Work crush and Christmas party.

Red Lightning · 13-12-2018 9:21pm #1

I work in a secondary school and have a crush on one of my colleagues. I'm 25 and she's 22.

Ive gotten to speak to get a lot recently and would like to ask her out.

We have our Christmas party tomorrow evening and am wondering should I try and turn things a little flirtier than things have been or make any moves?

I don't drink so I will have my wit's about me but it also means I may not be three most confident.

Any suggestions on how to approach this? Thanks

engiweirdo · 13-12-2018 9:22pm

Red Lightning wrote: »

I work in a secondary school and have a crush on one of my colleagues. I'm 25 and she's 22.

Ive gotten to speak to get a lot recently and would like to ask her out.

We have our Christmas party tomorrow evening and am wondering should I try and turn things a little flirtier than things have been or make any moves?

I don't drink so I will have my wit's about me but it also means I may not be three most confident.

Any suggestions on how to approach this? Thanks

Sure drop the oul hand and let us know how you get on.

mickuhaha · 13-12-2018 9:24pm

The real question is are you both women?

SEPT 23 1989 · 13-12-2018 9:25pm

It rubs the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again

Poor Uncle Tom · 13-12-2018 9:26pm

Wait till she's done the leaving, at least.....

troyzer · 13-12-2018 9:27pm

Awful idea. You can't make the move if you're sober and she's loaded.

Red Lightning · 13-12-2018 9:27pm

Berties_Horse wrote:

If you're colleagues then it would be wise to remain on platonic terms.

We're only colleagues for another week or so cos I'm working as a substitute and am starting a new job after Christmas.

corner of hells · 13-12-2018 9:28pm

Make sure there's no chalk dust on your hands , them handprints will give the game away.

Larbre34 · 13-12-2018 9:28pm

engiweirdo wrote: »

Sure drop the oul hand and let us know how you get on.

Or don't.

Nothing meaningful ever came out of a drunken fumble at a Christmas do, except maybe knob rot.

Even if you're not drinking, buy her a couple, have a laugh with her in a bigger group and keep it light. Ask her if she's ok for getting home and stuff and make sure to catch her eye and try a bit of harmless banter and flirting. The objective being, that shes thinking about you after the night is over. After Christmas, ask her out the old fashioned way and go from there.

Noveight · 13-12-2018 9:29pm

Red Lightning wrote: »

We're only colleagues for another week or so cos I'm working as a substitute and am starting a new job after Christmas.

Blow the load and hit the road.

Classic.

corner of hells · 13-12-2018 9:31pm

Noveight wrote: »

Blow the load and hit the road.

Classic.

Do a JFK , shoot the load in her hair , she jumps out of the car screaming and runs off.

Reati · 13-12-2018 9:33pm

corner of hells wrote: »

Do a JFK , shoot the load in her hair , she jumps out of the car screaming and runs off.

I think you have confused who got shot with a load in the head with that post...

pablo128 · 13-12-2018 9:34pm

Ask her does she want a ride. If she says no, ask her would she mind lying down while you have one.:pac:

The Tetrarch · 13-12-2018 9:36pm

Have you teaching job in Dubai sorted?

punisher5112 · 13-12-2018 9:36pm

Get talking and ask her would she like to go out for a meal as your time there is short.

Naos · 13-12-2018 9:36pm

Ask Feeky on his lunch break for some advice.

The Tetrarch · 13-12-2018 9:37pm

i think there was an old saying about dogs and doorsteps that might apply here.

munsterlegend · 13-12-2018 9:38pm

Red Lightning wrote: »

I work in a secondary school and have a crush on one of my colleagues. I'm 25 and she's 22.

Ive gotten to speak to get a lot recently and would like to ask her out.

We have our Christmas party tomorrow evening and am wondering should I try and turn things a little flirtier than things have been or make any moves?

I don't drink so I will have my wit's about me but it also means I may not be three most confident.

Any suggestions on how to approach this? Thanks

Given all the grammatical errors I am more worried about the students.

corner of hells · 13-12-2018 9:38pm

Reati wrote: »

I think you have confused who got shot with a load in the head with that post...

Poetic license

punisher5112 · 13-12-2018 9:38pm

The Tetrarch wrote: »

i think there was an old saying about dogs and doorsteps that might apply here.

Don't sh1t on your own.....

Don't worry he is leaving....

troyzer · 13-12-2018 9:39pm

munsterlegend wrote: »

Red Lightning wrote: »

I work in a secondary school and have a crush on one of my colleagues. I'm 25 and she's 22.

Ive gotten to speak to get a lot recently and would like to ask her out.

We have our Christmas party tomorrow evening and am wondering should I try and turn things a little flirtier than things have been or make any moves?

I don't drink so I will have my wit's about me but it also means I may not be three most confident.

Any suggestions on how to approach this? Thanks

Given all the grammatical errors I am more worried about the students.

The OP could be a PE teacher to be fair.

TheValeyard · 13-12-2018 9:39pm

Do not do it.

For the love of god, do not do it.

gctest50 · 13-12-2018 9:40pm

Red Lightning wrote: »

I work in a secondary school and have a crush on one of my colleagues. I'm 25 and she's 22.

Ive gotten to speak to get a lot recently and would like to ask her out.

We have our Christmas party tomorrow evening and am wondering should I try and turn things a little flirtier than things have been or make any moves?

I don't drink so I will have my wit's about me but it also means I may not be three most confident.

Any suggestions on how to approach this? Thanks

Easy - start drinking .........and there is no time like the present, the night is but a pup

Otherwise :

Red Lightning wrote: »

I'm 25 and she's 22

I don't drink so I will have my wit's about me but it also means I may not be three most confident.

could seem a bit .... odd

The Tetrarch · 13-12-2018 9:41pm

Is she a nun?
We need something to increase the disaster factor.

MuffinTop86 · 13-12-2018 9:42pm

Start drinking.

Nobody likes a bore

engiweirdo · 13-12-2018 9:45pm

MuffinTop86 wrote: »

Start drinking.

Nobody likes a bore

Great idea. And smoking too. You want people to like you and think you're cool right?

Red Lightning · 13-12-2018 9:47pm

Larbre34 wrote:

Even if you're not drinking, buy her a couple, have a laugh with her in a bigger group and keep it light. Ask her if she's ok for getting home and stuff and make sure to catch her eye and try a bit of harmless banter and flirting. The objective being, that shes thinking about you after the night is over. After Christmas, ask her out the old fashioned way and go from there.

Good advice. Thank you

Noveight · 13-12-2018 9:48pm

engiweirdo wrote: »

You want people to like you and think you're cool right?

Not people per se, just this 22 year old.

Saddle up and give her one for me, OP!

sdanseo · 13-12-2018 9:49pm

Been there done that. It was fun at the time.
Until the next Monday at about 9am.

Trust me, don't do it.

Edit: just saw you're leaving in a week.
Thunderbirds are go sir.

engiweirdo · 13-12-2018 9:49pm

Noveight wrote: »

Not people per se, just this 22 year old.

Saddle up and give her one for me, OP!

#WomenArePeopleToo

Noveight · 13-12-2018 9:50pm

engiweirdo wrote: »

#WomenArePeopleToo

I truly hope you're being sarcastic.

engiweirdo · 13-12-2018 9:51pm

Noveight wrote: »

I truly hope you're being sarcastic.

????

corner of hells · 13-12-2018 9:56pm

Start a punch up , she'll definitely be interested.

Noveight · 13-12-2018 10:25pm

Red Lightning wrote: »

We have our Christmas party tomorrow evening and am wondering should I try and turn things a little flirtier than things have been or make any moves?

I'll be back on Saturday morning at 7am for an update btw.

posturingpat · 13-12-2018 10:29pm

Ask her to shift your ugly friend.
When she hopefully says no ask will she shift you then.

JohnnyFlash · 13-12-2018 10:41pm

Ara, it's the Christmas season. Plenty of people are just looking to head out and have a heap of pints, before hooking up with someone for a good ride. No need to be overthinking these sort of situations. I know you don't drink, but that doesn't mean you can't get into the randy Christmas spirit. Make sure you give the old twig and berries a bit of a trim before you head out just in case you do get lucky.

Best of luck.

Dammo · 13-12-2018 10:44pm

You’re 24 and talking about your “crush”?

Have a pint and chat to the other lads there.

irishguitarlad · 13-12-2018 10:46pm

Shrek is love, Shrek is life.

XsApollo · 13-12-2018 10:47pm

Seriously?
Why do these threads always come up, more so in PI.
Get on with it.
Your gone soon, ask her, what have you got to loose, it will probably bug you for months after.

Then when you’re stalking her Facebook in a few years time and you see she is married with kids it will only get worse and you will be thinking if only.....
As her, you will either get a yes or a no.

Red Lightning · 13-12-2018 10:48pm

Thanks for the advice everyone.

I didn't mean that i was looking for anything too forward tomorrow evening.
ATM we're just chatting and having a laugh but can't say anything has been overly flirty.

This will be the first social situation that we are out together. Do I try and act a little more flirty etc or ask her to dance etc etc.

Icsics · 13-12-2018 10:58pm

Red Lightning wrote: »

Thanks for the advice everyone.

I didn't mean that i was looking for anything too forward tomorrow evening.
ATM we're just chatting and having a laugh but can't say anything has been overly flirty.

This will be the first social situation that we are out together. Do I try and act a little more flirty etc or ask her to dance etc etc.

OP a work night out is not a normal social situation, in my experience they are mostly awkward affairs. Bide ur time, I certainly wouldn't make any moves, ur nervous as it, relax & enjoy ur evening. Friend her on FB & go from there, when u are in a different school.

brinty · 13-12-2018 10:59pm

Red Lightning wrote:

This will be the first social situation that we are out together. Do I try and act a little more flirty etc or ask her to dance etc etc.

Sure ask her out for a dance and once she sees your moves you'll be in like Flynn then

JohnnyFlash · 13-12-2018 11:01pm

Wait until Don't Stop Believin' by Journey comes on. It's a real dance floor filler. Then break out your best moves and shuffle over towards her during the guitar solo part.

punisher5112 · 14-12-2018 12:08am

Drop both hands....

fuerte1976 · 14-12-2018 12:16am

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

Ara, it's the Christmas season. Plenty of people are just looking to head out and have a heap of pints, before hooking up with someone for a good ride. No need to be overthinking these sort of situations. I know you don't drink, but that doesn't mean you can't get into the randy Christmas spirit. Make sure you give the old twig and berries a bit of a trim before you head out just in case you do get lucky.

Best of luck.

Johnnys got you covered ðŸ˜‰

Arghus · 14-12-2018 12:17am

I say go for it.

14-12-2018 12:27am

OP, I will apologise in advance if I've gotten this completely wrong, but have you created many threads in PI and other places related to meeting women?

If so then you need to take a step back from the preoccupation you have. You are young with all of life and its experiences ahead of you. Constantly searching for "what to do" on an internet forum really isn't healthy. Learn to trust your own intuition and decisions.

If you like the girl then ask her out. It really is as simple as that. If she declines then you move on knowing that you tried. Don't internalise her response as a reflection on you. We can't win them all

punisher5112 · 14-12-2018 12:32am

Chat them all up ...

nullzero · 14-12-2018 12:59am

OP, in this sociopolitical climate you may want to bring a solicitor along with you and have some sort of a consent form ready to be consigned and witnessed by aforementioned solicitor.

punisher5112 · 14-12-2018 1:27am

Just bring papers declare your intentions and get her to sign....

Win win....

KevinCavan · 14-12-2018 1:40am

Don’t go to the party with a loaded gun.
‪https://youtu.be/9p3j294sqM8‬

Work crush and Christmas party.

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