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Requesting guest specific gift.

Lau2976 · 2015-01-06 00:18:54

I was wondering how common it was to request a specific gift from a specific person. I recieved a save the date which also informed me what gift they would like to recieve from me. Is that the norm now or is registry/gift still usual?

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#122 08-01-2015 2:17pm
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Sligo1 wrote: »

I thought at the very end after bridesmaid gate thread was closed Toots did actually post an update from the OP? I remember reading it and it posted about what actually then went down on the day. I'm sure I read what happened in the end. Perhaps the thread has since been deleted.... Maybe I dreamt it??!

No you didn't dream it, the op sent the update and toots posted it and it was every bit as bad as we had feared !

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#123 08-01-2015 2:20pm
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beyondbelief67 wrote: »

No you didn't dream it, the op sent the update and toots posted it and it was every bit as bad as we had feared !

I would love to know if they still have any friends after it.

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#124 08-01-2015 2:24pm
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http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2057262110

Found it

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#125 08-01-2015 2:38pm
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I would contact them requesting the first payment on the portrait.

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#126 08-01-2015 2:39pm
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NewCorkLad wrote: »

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2057262110

Found it

Is the original thread around or gone forever?!

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#127 08-01-2015 2:45pm
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toadfly wrote: »

Is the original thread around or gone forever?!

Gone Forever

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#128 08-01-2015 3:02pm
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You should paint the portrait like a caricture ..... with moths flying out of just opened wallets

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#129 08-01-2015 3:03pm
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NewCorkLad wrote: »

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2057262110

Found it

OMG skitting I was reading it to the other girl in work. I knew I remembered something about them being stranded..

What a twat of a couple I must say.. I would have started a tab at the bar for them and left it running...

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#130 08-01-2015 3:28pm
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bjork wrote: »

Get them around to sit for an hour or 2 anyway, in silence posing while you paint the picture of the mixer

You made me laugh out loud at work. If I get fired, its all your fault! :P

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#131 08-01-2015 3:32pm
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D3PO wrote: »

its rude and ignorant to expect a gift not to mind specify one..

I don't agree. It is perfectly normal to expect wedding gift to be given from those who you invite.

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#132 08-01-2015 3:46pm
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:eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:

*grabs box of popcorn leftover from bridesmaidgate*

I love the Weddings forum!!! :pac:

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#133 08-01-2015 5:47pm
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The most recent Wedding I was at had the following request on the Invite
"The only present we require is YOUR presence. Please help us make our special day memorable."

I like that. That's classy. I don't agree with people having to pay out for an event you have invited them to.

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#134 08-01-2015 6:59pm
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skallywag wrote: »

I don't agree. It is perfectly normal to expect wedding gift to be given from those who you invite.

We invited friends to our wedding because they were just that, our friends and we wanted them there. If they gave a gift -great. If not-great as well.

Anybody who even dreams of mentioning wedding gifts on an invitation is crass beyond belief. Why not extend this racket to birthday parties, christenings and confirmations as well.

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#135 08-01-2015 7:14pm
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If they want a mixer that badly, I'd text back confirmation for the painting sitting asking for confirmation of the address to send the invoice for it to. The cheek!

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#136 08-01-2015 7:22pm
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I'm here panicking to make sure we don't rely on presents and people get away with asking for two, that's insane.

I'm hoping to ask a friend to help me with the cake but I'm nervous it's too much pressure on her. She's made loads and I'd buy all the ingredients but as far I'm concerned that's more than a big present. I actually hate the idea of asking for anything, how do people have the cheek?

We choose to get married. Our friends didn't choose to give us a ton of presents to attend

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#137 08-01-2015 8:01pm
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I've actually come to the conclusion that this thread is a complete and utter have. If it's not.... It beats cupcake gate, bridesmaid/dinnergate and all other threads ever posted on this and other similar wedding forums. O bar the one where some woman was going apesh*t because her children who were cousins of a cousins cousin weren't invited to a wedding that she was invited to.

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#138 08-01-2015 8:27pm
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^ oh, I'd forgotten about that one Sligo!!! Hee hee

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#139 08-01-2015 8:44pm
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The one about the cousins kids was legit I thought. She was all over another forum too

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#140 09-01-2015 12:07am
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You will be the bigger fool if you give in and buy the stand mixer ive one but only because im a chef. paid 700 for my one. id ger her a bowl and for ever five years married id send a hand held mixer (tesco 20e) than id send them mixing tongs and so on actually send a plug first.

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#141 09-01-2015 8:10am
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westernlass wrote: »

The one about the cousins kids was legit I thought. She was all over another forum too

Yea and wasn't there like 5 children?

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#142 09-01-2015 9:17am
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michellie wrote: »

Yea and wasn't there like 5 children?

Yes and she had told them they were going, and I think either got them the outfits for it or told them what they would be wearing to it, and was all set to bring grandad in to sort the wedding couple out because she hasn't got her way !!!

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#143 09-01-2015 1:54pm
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I just meant I think she was actually nuts and not a troll

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#144 10-01-2015 4:48pm
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I am nowhere near getting married (though I do work on the fringes of the wedding business) but this forum is my new favourite.
Laughed out loud multiple times reading through this thread, especially at the portrait of the stand mixer, hilarious.

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#145 10-01-2015 5:21pm
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I was sketching last night and ended up drawing the stand mixer after getting a call from the mother of the bride.

Her and my mother are close and my moter had mentioned that I was baffled at their request. She called me to apologize. She said she was trying to reign them both in but that both regard the gift as payment for the invite.

She said they had decided to value my portrait at €35. I was totally taken back and furious! She valued the mixer at €200 and said that they thought that €235 was a reasonable gift!

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#146 10-01-2015 5:27pm
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Lau2976 wrote: »

I was sketching last night and ended up drawing the stand mixer after getting a call from the mother of the bride.

Her and my mother are close and my moter had mentioned that I was baffled at their request. She called me to apologize. She said she was trying to reign them both in but that both regard the gift as payment for the invite.

She said they had decided to value my portrait at €35. I was totally taken back and furious! She valued the mixer at €200 and said that they thought that €235 was a reasonable gift!

Value the portrait at €10,000 and ask her for your change. :pac:

It's fairly obvious she's not living on the same planet at the rest of us!!

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#147 10-01-2015 5:28pm
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I'd be seeing red. As a bride to be even to cover your guests costs the average is 100e per head. But you dont get married to make money!!!!

Invest the money you are spending on sometime else if thats the case

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#148 10-01-2015 5:29pm
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Lau2976 wrote: »

Her and my mother are close and my moter had mentioned that I was baffled at their request. She called me to apologize. She said she was trying to reign them both in but that both regard the gift as payment for the invite.

€235 was a reasonable gift!

Nice to see that they really value your presence. That's outrageous.

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#149 10-01-2015 5:29pm
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Also an average painting or portrait goes at 750e. I know cos we bought one lately for a family member.

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#150 10-01-2015 5:30pm
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€35 for a portrait?! Christ, I understand to a certain extent when people don't realise the cost of materials/labour/etc for things like this (like the knitting mentioned earlier in the thread too) but where is she off to with that price.

And €235 a 'reasonable gift'? Kindly feck off.

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#151 10-01-2015 5:33pm
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€35 wouldnt even pay for the blank canvas.

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