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29-10-2018, 20:31   #61
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Why doesn't tinder have a weight filter? I should be able to choose to only appear to non fat girls.

Most of the likes I get are from fat ones. The gall of them. I'm in good shape. Why would they think I'm interested in an over weight person?
I presume they make no assumptions about you at all, not knowing you personally.
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29-10-2018, 21:01   #62
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I love how women can get away with saying no one under 6 ft and there's no uproar but god forbid if a man mentions a womans appearance
weight problems = easy mode

height problems = hard mode
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Why call women either? It's just that that bravado from grown men is unnecessary. Women don't refer to men as things.

Don't think that's the case on this thread though. Personally I cringe at women doing that too. Really lets the side down. If a man isn't attracted to overweight women, that's just his involuntary preference, which there is nothing wrong with. I don't care if he even puts it in his profile, because weight can be lost.

Whereas women who say 6ft only are discriminating based on something a man can't control. And they're ruling out lots of great guys who are maybe 5ft 9 or 10. But I doubt any well adjusted guy would want to get involved with a woman who puts that stupid specification on her profile.
But, like with weight, it’s an involuntary preference for some women. It’s neither here nor there that a man can’t make himself taller, if a woman prefers tall men, she can’t help that just as a man might prefer a slim women.

I don’t think any woman should mention it on her profile but I think it’s a bit much to suggest that a woman who preferably likes tall men isn’t going to suit a well-adjusted guy. And even if she doesn’t mention it on her profile, she’ll be mentally using it as a filter. You mentioned involuntary preferences in your post. Wouldn’t liking tall men be one?

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I understand a preference for men her own height or taller (and men can prefer women not being taller than them) but that doesn't always have to mean 6ft.

It's not so much a preference for taller men but specifying a particular height, like a guy saying "must be size 8-10".
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There's a new dating app that only allows you to match with people of other ethnicities, because if you're a white man and you're only attracted to white women, well that's racist apparently.
And is everyone is being forced to sign up to it?
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Why doesn't tinder have a weight filter? I should be able to choose to only appear to non fat girls.

Most of the likes I get are from fat ones. The gall of them. I'm in good shape. Why would they think I'm interested in an over weight person?

Tinder doesn’t have a weight filter because they’re a business, not a public service. If you’re on the app, you’re a target for anyone, same as girls on the app who complain about being messaged constantly by overweight guys. They’re chancing their arm, same as the women do with you.

I’d say even if you put it in your description, it would be likely to have the opposite effect from social justice warrior types just looking to show you “the errror of your ways”
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I understand a preference for men her own height or taller (and men can prefer women not being taller than them) but that doesn't always have to mean 6ft.

It's not so much a preference for taller men but specifying a particular height, like a guy saying "must be size 8-10".

Cuts out a lot of the tyre kickers and chancers really is all, well, it’s intended to anyway! It’s just narrowing down the criteria to the point where your chances of being matched with your ideal person are higher than just playing “pin the tail on the donkey and hope for the best” sort of thing. You’ll be matching with less people, but higher quality is all.
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Most of the likes I get are from fat ones.
How do you know you are getting likes from fatties? Unless you are liking them yourself?
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How do you know you are getting likes from fatties? Unless you are liking them yourself?

Kinda reminds me of American Beauty, like the OP is publicly in denial, is disgusted by women who are overweight, but in private is tugging the skeleton out of himself browsing the BBW section on Pornhub
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Most of the likes I get are from fat ones.
How do you know you are getting likes from fatties? Unless you are liking them yourself?
He explained that earlier, something about seeing pixelated versions of people that like you so you can tell the size but not exactly see the face if I understand it
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Most of the likes I get are from fat ones.
How do you know you are getting likes from fatties? Unless you are liking them yourself?
OP explained that earlier, something about seeing pixelated versions of people that like you so you can tell the size but not exactly see the face if I understand it
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Met my current GF off tinder. Had weight on her, didn't care because she was just an amazing person and I was attracted to her as result of that.
She ended up losing 3.5 stone over the last year which while she looks better than ever I wouldn't have cared if she stayed as she was.
Basically what I'm getting at is that weight is just that. Weight, you can just lose it when you really want to. What you are missing out on is the amazing person they are and what you could potentially be together. That doesn't mean you have to give every big girl a chance but just don't be closed off to it when you're getting along with someone just because of some superficial reason.
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Accidently reposted.....

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She'll end up trading you in now.
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I know a friend of my gf who takes amazing photos of herself, despite her big build. Headshots are a big giveaway in my opinion. If they don’t show their body in the photo, it’s not worth showing.
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