Tinder weight filter

Mookie Blaylock · 02-11-2018 9:20am

suicide_circus wrote: »

not really, there are some elements to appearance which are pretty much universally attractive - symmetry, healthy etc

It's called different strokes for different folks, true, not everyone is going to find a quadruple amputee physically attractive.. but someone with a few extra pounds..or a few inches smaller isn't going to make any difference to the vast majority of right thinking people.

suicide_circus · 02-11-2018 9:22am

Mookie Blaylock wrote: »

It's called different strokes for different folks, true, not everyone is going to find a quadruple amputee physically attractive.. but someone with a few extra oihndsy..or a few inches smaller isn't going to make any difference to the vast majority of right thinking people.

I said "some elements", it's right there in the post you quoted. Within a certain scope, attractive people are attractive to most people, there are outliers and fetishes but they are a minority.

Mookie Blaylock · 02-11-2018 9:37am

suicide_circus wrote: »

I said "some elements", it's right there in the post you quoted. Within a certain scope, attractive people are attractive to most people, there are outliers and fetishes but they are a minority.

But, you've said nothing... symmetry?! Everything has symmetry...it's like saying we like air
Healty? Unless someone has an obvious physical impairment..or states on their bio they have canceror somesuch...not much can be gleaned from a pic
That is the scope of this discussion as per the OP...if you want to broaden it...can you start a new thread?

suicide_circus · 02-11-2018 9:43am

sorry mother

corks finest · 02-11-2018 9:50am

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

People would only lie about their weight anyway. The amount of "6 foot" guys I used to meet on tinder that were more like 5"7 was astounding.

They didn't mention their 3 inch high heels then the scoundrels

Wibbs · 02-11-2018 10:03am

Mookie Blaylock wrote: »

But, you've said nothing... symmetry?! Everything has symmetry...it's like saying we like air

Nope. For a start "everything" doesn't have symmetry. When talking about physical attractiveness facial and bodily symmetry features very high. Symmetry shows good nutrition and developmental health in childhood and adolescence. This stuff is wired into us at a very deep level. Another one consistent across time and culture is a particular hip/waist ratio in women, regardless of weight. The hour glass in basic terms. EG that pic of the woman above that you like. She's fat by many cultural standards, but (mostly)retains that ratio. It's been found that women with that shape have fewer reproductive problems. In men broader shoulders and narrower hips are favoured. Other attractiveness triggers are more feminine faces in women and more masculine faces in men. Various studies show we make these decisions of yay/nay very rapidly, within seconds of meeting someone. Hell, as Tinder shows we can make these decisions just as rapidly going by a photo alone and swipe right or left accordingly.

QuestionTime18 · 02-11-2018 10:05am

Wibbs wrote: »

Nope. For a start "everything" doesn't have symmetry. When talking about physical attractiveness facial and bodily symmetry features very high. Symmetry shows good nutrition and developmental health in childhood and adolescence. This stuff is wired into us at a very deep level. Another one consistent across time and culture is a particular hip/waist ratio in women, regardless of weight. The hour glass in basic terms. EG that pic of the woman above that you like. She's fat by many cultural standards, but (mostly)retains that ratio. It's been found that women with that shape have fewer reproductive problems. In men broader shoulders and narrower hips are favoured. Other attractiveness triggers are more feminine faces in women and more masculine faces in men. Various studies show we make these decisions of yay/nay very rapidly, within seconds of meeting someone. Hell, as Tinder shows we can make these decisions just as rapidly going by a photo alone and swipe right or left accordingly.

Don’t forget height Wibbs, women are hard wired to seek tall men out and pretty much all do.

Pac1Man · 02-11-2018 10:06am

suicide_circus wrote: »

sorry mother

And take your coat off indoors. You won't feel the benefit when you go outside.

Shenshen · 02-11-2018 10:19am

suicide_circus wrote: »

I said "some elements", it's right there in the post you quoted. Within a certain scope, attractive people are attractive to most people, there are outliers and fetishes but they are a minority.

On an "all of society" level, I think you must be right, as I can't explain the covers of gossip magazines in any other way.
But on a more personal level, I've rarely been in a conversation with (female) friends where any two agreed on a certain male being attractive or not. In my experience, it's perfectly possible that someone who is a complete knee-melting heartthrob to one woman makes another one shiver in revulsion.

So, either I am surrounded by a lot of fetishists, or actual attraction and finding someone pleasing to look at are two very, very separate things altogether.

Wibbs · 02-11-2018 10:20am

QuestionTime18 wrote: »

Don’t forget height Wibbs, women are hard wired to seek tall men out and pretty much all do.

Yep. Taller than them anyway. Heavier than them another general thing.

Zorya · 02-11-2018 10:21am

mea_k wrote: »

I would like D... Size filter. I don't like small peanut likes. I like a big oul schlong.

You don't say much, but when you do say something, you say it clearly :pac:

Steve F · 02-11-2018 10:24am

Both Marilyn Monroe and Kelly Brook are not exactly slim but both are 2 of the most desirable women in the world(When Marilyn was alive of course) It's all about proportion

Wibbs · 02-11-2018 10:39am

Steve F wrote: »

Both Marilyn Monroe and Kelly Brook are not exactly slim but both are 2 of the most desirable women in the world(When Marilyn was alive of course) It's all about proportion

Ehh Monroe was tiny, with a very narrow waist(22 inches IIRC?). This idea that Marilyn was a larger woman is a relatively new thing. At her heaviest in the flic Some like it hot, she was pregnant at the time and she was hardly large. Otherwise she was a very slim woman. And Kelly Brook at her peak?

Clearly a heavy lass. Not.

Mookie Blaylock · 02-11-2018 10:45am

Wibbs wrote: »

Nope. For a start "everything" doesn't have symmetry. When talking about physical attractiveness facial and bodily symmetry features very high. Symmetry shows good nutrition and developmental health in childhood and adolescence. This stuff is wired into us at a very deep level. Another one consistent across time and culture is a particular hip/waist ratio in women, regardless of weight. The hour glass in basic terms. EG that pic of the woman above that you like. She's fat by many cultural standards, but (mostly)retains that ratio. It's been found that women with that shape have fewer reproductive problems. In men broader shoulders and narrower hips are favoured. Other attractiveness triggers are more feminine faces in women and more masculine faces in men. Various studies show we make these decisions of yay/nay very rapidly, within seconds of meeting someone. Hell, as Tinder shows we can make these decisions just as rapidly going by a photo alone and swipe right or left accordingly.

It's very much a cultural thing, the body shape in the pic I quoted is very much sought after by men around the world,
that's why I don't pay too much attention to the hardwired physiology that we are all supposed to be attracted to...
hourglass figure...tbf that describes just about every female on the planet...it just depends if there's a bit more, or less sand in the glass .. just my opinion though

Hoboo · 02-11-2018 10:52am

Wibbs wrote: »

And Kelly Brook at her peak?

Clearly a heavy lass. Not.

She's a mess now, met her at a charity do during the summer, what a difference a pie diet makes.

Wibbs · 02-11-2018 10:53am

Mookie Blaylock wrote: »

It's very much a cultural thing, the body shape in the pic I quoted is very much sought after by men around the world,
that's why I don't pay too much attention to the hardwired physiology that we are all supposed to be attracted to...

Ehh, do you not see the first underlined part of your sentence goes some way to confirming the hardwired thing?

I'd disagree her size would be a widespread ideal. In some African cultures maybe. In the West thinner is much more "in" and in East Asian cultures she'd be seen as huge, even a fetish.

hourglass figure...tbf that describes just about every female on the planet...it just depends if there's a bit more, or less sand in the glass .. just my opinion though

Yes and no. Women vary around the basic ratio or waist narrower than hips. Some are more "boyish" with less of a difference, others have bigger bellies that are larger than their hips. Varies with age too. The waist tends to thicken with age. I remember reading of research in changing sizes over the last century in the West and along with men and women in general being taller and heavier, the classic hourglass shape was in decline in women.

Shenshen · 02-11-2018 11:07am

Wibbs wrote: »

Ehh, do you not see the first underlined part of your sentence goes some way to confirming the hardwired thing?

I'd disagree her size would be a widespread ideal. In some African cultures maybe. In the West thinner is much more "in" and in East Asian cultures she'd be seen as huge, even a fetish.

Yes and no. Women vary around the basic ratio or waist narrower than hips. Some are more "boyish" with less of a difference, others have bigger bellies that are larger than their hips. Varies with age too. The waist tends to thicken with age. I remember reading of research in changing sizes over the last century in the West and along with men and women in general being taller and heavier, the classic hourglass shape was in decline in women.

But would that not be natural selection at work? The hourglass shape is being selected for less by partners, so it's disappearing.
Would this really be happening if the hourglass shape was as unmutable an attractive feature as you claim?

Wibbs · 02-11-2018 12:05pm

Shenshen wrote: »

But would that not be natural selection at work? The hourglass shape is being selected for less by partners, so it's disappearing.
Would this really be happening if the hourglass shape was as unmutable an attractive feature as you claim?

It would be too short a timeframe for natural selection to be at work. It's down to changes in lifestyle and diet, with some suggesting more hormone mimicking chemicals in our environment. The drop in sperm quality another down to the above.

Basically people in the west are eating more processed food, more food that's not local to them, more protein and just more food in general. While usually living less active lifestyles. This increases height over a couple of generations(you can see this in Asian Americans) and increases waistlines. It's been mused that the environmental hormone thing is influencing more women's bodies to put on weight around the belly(which is where men tend to accumulate excess), rather than on hips and thighs.

Over a longer period of time selection might come into it, but it would take a very long time, as humans will generally shag anything.

Doubly so for men, who tend to be much less discerning. For obvious biological reasons as they can't get pregnant.

As for the hourglass figure: Look to the Most beautiful women thread hereabouts. In between the oft cringe you'll see that damned near every single women pictured in that thread has an hourglass going on. If this thread was around in the 1950's or 1980's or 1680's they would too. Overall weight might vary, but the shape would remain. You see similar consistencies in male attractive body shapes.

Steve F · 02-11-2018 12:40pm

Wibbs wrote: »

Ehh Monroe was tiny, with a very narrow waist(22 inches IIRC?). This idea that Marilyn was a larger woman is a relatively new thing. At her heaviest in the flic Some like it hot, she was pregnant at the time and she was hardly large. Otherwise she was a very slim woman. And Kelly Brook at her peak?

Clearly a heavy lass. Not.

Wibbs
I posted so someone would put up a picture of KB
Thanks soooo much

Hammer89 · 02-11-2018 2:47pm

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

On the other hand it's a pain in the boob to spend loads of time building an emotional connection with a guy, allowing the attraction to build and when you get to that crucial moment...sigh. it's not gonna work for you. Been there a few times :(

This is one of these comments that women can get away with. I've no problem with women who have size preferences at all, but there's something quite cold about acting like you're some sort of victim who deserves sympathy, when in reality you have rejected people you fancy, people you clicked with, because their knob didn't measure up.

Again, that's your right, and there's nothing wrong with rejecting men for that reason, but there is something very wrong with putting your disappointment before his. It's an astounding lack of empathy. If it's a 'pain in the boob' for you then how devastating do you think it'd be for these lads if they knew - which they probably do - the reason why you didn't take it further?

Gimme A Pound · 04-11-2018 2:06pm

But is she definitely talking about the size of their manhood or just a lack of sexual chemistry?

EmmetWhitey · 08-11-2018 4:36pm

Bitches Be Trypsin wrote: »

Does obesity suddenly mean that somebody doesn't deserve love?

Not suddenly... that's always been the case

:D:D:D:D

Bigbagofcans · 08-11-2018 4:41pm

EmmetWhitey wrote: »

Not suddenly... that's always been the case :D:D:D:D

Everyone deserves love (apart from evil humans).

EmmetWhitey · 08-11-2018 4:47pm

Bigbagofcans wrote: »

Everyone deserves love (apart from evil humans).

The world owes you nothing. This idea that you somehow "deserve" love is just that an idea.

:D:D:D:p

Segotias · 08-11-2018 5:13pm

Hammer89 wrote: »

This is one of these comments that women can get away with. I've no problem with women who have size preferences at all, but there's something quite cold about acting like you're some sort of victim who deserves sympathy, when in reality you have rejected people you fancy, people you clicked with, because their knob didn't measure up.

Again, that's your right, and there's nothing wrong with rejecting men for that reason, but there is something very wrong with putting your disappointment before his. It's an astounding lack of empathy. If it's a 'pain in the boob' for you then how devastating do you think it'd be for these lads if they knew - which they probably do - the reason why you didn't take it further?

I can't imagine its necessarily a size preference more a functional one. Is she meant to fake it continuously to make these lads feel better??

ginandtonicsky · 09-11-2018 12:40am

Hammer89 wrote: »

This is one of these comments that women can get away with. I've no problem with women who have size preferences at all, but there's something quite cold about acting like you're some sort of victim who deserves sympathy, when in reality you have rejected people you fancy, people you clicked with, because their knob didn't measure up.

Again, that's your right, and there's nothing wrong with rejecting men for that reason, but there is something very wrong with putting your disappointment before his. It's an astounding lack of empathy. If it's a 'pain in the boob' for you then how devastating do you think it'd be for these lads if they knew - which they probably do - the reason why you didn't take it further?

So talking about something frankly on an anonymous message board is suddenly "putting my disappointment before his"? We all speak from our personal experience as humans as that is our immediate reference point!

No man I've ever been with has thought for a second that his penis size was an issue. It's never in and of itself been a deal-breaker anyway and newsflash, most women fake it anywhere from often to occasionally depending on the circumstances.

Hammer89 · 09-11-2018 12:56am

I don't know what faking orgasms has to do with anything. I'm well aware the majority of women can't get off via penetration alone.

You intimated that it was indeed a deal-breaker by the way. "You get to that crucial moment...sigh. it's not gonna work for you." Speaking frankly about a subject doesn't mean compassion has to fly out of the window. There's room for honesty and decency. Not that you were being indecent but there was certainly a lack of tact in my view.

ohnonotgmail · 09-11-2018 10:20am

Hammer89 wrote: »

I don't know what faking orgasms has to do with anything. I'm well aware the majority of women can't get off via penetration alone.

You intimated that it was indeed a deal-breaker by the way. "You get to that crucial moment...sigh. it's not gonna work for you." Speaking frankly about a subject doesn't mean compassion has to fly out of the window. There's room for honesty and decency. Not that you were being indecent but there was certainly a lack of tact in my view.

Well if she said "we're finished because you have a tiny dick that will never satisfy me" that would be a lack of tact but there is no suggestion that anything like that happened.

B0jangles · 09-11-2018 10:46am

Hammer89 wrote: »

I don't know what faking orgasms has to do with anything. I'm well aware the majority of women can't get off via penetration alone.

You intimated that it was indeed a deal-breaker by the way. "You get to that crucial moment...sigh. it's not gonna work for you." Speaking frankly about a subject doesn't mean compassion has to fly out of the window. There's room for honesty and decency. Not that you were being indecent but there was certainly a lack of tact in my view.

Tact towards who though? The specific people she's talking about are very unlikely to be reading this thread and even less likely to realise it's them she's talking about.

ginandtonicsky · 09-11-2018 11:06am

Hammer89 wrote: »

I don't know what faking orgasms has to do with anything. I'm well aware the majority of women can't get off via penetration alone.

You intimated that it was indeed a deal-breaker by the way. "You get to that crucial moment...sigh. it's not gonna work for you." Speaking frankly about a subject doesn't mean compassion has to fly out of the window. There's room for honesty and decency. Not that you were being indecent but there was certainly a lack of tact in my view.

So every single sensitive thing mentioned about the opposite sex when it comes to attraction has to be couched in "but I understand it's difficult for men/women too" in order for it to be valid? What about overweight women turning most men off? Don't see any grand level of compassion exercised for them around here, nor on any AH thread on that subject for that matter.

And I never mentioned penis size as an absolute deal-breaker. You inferred that.

Hammer89 · 09-11-2018 6:10pm

ohnonotgmail wrote: »

Well if she said "we're finished because you have a tiny dick that will never satisfy me" that would be a lack of tact but there is no suggestion that anything like that happened.

She made out like she was the unlucky one from the encounter(s), which I thought was slightly lacking in perspective.

Hammer89 · 09-11-2018 6:13pm

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

So every single sensitive thing mentioned about the opposite sex when it comes to attraction has to be couched in "but I understand it's difficult for men/women too" in order for it to be valid? What about overweight women turning most men off? Don't see any grand level of compassion exercised for them around here, nor on any AH thread on that subject for that matter.

If the OP wasn't so blatantly a piss take then you would see a lot more compassion toward overweight women here I think. If this was a serious thread, which it clearly isn't, then I guarantee it'd spiral into the typical overweight/obesity discussion eventually, in which there does tend to be a bit of decency and empathy amid the chaos and nastiness.

I don't think overweight women and small-penised men are in the same bracket of misfortune by the way. Overweight women can lose weight, whereas if you naturally have a small dick - like, without some of it being concealed by pubic fat or something - then the only viable option is acceptance. There's no Weight Watchers or Slimming World for these poor c*nts, meaning that if you emerge from a sexual encounter cursing your luck then there's something wrong.

ohnonotgmail · 09-11-2018 6:15pm

Hammer89 wrote: »

She made out like she was the unlucky one from the encounter(s), which I thought was slightly lacking in perspective.

how is lacking in perspective the same as lacking in tact? Unless she told him very bluntly tact does not come into it. and i dont think she lacks in perspective either. Realising early on that a partner has a deficiency that is a dealbreaker shows quote the opposite. why waste time on a relationship that will not work out?

Hammer89 · 09-11-2018 6:23pm

ohnonotgmail wrote: »

how is lacking in perspective the same as lacking in tact? Unless she told him very bluntly tact does not come into it. and i dont think she lacks in perspective either. Realising early on that a partner has a deficiency that is a dealbreaker shows quote the opposite. why waste time on a relationship that will not work out?

You can be lacking in perspective and sensitivity at the same time. And yes, tact does come into it. Of course it does. Just because she didn't say anything blunt to his face doesn't mean that someone can't be tactless anecdotally, even if the subject(s) of that anecdote will never find out about it.

ginandtonicsky · 09-11-2018 6:26pm

Hammer89 wrote: »

She made out like she was the unlucky one from the encounter(s), which I thought was slightly lacking in perspective.

So it'd have been a bit more digestible if I'd said/thought "ah the poor lad, this isn't going to work and there's nothing he can do about it, poor thing"?

Not sure many men would appreciate being patronised or 'sympathised with' in that scenario.

Hammer89 wrote: »

If the OP wasn't so blatantly a piss take then you would see a lot more compassion toward overweight women here I think.

Strongly disagree. You've been around here long enough to know that the "poor fat wimmenz, men don't like em and it's not their fault" rhetoric is quite simply non-existent around here.

Hammer89 wrote: »

I don't think overweight women and small-penised men are in the same bracket of misfortune by the way. Overweight women can lose weight, whereas if you naturally have a small dick - like, without some of it being concealed by pubic fat or something - then the only viable option is acceptance. There's no Weight Watchers or Slimming World for these poor c*nts, meaning that if you emerge from a sexual encounter cursing your luck then there's something wrong.

Losing weight may well be "simple" but it's not easy or common - hence the many, many obesity threads around here not to mention the spiralling statistics. And there aint that many women that will overcome their own pathology because men ignore or mock them sexually.

Many men that haven't been blessed with their appendage are great in bed because they've had to develop "other skills" shall we say. Not every woman wants or cares about size. But they are equally entitled to care, as sexual attraction is simply out of everyone's control, regardless of how unpalatable that is.

Gimme A Pound · 09-11-2018 6:32pm

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

So every single sensitive thing mentioned about the opposite sex when it comes to attraction has to be couched in "but I understand it's difficult for men/women too" in order for it to be valid? What about overweight women turning most men off? Don't see any grand level of compassion exercised for them around here, nor on any AH thread on that subject for that matter.

Not just overweight women - women in general.

And I never mentioned penis size as an absolute deal-breaker. You inferred that.

Yeah I didn't think your comment meant penis size either - just sexual incompatibility, lack of chemistry. Now maybe you do mean penis size but it's not obvious at all. I don't understand why Hammer didn't ask you to clarify first.

Hammer89 · 09-11-2018 6:38pm

Adam Massive Druggist wrote: »

Yeah I didn't think your comment meant penis size either - just sexual incompatibility, lack of chemistry. Now maybe you do mean penis size but it's not obvious at all. I don't understand why Hammer didn't ask you to clarify first.

Her original post was in response to a post about a 'handsome Tinder guy with a four-inch penis'. Was I wrong to assume she was talking about penis size, which she is?

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

Strongly disagree. You've been around here long enough to know that the "poor fat wimmenz, men don't like em and it's not their fault" rhetoric is quite simply non-existent around here.

It's not non-existent actually. Why do you think obesity threads go on for so long? It's not because every single participant is slagging off fat women; they go on so long because there's always strong conflict and that's because for every nasty view there's a nice and compassionate one.

ginandtonicsky · 09-11-2018 6:43pm

Hammer89 wrote: »

they go on so long because there's always strong conflict and that's because for every nasty view there's a nice and compassionate one.

you've got to be kidding me :pac::pac::pac:

Gimme A Pound · 09-11-2018 7:26pm

Hammer89 wrote: »

Her original post was in response to a post about a 'handsome Tinder guy with a four-inch penis'. Was I wrong to assume she was talking about penis size, which she is? .

Apologies. I don't know how I missed that. Welcome to our world here i guess. At least you won't be met with posts about what an unattractive feminazi you are by people who don't know you and have never seen you (even if you're hot and have no time for today's feminism).

In my opinion there is nothing unpleasant about how g&tsky worded her post though - it doesn't indicate at all that she would be a horrible bitch to a guy about having a small penis. She's only talking about her disappointment because it's a post from her perspective. It doesn't indicate lack of empathy for the guy whatsoever.

completedit · 09-11-2018 7:55pm

THERE IS NO NO NO SIMILARITY BETWEEN A FAT GIRL AND A GUY WITH A SMALL DICK. NONE. NONE. NONE. The mental torment that comes with a small dick is much more than a girl who is fat.

Wibbs · 09-11-2018 8:16pm

LOUD NOISES!!

Well the big difference is someone who is fat can with effort lose the weight. In theory. Depends how big and how long they're that size for and how much mad willpower they have going on. Even then people, men and women tend to slowly put the weight back on. Take stomach bypass surgery. Massive loss of weight very rapidly, but after a few years the majority regain weight and many creep back up to the weight they were.

As for mental torment? The "lose the lard lassie" stuff is everywhere. Thin is in and women in general are much more aware of and advertised to about their weight. Many women are on near lifetime "diets" and eating disorders are far more common in women and anorexia has the highest death rate of any mental illness, so yeah a fair amount of "mental torment" going on.

Small mickey? Yeah, not great and like being short there's feck all you can do about it(maybe mickey transplants that work will come along in the future?). Depends how small I suppose. If it's the size of a thumb you're kinda boned. Or not. Four inches in old money isn't too great, but more to work with, different positions, more foreplay and the like(good bet anyway. Plus gay women on average get off more than straight and no willies in sight). And yes for some, if not a fair number of women "size does matter", at least within a normal range(average/normal is within 5-6 inches IIRC?). Put it another way a woman won't stay if the relationship is crap even if you're hung like a shire horse. I'd reckon mickey size is more for the owners benefit. Internal bragging rights type of thing. A feeling of masculinity if you're packing more than the average bear. Apparently some men are worried about small bits and bobs in a gym changing room type environment. Which has nada to do with women.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 09-11-2018 8:19pm

Who cares what someone else finds attractive?
Nobody should be made feel bad cause they don’t fancy a fat girl no more than a girl should be made feel bad about not liking short guys it’s all subjective and nobody is wrong

completedit · 09-11-2018 8:29pm

Amaris Tasteless Smallpox wrote: »

Who cares what someone else finds attractive?
Nobody should be made feel bad cause they don’t fancy a fat girl no more than a girl should be made feel bad about not liking short guys it’s all subjective and nobody is wrong

It's wrong if you're on the wrong side of both. It's an absolutely brutal life let me assure you. I don't think people know what it's like, I explained elsewhere on here, when you're a short guy you don't even figure in the race, girls just don't think of you as dominant or sexual unless your handsome enough that you can compensate for your height. As I explained as well, most guys are average but if you have a bit of height and a bit of a big frame, you will have a chance with girls.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 09-11-2018 8:44pm

completedit wrote: »

It's wrong if you're on the wrong side of both. It's an absolutely brutal life let me assure you. I don't think people know what it's like, I explained elsewhere on here, when you're a short guy you don't even figure in the race, girls just don't think of you as dominant or sexual unless your handsome enough that you can compensate for your height. As I explained as well, most guys are average but if you have a bit of height and a bit of a big frame, you will have a chance with girls.

But that’s the individual persons issue, that’s not girls being vain bitches. I know a few short chubby lads in relationships so obviously some people find it attractive. But that’s not the point. Some people aren’t attracted to fat people, some people will be. It’s all okay. Nobody has a moral duty to find someone else attractive. It sucks if you draw the short straw but ultimately that isn’t anyone else’s fault

completedit · 09-11-2018 9:07pm

It definitely is tbf. And it's not all okay, how the **** can it be all okay? Tell that to people who cry at home and want to ****ing step out on front of a train because they've been rejected outright and humiliated because of their dick size.:mad::mad::mad::mad:

One eyed Jack · 09-11-2018 9:11pm

completedit wrote: »

THERE IS NO NO NO SIMILARITY BETWEEN A FAT GIRL AND A GUY WITH A SMALL DICK. NONE. NONE. NONE. The mental torment that comes with a small dick is much more than a girl who is fat.

If there really is no similarity in your mind between the two, then how can you possibly compare them, let alone say one is any worse than the other in and of itself?

Insecurity about oneself no matter what it is can be utterly debilitating, or one can be indifferent to it, depends entirely on the individual.

Gimme A Pound · 09-11-2018 10:13pm

completedit wrote: »

It definitely is tbf. And it's not all okay, how the **** can it be all okay? Tell that to people who cry at home and want to ****ing step out on front of a train because they've been rejected outright and humiliated because of their dick size.:mad::mad::mad::mad:

It very much IS ok for a person not to be attracted to someone. It's not voluntary - they cannot help how they feel so it's unreasonable to view it as a choice.

It's appalling to belittle someone for a physical trait though - that's different.

bloodless_coup · 09-11-2018 10:32pm

I think a couple of lads in this thread have small lads.

Hammer89 · 09-11-2018 10:54pm

doylefe wrote: »

I think a couple of lads in this thread have small lads.

I used to, before I lost a good bit of weight, and greatly reduced the fat mass around my pubes, revealing more of it. Now it's like a roll of bin bags, but not as black

completedit · 09-11-2018 10:58pm

I'm 9 per cent bf so I'm not some typical hippo. I think that shows how small I am tbh because averages take into account fatties who if they lost weight would gain a few inches. The kind of girls I know aren't getting with fat guys so I imagine the average they've experienced is like 6 inches or so.

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