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Custardpi · 12-12-2014 12:52am

Fair play to you. I still don't get why kitchens (as opposed to baby dolls, princess costumes etc) fell under the category of girls toys. I remember as a child being quite happy to play with both boys & girls at cooking. Never had such a luxury item as a play kitchen though. We had to make do with old pots & used sticks as utensils. Great fun.

qt3.14 · 12-12-2014 1:34am

AnimalChin wrote: »

I think things like playing football etc appeal to everyone. It's one of those universal things. A boy wanting a play kitchen is totally different.

Boys and girls like different things in general. Accept it. If a few go against 'the norm'. Fine, but until they grow up a bit and gain a sense of their own identity, leave them be and accept them for who they are at this point in time.

Bullshít. My mrs is a woeful cook so I do most of it. The little fella plays cooking a long with all the other "normal" boy things cause that's what he sees his daddy doing and he wants to be just like me!

GalwayGuitar · 12-12-2014 1:39am

suicide_circus wrote: »

It's only when I read threads like this that I realise what absolute facists my parents were for buying me a toy train set for Christmas rather than a pink barbie doll.

Gender studies graduates need to keep themselves in work too I suppose.

Bet you turned out as a cis gendered, heteronormative white male. Disgusting.

NegativeCreep · 12-12-2014 1:39am

I don't think you have to be a feminist to take issue with this. Its ridiculous the pinkness and the "girliness" of toys that are intended for girls. I have a niece who has absolutely no interest in those toys.

She's obsessed with the hunger games and insurgents so I bought her a nerf bow and arrow set and Bought my nephew a nerf gun and they had great fun running around and shooting each other.

In short, there's nothing stopping you buying a "boys" toy for a girl. Its not about getting boys interested in the colour pink.

efb · 12-12-2014 1:44am

My sister was disgusted at pink Lego targeted at girls- lego used always be gender nuetral

ectoraige · 12-12-2014 1:49am

My son would love to have a lockable diary, but the only ones he's seen on sale are pink - way too uncool for an eight-year-old with peers to impress. He was brought to see Ellie Goulding last year, he was super-excited for months leading up to it, but didn't tell anybody in school, he was sensitive to the fact it might be considered a bit girly. He also loved when his sister got a little fashion design pad - he "helped" her an awful lot. If you could still get them, I know he'd love a fashion wheel, but wouldn't be seen dead with one by his friends. He's also become a soccer and Man City fan, despite no real interest in either at home - it's all from his peers.

The pinkification is a vicious cycle, and probably the first example of how damaging the peer pressure to conform can be. It really saddens me.

NegativeCreep · 12-12-2014 1:56am

ectoraige wrote: »

My son would love to have a lockable diary, but the only ones he's seen on sale are pink - way too uncool for an eight-year-old with peers to impress. He was brought to see Ellie Goulding last year, he was super-excited for months leading up to it, but didn't tell anybody in school, he was sensitive to the fact it might be considered a bit girly. He also loved when his sister got a little fashion design pad - he "helped" her an awful lot. If you could still get them, I know he'd love a fashion wheel, but wouldn't be seen dead with one by his friends. He's also become a soccer and Man City fan, despite no real interest in either at home - it's all from his peers.

The pinkification is a vicious cycle, and probably the first example of how damaging the peer pressure to conform can be. It really saddens me.

My phone won't allow me to post a link here but I've found a lot of lockable diaries with a pirate theme that are aimed for boys on Amazon. Hope you can source one for the little man before Christmas

RobYourBuilder · 12-12-2014 2:04am

This one looks the business; http://www.amazon.co.uk/Peaceable-Kingdom-Press-Diary-Pirates/dp/B001TNVYVQ

axel rose · 12-12-2014 2:31am

I read through some of these and really have to laugh at these. I am the mother of a 6 year old who LOVES pink. He has the dolls, the dolls house, the pram, kitchen...loves fairies etc etc. (He also has the cars, lego and footballs etc.)

He's 6 now and has been like that since he was 2 years old. Hand on heart- the only people that have had 'issue' with it are adults. There hasn't been a child that has noticed so far.

He doesn't need my bloody support or approval- he's doing what all children do-play with toys!! Pink is no more for girls than the number 3 is. It's marketing.

Pink is what it always has been- a colour. It's the adults that need to stop assigning gender to colours and toys.

His entire wish list this year has been totally from the pink section- I couldn't care less :-D

steveone · 12-12-2014 3:25am

SEPT 23 1989 wrote: »

boys will play with dolls

pulling the heads off them,feeding them to the dog and burying them in flower beds

And tatooing, piercing and blowing them up

braddun · 12-12-2014 4:04am

don't worry what colour the toy is

what does the child like,ask the parents

ectoraige · 12-12-2014 10:59am

axel rose wrote: »

I read through some of these and really have to laugh at these. I am the mother of a 6 year old who LOVES pink. He has the dolls, the dolls house, the pram, kitchen...loves fairies etc etc. (He also has the cars, lego and footballs etc.)

He's 6 now and has been like that since he was 2 years old. Hand on heart- the only people that have had 'issue' with it are adults. There hasn't been a child that has noticed so far.

He doesn't need my bloody support or approval- he's doing what all children do-play with toys!! Pink is no more for girls than the number 3 is. It's marketing.

Pink is what it always has been- a colour. It's the adults that need to stop assigning gender to colours and toys.

His entire wish list this year has been totally from the pink section- I couldn't care less :-D

Mine would have been like that, sadly, in the last year or so he's become conscious of how others might perceive him.

sbsquarepants · 12-12-2014 11:23am

I know what you're saying, but it's not really all that sad when you think about it. Would you really want him to grow up to be the sort of person who gives no thought whatsoever to how others perceive him? Once you tell and more importantly show him that it's fine to be whoever or whatever he is (within reason of course), then he'll be just fine, he'll grow up and just naturally gravitate towards his own type of people like we all do.
I have grown (almost) kids and I have a two year old (almost) daughter sometimes I think it would be great if she could just stay at that age forever and never have to face the bullshít that comes with growing up - but in reality she'd be loosing out, not gaining. It's just the way it works.

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