Tinder weight filter

DivingDuck · 30-10-2018 3:49pm

Jackman25 wrote: »

A bugbear of mine, but I hate when people describe other people, particularly their partners as amazing.
The dictionary definition of amazing is "causing astonishment, great wonder, or surprise". That applies to very very few people.

It does only apply to few people, but it's subjective rather than objective.

If your partner doesn't seem amazing to you specifically, you're with the wrong person.

Jackman25 · 30-10-2018 4:01pm

esme95 wrote: »

Do you go around nit picking and analysing everything everyone says? It's a commonly used expression, get over it.

Nope, that stuff just bugs me. Like the words "legend" and "epic" have lost all meaning due to stupid clickbaity nonsense over-hyping stuff.

ginandtonicsky · 30-10-2018 4:04pm

Bigbagofcans wrote: »

Men are quite conscious about their height especially when a girl is looking for a 'tall dark and handsome man'.
I saw on a woman's dating profile before: 'No short men, no bald men and no Asian men, thanks'.

:pac::pac::pac:

Bit of casual racism there ftw.

It's got to be the absolute worst way of promoting yourself, leading with something like that, how lacking in self-awareness and self-respect do you need to be like?

On the male side, I used to see a sizeable amount of "no drama queens" and "not looking for a pen pal, only message me IF YOU WANT TO MEET UP" from guys on dating apps in the past. Fair enough, I get the point like, but jesus who wants to be around that kind of relentless negativity and grumpiness? It just conjures up images of being on a date with a total bore, like this guy

m5ex9oqjawdg2i · 30-10-2018 4:08pm

PapaOscar wrote: »

Release the hounds

Release the rounds...

I'll get my goat...

seamus · 30-10-2018 4:12pm

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

Bit of casual racism there ftw.

Is it though, really?

You're talking about attraction, physical attraction. An individual cannot really change what they find physically attractive. Obviously it's only a minor part of attraction overall; a great personality will overcome almost any unattractiveness.

But when you're talking about dating sites, first impressions are everything, and you're going to find it hard to go on a date with someone you find unattractive and think, "Ah sure I'll give them a shot". Whether that's because they're fat, skinny, small, tall, Asian, Irish.

Better off being honest and upfront about who shouldn't really waste their time.

I understand the optics of it, and it seems a bit cocky to say, "Only handsome people, please".

But at the same time I'm not going to judge someone who says they don't find, <insert race here> attractive. If someone said, "Persian women are the best" or "Italian men are the most attractive", it's not considered racism. So I don't see the issue the other way around.

chrissb8 · 30-10-2018 4:14pm

Bigbagofcans wrote: »

chrissb8 wrote: »

Met my current GF off tinder. Had weight on her, didn't care because she was just an amazing person and I was attracted to her as result of that.

Why describe her as current GF? She's your GF. Unless you plan on breaking up soon?

Semantics my friend. No need to nitpick.

chrissb8 · 30-10-2018 4:14pm

Bigbagofcans wrote: »

chrissb8 wrote: »

Met my current GF off tinder. Had weight on her, didn't care because she was just an amazing person and I was attracted to her as result of that.

Why describe her as current GF? She's your GF. Unless you plan on breaking up soon?

Semantics my friend. No need to nitpick.

Jackman25 · 30-10-2018 4:21pm

DivingDuck wrote: »

It does only apply to few people, but it's subjective rather than objective.

If your partner doesn't seem amazing to you specifically, you're with the wrong person.

Maybe I'm just getting curmudgeonly in my old age, but I hate to see this Instagram and Facebook nonsense pervading every day speech.
It is quite possibly to love your partner dearly while recognizing them as a normal, flawed, quirky unique human being.
When someone tells me their partner is amazing, I am looking for Nobel Prizes or Olympic Gold medals or stuff like that. I am almost always disappointed.

m5ex9oqjawdg2i · 30-10-2018 4:23pm

seamus wrote: »

Is it though, really?

You're talking about attraction, physical attraction. An individual cannot really change what they find physically attractive. Obviously it's only a minor part of attraction overall; a great personality will overcome almost any unattractiveness.

But when you're talking about dating sites, first impressions are everything, and you're going to find it hard to go on a date with someone you find unattractive and think, "Ah sure I'll give them a shot". Whether that's because they're fat, skinny, small, tall, Asian, Irish.

Better off being honest and upfront about who shouldn't really waste their time.

I understand the optics of it, and it seems a bit cocky to say, "Only handsome people, please".

But at the same time I'm not going to judge someone who says they don't find, <insert race here> attractive. If someone said, "Persian women are the best" or "Italian men are the most attractive", it's not considered racism. So I don't see the issue the other way around.

Jesus christ Seamus, why are you trying to rationalize this tripe? How can you say you are not attracted to over 4 BILLION people unless you have seen every single one. There's a huge spectrum of looks in Asia. It's casual racism and that's it.

suicide_circus · 30-10-2018 4:32pm

I think we need to be less worried about people calling us racist.

Wibbs · 30-10-2018 4:33pm

Nylah Powerful Pliers wrote: »

Jesus christ Seamus, why are you trying to rationalize this tripe? How can you say you are not attracted to over 4 BILLION people unless you have seen every single one. There's a huge spectrum of looks in Asia. It's casual racism and that's it.

No. It's not racism. I would be open to the possibility of being attracted to and going out with an Asian woman, or an African woman for that matter and I can certainly see that are are very good looking Asian and African women out there. However they just don't float my boat personally. I am attracted to European looking women. As Seamus noted; if I said I personally find European Latin women the most attractive, it doesn't follow that I find any other type ugly and it wouldn't be "reverse racism" either. If a Black woman told me she didn't really find White men attractive, I wouldn't consider that racism.

It would be dubious, even racist if someone straight out said they could never be attracted to and certainly wouldn't go out with [insert "race" here].

Bigbagofcans · 30-10-2018 4:44pm

chrissb8 wrote: »

Semantics my friend. No need to nitpick.

Relax. I heard you the first time.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 30-10-2018 4:59pm

riffmongous wrote: »

I remember back in school when height would come up lads telling me I was 6ft because they were and we were the same height.. eh not a chance boss 5,11 tops

My friend is 5’8”. She said this eejit she works with insisted her to her that she had to be 5’11” because she was taller than him and he swore he was 5’10”. :pac:

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 30-10-2018 5:02pm

seamus wrote: »

Is it though, really?

You're talking about attraction, physical attraction. An individual cannot really change what they find physically attractive. Obviously it's only a minor part of attraction overall; a great personality will overcome almost any unattractiveness.

But when you're talking about dating sites, first impressions are everything, and you're going to find it hard to go on a date with someone you find unattractive and think, "Ah sure I'll give them a shot". Whether that's because they're fat, skinny, small, tall, Asian, Irish.

Better off being honest and upfront about who shouldn't really waste their time.

I understand the optics of it, and it seems a bit cocky to say, "Only handsome people, please".

But at the same time I'm not going to judge someone who says they don't find, <insert race here> attractive. If someone said, "Persian women are the best" or "Italian men are the most attractive", it's not considered racism. So I don't see the issue the other way around.

The bolded bit - nah. We’ve all met people we’re never going to fancy no matter how sound they are.

On the other point, a male friend of mine was hand-wringing over not finding east Asian women attractive. He thought it made him racist. I said to him “Do you feel superior to these women?”, he said “Of course not”. So I said “Then you’re not racist.”.

Duck Soup · 30-10-2018 5:05pm

The OP sounds like a real catch.

ginandtonicsky · 30-10-2018 5:08pm

seamus wrote: »

Is it though, really?

You're talking about attraction, physical attraction. An individual cannot really change what they find physically attractive. Obviously it's only a minor part of attraction overall; a great personality will overcome almost any unattractiveness.

But when you're talking about dating sites, first impressions are everything, and you're going to find it hard to go on a date with someone you find unattractive and think, "Ah sure I'll give them a shot". Whether that's because they're fat, skinny, small, tall, Asian, Irish.

Better off being honest and upfront about who shouldn't really waste their time.

I understand the optics of it, and it seems a bit cocky to say, "Only handsome people, please".

But at the same time I'm not going to judge someone who says they don't find, <insert race here> attractive. If someone said, "Persian women are the best" or "Italian men are the most attractive", it's not considered racism. So I don't see the issue the other way around.

Yes, we're all a bit "racist/sexist/ageist" etc when it comes to physical attraction on the face of it, which is entirely out of our control. Personally I'm not particularly sexually attracted to Asian men either, so I'm not disagreeing with the sentiment. It's a preference that I can't do much about.

What I do oppose s the totally blunt, obnoxious, arrogant way of expressing preference - "No Asians" - seriously? You're not shopping for a pizza, you're trying to connect with a fellow human and look, presumably, for the rare experience of falling in love with someone, the nuances are pretty important here.

Plus, it makes you SOUND racist, even if you can argue your way out of it on the technicality of "I cannot change what I find physically attractive". It's autistic and gross and would put anyone decent right off.

Bigbagofcans · 30-10-2018 5:11pm

seamus wrote: »

You're talking about attraction, physical attraction. An individual cannot really change what they find physically attractive. Obviously it's only a minor part of attraction overall; a great personality will overcome almost any unattractiveness.

Hmm, a great personality makes someone better looking but it's a bit too generous saying it'll overcome any unattractiveness.

Jackman25 · 30-10-2018 5:12pm

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

Yes, we're all a bit "racist/sexist/ageist" etc when it comes to physical attraction on the face of it, which is entirely out of our control. Personally I'm not particularly sexually attracted to Asian men either, so I'm not disagreeing with the sentiment. It's a preference that I can't do much about.

What I do oppose s the totally blunt, obnoxious, arrogant way of expressing preference - "No Asians" - seriously? You're not shopping for a pizza, you're trying to connect with a fellow human and look, presumably, for the rare experience of falling in love with someone, the nuances are pretty important here.

Plus, it makes you SOUND racist, even if you can argue your way out of it on the technicality of "I cannot change what I find physically attractive". It's autistic and gross and would put anyone decent right off.

Or you could just not give a f**k and not pander to idiots who love finding racism.

_Whimsical_ · 30-10-2018 5:17pm

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

Actually that's true, a lot of lads seem to think they're 6 ft! What's that all about?

Doesn't really affect me as at 5"1 anything above like 5"8 is "tall" to me, but...weird. Wonder if it's the male equivalent of that thing that women apparetently do, where they shave about a stone off their actual weight if they're asked about it publicly

Except they seem to actually believe it themselves whereas women know well they're lying about their weight /size.

I think that some men seem to take compliments to heart much more easily than women and completely believe their granny telling them they're a big strapping lad of 6ft when they are actually 5ft8 or whatever. It's quite endearing on some level but it's something very few women do. I find a man needs to hear a compliment once from literally any source to believe it whereas a woman needs it in sky writing and carved in blood by ten people before she'll consider it being true. Certainly compliments from grannies and aunties don't impinge on our self concept.

Surreptitious · 30-10-2018 5:21pm

Abomination of a thread.

Addle · 30-10-2018 5:25pm

_Whimsical_ wrote: »

Except they seem to actually believe it themselves whereas women know well they're lying about their weight /size.

Plenty of delusional women out there.
I'd love to know where they get their confidence.

KevinCavan · 30-10-2018 5:41pm

An Irish woman who is a 4 thinks she’s a six (out of ten). An Irish woman who is a 6, thinks she is an eight.

Surreptitious · 30-10-2018 5:44pm

KevinCavan wrote: »

An Irish woman who is a 4 thinks she’s a six (out of ten). An Irish woman who is a 6, thinks she is an eight.

KevinCavan · 30-10-2018 5:46pm

Surreptitious wrote: »

Possibly.

givyjoe · 30-10-2018 5:47pm

Jackman25 wrote: »

Maybe I'm just getting curmudgeonly in my old age, but I hate to see this Instagram and Facebook nonsense pervading every day speech.
It is quite possibly to love your partner dearly while recognizing them as a normal, flawed, quirky unique human being.
When someone tells me their partner is amazing, I am looking for Nobel Prizes or Olympic Gold medals or stuff like that. I am almost always disappointed.

I always find the same to be true of people described as idiots or negatively in general. Never as bad as they're described. The amount of times I've heard people described as morons, idiots etc.. leaving me expecting to meet a window licker when I meet them myself. Almost always a complete exaggeration or just wrong.

ohnonotgmail · 30-10-2018 5:50pm

Addle wrote: »

Plenty of delusional women out there.
I'd love to know where they get their confidence.

Because their friends tell them how gawjus they are constantly.

KevinCavan · 30-10-2018 5:56pm

ohnonotgmail wrote: »

Because their friends tell them how gawjus they are constantly.

Better looking women don’t have as many hang ups as their eternally single counterparts.

Gimme A Pound · 30-10-2018 6:15pm

Why not just "hot", "good looking", "all right looking", "not attractive"? That "out of ten" stuff appears invented by a Sheldon Cooper type.

bloodless_coup · 30-10-2018 6:40pm

Prominent_Dawg wrote: »

curious to know what ops ideal filtered weight would be

BMI Normal or Healthy Weight is about right.

bloodless_coup · 30-10-2018 6:41pm

Duck Soup wrote: »

The OP sounds like a real catch.

I think so.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 30-10-2018 6:46pm

Adam Massive Druggist wrote: »

Why not just "hot", "good looking", "all right looking", "not attractive"? That "out of ten" stuff appears invented by a Sheldon Cooper type.

Yeah, whenever I’ve thought about my looks, I’ve never placed myself on a ten point scale. The ‘out of ten’ thing seems to be more if a man thing and, I have to say, not limited to American men. I’ve heard Irish men at it and not just recently. Since my college days in the ‘00s at least.

Daisy78 · 30-10-2018 6:49pm

givyjoe wrote: »

I always find the same to be true of people described as idiots or negatively in general. Never as bad as they're described. The amount of times I've heard people described as morons, idiots etc.. leaving me expecting to meet a window licker when I meet them myself. Almost always a complete exaggeration or just wrong.

Hmmm I think that is down to good old fashioned Irish begrudgery and one upmanship. We don't go in for bragging/boasting in this country but putting people down is the next best thing when you feel the need to be a little bit superior.

Daisy78 · 30-10-2018 6:53pm

Adam Massive Druggist wrote: »

Why not just "hot", "good looking", "all right looking", "not attractive"? That "out of ten" stuff appears invented by a Sheldon Cooper type.

It's desperately cynical and almost always used in the context of women's looks. It says more about the person applying it than the intended individual.

B0jangles · 30-10-2018 6:54pm

Because you need numerical data if you're going to make a spreadsheet and plot a few graphs to help you demonstrate with hard facts why it is unreasonable for you Barbara, to turn me down, when you are CLEARLY a 6.34 (you used to be a 7.84, but turning 25 knocked you right down) and I am a 6.88.

Wait, where are you going?

Gimme A Pound · 30-10-2018 6:57pm

Yup. A Sheldon Cooper type.

How do they cope if there's an 11 or a -1?

One eyed Jack · 30-10-2018 7:08pm

Adam Massive Druggist wrote: »

Yup. A Sheldon Cooper type.

How do they cope if there's an 11 or a -1?

While I wouldn’t use a number scale to rate anyone’s physical or sexual attraction myself, I can at least understand why it’s a fairly popular means of comparison. It’s not solely limited to Sheldon Cooper types either when the phrase ‘Perfect 10’ has been around a long time now. It’s really just as arbitrary as any other ratings standard, albeit not as descriptive, but people would generally understand what’s meant by it.

Gimme A Pound · 30-10-2018 7:10pm

I don't believe anyone denied that there are varying degrees of beauty/attractiveness - does anyone else?

Redneck Culchie · 30-10-2018 7:12pm

I think Tinder is very shallow, at least on other sites people have more filled out profiles and details about themselves, values and interests.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 30-10-2018 7:12pm

Adam Massive Druggist wrote: »

I don't believe anyone denied that there are varying degrees of beauty/attractiveness - does anyone else?

Aaaaannnd he’s gone.

Mr. CooL ICE · 30-10-2018 7:14pm

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Mooooo · 30-10-2018 7:18pm

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CPTM · 30-10-2018 7:37pm

There are scales of attractiveness though, right? For example, for those of you who talked about how they don't like to accept that people are on a scale or not. Do you date mean people? Or do you try to find a guy/girl who is kind? That's a spectrum right? What about being funny or having a sense of humour, do you date brick wall personalities? Or do you try to find someone who you can laugh along with the most? That's a scale?

Some people are born with great abilities to talk to guys and girls, and make them feel like their thoughts are the most important in the world. Some guys and girls are born hilarious and have the best banter ever. Some are born gorgeous and eat like pigs but won the genetic lottery and have all the Instagram fame. If it's kindness or looks or humour or music taste, or whatever is important to you, you'll find you have a scale in your head. I feel the big problem is when you try to force someone else to use your parameters of attractiveness instead of letting them have their own.

Addle · 30-10-2018 7:46pm

Attractiveness is relative though.
It's just taste.

Anesthetize · 30-10-2018 7:49pm

A Tinder IQ filter would be more useful than a weight filter.

r93kaey5p2izun · 30-10-2018 7:57pm

I would be in favour of a weight filter, and a filter on anything that can be objectively measured or categorised, once you could see not only the suggested match's result on any and all such metrics but also their stated preference in any category. I don't see why anyone would be against such a feature.

Redneck Culchie · 30-10-2018 8:02pm

Liquidity Metrics wrote: »

For women, the most important factor for sexual attractiveness is looks/form, for men there are numerous factors inclusing looks/ form, such as social status, social skills, dominance and so on. Nobody has the exact same attraction mechanism but it averages out so that you can see a hierarchy at play.

Would agree with that. Although for women they have an advantage with the use of make up. Can really transform appearance. In many cases in this country women wear too much make up IMO.

Also there is a lot more women getting plastic surgery here in recent years. Lips, nose, jaw fillers etc . And men doing tanning beds, steroids, teeth whitened. It's becoming a vain and shallow country. The likes of instagram only encourages narcissism and vanity. It's all a bit pathetic really

CPTM · 30-10-2018 8:12pm

Liquidity Metrics wrote: »

For women, the most important factor for sexual attractiveness is looks/form, for men there are numerous factors inclusing looks/ form, such as social status, social skills, dominance and so on. Nobody has the exact same attraction mechanism but it averages out so that you can see a hierarchy at play.

Actually if you want to talk about those base rules, the general rule since we were monkeys in trees is that females like a man of power and status to protect the family. And men like a fit body to bear and feed a baby. Beautiful youthful girls dating men with big wallets and celebrity status. That's just primitive genetic stuff, and if that's where some people are at, then so be it.

However, while some people haven't evolved out of this, I think you'll find that most have. Our intelligence has grown past that primitive law of attractiveness, and suddenly a person's ability to commit, their trustworthiness, and confidence in themselves are more valuable assets to have in a partner than any of the primitive criteria we used to hold so dear.

Feisar · 30-10-2018 8:47pm

Surreptitious wrote: »

Abomination of a thread.

Ah yea but come along for the ride!

30-10-2018 8:50pm

Feisar wrote: »

Ah yea but come along for the ride!

I don't think anyone is getting the ride

Tinder weight filter

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