Fading Good Looks

Day Lewin · 15-11-2018 2:58pm

From the neck down, I look better than I did at 30. From the neck up, not so much...

15-11-2018 3:01pm

Lillybloom wrote: »

I don't see what's confusing about the thread. It's about people's accounts of how others treat them differently as they lose their good looks. All contexts are open for discussion, this isn't an exam question.

I know things about people lilly, (famous movie quote from someone who aged like wine) and someone you certainly would not treat differently

Neyite · 15-11-2018 3:03pm

corner of hells wrote: »

Challenge accepted .

"How you doin ?"

Gimme A Pound · 15-11-2018 3:13pm

Really good-looking people's looks don't fade until they're actually old (actually old, not 35) unless they do a Brigitte Bardot and cook themselves.

DEFTLEFTHAND · 15-11-2018 3:14pm

wakka12 wrote: »

Depends on the person. I know 25 year olds how look absolutely haggard, male and female

Speaking of ageing well des bishop looked so good on rte last night. I never thought he was attractive before and he looks so different now but way better with a bit of ageing, definitely suits some people and others not so much

Noticed that too about Des Bishop.

I would have never considered him as handsome before.

The greying hair really suits him.

jimgoose · 15-11-2018 3:17pm

Bianca Fat Conductor wrote: »

...unless they do a Brigitte Bardot and cook themselves.

Amazing. For one of the most beautiful creatures in the World at one point, she appears to have managed to turn into a somewhat less attractive version of Donald Trump:

Diemos · 15-11-2018 3:23pm

The wall is real

jimgoose · 15-11-2018 3:30pm

Day Lewin wrote: »

From the neck down, I look better than I did at 30. From the neck up, not so much...

I wouldn't necessarily be too sure. For an example of a woman who remained white-hot, bow-chicka-wow-wow attractive into her 80s and crow's feet be buggered, check out one Betty Joan Perske, better known as Lauren Bacall.

CrankyHaus · 15-11-2018 3:31pm

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

Noticed that too about Des Bishop.

I would have never considered him as handsome before.

The greying hair really suits him.

Giving up the drink was probably a big part of it. If you live healthy then aging gracefully is on the cards, less so if you don't. At the other end of the spectrum look at all the mad session merchants looking like obese stroke victims once they pass 35/40.

completedit · 15-11-2018 4:09pm

Des Bishop was a model when he was younger. He just didn't come across as handsome, if you look back though he actually was.

15-11-2018 4:17pm

It's all relative. I'm in my 60's now, - I think the 40 and 50 yr-olds are stunners.

jimgoose · 15-11-2018 4:20pm

inthehat wrote: »

It's all relative. I'm in my 60's now, - I think the 40 and 50 yr-olds are stunners.

Something like that. As far as I'm concerned the 40-somethings are fine-lookin' things, the 30-somethings are saucy chungwans and the 20-somethings are kids. :pac:

eviltwin · 15-11-2018 4:24pm

I look better now at 41 than I did at 21. Back then I was very overweight and dealing with mental health issues, I didn't care about myself and it showed. Now I'm in a much better place, I've lost a lot of the weight and just generally happier, I have more wrinkles than I did back then but so what. I've lost the haunted look I wore for years.

Gwildor · 15-11-2018 4:45pm

I'm 36 now and think I'm infinitely better looking now then I was in my 20s. Could be a confidence thing too. I was always skinny and couldn't grow a whisker in my 20s, but now I'm properly filled out and have a full beard, I do feel a lot more confident.

Pretzeluck · 15-11-2018 4:49pm

jimgoose wrote: »

I'm 46 and like fine whiskey, the older I get the more attractive I am. I'm your tall, well-built, ruggedly handsome type. Somewhat but not entirely tangentially, I think a lot of women benefit greatly from a few laps on the clock and a little lining and wrinkling, gives 'em lovely, attractive character.

I want to see it

Thomyokk · 15-11-2018 4:50pm

I'm late 40s and it's mostly 20 somethings chasing after me.I stick to women my own age.

I literally can't go shopping without some young wan grabbing me and telling me i'm good looking and where do i live.

I couldn't get a second look from a woman when I was younger

PlaneSpeeking · 15-11-2018 4:52pm

48 and never been good looking, never wanted to be tbh.

completedit · 15-11-2018 4:55pm

Thomyokk wrote: »

I'm late 40s and it's mostly 20 somethings chasing after me.I stick to women my own age.

I literally can't go shopping without some young wan grabbing me and telling me i'm good looking and where do i live.

I couldn't get a second look from a woman when I was younger

BRUTAL. Meanwhile guys like myself

10 per cent bodyfat
Incredible strict diet
Regular haircuts
Obscene money spent on fashion

Can't get a ****ing look in. Big fatherly protective bear theory strikes again. I think I'm gonna put on 50kg and see how I get on.

Harry Palmr · 15-11-2018 4:55pm

I'm now identifing as a bit crumbly. But I'm still better looking as a middle aged git than when half my age, I grew into myself.

Dial Hard · 15-11-2018 5:01pm

Thomyokk wrote:

I'm late 40s and it's mostly 20 somethings chasing after me.I stick to women my own age.

I literally can't go shopping without some young wan grabbing me and telling me i'm good looking and where do i live.

You might want to start worrying about the early-onset dementia though.

Cee-Jay-Cee · 15-11-2018 5:07pm

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

I'm a 36 year old guy and I have to say that I've aged well.

Get far more female attention now than I did in my early 20s.

Yeah women tend to get desperate when they hit their mid 30’s, enjoy.

Thomyokk · 15-11-2018 5:09pm

Dial Hard wrote: »

You might want to start worrying about the early-onset dementia though.

I actually don't enjoy the attention

I'm naturally shy and not promiscuous

Women get angry with me when I don't engage or accept their advances

Pretzeluck · 15-11-2018 5:12pm

Thomyokk wrote: »

I actually don't enjoy the attention

I'm naturally shy and not promiscuous

Women get angry with me when I don't engage or accept their advances

Of course

Thomyokk · 15-11-2018 5:29pm

Some men seem surprised that other men actually attract women or get attention

It happens , attraction is real

completedit · 15-11-2018 5:30pm

Thomyokk wrote: »

Some men seem surprised that other men actually attract women or get attention

It happens , attraction is real

LEGIT just because they don't APPROACH YOU, doesn't mean that women don't approach. Women are constantly on the look out for desirable men and will approach when that man presents himself. Some people really live with their head in the sand.

Austria! · 15-11-2018 5:35pm

Thomyokk wrote: »

Couldn't get a look at a woman in my 20s

Literally getting propositioned every day of the week now

I had the exact experience as you. Apart from that second bit.

Feisar · 15-11-2018 6:05pm

completedit wrote: »

LEGIT just because they don't APPROACH YOU, doesn't mean that women don't approach. Women are constantly on the look out for desirable men and will approach when that man presents himself. Some people really live with their head in the sand.

I'm actually unapproachably good looking.

Ray Palmer · 15-11-2018 6:06pm

completedit wrote: »

BRUTAL. Meanwhile guys like myself

10 per cent bodyfat
Incredible strict diet
Regular haircuts
Obscene money spent on fashion

Can't get a ****ing look in. Big fatherly protective bear theory strikes again. I think I'm gonna put on 50kg and see how I get on.

You sound incredibly vain which is one of the biggest turn offs on the planet. The only people you will attract or other vain people.

Thomyokk · 15-11-2018 6:09pm

completedit wrote: »

LEGIT just because they don't APPROACH YOU, doesn't mean that women don't approach. Women are constantly on the look out for desirable men and will approach when that man presents himself. Some people really live with their head in the sand.

Yes and you don't need to do anything at all if they're interested in you

Women will initiate contact

If not i guess men have to work at it

completedit · 15-11-2018 6:12pm

Yeah women will make it PAINFULLY obvious that they like you. I always find it funny when people try to console you by saying 'I'm sure you've had plenty of admirers and you just didn't know it'.

Feisar · 15-11-2018 6:12pm

Thomyokk wrote: »

Yes and you don't need to do anything at all if they're interested in you

Women will initiate contact

If not i guess men have to work at it

I found women will make the first move in bars, clubs or online however not in a coffee shop at half one of a rainly Tuesday.

Thomyokk · 15-11-2018 6:21pm

Feisar wrote: »

I found women will make the first move in bars, clubs or online however not in a coffee shop at half one of a rainly Tuesday.

Women working at supermarket checkouts are insatiable if they like a man

I guess it's the infrequent contact, literally get the hand pulled off me when paying

Lillybloom · 15-11-2018 6:24pm

Feisar wrote: »

I found women will make the first move in bars, clubs or online however not in a coffee shop at half one of a rainly Tuesday.

Often in an indirect manner, like standing beside the man of interest and "accidentally" brushing off him or bumping into him. Sometimes they get their friends to push them into a man they want to talk to.

Sometimes they just stand staring at you through a crowd with wide open eyes like a poltergheist.

professore · 15-11-2018 6:26pm

valoren wrote: »

I'm 38 and sometimes get lazy and let the back and side hairs from my male pattern baldness grow out. My hair is greying rapidly and when it grows out I look much older.

Then I get it shaved to the bone and with 3 day grey tinged stubble, I look 10 years younger and transform into a very sexy bastard*. Think a stubbly Jason Statham with glasses.

* according to my OH....and me.

I've been pretty much bald since my late 20s. Hated it back then but now wouldn't want hair as I look like a badass when shaved and it's so low maintenance. Also it seemed to make me more attractive to the ladies than less.

professore · 15-11-2018 6:29pm

completedit wrote: »

BRUTAL. Meanwhile guys like myself

10 per cent bodyfat
Incredible strict diet
Regular haircuts
Obscene money spent on fashion

Can't get a ****ing look in. Big fatherly protective bear theory strikes again. I think I'm gonna put on 50kg and see how I get on.

They probably assume you are gay.

Pretzeluck · 15-11-2018 6:29pm

Thomyokk wrote: »

Some men seem surprised that other men actually attract women or get attention

It happens , attraction is real

Of course not, these men do not go to an online forum to brag about it to complete strangers to artificially boost their ego.

completedit · 15-11-2018 6:30pm

Ray Palmer wrote: »

You sound incredibly vain which is one of the biggest turn offs on the planet. The only people you will attract or other vain people.

You can't be vain and ugly/unattractive

:p

professore · 15-11-2018 6:34pm

completedit wrote: »

Yeah women will make it PAINFULLY obvious that they like you. I always find it funny when people try to console you by saying 'I'm sure you've had plenty of admirers and you just didn't know it'.

Not all of them. Some do. Some think insulting you is the way to your heart. Some just insult you because they don't like you. Some make it PAINFULLY obvious only to turn round and say they aren't interested. I've seen it all (in my day for anyone trolling my posts).

completedit · 15-11-2018 6:35pm

professore wrote: »

Not all of them. Some do. Some think insulting you is the way to your heart. Some just insult you because they don't like you. Some make it PAINFULLY obvious only to turn round and say they aren't interested. I've seen it all (in my day for anyone trolling my posts).

You seem well versed bro. You're a few years older and you've seen it all. Very interesting reading your insights.

Pretzeluck · 15-11-2018 6:38pm

professore wrote: »

Not all of them. Some do. Some think insulting you is the way to your heart. Some just insult you because they don't like you. Some make it PAINFULLY obvious only to turn round and say they aren't interested. I've seen it all (in my day for anyone trolling my posts).

You've seen around all of the world's women? The ratio is approximately 50:50 men and women so you've been with approximately 3.8 billion of women.

completedit · 15-11-2018 6:41pm

Pretzeluck wrote: »

You've seen around all of the world's women? The ratio is approximately 50:50 men and women so you've been with approximately 3.8 billion of women.

We live in Ireland, I don't care about the behavioural patterns of women in Eritrea.

professore · 15-11-2018 6:43pm

completedit wrote: »

You seem well versed bro. You're a few years older and you've seen it all. Very interesting reading your insights.

And I hang round with a crew that is very diverse in age, from early 20s to late 50s, so I get to observe a lot too. I'm late 40s myself and married for a loooong time. Plus I've got many friends of that age group who are divorced.

People are a lot weirder than most people imagine. One thing is certain, unless you are one of the top men in attractiveness - which is not obvious to me what that attractive quality is -then you will have a lot of pain trying to work out whether a woman actually likes you or not.

For women it's much more straightforward what is attractive to men - youth, a pretty face, in reasonable physical shape, and a fun personality. Any one of those will make up a lot for the lack of another one. The women that remain attractive the longest are the ones that keep in shape and have a fun personality.

Pretzeluck · 15-11-2018 6:44pm

completedit wrote: »

We live in Ireland, I don't care about the behavioural patterns of women in Eritrea.

You've been with all of the women in Ireland? The ratio is approximately 50:50 men and women so you've been with approximately 2.3 million of women.

professore · 15-11-2018 6:44pm

Pretzeluck wrote: »

You've seen around all of the world's women? The ratio is approximately 50:50 men and women so you've been with approximately 3.8 billion of women.

I've seen all these BEHAVIOURS .... groan

Pretzeluck · 15-11-2018 6:46pm

professore wrote: »

And I hang round with a crew that is very diverse in age, from early 20s to late 50s, so I get to observe a lot too. I'm late 40s myself and married for a loooong time. Plus I've got many friends of that age group who are divorced.

People are a lot weirder than most people imagine. One thing is certain, unless you are one of the top men in attractiveness - which is not obvious to me what that attractive quality is -then you will have a lot of pain trying to work out whether a woman actually likes you or not.

For women it's much more straightforward what is attractive to men - youth, a pretty face, in reasonable physical shape, and a fun personality. Any one of those will make up a lot for the lack of another one. The women that remain attractive the longest are the ones that keep in shape and have a fun personality.

Hard to argue with that. For how many years have you been with the same woman and did you have any side action in the meantime? Do you not get bored after 15 years of the same thing?

Lillybloom · 15-11-2018 7:06pm

Pretzeluck wrote: »

Of course not, these men do not go to an online forum to brag about it to complete strangers to artificially boost their ego.

Stating facts isn't necessarily bragging if it's relevant to discussion.

Pretzeluck · 15-11-2018 7:14pm

Lillybloom wrote: »

Stating facts isn't necessarily bragging if it's relevant to discussion.

I want statistical information

Ray Palmer · 15-11-2018 7:38pm

completedit wrote: »

You can't be vain and ugly/unattractive :p

I think you don't know what "vain" means so intelligence is also a likely factor in your unattractive qualities:P

completedit · 15-11-2018 7:39pm

Yeah I'm pretty dumb ngl.

corner of hells · 15-11-2018 7:52pm

Thomyokk wrote: »

I'm late 40s and it's mostly 20 somethings chasing after me.I stick to women my own age.

I literally can't go shopping without some young wan grabbing me and telling me i'm good looking and where do i live.

I couldn't get a second look from a woman when I was younger

That's awful , there's you buying a meal for one on Tesco and you can't get a minutes peace to choose between a chicken stir fry and a beef curry.

Fading Good Looks

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