Tinder for Boreds

Upforthematch · 12-04-2020 10:56pm

KiKi III wrote: »

I was going to start a new thread for this but let's just keep it going here: What's the number one tip you would give members of the opposite sex who struggle with dating?

And let's try to keep it fairly positive?

Number one tip for women. Keep up group hobbies you like but *also* that you think a man might be interested in.

You are highly unlikely to meet a man at Pilates/Knitting Circle/Girlie Book Club!

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 10:57pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

You're rather fond of contradictions, not the most charming attribute you possess.

I’m a medley of contradictions Bertie, like most of us humans, although I’m not sure what you’re alluding to here.

I’m describing reality as I experience it, Toby is describing his. I wouldn’t expect that we’d have the same version of reality.

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 10:59pm

Upforthematch wrote: »

Number one tip for women. Keep up group hobbies you like but *also* that you think a man might be interested in.

You are highly unlikely to meet a man at Pilates/Knitting Circle/Girlie Book Club!

Good tip. I’d be interested in what hobbies you think fit in here (ideally that aren’t sports)

Sardonicat · 12-04-2020 10:59pm

Upforthematch wrote: »

Number one tip for women. Keep up group hobbies you like but *also* that you think a man might be interested in.

You are highly unlikely to meet a man at Pilates/Knitting Circle/Girlie Book Club!

You wouldn't meet me in any of those places either, in fairness.

NSAman · 12-04-2020 11:01pm

KiKi III wrote: »

Good tip. I’d be interested in what hobbies you think fit in here (ideally that aren’t sports)

Swinging clubs?

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 11:02pm

NSAman wrote: »

Swinging clubs?

Username checks out

12-04-2020 11:03pm

KiKi III wrote: »

I’m a medley of contradictions Bertie, like most of us humans, although I’m not sure what you’re alluding to here.

I’m describing reality as I experience it, Toby is describing his. I wouldn’t expect that we’d have the same version of reality.

It can't be straightforward back-pedaling past moving goalposts. One minute you're speaking for all women ("we" do have it easier), the next you're fobbing it off as subjective experience. You would be minced in a real debate.

Idbatterim · 12-04-2020 11:05pm

KiKi III wrote: »

How has your experience of online dating been by comparison?

I came across this the other day on youtube. hits the nail on the head! this guy has made a career from online dating advice. Its frustrating for both sexes, watch this.... When you watch this, at least it starts to explain the issues with online dating. Depending on your age and location, probably far better off on bumble, hinge etc...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zKd0yFOtqFc

NSAman · 12-04-2020 11:06pm

KiKi III wrote: »

Username checks out

No sugar allowed....sheezzz I see where your mind is..;)

Upforthematch · 12-04-2020 11:06pm

KiKi III wrote: »

Good tip. I’d be interested in what hobbies you think fit in here (ideally that aren’t sports)

Not sports - I think you're talking mostly night classes; business / IT / Guitar / Language / First aid or a mixed choir if you sing. Maybe drama or improv but men can be scarce on the ground there!

There are "light" sports - snooker club / GAA/Football supporters club / social running clubs

Then you have "real" sports - triathlon/cycling/tennis/golf/tag rugby etc... if you're going to the trouble here make sure they have a social scene - check facebook!!

Men my age are told to go social dancing (jive) to meet women - haven't tried but it might be worth it.

There you go now! I should get an invite to the wedding now for all that

Edit: Add cooking class to the list. I think there's a place in Dublin that does cooking for singles...

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 11:08pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

It can't be easy back-pedaling past moving goalposts. One minute you're speaking for all women, the next you're fobbing it off as subjective experience. You would be minced in a real debate.

This is a casual, late night chat on a forum - not a hardcore debate that anyone should be getting minced in?

I know I don’t speak for all women; as you pointed out I was generalising. It’s a broad set of opinions based on my own 31 years of being a woman along with the experiences of my friends.

Why are you trying so hard to prove me wrong on such an inconsequential thread? Thought we were going to keep it light - though you did object to that suggestion too.

12-04-2020 11:09pm

Upforthematch wrote: »

Not sports - I think you're talking mostly night classes; business / IT / Guitar / Language / First aid or a mixed choir if you sing. Maybe drama or improv but men can be scarce on the ground there!

There are "light" sports - snooker club / GAA/Football supporters club / social running clubs

Then you have "real" sports - triathlon/cycling/tennis/golf/tag rugby etc... if you're going to the trouble here make sure they have a social scene - check facebook!!

Men my age are told to go social dancing (jive) to meet women - haven't tried but it might be worth it.

There you go now! I should get an invite to the wedding now for all that

Also there is crossfit.....i heard it has a v.strong social element to it

BorneTobyWilde · 12-04-2020 11:12pm

Deleted User wrote: »

He's back again with his sweeping statements. Face it Toby, your attitude is the problem. That's your 'cover', that's what you're putting out there. You're talking about women like we have one f*cking mind. You're saying we're not capable of seeing past the outer layer of anyone. Could you be more patronising? I think you'll find that all sorts of different women are attracted to all sorts of different men and if you're not managing to get any it's a reflection on you, not ALL women.

You sound like a child to be honest. This sort of poor me attitude shines brighter than any 'glossy magazine cover' and most women will see through you very quickly. Keep telling yourself your the good guy but your coming across right now like anything but.

Shut up and kiss me . lol

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 11:13pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Also there is crossfit.....i heard it has a v.strong social element to it

CrossFit is responsible for the breakdown of more than a few marriages if the rumours be true.

I’d be far too unfit for the likes of that for the moment anyway.

12-04-2020 11:15pm

KiKi III wrote: »

Thought we were going to keep it light - though you did object to that suggestion too.

First of all you don't get to dictate the tone of this thread. Fairly obvious I know, but bears repeating for reality to gradually sink in. Second, have fun finding that quote where I "objected". Unless you wish to twist words I never said. Third, you are hopelessly out of your depth.

Lucky the man that lands you, he'll have the finished article

Upforthematch · 12-04-2020 11:17pm

Ah Bertie, "sometimes you gotta let go"

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 11:19pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

First of all you don't get to dictate the tone of this thread. Fairly obvious I know, but bears repeating for reality to gradually sink in. Second, have fun finding that quote where I "objected". Third, you are hopelessly out of your depth.

Lucky the man that lands you, he'll have the finished article

Okay well I’m going to continue keeping it light and you can continue being grumpy and then we both get our way?

It’s gas how you think me saying “let’s keep it positive” is so offensive.

I’m off to bed shortly now anyway- just finishing my cuppa tae.

12-04-2020 11:29pm

KiKi III wrote: »

Okay well I’m going to continue keeping it light and you can continue being grumpy and then we both get our way?

It’s gas how you think me saying “let’s keep it positive” is so offensive.

I’m off to bed shortly now anyway- just finishing my cuppa tae.

This is verging on tragic, you couldn't dig up anything where I "objected" and now you hallucinate my thought process. Might be for your own good to retire while knee deep in it, before the quicksand of your own bone idle speculation consumes you whole. I'm perfectly content by the way, simply deconstructing your nonsense. And if I'm being wholly honest, finding your toys flung out of sandbox routine "lightly" amusing. Have at it.

12-04-2020 11:31pm

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

Shut up and kiss me . lol

Lol Absolutely!

Only if you look like this though obviously...

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 11:32pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

This is verging on tragic, you couldn't dig up anything where I "objected" and now you hallucinate my thought process. Might be for your own good to retire while knee deep in it, before the quicksand of your own bone idle speculation consumes you whole. I'm perfectly content by the way, simply deconstructing your nonsense. And if I'm being wholly honest, finding your toys flung out of sandbox routine "lightly" amusing. Have at it.

Sleep well, Bertie.

Idbatterim · 12-04-2020 11:33pm

KiKi III wrote: »

Sleep well, Bertie.

he hasnt died has he?! :pac:

Purple Mountain · 12-04-2020 11:34pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Lol Absolutely!

Only if you look like this though obviously...

I wouldn't look twice at a poser like him!

12-04-2020 11:36pm

Idbatterim wrote: »

he hasnt died has he?! :pac:

She has thrown in the towel before further humiliation is heaped on. One's mental health is a prized asset after all.

Idbatterim · 12-04-2020 11:37pm

Deleted User wrote: »

She has thrown in the towel before further humiliation is heaped on. One's mental health is a prized asset after all.

the two of you are like john and mary from father ted, yet you have never met

12-04-2020 11:38pm

Purple Mountain wrote: »

I wouldn't look twice at a poser like him!

Exactly. Either would I.

12-04-2020 11:38pm

Idbatterim wrote: »

the two of you are like john from mary from father ted, yet you have never met

My bite is worse than my bark.

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 11:41pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

She has thrown in the towel before further humiliation is heaped on. One's mental health is a prized asset after all.

Humiliation? Getting minced?

Why such aggressive language B? It’s all a bit intense and OTT.

As you can see with my conversations with the others participating in the thread, I’m mainly here for a bit of a chat to pass the evening.

Peace and love, my friend. Only 18 days to go.

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 11:41pm

Idbatterim wrote: »

the two of you are like john and mary from father ted, yet you have never met

I’m pretty sure he fancies me tbh

12-04-2020 11:55pm

KiKi III wrote: »

Only 18 days to go.

I must light a candle in passing for your protracted struggle. Wait...the door is bolted. What a shame. I'm all out of raspberries also. It just hasn't been your night, alas a recurring theme lately. Godspeed your next blind date is mercifully short.

Roadtoad · 12-04-2020 11:57pm

Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
If Graces7 wants her hay saved,
Here's the one for you!

Right, I can handle a tiller, read tides, chase sheep, cook stew, make an apple tart.... What's not to like?
(I didn't read much beyond the tread title, hope I haven't picked it up wrong)

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 11:59pm

Roadtoad wrote: »

Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
If Graces7 wants her hay saved,
Here's the one for you!

Right, I can handle a tiller, read tides, chase sheep, cook stew, make an apple tart.... What's not to like?
(I didn't read much beyond the tread title, hope I haven't picked it up wrong)

Most on topic post in pages

LaFuton · 13-04-2020 12:00am

why are we here? really

LaFuton · 13-04-2020 12:01am

doubt there's a woman who likes fair city and philosophy equally

13-04-2020 12:03am

LaFuton wrote: »

doubt there's a woman who likes fair city and philosophy equally

If there is she's one hell of a contortionist.

KiKi III · 13-04-2020 12:03am

LaFuton wrote: »

doubt there's a woman who likes fair city and philosophy equally

Are those your main criteria in a partner?

I’m fond of philosophy and I suppose I could learn to like Fair City?

cj maxx · 13-04-2020 12:07am

I was all excited about tinder for boreds till I read about posting photos.
As someone smacked with the ugly branch I was hoping it was more about codding women into chancing a night out.
Ah well

13-04-2020 12:08am

cj maxx wrote: »

I was all excited about tinder for boreds till I read about posting photos.
As someone smacked with the ugly branch I was hoping it was more about codding women into chancing a night out.
Ah well

Well, there's nothing stopping ya trying to cod a few of the local wimmin.

13-04-2020 12:09am

Haha Toby, that lads even poncier than the fella I found. Actually in stitches here.

BorneTobyWilde · 13-04-2020 12:10am

Deleted User wrote: »

Lol Absolutely!

Only if you look like this though obviously...

KiKi III · 13-04-2020 12:10am

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

I’m not going to lie... I would.

13-04-2020 12:12am

Why did you delete your post , then flip the pic and reload??

s1ippy · 13-04-2020 12:12am

Aw no wonder nobody has posted any photos when that side of a house is what people are expecting.

BorneTobyWilde · 13-04-2020 12:13am

Deleted User wrote: »

Why did you delete your post , then flip the pic and reload??

LOL
Had to make it Right Hand Drive car, for the effect of being really me

13-04-2020 12:14am

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

LOL
Had to make it Right Hand Drive car, for the effect of being really me

Yeah I just realised that was your game!

Purple Mountain · 13-04-2020 12:14am

s1ippy wrote: »

Aw no wonder nobody has posted any photos when that side of a house is what people are expecting.

Don't make assumptions about all of us ladies, that's not fair.
I absolutely never go for a man on his looks, ever.
It's only what's on his bank statement that's important.

LaFuton · 13-04-2020 12:15am

KiKi III wrote: »

Are those your main criteria in a partner?

I’m fond of philosophy and I suppose I could learn to like Fair City?

yup and ya'd want to have love for the land and not mind the occasional smell of cow

oh and convert to lyons?
I'll compromise on anything but tea

BorneTobyWilde · 13-04-2020 12:17am

He's who I'm trying to be though.

KiKi III · 13-04-2020 12:17am

LaFuton wrote: »

yup and ya'd want to have love for the land and not mind the occasional smell of cow

Sounds like you’re a man with road frontage to offer.

I’ll up my offer of frozen pizza and teabags to a spaghetti bolognese and a beer.

Church on Tuesday · 13-04-2020 12:18am

LaFuton wrote: »

yup and ya'd want to have love for the land and not mind the occasional smell of cow

oh and convert to lyons?
I'll compromise on anything but tea

It's possible to like both Lyons and Barrys y'know.

KiKi III · 13-04-2020 12:20am

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

He's who I'm trying to be though.

Maybe that’s the problem? I spent years trying to become what I thought guys wanted from me. Only recently I’ve placed huge focus on trying to be who I want to be.

I made it a big project: Therapy, books, apps, journals all aimed at accepting and liking myself. It’s hard work but I’m slowly getting there. Too soon to see how it impacts my dating life, especially with Covid, but I feel more hopeful than I have in a long time that there’s someone out there for me.

Tinder for Boreds

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