'll be us.

DaeryssaOne · 13-02-2020 5:05pm

Raconteuse wrote: »

Ah yes, heard of that the other day.

It's for single women who act all feisty and "I don't need no man because I'm a strong independent woman" but who are actually freaked to bits about it and need to come up with something on 14th February to make themselves feel better.

I don't think that's the gist of it at all, AFAIK it was dreamt up on Parks & Recreation where all the girls met up on the 13th of February for lunch to celebrate their friendship.
Basically a bit like a women's little christmas!

We don't overly celebrate Valentines in that the absolute last thing we would want to do would be to go out for dinner on the night which is a nightmare but we tend to get each other cards and some years will get each other small presents.

partyguinness · 14-02-2020 10:56am

The only people that I can tell that give a monkeys about Valentines are:-

- love sick teenagers
- retailers hoping to sell us more tat
- single women

mariaalice · 14-02-2020 11:35am

when all is said and done
what counts is having someone
you can phone at five to ask
for the immersion heater
to be switched to ‘bath’
and the pizza taken from the deepdreeze

Dennis O’Driscoll

14-02-2020 11:35am

partyguinness wrote: »

The only people that I can tell that give a monkeys about Valentines are:-

- love sick teenagers
- retailers hoping to sell us more tat
- single women

- Unmarried males in their 40s who are still active with dating.

mariaalice · 14-02-2020 11:42am

Married for years got a bunch of roses champagne and two little bars of choclate fifties and sixties.

andekwarhola · 14-02-2020 11:44am

If both people don't bother, fair enough but one person making a moral stand about buying a little gift or a card is a bit cringe.

I usually get herself a card and small gift from the kids for it and vice versa as they like the whole surprise thing.

andekwarhola · 14-02-2020 11:48am

Just picturing anybody saying hallmark doing a showy inverted commas hands gesture and looking like Rik from the Young Ones.

El_Duderino 09 · 14-02-2020 11:48am

andekwarhola wrote: »

If both people don't bother, fair enough but one person making a moral stand about buying a little gift or a card is a bit cringe.

I usually get herself a card and small gift from the kids for it and vice versa as they like the whole surprise thing.

Gift doesn’t have to be bought. Part of my gift will be to have the house cleaned top to bottom when she gets in so she doesn’t have to do any cleaning this weekend. We normally split the households jobs and she usually ends up doing more cleaning. So part of my gift to her will be a clean house and a weekend off cleaning.

andekwarhola · 14-02-2020 11:51am

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

Gift doesn’t have to be bought. Part of my gift will be to have the house cleaned top to bottom when she gets in so she doesn’t have to do any cleaning this weekend. We normally split the households jobs and she usually ends up doing more cleaning. So part of my gift to her will be a clean house and a weekend off cleaning.

I'm just so hallmark, I know. I do try in my own muddled way.

05eaftqbrs9jlh · 14-02-2020 11:53am

evil_seed · 14-02-2020 12:31pm

deise08 wrote: »

So I've just been told this by the lad I'm seeing, turns out the last lad I was seeing a few years ago also 'didn't do Valentine's' either.
I've never had a Valentine's, so just wondering how common is this?

I work in retail and know that all our stuff is sold by the time the day comes around, so someone does it :-D

So do ye fine people of AH do Valentines or do I just get bogeys?

My wife and I have never celebrated it. Why use one day to show how much you love each other when you can use 364 (365 this year) other days.

We're constantly picking up little surprises for each other. Way better than one flipping day

Lucy8080 · 14-02-2020 12:35pm

Lads,seriously,is there no romance left anymore?

Chocolate and a surprise will melt any womans heart this fine day!

Kinder egg = 1 Euro ,in a supermaket near you. Thank me later.

lawred2 · 14-02-2020 12:38pm

deise08 wrote: »

So I've just been told this by the lad I'm seeing, turns out the last lad I was seeing a few years ago also 'didn't do Valentine's' either.
I've never had a Valentine's, so just wondering how common is this?

I work in retail and know that all our stuff is sold by the time the day comes around, so someone does it :-D

So do ye fine people of AH do Valentines or do I just get bogeys?

neither myself and my wife engage in it

It's for gullible idiots and self indulgent women

14-02-2020 12:47pm

ThewhiteJesus wrote: »

A Taxi man once told me he calls it st Vaselines day as it’s the only day of the year the wife takes it in the swiss !!

Thanks for that!

partyguinness · 14-02-2020 12:48pm

Lucy8080 wrote: »

Lads,seriously,is there no romance left anymore?

Chocolate and a surprise will melt any womans heart this fine day!

Kinder egg = 1 Euro ,in a supermaket near you. Thank me later.

Think of the environment. Kinder eggs are a disgrace.

Doctors room ghost · 14-02-2020 12:50pm

partyguinness wrote: »

Think of the environment. Kinder eggs are a disgrace.

Cream egg and you can use the tin foil wrap as an electric fuse if you’re stuck.no waste

deise08 · 14-02-2020 7:09pm

Is it too early to start on the wine

Redneck Reject71 · 14-02-2020 7:23pm

deise08 wrote: »

Is it too early to start on the wine

Never too early for wine,by all means uncork that bad boy and have at it,heh.

14-02-2020 7:27pm

Wine ot

lawred2 · 14-02-2020 7:32pm

Buckled and gave in to the rampant consumerism...

Five euro mug... She's delighted.

Edgware · 14-02-2020 7:37pm

Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »

Men typically dont care for it, sorry because it's seen as men making the effort and women getting the spoils.

You could causually remind him of steak-and-blowjob-day with a wink and a hint and see if that's gets him to put in the effort.

And you could give her a facial

Millicently · 14-02-2020 7:41pm

We haven't done Valentine's Day for years but Monday I got home to a lovely bouquet of roses and today when I got home there was a beautiful card. Nice surprise.

deise08 · 14-02-2020 7:44pm

Aw, see i knew there was someone out there that did it

Redneck Reject71 · 14-02-2020 7:45pm

I don't know why some people are against Valentine's Day, it's a celebration of love and those you love. It shouldn't have strings attached to it and forget the whole commercial side of it.My two cents,let the bashing begin,heh.

Graces7 · 15-02-2020 8:48am

an odd choice is St Valentine as he was martyred... Ask wiki!

The chan chan man · 15-02-2020 8:54am

Its nice to celebrate everything. You get one go at this life, don’t waste it being too cool to enjoy the little things.

...Unfortunately my wife started a massive row last night so that was that..

El_Duderino 09 · 15-02-2020 11:16am

The chan chan man wrote: »

Its nice to celebrate everything. You get one go at this life, don’t waste it being too cool to enjoy the little things.

...Unfortunately my wife started a massive row last night so that was that..

Sorry to hear that. Bit of a bummer if you were gearing up for a romantic evening. Hopefully she comes to her senses. The spirit of St valentine and all that.

Homelander · 15-02-2020 11:26am

It's not hard to make an extra special effort on the day to show some appreciation. Go out for a nice meal, get your partner a small box of chocolates, whatever. It's really the thought that counts, "I don't do valentines" is a bit lazy to be honest.

deise08 · 15-02-2020 11:41am

So he meant it when he said he 'doesn't do it.'
Not even a happy Valentine's text.
I thought, being our first together, it would be nice to actually do something, but no, nothing.
Now, I wasn't expecting a dozen roses, or a big night out or anything. Having never had one before, even a card would've been nice.
Just to mark it.
I was all ready for it until he said it.
Oh well, his loss.

KathleenGrant · 15-02-2020 11:47am

deise08 wrote: »

So he meant it when he said he 'doesn't do it.'
Not even a happy Valentine's text.
I thought, being our first together, it would be nice to actually do something, but no, nothing.
Now, I wasn't expecting a dozen roses, or a big night out or anything. Having never had one before, even a card would've been nice.
Just to mark it.
I was all ready for it until he said it.
Oh well, his loss.

So he was honest and upfront but his loss?

deise08 · 15-02-2020 12:16pm

KathleenGrant wrote: »

So he was honest and upfront but his loss?

He only told me the day before.

KathleenGrant · 15-02-2020 12:19pm

deise08 wrote: »

He only told me the day before.

But he told you before, not on the day.
Did you tell him it mattered to you?
Did you do something for him?
But mostly did you tell him it mattered?

PhilOssophy · 15-02-2020 12:57pm

Time to move on : Do you do Pancake Tuesday? Paddy's Day? The pubs are open on Good Friday which is 1 less cause for fake outrage.....

Yester · 15-02-2020 1:12pm

PhilOssophy wrote: »

Time to move on : Do you do Pancake Tuesday? Paddy's Day? The pubs are open on Good Friday which is 1 less cause for fake outrage.....

I'm outraged that the pubs are open on Good Friday. It takes the good out of it when it's legal.

Bunny Colvin · 15-02-2020 1:27pm

Homelander wrote: »

It's not hard to make an extra special effort on the day to show some appreciation. Go out for a nice meal, get your partner a small box of chocolates, whatever. It's really the thought that counts, "I don't do valentines" is a bit lazy to be honest.

This. I could leave it but I know my gf likes it so it's flowers, card and chocolates. Ten minutes in Tesco solves it. Also went to her favourite restaurant on Thursday. I enjoyed the meal as well so hardly a big sacrifice there.

Snails pace · 15-02-2020 1:30pm

I made the mistake of taking the line "i don't want anything" literally. I was driving into town for a meal with her and she pulls out a card and a small box of chocolates and I felt like crashing the car. Went for food and she is cross with me because i didn't get her anything. I better take note for next year.

Tony EH · 15-02-2020 5:08pm

deise08 wrote: »

So I've just been told this by the lad I'm seeing, turns out the last lad I was seeing a few years ago also 'didn't do Valentine's' either.
I've never had a Valentine's, so just wondering how common is this?

I work in retail and know that all our stuff is sold by the time the day comes around, so someone does it :-D

So do ye fine people of AH do Valentines or do I just get bogeys?

Pretty common.

Don't do it myself after a period of doing it. But it's rip off day for gobshites. The Mrs. agrees. She's even more opposed than I am.

Panthro · 15-02-2020 6:22pm

I do it.
And I FACKIN LOVE IT!!!!

Nothing beats a trip to tesco, standing awkwardly with my fellow mankind, looking at flowers with not one simple Sally clue what I'm looking at. Succumbing to the only real differential, the price. Nothing too cheap nothing too expensive. Because fcuk that. Mid range. Can't set the standard too high. Never a good thing.

On next to the oul card utopian paradise, pink and glitter everywhere. Jesus.
My fellow mankind stands next to me. ("hey, I recognise you from earlier. Went with the cheapest flowers option I see. Someone's not getting the royid tonight.. Hehe.. Cnut")

Pick a card, any card. "my wonderful husband".. I'm close but not quite the section I'm looking for.. Wife, we're getting closer. She's not me wifey yet. Feel silly getting a girlfriend card after all these years.. "to a wonderful partner" that'll do it!
Boom picked! Three quid for a fcukin card. Daylight robbery. Oops better pick up an envelope. Let's get a massive one instead of the correct size. Because Fcuk you hallmark.

Over to the chocolates section. Now I want something that I'm going to like because I'm tearing into a few of em at some stage. One layer? Balls to that. 2 layers. Awesome. Jobs done. wait, a tenner?! Ah here. Let's walk down the aisle a bit. Surely there's an offer on somewhere. 3pack a jaffa cakes... Could I get away with it...? Probably not.
Back to overpriced chocolates it is.

And over to checkout. Big smile from yer wan behind the till.
"Someone's in for a treat tonight!" she exclaims. And not for the first time that hour no doubt.

"Ara yeah fcuk it, figured I might as well treat myself given the day that's in it" says I.

Boom. She doesn't know how to respond. That'll teach her.

Total time. 8mins 42seconds.

See you again next year valentines day.
You saucey saucey mare.

' I don't do Valentines'

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