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01-06-2020, 19:27   #1
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Have you ever been approached by women?

I know a male friend in my class who I thought was very handsome (I'm bi) when i first saw him. When I ask him about dating, he said he met and lost his virginity to two girls but here's the kicker, they all approached him in a nightclub. Didn't have to do any work.

I don't think that'll ever be me. Not only does he have a chiseled face but he's 6ft2. I'm 5ft 5in, too dark skinned and bad teeth. (things people have told me about being unattractive).

I have heard though of guys being approached outside pub/nightclub settings by women which is super rare. Do you know any men who have been approached like this?

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01-06-2020, 19:39   #2
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I know a male friend in my class who I thought was very handsome (I'm bi) when i first saw him. When I ask him about dating, he said he met and lost his virginity to two girls but here's the kicker, they all approached him in a nightclub. Didn't have to do any work.
Who is taking bets that your friend is full of BS and you fell for it hook line and sinker. Once you hear the same story from the same circle of friends you know it is bull****. I used to be the same, ask a few questions like what colour were her eyes and watch them search for the answer.

I used to have two associates who used to tell the same story. He was a single dad and his mother was looking after the child because his ex bolted. Then there was the time they (separately went to the Formulae 1 in Monaco and partied with Alien Ant Farm), Then after college these guys were going to work in Chicago in a 7 star restaurant in a Casino hotel.

All stories fellas just tell to big themselves up. Work on yourself and and you will shine through

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I am not sure about how true your friend's story might be, especially as he claims for it to have been a threesome, but then again, strange things DO happen. Sometimes I learn things about how people meet and hook up that make me go "what the flying fcuck" (and occasionally feel a bit jealous/left out, but that's just human nature).

As for being approached by women...very very rarely, but it has happened to me; Interestingly, it almost always happened when I was in relationships, at least one time with my then-girlfriend standing right there. The one time it happened when I could have "availed" of the opportunity, it was at a work function and basically it turned out to be impossible to silently "disappear" without everyone noticing. As much as one might enjoy sex, it isn't worth having the whole office gossiping about it for months...to keep it mild.

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01-06-2020, 23:21   #4
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Too dark skinned? I am not sure what that even means. I know it is a projection of status in some countries to have paler skin but it is definitely not a thing in Ireland. On the contrary a bit of colour to the skin is often seen as beneficial.
TBH I have read a good few of the threads you have started and contributed to and alot of your ideas and outlooks seem to come from the US.
Ireland isn't the same as the US so my advice to you would be to stop listening to all the nonsense, get a real hobby and get on with your life.

To answer your question - twice in my life girls have approached me. Both were stunners and I am no oil painting. Just one of those things. Get yourself out there. Sometimes strange and unexpected things can happen.

edit - actually there was a third time in Germany but the girl seemed dodgy as .... so I bailed.
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Too dark skinned? I am not sure what that even means. I know it is a projection of status in some countries to have paler skin but it is definitely not a thing in Ireland. On the contrary a bit of colour to the skin is often seen as beneficial.
TBH I have read a good few of the threads you have started and contributed to and alot of your ideas and outlooks seem to come from the US.
Ireland isn't the same as the US so my advice to you would be to stop listening to all the nonsense, get a real hobby and get on with your life.

To answer your question - twice in my life girls have approached me. Both were stunners and I am no oil painting. Just one of those things. Get yourself out there. Sometimes strange and unexpected things can happen.

edit - actually there was a third time in Germany but the girl seemed dodgy as .... so I bailed.
What do you mean the girl was dodgy?
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OP, never change. Your posts are classic by now.
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Approached once, I'll never forget it. There I was propping the bar, or at least it was propping me up. Heard this distant murmur as if half-awakening from a dream, a voice so sweetly mellifluous it was like an angel descended from heaven. The divine apparition spoke, "Is this seat taken?". "No, take it away". Swish, and she disappeared into the ether. Right there and then I knew I had graduated into manhood, and could now carry a briefcase with dignity. Yessir I'm going places, that automobile won't drive itself.
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I think your mother approached me one night, Mr. F.
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Not till I got married

Not much use then
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What do you mean the girl was dodgy?
Possibly a drug addict. It was 2pm in a bar in Germany (I was on hols so perfectly acceptable )
She was very insistent that I come back to her house. One of the guys in the pub said he knew her to see and to be careful.
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ANOTHER one of these …..

Is there any way you could stop rehashing the same oul rubbish ?
FFS !
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I reckon if we all chipped in together to get Mr. F an escort (gender of his choosing) that might put an end to these threads...
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It's not that uncommon.
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Is the OP what is called an Incel?

For what it is worth I was approached many times (married for 10 years now). Ok not every night and certainly the minoirty of nights out and so were friends of mine which I witnessed so it really is not crazy unusual in the slightest.
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I reckon if we all chipped in together to get Mr. F an escort (gender of his choosing) that might put an end to these threads...

I would seriously fear for the escort's life.
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