' I don't do Valentines'

deise08 wrote: »

So I've just been told this by the lad I'm seeing, turns out the last lad I was seeing a few years ago also 'didn't do Valentine's' either.
I've never had a Valentine's, so just wondering how common is this?

I work in retail and know that all our stuff is sold by the time the day comes around, so someone does it :-D

So do ye fine people of AH do Valentines or do I just get bogeys?

Men typically dont care for it, sorry because it's seen as men making the effort and women getting the spoils.

You could causually remind him of steak-and-blowjob-day with a wink and a hint and see if that's gets him to put in the effort.

Some years yes and some years no. I think this year I'll get her a voucher for nails or hair or something.
Don't expect anything because I usually hate presents

When I was younger with flings and at the start of my relationship now we did it but once we got comfortable and honest with each other, we both admitted we thought it was bullsh!t. When I saw this thread I thought it was Valentine's Day today! It is unlikely my husband will remember the date either.

its a load of bollix

being upset at a lad for not buying a token card is a sure sign of crazy for me

I don’t care too much about it but I’d never turn up “empty handed” for it.

I mean, I’m not too into “celebrating” my birthday but I still get presents for others.

Myself and the OH don't really acknowledge it. Not into being rushed in and out of a busy restaurant, possibly inflated prices (especially flowers), and the gifts that "express love" (which are usually pretty stereotypical and require little thought or effort aside from getting to the shops in time).

deise08 wrote: »

So I've just been told this by the lad I'm seeing, turns out the last lad I was seeing a few years ago also 'didn't do Valentine's' either.
I've never had a Valentine's, so just wondering how common is this?

I work in retail and know that all our stuff is sold by the time the day comes around, so someone does it :-D

So do ye fine people of AH do Valentines or do I just get bogeys?

The username and last line are a giveaway, lots of bogeys in Blaa. Its a bit of a cringey day

Me and my wife used to go out for a meal on Valentines, but we got many disappointing expensive meals, so we stopped going out for it.

However, we do spend it together at home enjoying each others company, watching stuff on TV, I cook a lovely meal, and I'll generally buy something small like chocolates for her, but she doesn't for me, nor do I want her to.. we share the ones I buy.

So yeah we celebrate it, but on a small, private, not expensive scale at home.

Irishphotodesk wrote: »

Wait till you get told about "Galentine's Day" yes.... Valentine's with a "G"

An even bigger load of bollocks than Valentine's.. Though it has been around years.

We are not doing anything this year as cash is a bit tight . However I am cooking a nice steak dinner Saturday night for him and he will get in the booze .
I'm not a big fan of Valentine's day myself , think it can be over rated to be honest and a money gimmick with flowers etc . Himself would often bring me home flowers from Moore Street on a Friday evening max cost 10 euros and I appreciate those flowers more than overpriced interflora roses for Valentines .

The only positive purpose that Valentines Day servers is to determine how high maintenance your new girlfriend is.

Apache are going heart shaped pizza's so, yea....

Alan Howling Cattle wrote: »

I'll be getting her a card, flowers, chocolates, and a gift. She always gets me something too. I think most people in relationships who get nothing whatsoever for Valentine's day end up secretly disappointed. "I don't do Valentine's day" is often a cover for being cheap or not giving a toss.

I'm inclined to agree, having said that I spent a right few bob on an Xmas present and her birthday is coming up so it'll be a card and a steak at home.

A few days ago my wife told me she'd be getting something for me, and then said 'Did you hear that? JUST LETTING YOU KNOW.'

I have been warned. There shall be no repeat of last year's unpleasantness.

Female here and also not into it, and never was.
For my first valentines with my ex he pulled out all the stops, he had flowers delivered to my work, got me a beautiful bracelet and perfume and booked us a surprise night away to a hotel with a dinner reservation for a lovely restaurant.

He hadn't believe me when I said I wasn't bothered because his ex used to say things like that and then go postal if there wasn't a big fuss made. Poor lad put himself under such pressure for nothing. I mean, I appreciated the gestures but there was really no need.

Every other subsequent year we got a chinese takeaway and a bottle of wine and watched a movie at home. Far more enjoyable and way less pressure.

deise08 wrote: »

So do ye fine people of AH do Valentines or do I just get bogeys?

You get bogeys

The whole “I don’t do...” misses the point. In a relationship it’s not about what you don’t do, it’s about doing things that you know mean something to the other person, or people, whichever

I’ll send a few cards and plush toys and whatever, it’s just a bit of fun. I understand why some people are dead set against the idea in principle, but it’s easy to tell the difference between them and someone who’s just a tightarse :pac: