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12-04-2020 10:43pm

KiKi III wrote: »

I think this is a pretty harsh response.

I’ve had a similar experience the other way around. It’s not universally true that men prefer slim, conventionally attractive women, but it’s true a lot of the time m.

He's not saying some women some of the time though. He's coming across like an incel.

12-04-2020 10:43pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

He's back again with his sweeping statements. Face it Toby, your attitude is the problem. That's your 'cover', that's what you're putting out there. You're talking about women like we have one f*cking mind. You're saying we're not capable of seeing past the outer layer of anyone. Could you be more patronising? I think you'll find that all sorts of different women are attracted to all sorts of different men and if you're not managing to get any it's a reflection on you, not ALL women.

You sound like a child to be honest. This sort of poor me attitude shines brighter than any 'glossy magazine cover' and most women will see through you very quickly. Keep telling yourself your the good guy but your coming across right now like anything but.

I wasn't going to bother because I'm tired of boards and most of its inhabitants but would you like a cup of tea and a biscuit?

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 10:44pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I wasn't going to bother because I'm tired of boards and most of its inhabitants but would you like a cup of tea and a biscuit?

I’m glad you’re here! Hope you’re keeping well.

12-04-2020 10:45pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I wasn't going to bother because I'm tired of boards and most of its inhabitants but would you like a cup of tea and a biscuit?

No, thank you.

12-04-2020 10:46pm

KiKi III wrote: »

I’m glad you’re here! Hope you’re keeping well.

Aww thanks Kiki. You too x

12-04-2020 10:46pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

No, thank you.

Panda Killa · 12-04-2020 10:46pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I wasn't going to bother because I'm tired of boards and most of its inhabitants but would you like a cup of tea and a biscuit?

Slim shady is back !!

Well...his older sister Fat Shady

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 10:47pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

He's not saying some women some of the time though. He's coming across like an incel.

That’s not the vibe I got.

I am sure he doesn’t mean 100% of women always do this, like myself he’s describing the reality of his own experiences.

12-04-2020 10:51pm

KiKi III wrote: »

But we do have it easier when it comes to getting the ride, that's for sure.

KiKi III wrote: »

I am sure he doesn’t mean 100% of women always do this, like myself he’s describing the reality of his own experiences.

You're rather fond of contradictions, not the most charming attribute you possess.

12-04-2020 10:51pm

Panda Killa wrote: »

Slim shady is back !!

Well...his older sister Fat Shady

Feck off! I'm gone again!

Upforthematch · 12-04-2020 10:56pm

KiKi III wrote: »

I was going to start a new thread for this but let's just keep it going here: What's the number one tip you would give members of the opposite sex who struggle with dating?

And let's try to keep it fairly positive?

Number one tip for women. Keep up group hobbies you like but *also* that you think a man might be interested in.

You are highly unlikely to meet a man at Pilates/Knitting Circle/Girlie Book Club!

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 10:57pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

You're rather fond of contradictions, not the most charming attribute you possess.

I’m a medley of contradictions Bertie, like most of us humans, although I’m not sure what you’re alluding to here.

I’m describing reality as I experience it, Toby is describing his. I wouldn’t expect that we’d have the same version of reality.

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 10:59pm

Upforthematch wrote: »

Number one tip for women. Keep up group hobbies you like but *also* that you think a man might be interested in.

You are highly unlikely to meet a man at Pilates/Knitting Circle/Girlie Book Club!

Good tip. I’d be interested in what hobbies you think fit in here (ideally that aren’t sports)

Sardonicat · 12-04-2020 10:59pm

Upforthematch wrote: »

Number one tip for women. Keep up group hobbies you like but *also* that you think a man might be interested in.

You are highly unlikely to meet a man at Pilates/Knitting Circle/Girlie Book Club!

You wouldn't meet me in any of those places either, in fairness.

NSAman · 12-04-2020 11:01pm

KiKi III wrote: »

Good tip. I’d be interested in what hobbies you think fit in here (ideally that aren’t sports)

Swinging clubs?

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 11:02pm

NSAman wrote: »

Swinging clubs?

Username checks out

12-04-2020 11:03pm

KiKi III wrote: »

I’m a medley of contradictions Bertie, like most of us humans, although I’m not sure what you’re alluding to here.

I’m describing reality as I experience it, Toby is describing his. I wouldn’t expect that we’d have the same version of reality.

It can't be straightforward back-pedaling past moving goalposts. One minute you're speaking for all women ("we" do have it easier), the next you're fobbing it off as subjective experience. You would be minced in a real debate.

Idbatterim · 12-04-2020 11:05pm

KiKi III wrote: »

How has your experience of online dating been by comparison?

I came across this the other day on youtube. hits the nail on the head! this guy has made a career from online dating advice. Its frustrating for both sexes, watch this.... When you watch this, at least it starts to explain the issues with online dating. Depending on your age and location, probably far better off on bumble, hinge etc...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zKd0yFOtqFc

NSAman · 12-04-2020 11:06pm

KiKi III wrote: »

Username checks out

No sugar allowed....sheezzz I see where your mind is..;)

Upforthematch · 12-04-2020 11:06pm

KiKi III wrote: »

Good tip. I’d be interested in what hobbies you think fit in here (ideally that aren’t sports)

Not sports - I think you're talking mostly night classes; business / IT / Guitar / Language / First aid or a mixed choir if you sing. Maybe drama or improv but men can be scarce on the ground there!

There are "light" sports - snooker club / GAA/Football supporters club / social running clubs

Then you have "real" sports - triathlon/cycling/tennis/golf/tag rugby etc... if you're going to the trouble here make sure they have a social scene - check facebook!!

Men my age are told to go social dancing (jive) to meet women - haven't tried but it might be worth it.

There you go now! I should get an invite to the wedding now for all that

Edit: Add cooking class to the list. I think there's a place in Dublin that does cooking for singles...

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 11:08pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

It can't be easy back-pedaling past moving goalposts. One minute you're speaking for all women, the next you're fobbing it off as subjective experience. You would be minced in a real debate.

This is a casual, late night chat on a forum - not a hardcore debate that anyone should be getting minced in?

I know I don’t speak for all women; as you pointed out I was generalising. It’s a broad set of opinions based on my own 31 years of being a woman along with the experiences of my friends.

Why are you trying so hard to prove me wrong on such an inconsequential thread? Thought we were going to keep it light - though you did object to that suggestion too.

12-04-2020 11:09pm

Upforthematch wrote: »

Not sports - I think you're talking mostly night classes; business / IT / Guitar / Language / First aid or a mixed choir if you sing. Maybe drama or improv but men can be scarce on the ground there!

There are "light" sports - snooker club / GAA/Football supporters club / social running clubs

Then you have "real" sports - triathlon/cycling/tennis/golf/tag rugby etc... if you're going to the trouble here make sure they have a social scene - check facebook!!

Men my age are told to go social dancing (jive) to meet women - haven't tried but it might be worth it.

There you go now! I should get an invite to the wedding now for all that

Also there is crossfit.....i heard it has a v.strong social element to it

BorneTobyWilde · 12-04-2020 11:12pm

Deleted User wrote: »

He's back again with his sweeping statements. Face it Toby, your attitude is the problem. That's your 'cover', that's what you're putting out there. You're talking about women like we have one f*cking mind. You're saying we're not capable of seeing past the outer layer of anyone. Could you be more patronising? I think you'll find that all sorts of different women are attracted to all sorts of different men and if you're not managing to get any it's a reflection on you, not ALL women.

You sound like a child to be honest. This sort of poor me attitude shines brighter than any 'glossy magazine cover' and most women will see through you very quickly. Keep telling yourself your the good guy but your coming across right now like anything but.

Shut up and kiss me . lol

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 11:13pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Also there is crossfit.....i heard it has a v.strong social element to it

CrossFit is responsible for the breakdown of more than a few marriages if the rumours be true.

I’d be far too unfit for the likes of that for the moment anyway.

12-04-2020 11:15pm

KiKi III wrote: »

Thought we were going to keep it light - though you did object to that suggestion too.

First of all you don't get to dictate the tone of this thread. Fairly obvious I know, but bears repeating for reality to gradually sink in. Second, have fun finding that quote where I "objected". Unless you wish to twist words I never said. Third, you are hopelessly out of your depth.

Lucky the man that lands you, he'll have the finished article

Upforthematch · 12-04-2020 11:17pm

Ah Bertie, "sometimes you gotta let go"

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 11:19pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

First of all you don't get to dictate the tone of this thread. Fairly obvious I know, but bears repeating for reality to gradually sink in. Second, have fun finding that quote where I "objected". Third, you are hopelessly out of your depth.

Lucky the man that lands you, he'll have the finished article

Okay well I’m going to continue keeping it light and you can continue being grumpy and then we both get our way?

It’s gas how you think me saying “let’s keep it positive” is so offensive.

I’m off to bed shortly now anyway- just finishing my cuppa tae.

12-04-2020 11:29pm

KiKi III wrote: »

Okay well I’m going to continue keeping it light and you can continue being grumpy and then we both get our way?

It’s gas how you think me saying “let’s keep it positive” is so offensive.

I’m off to bed shortly now anyway- just finishing my cuppa tae.

This is verging on tragic, you couldn't dig up anything where I "objected" and now you hallucinate my thought process. Might be for your own good to retire while knee deep in it, before the quicksand of your own bone idle speculation consumes you whole. I'm perfectly content by the way, simply deconstructing your nonsense. And if I'm being wholly honest, finding your toys flung out of sandbox routine "lightly" amusing. Have at it.

12-04-2020 11:31pm

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

Shut up and kiss me . lol

Lol Absolutely!

Only if you look like this though obviously...

KiKi III · 12-04-2020 11:32pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

This is verging on tragic, you couldn't dig up anything where I "objected" and now you hallucinate my thought process. Might be for your own good to retire while knee deep in it, before the quicksand of your own bone idle speculation consumes you whole. I'm perfectly content by the way, simply deconstructing your nonsense. And if I'm being wholly honest, finding your toys flung out of sandbox routine "lightly" amusing. Have at it.

Sleep well, Bertie.

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