Did any of you ever get slapped as a child?

"It never did me any harm."

Someone countered that to me on boards once with "yes it did it made you think hitting a child was okay".

Still not entirely sure where I stand on the subject but it did make me think.

Samuel T. Cogley wrote: »

"It never did me any harm."

Someone countered that to me on boards once with "yes it did it made you think hitting a child was okay".

I was hit with the wooden spoon and mums slippers, it taught me to have respect for my parents and do what they said, never done me any harm. Giving a child a small snack is ok although grounding or no games consoles would be better.

We got A slap of length of alkathene pipe.

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Is it ok for a child to give another child a small smack?

No need to answer because it's obvious, no, it's not ok. And it's not ok to hit a child, whether you're their parent or not.

As a punishment in the past a small smack did do the job an taught a child that what they did was wrong, it was only when parents went beyond a small smack that it created problems.

Wooden spoon. Many, many times.
Like Batman I became skilled in the art of the dodge technique and developed a strategy for holding one end of the wooden spoon and refused to let go of it (obvious reasons) until I could successfully maneuver my ma away from the door and I could make a run for it.

Yes. My mother slapped us. Also used a wooden spoon. Got pepper or tobacco on the tongue for cursing.

Teacher in high infants smacked the sh1te out of us.
Principal did too and would hit with a Bamboo stick.
Vice Principal would jam her boney tumb into our backs but didn't slap.
5th and 6th class teacher smacked and would smack very hard across the face, it was a male teacher and he didn't hold back.
One teacher in secondary school did too bu then by 2nd year, it didn't started becoming an issue and pretty much became taboo

Often slapped and the wooden spoon the most common weapon.

Yeah my mother slapped us but we were strong sons to keep control of mild in comparison to what was going on around the neighborhood spoons belts etc

Never smacked my own child had a little girl I was brought up to never to lay a hand on a woman so it never entered my mind to do it

Had an ex whose father who used to beat the sister with a poker

Once she told me I could never look at him the same way again

Your little girl with a fcuking poker?

Scumbag

I got a few from my mother together with a proper shouting and on a few occasions she destroyed our toys in anger.
She was going through a rough patch herself and it went away when I was like 10.

I was a very sensitive child and I didn't understand why this happens. We didn't tidy our room and I couldn't make the connection why we'd get slapped for it. I was really hurt after every time it happened because I genuinely couldn't understand why. Granted, I'm a very gentle person and very opposed of physical violence.

When I was an adult we talked about it and my mother said she can't remember some of it but you could see it really upset hearing about it and she said she has no words for how sorry she is. She never once tried to justify her actions and would never once even recommend a healthy slap.

Greyfox wrote: »

Ideally grounding them would work better but what if a child ignores the threat of grounding. It's not nice hitting your child but a very small smack sends a clear message to the child.

A message alright, a wrong message.

Smacks on the bum for being a silly bugger.

Did me no harm whatsoever.

freshpopcorn wrote: »

My great grand father had a job before at making the straps for the schools!

No one thinks of that, the loss of the jobs in that industry, it was probably a roaring trade back from eons ago right up until, well the noughties?

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Plenty of ways to discipline a child without resorting to hitting them. If a parent uses hitting a child to teach them, they're failing as a parent.

Agreed, I hope I always can resolve problems, teach and discipline my child by other means, physically beating them isnt the right answer, got the wooden spoon a lot myself from the mother,as we all did, physically I dont think it did me harm, but I think its a bad example to set children, Im not sure what it taught me, looking back I think she had other options and didnt know better, up against it with kids as a single mother, now my dad less so when he was around, the fear would scare you more, and the times he did were not pleasant, he used a belt, I couldnt do that to my son.

janfebmar wrote: »

I got hit on the head by a catholic teacher in school.

The catholics, probably had extra training for that, the sick baxtards.

road_high wrote: »

Often slapped and the wooden spoon the most common weapon.

The wooden spoon, I used to love getting the cake mixture off them before they were cooked, its amazing how such an innocuous item is so tied to child discipline in Ireland.

voldejoie wrote: »

I was and each of my siblings was, and we are all totally opposed to it now.

Saw something interesting on the topic a while back, considering whether slapping or hitting your child taught them to not behave inappropriately. The gist of it was before you raise your hand, consider whether you can reason with the child instead. If so, that's what you do even if it doesn't work, and if the child is too young to be reasoned with, then why in the name of christ would you hit them in the first place?

If you're slapping your child, you're doing so out of your own inability to control your temper. And while parenting tests the limits of your patience etc etc, let's not pretend it forms part of a thought out parenting strategy because it "didn't do me any harm".

Agreed, I now threaten to tickle my son to death if he is cheeky, but I encourage him to express his thoughts, opinions and feelings, that said he'll be told if he is bold, feel lucky as he mostly isn't bold, he laughs and I still can get a cuddle and a hug and no resentment nor guilt, I ask him if Im being mean by tickling him, he says he doesnt mind and I definitely dont overuse it as I think that can be a bit mean, but he does say Im going to kill him with it, I think it is better than inflicting pain by slapping, I could never use a belt on my son like I got, even the wooden spoon.

Yer Da sells Avon wrote: »

I was slapped as a child and it did me no harm. It did no good either. It became a sort of 'cat & mouse' thing, being chased around the house by my mother and her wooden spoon, goading her into hitting me a second time because 'that didn't hurt'. It also meant that me and my siblings hit each other a lot when we were younger, because 'that's what you do when someone annoys you'.

The cat and mouse around the dining room table, brings back memories, if you werent the one being punished, you were sent on a mission of catching the sibling who was, Ireland had a lot to learn in child discipline back then. The only time it never hurt was when I had a toffee bar in my arse pocket and I feigned pain, usually punishment was 3 slaps and if you got your hands in the way, it was a wrap across the knuckles and another for not letting it happen, sick really

Musefan wrote: »

A reminder that slapping a child is now illegal in Ireland. There is no good reason whatsoever to slap a child. 50 years of research cannot identify a single positive outcome. If you’re slapping your child, you’re not teaching them to behave appropriately. In fact, you’re teaching them that an appropriate action when being annoyed is to slap someone. Then a child is likely punished for taking the same action and hitting a sibling. You would press charges if another adult slapped you. Hence why it’s now illegal.

It’s not, and that’s not the reason why the defence of reasonable chastisement was removed as a defence to a charge of child neglect either.

The rest of your post is just your opinion which isn’t worth a whole lot either way tbh, particularly when there is plenty of evidence to suggest quite the opposite of what you’re suggesting - the vast majority of adults understand the difference between discipline and child neglect, which is precisely why even though they may have been smacked or neglected as children themselves, they know better than to do the same thing to another adult.

It’s something the vast majority of people actually do learn as children, so it’s not something that should be used as an excuse to explain the minority of people’s misbehaviour as adults. 50 years of biased “research” doesn’t prove anything one way or the other only that confirmation bias based upon ideology is rife in social studies.

Don't think I was, and have never felt the need to hit my kids. Yet!

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Intimidation is a huge part of earning respect. Along with fear.

I love my kids more then anything ive done everything for them since they where born and they mean world to me but i dont let either of them away with ****.

Theres been plenty of times ive gave son a slap or roared at him but its only for his own good. I have told him enough times i dont like it and i have felt bad having to do it but kids push u so bloody far at times that they need to be shown that you cant over step the line. Words can only show so much.

I would never ever abuse them or beat them. I got slapped as a kid with hands and whatever was around but ffs my parents didnt abuse me jesus they done to much for me!

At end day my kids love me and they love there mother we have given up so much of our lifes to make theres better.

Is it ok for your son to give other kids a slap, for their own good of course?

Considering your post I actually think you'll answer yes, which is just as worrying.

As I said, if you need to hit your kids to make a point, you're failing as a parent.

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Is it ok for your son to give other kids a slap, for their own good of course?

Considering your post I actually think you'll answer yes, which is just as worrying.

As I said, if you need to hit your kids to make a point, you're failing as a parent.

Its not his job to discipline other kids. Its my job to discipline him.

See when you say hit your labeling that as abuse i am not abusing him i am not beating him!

Theres no harm in the odd slap to show your serious. I don't do it very often most time i shout or show him how serious i am and it works.

This is it wrote: »

I said hit because when you slap someone you're hitting them, I didn't label it as anything but bad parenting.

There are plenty of ways to discipline a child without hitting or slapping them. Unfortunately it's what some parents resort to.

There comes a point when taking something away or raising your voice just doesn't work.

It shouldn't be a solution to every problem but it happens.

Theres a difference in a slap and losing your **** and beating someone.

Kids aint stupid they know what they can get away with and how far they can push you especially in public.

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Its not necessary but sometimes it just happens. I never do it and feel good about it afterwards. I normally always feel bad in some way most of the time but only because i dont like seeing them upset.

Thing is i always sit down and explain to them straight away i dont like having to do this its not what i want to do but you push me so bloody far some times even though ive told you so many times to stop and you dont listen.

I was never abused as a kid my ma and da done everything for us but ya you had a certain amount of fear of what your da would do if you ****ed up.

My best example would be my granny never hit me but because she was strick and very prim and proper i always had that bit of fear of her more then i had of me nana.

End the day id kiss the ground the two of them walked on they where both amazing people who i loved so much and would never change a thing about them but one had that extra thing about her that you just felt i better not mess up around her....

If it's not necessary then why do it? If it "just happens" is that you losing control?

You're coming off worse with every post.

This is it wrote: »

If it's not necessary then why do it? If it "just happens" is that you losing control?

You're coming off worse with every post.

To some i come off worse with most posts on here sure! Im not here to make friends or win popularity contests.


If i lost control i would be losing my **** with them all time but i dont. It takes a lot for me to get up and slap them. Usually i deal with it in other ways.

Yea I did by one parent. Went to a school where some of the teachers (mainly nuns/religious sorts) still had a hankering for it in (late 80s/early 90s). Not something I'd be doing to my daughter in a big hurry. My husband had it a lot worse and we're both vehemently opposed to any sort of physical punishment.