Is it wrong to masterbate for a woman?

LegacyUser · 03-04-2004 8:44pm #1

Hi

just want peoples opinions on the above topic, have been going out with a girl for the last 3 months now but she seems to be very cagey about certain parts of sex, also she thinks masterbation is wrong so our sex life has become a bit stale.Is it wrong for me thinking like this? Is it wrong for a woman to pleasure herself, whats the harm?
PS this is not a troll, im just curious as if it wasnt an issue with her then sex would be soo much better.

DapperGent · 04-04-2004 10:03am

Women masturbate too? That's disgusting.

Um, no there's nothing wrong with it. You go and tell her that DapperGent says it's okay.

Though I fail to see how her having an interfere will dramatically improve the sex between the two of you, it willl improve her sex life how and ever.

Divine · 04-04-2004 10:21am

Oh its fine.....if she does'nt mind goin straight to hell when she dies

Beruthiel · 04-04-2004 10:36am

Divine
helpful comments only please

curious25
if Dapper says it's ok, then it is

seriously though
has she told you why she thinks it's wrong? is she very religious or something?
it's one of the most natural things in the world, but perhaps somewhere along the way she's been told different

MeatProduct · 04-04-2004 10:37am

Lord Satan will be watching

It's very natural to masturbate, to deny it is to deny part of yourself.

Nick

passive · 04-04-2004 11:35am

people who don't masturbate/think its wrong seriously bother me...

i just get wary of people as soon as they reveal anything hinting at that information....
I'm not saying you should dump her or anything because of it...just...be careful
it isn't wrong for women. the impression i get is that, on average, girls start later and are usually opposed to it for longer than a guy is before realising there is goodness down there.

LegacyUser · 04-04-2004 11:51am

no shes not religious, shes american so who knows, all that she says that she doesnt like it and it seriously bothers her, emmm why? i dont it wont improve things but whats the harm.Thanx for the replies so far, made me laugh some of them

Sleepy · 04-04-2004 2:17pm

An ex of mine was similar until shortly after a trip to Ann Summers when she admitted she was using something we'd bought there when she was on her own... Could be just the ticket for spicing things up as long as you've both a good sense of humour. Even if you just go in for a browse some afternoon, trust me, she'll be thinking a lot of the same things you will as you leave the shop;)

That said, some girls just don't like the idea of it. Most will learn to explore their sexuality on their own at some stage of their lives, some won't. Also, the great majority of women I know find it much harder to admit than us guys. I wouldn't stress about it tbh...

Paddy20 · 04-04-2004 2:32pm

If she is being serious and honest . Then why not explain how you feel about the subject, and maybe suggest that she talks too her GP or some close girlfriends about it, as you are concerned.

I have met some women who actually found masturbation painful, for reasons that needed medical treatment.

P. :ninja:

Dont Ban Me · 04-04-2004 2:54pm

IMP women masurbating is on of the greatest things in the history of man kind!!

I know plenty of women who do, and afew who dont! Suppose it just depends o the girls frame of mind and her general feeling!

If she's open enough to tell you she doesnt like it, ask her about it and ask her to explain her reason for disliking it?!

nads · 04-04-2004 4:19pm

Originally posted by Paddy20

I have met some women who actually found masturbation painful, for reasons that needed medical treatment.

P. :ninja:

what i'm wondering, well not really after this post as it seems like they're not as mad for it as us blokes, is their frequency of masterbation, i haven't had a girlfriend in a while now and i'm up to on average about twice a day :eek: so i'd be curious to know what an average actively-masterbating woman is up to.

Pink Bunny · 04-04-2004 8:29pm

Originally posted by curious25
no shes not religious, shes american so who knows, all that she says that she doesnt like it and it seriously bothers her, emmm why?

The fact that she's American has nothing to do with it, I'm sure. We are just as interested in sex and all things relating, trust me.

I'm still confused though, what does her dislike of masterbation have to do with your sex life, unless you have asked her to do that as part of foreplay or something? As long as she doesn't mind you touching her, where the problem?

Victor · 04-04-2004 10:08pm

Originally posted by passive
people who don't masturbate/think its wrong seriously bother me...

Seriously bothers you? You have a hang-up about other people's hang-ups?

Some people just aren't interested in masturbation whether through lack of reward from doing it or whether they actually have a hang-up. One woman I spoke to says she doesn't, simply because she gets enough sex.

Question for the poster, do you go down on her / does she like it?

angelofdeath · 05-04-2004 6:18am

seems to me, from the replys that 90% of boardsters are ****:D

ah no, its all good

Zulu · 05-04-2004 10:28am

Some women do, some women don't in my experience, just like some men lie, and some men don't!

It's a tricky one - I went out with a girl who found the whole thing repulsive, so I had to be very careful I didn't get caught - which was a serious bummer. I couldn't really approach the topic with her - it was a serious red flag! If your girl is the same, my only advice is don't get caught.

I also went out with a girl who loved to watch me - which was weird but great. She was a dinger

- god bless that woman!

uberwolf · 05-04-2004 10:55am

just guide her hand down there to take over from your hand when you're in the middle of it. The more excited she is when you pull your hand away the more likely she is to overcome her reluctance. She'll hate you for it but love you for it.

CodeMonkey · 05-04-2004 11:14am

Originally posted by Beruthiel
it's one of the most natural things in the world, but perhaps somewhere along the way she's been told different

Ignore if you think I am trolling but I am just curious really. Why is it the most natural thing in the world? It should be considered to be the contrary except we've been told in modern society that it's ok to masterbate. Don't get me wrong, I have absolutely nothing against it. It's just describing it like that seems wrong somehow...

Beruthiel · 05-04-2004 11:24am

Originally posted by CodeMonkey
Ignore if you think I am trolling but I am just curious really. Why is it the most natural thing in the world? It should be considered to be the contrary except we've been told in modern society that it's ok to masterbate.

should be?
society gives us hang ups, for many years we were to it was wrong,
left to your own devices and if you had not been told differently, it would come naturally to you - it is natural

CodeMonkey · 05-04-2004 11:48am

It's not something the majority of people in the world discovers on their own or at least I don't think so and hence I don't see how it's natural. People find out about it from others/movies etc. It's normal to us yes but that's cause everyone is doing it!!

Beruthiel · 05-04-2004 11:56am

Originally posted by CodeMonkey
It's not something the majority of people in the world discovers on their own or at least

I would disagree with you there. do you have some stats on that?

uberwolf · 05-04-2004 12:12pm

do monkeys not masturbate? I'm sure I've heard of that before. Point being that'd make it fairly natural.

Sleepy · 05-04-2004 12:59pm

I think you're entirely wrong there CodeMonkey. Apparently even very young children masturbate, we just wouldn't realise they're doing it as they don't masturbate to the point of orgasm...

b3t4 · 05-04-2004 1:01pm

Is it wrong for a woman to masterbate, for the love of all things sane, no!!!!

Some women I know just haven't thought about it (this I find hard to believe but anyways) when they get to know me and I'm blantly honest about the whole thing, they get to thinking and then they get a shopping in Ann Summers or somewhere similar.

It will normally take a female friend to get a girl who thinks masturbation is wrong to thinking that masturbation is good, natural and alot alot of fun. :-)

A.

Zulu · 05-04-2004 1:07pm

Originally posted by CodeMonkey
Ignore if you think I am trolling but I am just curious really. Why is it the most natural thing in the world? It should be considered to be the contrary except we've been told in modern society that it's ok to masterbate. Don't get me wrong, I have absolutely nothing against it. It's just describing it like that seems wrong somehow...

Actually infants rub their genatals when trying to sleep. Thats a fact.
Monkeys do it.
Dolphins do it.
We all do it.

...but I guess infants, men, monkeys and dolphins are unnatural perverts!
:rolleyes:

Zulu · 05-04-2004 1:10pm

...plus it reduces the risk of prostate cancer 4 fold, it alivates stress, it is a natular way to get rid of a headache, it strenghts the sperm....
the list goes on!

Genghis · 05-04-2004 1:16pm

Originally posted by CodeMonkey
It's not something the majority of people in the world discovers on their own or at least I don't think so and hence I don't see how it's natural. People find out about it from others/movies etc. It's normal to us yes but that's cause everyone is doing it!!

Ah, that might be where my dog learnt about it then. I must preview her video rentals in future!

Silent Grape · 05-04-2004 2:17pm

how old is the girl in question? i only discovered masterbation when i was about 17 or therabouts. if she's over 18, i seriously doubt she hasnt tried it at all. methinks she protests too much and is secretly part of some orgy fetish cult.

its funny, as long as im having regular sex i dont need to do it, other than that its about once every couple of weeks. and boys seem to do it a couple of times a day regardless of the amount of sex?!!

Typedef · 05-04-2004 2:23pm

Is it wrong to masterbate for a woman?

Yes.

I cast thee back to hell, vile spawn of Satan.

Never sully our doorsteps with your heathen-speak.

DapperGent · 05-04-2004 2:24pm

Originally posted by Silent Grape
and boys seem to do it a couple of times a day regardless of the amount of sex?!!

When you're in the flush of youth, yes and frequently more. But as you get a bit older the aul fella tends not to stand for that kind of regular punishment. Unless you have a hangover, then it's part of the whole recovery process.

Sleepy · 05-04-2004 2:29pm

Personally speaking if I'm with a partner whose sex drive matches my own there's no need unless we're apart but otherwise...

A couple of times a day seems a little excessive though...

LegacyUser · 05-04-2004 3:13pm

the woman in question is 25!!!!,Havent really asked her has she done it before, just the impression she gives me, thanx for the replies for far, been some very funny replies, made my day at work go quicker

Sleepy · 05-04-2004 3:25pm

Originally posted by curious25
made my day at work go quicker

Isn't that why boards was invented?

MF2HD · 05-04-2004 3:35pm

it really depends on how he's putting this to his girlfriend....for all we know he might want her to put on a "show" for him and she might not be comfortable doing it in front of him. But there is nothing wrong with it, jeez as was said earlier how has their sex life become stale??????? - due to a lack of masturbation on her part???

po0k · 05-04-2004 3:43pm

Originally posted by Sleepy
Isn't that why boards was invented?

No, that was Quake.
Made to make college go quicker.

whosurpaddy · 05-04-2004 3:44pm

Originally posted by Zulu
Actually infants rub their genatals when trying to sleep. Thats a fact.
Monkeys do it.
Dolphins do it.
We all do it.

...but I guess infants, men, monkeys and dolphins are unnatural perverts!
:rolleyes:

Dolphins? what the hell.

Zulu · 05-04-2004 3:59pm

yup, and you taught you needed a hand

Sleepy · 05-04-2004 4:04pm

Originally posted by SyxPak
No, that was Quake.
Made to make college go quicker.

I thought Quake was made to keep bored BOFH's busy

Sarky · 05-04-2004 8:44pm

It was made to keep single males busy.

violenza · 05-04-2004 10:44pm

Dolphins???:) lol. This place f uckin' cracks me up... on a serious note though. She's the one losing out yeah!! Her problem... Now, if she doesn’t want to give you a pedal and crank I can start to see why yer a bit upset. Tell her it's customary in these parts

sceptre · 06-04-2004 1:52am

Originally posted by uberwolf
do monkeys not masturbate? I'm sure I've heard of that before. Point being that'd make it fairly natural.

The ones in Dublin zoo do. I had the great joy many moons ago of taking my brother (who was about six) to see the monkeys only to be greeted by one playing with himself only for another one to run up and take him from behind. And no, I'm not making this up.

As for the original question, obviously it's not "wrong". Women don't even get to play the "spilling seed is evil and against God's wishes" card (otherwise known as the "Every Sperm is Sacred" playbook) given that they're not actually spilling anything useful. If she doesn't like it, fine and dandy but her saying that it's "wrong" smells of dumbness at her end to be honest, or at least some kind of hangup.

toxic_angel · 06-04-2004 10:50am

some women like it some dont. its fairly simple..... curious25 if u think ur sex life will be solved by her having a fiddle then wow are u mistaken...... and how bout showing her some respect and listening to her not wanting to do it.... u pressuring her is even more of a turn off and thats probably where ur relationship is going stale

secondly this thread seems to be mainly guys. never try understand a woman:D it just aint gonna happen:p

and as for how regularly do women masturbate............dunno women in general but i'm on bout 8 times a week and i'm in a relationship. its bout the same when i'm not though

loismustdie · 07-04-2004 2:08am

talk to her and find out why. if you really want to do it, and she really doesn't then you may have a problem. but what has masterbation go to do with your sex life together? unless you want to do it during sex or want her to do it it doesn't make any differencce what yo do alone and wouldn't make any difference to your sex life. religion shouldn't come int it, if you're having sex for pleasure then she can't be too religious, not to mention out of wedlock

Zulu · 07-04-2004 9:13am

MAsterbating has a lot to do with their sex life people.
If a persons libido is low then regular masturbation will increase their sex drive.
It a solution to a common problem with long term couples (or couples with different "needs")

df001i6876 · 18-04-2004 6:20pm

as kid growing up. the storys going around the playground were if you keep pla
ying with yourself you ll go blind + you ll end up with hairy hands
weres me glass so i can explain.i guess it ok.Theres loads off people wearing glass.haven t seen any hairy hands.

Saviour_Angel · 23-04-2004 1:16pm

if a guy denies being a wanker then he's a liar

:rolleyes: i'm not dening anything, nor am i admitting anything :rolleyes:

Gangsta · 25-04-2004 1:51am

Originally posted by Beruthiel
Divine
helpful comments only please

curious25
if Dapper says it's ok, then it is

seriously though
has she told you why she thinks it's wrong? is she very religious or something?
it's one of the most natural things in the world, but perhaps somewhere along the way she's been told different

r u a woman? if so, do u masturbate?

spectacleinrock · 25-04-2004 11:53am

t's not something the majority of people in the world discovers on their own or at least I don't think so and hence I don't see how it's natural. People find out about it from others/movies etc

Um.... i discovered it on my own.. seriously i was a naive child i hadnt even heard of it! Lucky i had wandering hands!;)

In all likelihood she probably has done it and is embarrassed to tell you which could be a problem in you realationship cause your not comfortable with each other yet! but then i could be completely wrong and just talking out of my arse.

If you really like someone you automatically assume sex will be mindblowing and often its not becasue you dont know what each other likes. Best way to over come it is to talk to each other and lots of practise!

po0k · 25-04-2004 4:57pm

Originally posted by Gangsta
r u a woman? if so, do u masturbate?

I am Woman!

Hear me >shlick< >shlick< >shlick<

claire h · 25-04-2004 9:09pm

Every time you masturbate, God kills a kitten.

Sleepy · 26-04-2004 10:34am

I hate kittens.

Victor · 26-04-2004 11:57am

Originally posted by Gangsta
r u a woman? if so, do u masturbate?

Would you ask your mother / aunt / boss / a woman on the street that question? If not, don't ask one individual to answer it here.

Is it wrong to masterbate for a woman?

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