"Man Up" campaign by SafeIreland

'Not all abuse is violent': What to do if you think someone may be abusing their partner
An expert shares how he helps perpetrators to change.
http://www.thejournal.ie/how-to-intervene-domestic-abuse-4222661-Sep2018

Domestic Violence Costing the Economy More than Previously Thought
October 4, 2018/in Press Releases /by safe-ireland

Agency urges politicians to keep watch for vital investments that can transform women’s lives

Safe Ireland, the national agency working to eradicate domestic violence in Ireland, delivered a Budget Watch to all TDs and Senators today, to urge them to monitor Budget 2019 for the delivery of five essential measures of care and progress for women and children living with violence.

The agency said that the minimum additional investment needed in 2019 to address the urgent needs of victims of domestic violence is €35 million. The agency now knows, from new research currently being carried out with NUI Galway, that is just a tiny fraction of the enormous estimated annual cost of domestic violence to the economy every year.

Up to now, the often-cited figure on economic costs for domestic violence is €2.2 billion a year. This is based on a 2006 Council of Europe study which looked at costs across areas like policing, health bills, lost productivity and court proceedings.

New Safe Ireland/NUI Galway research on the estimated cost of domestic violence in Ireland is indicating that the cost could actually be far greater than previously thought. The research is looking at the economic and social costs of domestic violence across three phases of a survivor’s journey, from living within the abusive relationship to relocation and recovery.

“Domestic violence is more than a human rights violation and public health issue, By exploring its wider economic and social impact, we highlight the often invisible or ignored consequences for individuals, households, the community and society,” said Dr. Caroline Forde, Researcher at the Centre for Global Women’s Studies at NUI Galway.

Safe Ireland called particularly for a specific, ring-fenced allocation of €15 million in the housing budget to fund and target initiatives to support women and families to access stable housing. It is widely acknowledged that domestic violence is a leading cause of homelessness for women and children.

“It’s really easy maths. If you allocate adequate and targeted resources to prevention and support for survivors of domestic violence, you save lives, restore futures and save billions,” Caitriona Gleeson, Programme Manager with Safe Ireland said. “If you don’t address it and tinker around the edges as we have done for decades in Ireland, it continues to cost us all and leaves women and children at greater risk of revictimisation, trauma and poorer life outcomes.”

Safe Ireland said that Ireland now has some of the most ground-breaking and progressive legislation in the world designed to protect and support survivors of domestic violence. However, legislation has to be backed up by adequate and targeted funding if it is to make a difference to people’s lives, it said.



Five Measures of Care and Progress in Budget 2019



1. Safe Homes: Specific ring-fenced allocation of funding and targeted initiatives for survivors of domestic violence.

Investment Needed: €15 million

2. Sustainable Support Services: Increase refuge and support services so that they are accessible throughout the country, upgrade facilities, bring pay and conditions of low paid professionals up to 2018 levels, breaking a pay freeze that has been in place since 2009.

Investment Needed: €20 million

3. Training and Awareness: Targeted and specific training and awareness training for frontline responders.

Investment Needed: €2 million

4. Trauma and Recovery: Development of special trauma response service.

Investment Needed: €8 million

5. Resource our legislation: Increase resources allocated to justice and victim support services to implement the new DV Act and Victims Directive.

No access to cost of increasing trained personnel across other services

johnnyskeleton wrote: »

Is he the one who wrote an article about how metoo caused him to finally read simone de beauviour and the irish times published the article?

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What you should do when you witness domestic abuse

What would you do?
Although 88,000 men have been severely abused by a partner at some point in their lives, 95% of them won't report it to the Gardai. The traditional ideologies of masculinity are no doubt part of what discourages them to speak up, but it's important that any witnesses to such abuse know how they can help.

Research shows that 4 in 10 people in Ireland know someone who has experienced domestic violence. However, not knowing what to do when witnessing domestic violence is one of the main reasons why people give for not intervening.

Domestic abuse can be both physical and emotional, and can affect either men or women. Trust your instincts, but remember your goal is to de-escalate the situation, so a direct approach isn't always the best course of action.

Michael D Higgins used his re-election speech last night to call for an end to the "scourge of violence against women".

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"The urgent need to end the scourge of violence against women cannot be deferred, but must be ended now," he said to applause.

iptba wrote: »

It irritates me to see this being held on International Men's Day.
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The Health Service Executive invites you to join with leading Irish men and Irish women to talk about the need for Gender Equality with the Men's Development Network CLG on International Men's Day and to highlight International White Ribbon Day 2018 to End Men’s Violence Against Women and Girls and to promote Gender Equality

https://www.eventbrite...-tickets-52207779875

What are the chances the HSE would hold an event about ending Women's violence against Men and Boys on International Women's Day?

Social Services Minister Paul Fletcher said the loans would be provided through Good Shepherd Microfinance to help women set up new lives.

"If you need to leave a dangerous situation because of domestic violence and you haven't got the financial resources to do that, you simply haven't got the money to pay for a bond, to buy new furniture in the new home, then sadly, experience says in too many cases women stay," he said.

The women killed on one day around the world

Wednesday 2 January 2019
Charlie Flanagan: 'I am committed to do all I can to tackle scourge of domestic violence'

Holiday times can be especially difficult for victims of domestic violence and their children. While many of us have been celebrating this holiday season with loved ones, in homes throughout Ireland women and men are being subjected to verbal abuse, psychological torment, and physical attack by their intimate partners. It is only right that we consider their plight.

"It presents a challenging picture. If the findings were a true reflection of our community, we should be concerned," he said.

Wills said recent 'mainstream' studies on the subject had shown about 80 per cent of the perpetrators of domestic violence were men.

However, in their paper "A couples analysis of partner abuse with implications for abuse-prevention policy", authors Terrie Moffitt, Richard Robins and Avshalom Caspi found a more even split between the genders when it came to violence in the home.

They found that 40 per cent of male couple members in the study had perpetrated at least one of a list of 13 physically abusive acts, ranging from slapping and kicking to forcing sex and use of a weapon, while 50 per cent of women had. The data did not fit the male-dominance model, which attributes aggression mostly to men, the researchers concluded.

"[It] would suggest the need for policy that encourages development and evaluation of programmes to reduce physical abuse by women," the authors stated.

iptba wrote: »

Drivetime on RTE Radio 1 today had a piece on domestic violence and the new Irish law on coercive control where non-violent behaviour is also covered.

It can be heard here at https://rte.ie/r.html?rii=b9_10982839_83_10-01-2019_

The relevant bit starts at 35:22

The interviewees were Davina James-Hanman, a UK independent consultant specialising in domestic and sexual violence, and Margaret Martyn, director of Women's Aid

It wouldn't be much of a surprise that the woman from Women's Aid only talked about female victims.
However, the other woman is an independent consultant who trains police forces in the UK.
She only talked about female victims until the interviewer asked about whether men's rights groups were commenting on the law in the UK or whether men could be victims. She said something to the fact that it was almost impossible for men to be victims because of the general sexism in society and the power that men have. She doesn't all sound like the sort of person who should be teaching police forces about the law. I see on Twitter she describes herself as a feminist, which is not very surprising given how she talked.

She talked about how it can be useful to ask the alleged victim about the relationship. If there was a whirlwind romance, she said something to the effect that this circumstantial evidence of a relationship where there was coercive control. Similarly if the man had showered the woman with gifts. I am very uncomfortable with any suggestion that such behaviour should be used in a criminal investigation (it is another thing if people want to warn women to be wary of such relationships, but that wasn't the context).

I remember hearing a good while back that Women's Aid or similar group were educating gardai about domestic violence. I wonder what the current situation is. I could easily see that training could be biased.
At the start of the interview, a Garda Representative was complaining that they want more training for the new laws.

Coalition pledges $78 million for Australians fleeing domestic violence

More than 450 new safe spaces are set to be built to house thousands of women and children escaping domestic violence each year, through $78 million in fresh funding.

https://www.sbs.com.au/news/coalition-pledges-78-million-for-australians-fleeing-domestic-violence

The Demonisation of Australian Men
14th February 2019

It is to the the federal government’s shame that it has signed on to a biased campaign depicting men as the sole agents of domestic violence, most particularly white men and boys. The obscured truth is that women are also violent, but feminist ideologues and their panderers don’t want you to know that

LostinBlanch wrote: »

It's nice to see an article in a national newspaper focusing on female perpetrators of domestic violence instead of male ones. In this case it's Suzanne Harrington in the Examiner.

No doubt she's going to get a lot of grief from the sisterhood for going against the narrative.

When we think about domestic abuse, we think bruised women, terrified children, violent men. That’s the formula.



The statistics backed this up: in Britain, it’s two dead women a week, murdered by current or former partners. Two dead women, every week, and hundreds more assaulted, controlled, terrorised. There are fewer deaths in Ireland — 216 femicides since 1996 — yet domestic violence has the highest rate of repeat offending of any crime.


Men bash women once, twice, three times, until he loses count and she loses consciousness.

LostinBlanch wrote: »

Anyway, I expect it'll be drowned out within the next few days and forgotten about.

iptba wrote: »

I am unhappy with this tweet, which has gone over 1000 retweets and appeared in my Twitter timeline:
https://twitter.com/CoCoAwareness/status/1109495674616320000
Glad to see it being challenged:
https://twitter.com/peggy_woolley/status/1109508509903831043?s=11
https://twitter.com/senior_witch/status/1109508933088145410

KIDS USED AS WEAPONS I stayed in an abusive relationship with my wife because she threatened to not let me see my kids if I left – and there are plenty of other men like me
Matthew Wrightson was subjected to coercive control by the woman he was married to for seven years

A new study found that more than a third of men in the UK have admitted being a victim of such a relationship, which strips the victim of their liberty and sense of self and became illegal in December 2015.

Separate research suggests the reasons men don’t leave abusive relationships are varied, but for 89 percent it’s because of worries about their children.

The fear of never seeing their kids again keeps 68 per cent with their partner.

Fianna Fáil councillor Gobnait Moynihan said that if a woman from Macroom wants to escape an abusive relationship, she is faced with moving herself and her children either to the city or Tralee. This isn’t ideal, she said, adding that women want to try and keep some normality in the lives of their children and moving so far away would be uprooting their from their school and friends.

FishOnABike wrote: »

Is there any good reason why a gender neutral approach cannot be taken to the provision of refuges / emergency accommodation for domestic abuse suffers?

Why should there be a blatent double standard when it comes to the provision of such an important service?

Any sporting organisation would be refused government sourced grant aid if it discriminated based on gender.

FishOnABike wrote: »

Is this not somewhat self contradictory? Why would it be any harder to screen for a male spouse trying to find their partner than 'women from a certain ethnic background doing this to threaten victims' or even a same gender partner?

Even Erin Pizzey, founder of the first domestic abuse shelter has said women regularly had to be refused due to their own violent behaviour and, though she was ostracized for saying so, that domestic violence is not a gender issue and men are as much victims of domestic abuse as women.

In this day and age shouldn't the same supports be provided to all domestic abuse suffers, female or male, in a non discriminatory manner?

At the time of the attack, they had been living separately for 1 year.
She attacked him because he was seeing another woman.
She attacked him with a hammer and hit him 20 times.