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08-11-2018, 16:13   #226
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This is one of these comments that women can get away with. I've no problem with women who have size preferences at all, but there's something quite cold about acting like you're some sort of victim who deserves sympathy, when in reality you have rejected people you fancy, people you clicked with, because their knob didn't measure up.

Again, that's your right, and there's nothing wrong with rejecting men for that reason, but there is something very wrong with putting your disappointment before his. It's an astounding lack of empathy. If it's a 'pain in the boob' for you then how devastating do you think it'd be for these lads if they knew - which they probably do - the reason why you didn't take it further?

I can't imagine its necessarily a size preference more a functional one. Is she meant to fake it continuously to make these lads feel better??
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This is one of these comments that women can get away with. I've no problem with women who have size preferences at all, but there's something quite cold about acting like you're some sort of victim who deserves sympathy, when in reality you have rejected people you fancy, people you clicked with, because their knob didn't measure up.

Again, that's your right, and there's nothing wrong with rejecting men for that reason, but there is something very wrong with putting your disappointment before his. It's an astounding lack of empathy. If it's a 'pain in the boob' for you then how devastating do you think it'd be for these lads if they knew - which they probably do - the reason why you didn't take it further?
So talking about something frankly on an anonymous message board is suddenly "putting my disappointment before his"? We all speak from our personal experience as humans as that is our immediate reference point!

No man I've ever been with has thought for a second that his penis size was an issue. It's never in and of itself been a deal-breaker anyway and newsflash, most women fake it anywhere from often to occasionally depending on the circumstances.
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I don't know what faking orgasms has to do with anything. I'm well aware the majority of women can't get off via penetration alone.

You intimated that it was indeed a deal-breaker by the way. "You get to that crucial moment...sigh. it's not gonna work for you." Speaking frankly about a subject doesn't mean compassion has to fly out of the window. There's room for honesty and decency. Not that you were being indecent but there was certainly a lack of tact in my view.
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I don't know what faking orgasms has to do with anything. I'm well aware the majority of women can't get off via penetration alone.

You intimated that it was indeed a deal-breaker by the way. "You get to that crucial moment...sigh. it's not gonna work for you." Speaking frankly about a subject doesn't mean compassion has to fly out of the window. There's room for honesty and decency. Not that you were being indecent but there was certainly a lack of tact in my view.

Well if she said "we're finished because you have a tiny dick that will never satisfy me" that would be a lack of tact but there is no suggestion that anything like that happened.
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I don't know what faking orgasms has to do with anything. I'm well aware the majority of women can't get off via penetration alone.

You intimated that it was indeed a deal-breaker by the way. "You get to that crucial moment...sigh. it's not gonna work for you." Speaking frankly about a subject doesn't mean compassion has to fly out of the window. There's room for honesty and decency. Not that you were being indecent but there was certainly a lack of tact in my view.

Tact towards who though? The specific people she's talking about are very unlikely to be reading this thread and even less likely to realise it's them she's talking about.
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I don't know what faking orgasms has to do with anything. I'm well aware the majority of women can't get off via penetration alone.

You intimated that it was indeed a deal-breaker by the way. "You get to that crucial moment...sigh. it's not gonna work for you." Speaking frankly about a subject doesn't mean compassion has to fly out of the window. There's room for honesty and decency. Not that you were being indecent but there was certainly a lack of tact in my view.
So every single sensitive thing mentioned about the opposite sex when it comes to attraction has to be couched in "but I understand it's difficult for men/women too" in order for it to be valid? What about overweight women turning most men off? Don't see any grand level of compassion exercised for them around here, nor on any AH thread on that subject for that matter.

And I never mentioned penis size as an absolute deal-breaker. You inferred that.
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Well if she said "we're finished because you have a tiny dick that will never satisfy me" that would be a lack of tact but there is no suggestion that anything like that happened.
She made out like she was the unlucky one from the encounter(s), which I thought was slightly lacking in perspective.
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So every single sensitive thing mentioned about the opposite sex when it comes to attraction has to be couched in "but I understand it's difficult for men/women too" in order for it to be valid? What about overweight women turning most men off? Don't see any grand level of compassion exercised for them around here, nor on any AH thread on that subject for that matter.
If the OP wasn't so blatantly a piss take then you would see a lot more compassion toward overweight women here I think. If this was a serious thread, which it clearly isn't, then I guarantee it'd spiral into the typical overweight/obesity discussion eventually, in which there does tend to be a bit of decency and empathy amid the chaos and nastiness.

I don't think overweight women and small-penised men are in the same bracket of misfortune by the way. Overweight women can lose weight, whereas if you naturally have a small dick - like, without some of it being concealed by pubic fat or something - then the only viable option is acceptance. There's no Weight Watchers or Slimming World for these poor c*nts, meaning that if you emerge from a sexual encounter cursing your luck then there's something wrong.
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She made out like she was the unlucky one from the encounter(s), which I thought was slightly lacking in perspective.

how is lacking in perspective the same as lacking in tact? Unless she told him very bluntly tact does not come into it. and i dont think she lacks in perspective either. Realising early on that a partner has a deficiency that is a dealbreaker shows quote the opposite. why waste time on a relationship that will not work out?
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how is lacking in perspective the same as lacking in tact? Unless she told him very bluntly tact does not come into it. and i dont think she lacks in perspective either. Realising early on that a partner has a deficiency that is a dealbreaker shows quote the opposite. why waste time on a relationship that will not work out?
You can be lacking in perspective and sensitivity at the same time. And yes, tact does come into it. Of course it does. Just because she didn't say anything blunt to his face doesn't mean that someone can't be tactless anecdotally, even if the subject(s) of that anecdote will never find out about it.
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She made out like she was the unlucky one from the encounter(s), which I thought was slightly lacking in perspective.
So it'd have been a bit more digestible if I'd said/thought "ah the poor lad, this isn't going to work and there's nothing he can do about it, poor thing"?

Not sure many men would appreciate being patronised or 'sympathised with' in that scenario.

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If the OP wasn't so blatantly a piss take then you would see a lot more compassion toward overweight women here I think.
Strongly disagree. You've been around here long enough to know that the "poor fat wimmenz, men don't like em and it's not their fault" rhetoric is quite simply non-existent around here.

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I don't think overweight women and small-penised men are in the same bracket of misfortune by the way. Overweight women can lose weight, whereas if you naturally have a small dick - like, without some of it being concealed by pubic fat or something - then the only viable option is acceptance. There's no Weight Watchers or Slimming World for these poor c*nts, meaning that if you emerge from a sexual encounter cursing your luck then there's something wrong.
Losing weight may well be "simple" but it's not easy or common - hence the many, many obesity threads around here not to mention the spiralling statistics. And there aint that many women that will overcome their own pathology because men ignore or mock them sexually.

Many men that haven't been blessed with their appendage are great in bed because they've had to develop "other skills" shall we say. Not every woman wants or cares about size. But they are equally entitled to care, as sexual attraction is simply out of everyone's control, regardless of how unpalatable that is.
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So every single sensitive thing mentioned about the opposite sex when it comes to attraction has to be couched in "but I understand it's difficult for men/women too" in order for it to be valid? What about overweight women turning most men off? Don't see any grand level of compassion exercised for them around here, nor on any AH thread on that subject for that matter.
Not just overweight women - women in general.
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And I never mentioned penis size as an absolute deal-breaker. You inferred that.
Yeah I didn't think your comment meant penis size either - just sexual incompatibility, lack of chemistry. Now maybe you do mean penis size but it's not obvious at all. I don't understand why Hammer didn't ask you to clarify first.
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Yeah I didn't think your comment meant penis size either - just sexual incompatibility, lack of chemistry. Now maybe you do mean penis size but it's not obvious at all. I don't understand why Hammer didn't ask you to clarify first.
Her original post was in response to a post about a 'handsome Tinder guy with a four-inch penis'. Was I wrong to assume she was talking about penis size, which she is?

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Strongly disagree. You've been around here long enough to know that the "poor fat wimmenz, men don't like em and it's not their fault" rhetoric is quite simply non-existent around here.
It's not non-existent actually. Why do you think obesity threads go on for so long? It's not because every single participant is slagging off fat women; they go on so long because there's always strong conflict and that's because for every nasty view there's a nice and compassionate one.
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they go on so long because there's always strong conflict and that's because for every nasty view there's a nice and compassionate one.
you've got to be kidding me
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Her original post was in response to a post about a 'handsome Tinder guy with a four-inch penis'. Was I wrong to assume she was talking about penis size, which she is? .
Apologies. I don't know how I missed that. Welcome to our world here i guess. At least you won't be met with posts about what an unattractive feminazi you are by people who don't know you and have never seen you (even if you're hot and have no time for today's feminism).

In my opinion there is nothing unpleasant about how g&tsky worded her post though - it doesn't indicate at all that she would be a horrible bitch to a guy about having a small penis. She's only talking about her disappointment because it's a post from her perspective. It doesn't indicate lack of empathy for the guy whatsoever.
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