Things you just "don't get"?

Raconteuse · 11-02-2020 10:07pm

Better Than Christ wrote: »

It's mindless idiocy and not on the same level as the hate-filled stuff, but it's insidious and can't make it easy for people to come out, knowing that they'll be on the receiving end of that sort of 'backs to the wall, lads' rubbish.

Yeah it does depend on context, to be fair.

Tell me how · 11-02-2020 10:09pm

Redneck Reject71 wrote: »

Really??To me they are classed as fun bags! The bigger the better,heh.And yes that's sexist of me but what can you do?

It's not sexist. Childish? Yes. But that's about it.

Widdershins · 11-02-2020 10:45pm

I don't get why dogs can sense human pregnancy but men can't.

Raconteuse · 11-02-2020 11:13pm

Tell me how wrote: »

It's not sexist. Childish? Yes. But that's about it.

I don't think it's childish. Men (and some women) of all ages love boobs and should be expressive regarding this love.

Pawwed Rig · 11-02-2020 11:22pm

smilerf wrote: »

I'm fed up of everyone saying podatoes. I mean like wdf

fyp

Widdershins wrote: »

I don't get why dogs can sense human pregnancy but men can't.

Dogs don't get criticised for mistaking fat for pregnancy. Rule of thumb is pretend you see nothing until it is confirmed.

riclad · 11-02-2020 11:41pm

I listen to a lot of podcast,s , theres alot of people who talk normally except
they do not pronounce t, eg button, is pronounced budden.
some people from america cannnot say r, eg star wars is staw waws .
it,s slightly irritating .
i saw an ad for a large jeep type hatchback.
this car is very big car ,maybe over twice the size of a ford focus.
the presenter says ,its kind to the environment,it use,s a diesel/electric combo engine .
heres a tip theres no way a car as big as this is fuel effecient,
vs a ford focus or another standard car.

Granadino · 11-02-2020 11:45pm

Men who wear shoes or trainers with no socks in Ireland, especially in the winter. ****ing idiotic. Or those little socks that make you look like you're not wearing any socks.

Penfailed · 11-02-2020 11:46pm

vriesmays wrote: »

Newspapers saying Sinn Fein's election success is historical.

Erm...it is though.

Widdershins · 12-02-2020 12:13am

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

fyp

Dogs don't get criticised for mistaking fat for pregnancy. Rule of thumb is pretend you see nothing until it is confirmed.

Not talking about the visible signs though. Would it not make more sense for men to have an instinct for it than dogs?

freshpopcorn · 12-02-2020 5:28am

Granadino wrote: »

Men who wear shoes or trainers with no socks in Ireland, especially in the winter. ****ing idiotic. Or those little socks that make you look like you're not wearing any socks.

It's just the cool thing to do now.
I don't think some of these fashionistas are as good at pulling off looks as they think they are.

Last Summer I noticed the guys who did this wore white socks pulled up as far as they could go with shorts.

Captain Red Beard · 12-02-2020 6:23am

Parasite.

Mister Vain · 12-02-2020 2:51pm

the beer revolu wrote: »

Big knockers.

Big arse's, or more specifically, trying to make your arse look as big as possible on instagram.

Potential-Monke · 13-02-2020 6:28am

Captain Red Beard wrote: »

Parasite.

Really? I kinda want to watch it just because it's the first foreign film to get the main Oscar.

Widdershins wrote: »

Not talking about the visible signs though. Would it not make more sense for men to have an instinct for it than dogs?

Here comes the science!

"...they [dogs] possess up to 300 million olfactory receptors in their noses, compared to about six million in us. And the part of a dog's brain that is devoted to analyzing smells is, proportionally speaking, 40 times greater than ours. Dogs' noses also function quite differently than our own."

Millicently · 13-02-2020 10:01am

Men who wear shorts outdoors in Winter. I'm not talking about guys going to or from the gym but guys who live in shorts all year round regardless of the weather. Even in the bloody snow ffs.

JustAThought · 13-02-2020 10:19am

people who will que in their cars blocking the road to wait to park in a full carpark despite the light flashing to say it is full, cones and men in high vis being put there to prevent them doing this -
meanwhile a 600 space almost empty car park entrance is ten foot from them - but no, they block the roundabout and road.

Widdershins · 13-02-2020 10:32am

I don't get when people say your life goes out the window when you have a baby. Only if your life is all nightlife in pubs but you can bring them with you most places. There are baby wraps.

sbsquarepants · 13-02-2020 10:44am

riclad wrote: »

I listen to a lot of podcast,s .

Do you find that most americans talk infuriatingly slowly?

Any american podcasts I listen to I have to play at least at 1.3x usually 1.5x as a result the all sound like Mickey Mouse but at least they are talking at a normal pace.

Anyway that's what i don't get - why do yanks talk so damn slowly?

13-02-2020 11:31am

Widdershins wrote: »

I don't get when people say your life goes out the window when you have a baby. Only if your life is all nightlife in pubs but you can bring them with you most places. There are baby wraps.

Even the night life and pubs can still be a regular occurance if you want it to be. Some people just give up on live and disappear after having a baby though and other get on with live very similar to before with some tweaks here and there.

sbsquarepants wrote: »

Do you find that most americans talk infuriatingly slowly?

Any american podcasts I listen to I have to play at least at 1.3x usually 1.5x as a result the all sound like Mickey Mouse but at least they are talking at a normal pace.

Anyway that's what i don't get - why do yanks talk so damn slowly?

Can’t say I ever noticed this.

seamus · 13-02-2020 11:40am

Widdershins wrote: »

Not talking about the visible signs though. Would it not make more sense for men to have an instinct for it than dogs?

Men do instinctually detect pregnancy, but the effect is more aphrodisiac than conscious.

Antares35 · 13-02-2020 11:53am

Widdershins wrote: »

I don't get when people say your life goes out the window when you have a baby. Only if your life is all nightlife in pubs but you can bring them with you most places. There are baby wraps.

This! We are expecting our first and I don't know how many times people have shouted prophecies of doom - "oh just you wait now" or "you're life is no longer your own" etc. Of course there will be changes but it's not like we will be shackled to the floor and not allowed out. I've spent a good chunk of my adult life juggling full time work, part time study and many additional responsibilities and constraints on my time. I think it is only if you live vicariously through your child with zero other interests or you are a very bad time manager that you will find yourself without a life*.

* I promise to report back if I eat these words

Widdershins · 13-02-2020 12:29pm

seamus wrote: »

Men do instinctually detect pregnancy, but the effect is more aphrodisiac than conscious.

I knew that applied to ovulation but I suppose pregnancy makes most women look healthier and glowy too.

Tacitus Kilgore · 13-02-2020 12:40pm

seamus wrote: »

Men do instinctually detect pregnancy, but the effect is more aphrodisiac than conscious.

Get this a lot - find myself caught in the headlights at random women on occasion and find myself wondering why I find them in particular so attractive - then notice a bump, oh..

Antares35 · 13-02-2020 1:10pm

Widdershins wrote: »

I knew that applied to ovulation but I suppose pregnancy makes most women look healthier and glowy too.

Ovulation I can understand. We are designed to be more attractive during this time - with a glow, nicer skin, more fertile and generally feeling an increased libido.. it's natures way of ensuring we procreate! :P The pregnancy one I don't get however - why would we be designed to look more attractive to males of the species when we are already impregnated with someone else's child? From an evolutionary perspective, I don't get it. Also from a practical one, have never had said glow! I just went from tired and grumpy to looking like I ate too many doughnuts to now just looking like usual me with a basketball stuffed under my dress

:D (and am still grumpy though that could just be state of being for me)

pgj2015 · 13-02-2020 1:14pm

Millicently wrote: »

Men who wear shorts outdoors in Winter. I'm not talking about guys going to or from the gym but guys who live in shorts all year round regardless of the weather. Even in the bloody snow ffs.

Travellers.

SAMTALK · 13-02-2020 1:27pm

Dont get the whole obsession with love island. Orange screechy women. Orange vain men.

seamus · 13-02-2020 1:49pm

Antares35 wrote: »

The pregnancy one I don't get however - why would we be designed to look more attractive to males of the species when we are already impregnated with someone else's child?

Evolution is cleverer than that.*

Massive amounts of our evolution has gone into the creation and reinforcement of basic social structures. If men saw a pregnant woman as "not of interest", then it would mean that she has to compete more for resources and attention, which doesn't make a sense from a survival point of view.

Hormonal increases in pregnant women, in general spark unconscious reactions in both sexes towards the pregnant woman, which make her a more central and desired part of the community, reduce her need to compete for resources and increasing her likelihood of survival( and therefore of her offspring).

There's a reason why some of the most ancient art pays homage to the wonder of the pregnant woman. A woman produces more estrogen and progesterone during nine months of pregnancy than the entirety of the rest of her life.

It drives the rest of us crazy and we're barely even aware of it.

*Yes, I know evolution is not intelligent or directed in any sense

Antares35 · 13-02-2020 1:53pm

seamus wrote: »

Evolution is cleverer than that.*

Massive amounts of our evolution has gone into the creation and reinforcement of basic social structures. If men saw a pregnant woman as "not of interest", then it would mean that she has to compete more for resources and attention, which doesn't make a sense from a survival point of view.

Hormonal increases in pregnant women, in general spark unconscious reactions in both sexes towards the pregnant woman, which make her a more central and desired part of the community, reduce her need to compete for resources and increasing her likelihood of survival( and therefore of her offspring).

There's a reason why some of the most ancient art pays homage to the wonder of the pregnant woman. A woman produces more estrogen and progesterone during nine months of pregnancy than the entirety of the rest of her life.

It drives the rest of us crazy and we're barely even aware of it.

*Yes, I know evolution is not intelligent or directed in any sense

That's amazing!

lawred2 · 13-02-2020 1:54pm

JustAThought wrote: »

people who will que in their cars blocking the road to wait to park in a full carpark despite the light flashing to say it is full, cones and men in high vis being put there to prevent them doing this -
meanwhile a 600 space almost empty car park entrance is ten foot from them - but no, they block the roundabout and road.

This is Swords Pavilions right? Has to be!

lawred2 · 13-02-2020 1:55pm

Widdershins wrote: »

I don't get when people say your life goes out the window when you have a baby. Only if your life is all nightlife in pubs but you can bring them with you most places. There are baby wraps.

Only twats say that

lawred2 · 13-02-2020 1:56pm

pgj2015 wrote: »

Travellers.

nah - knew this Scottish lad who was an airline pilot for Ryanair

shorts and flip flops in winter

Flies for Emirates now and based in Dubai. He got exactly what he wanted.

castletownman · 13-02-2020 1:57pm

Widdershins wrote: »

I don't get when people say your life goes out the window when you have a baby. Only if your life is all nightlife in pubs but you can bring them with you most places. There are baby wraps.

I have a cousin who has essentially disappeared off the face of earth since he had kids. It's actually worrying how secluded his life has become, although I do think it's more to do with his OH.

I have been at two of his immediate family's celebrations in the mean-time, and he has literally stayed for one pint, a bit of food and left early. This despite his own siblings having kids too.

Even his wedding was under the guise of a christening but was a surprise ceremony. Noticeably, a lot of his wife's side were present, but very few of his own cousins/friends. It seemed to be her day only.

I happened to bump into him randomly at the annual town festival in summer 2018, and he hadn't heard that one cousin had broken-up with a long-term girlfriend, or that my own brother had emigrated. I mean how out of the loop can you get. He must be the first man ever to be under the thumb. Even then, he was allowed have one drink, and it seemed like he was being monitored.

He used the ring me every weekend when he was single, and I always did my best to accommodate him if he wanted to go for a pint. Now, not even a text. Strange.

CrankyHaus · 13-02-2020 2:12pm

BMW M-Sport.
They all just seen to be bog standard 520Ds with different coloured and shaped bits attached to look sportier. The middle class, middle aged equivalent of throwing a huge spoiler, aerial, farty sounding exhaust and tints on a 1.4 Bora.

Rothko · 13-02-2020 2:41pm

Potential-Monke wrote: »

Really? I kinda want to watch it just because it's the first foreign film to get the main Oscar.

I watched it a few months ago and thought it was a great film.

13-02-2020 3:35pm

CrankyHaus wrote: »

BMW M-Sport.
They all just seen to be bog standard 520Ds with different coloured and shaped bits attached to look sportier. The middle class, middle aged equivalent of throwing a huge spoiler, aerial, farty sounding exhaust and tints on a 1.4 Bora.

M-sport is a trim level, it was never meant to mean the car is faster etc. They look far better though and that’s the point, looks mean a lot with a car.

Widdershins · 13-02-2020 4:47pm

castletownman wrote: »

I have a cousin who has essentially disappeared off the face of earth since he had kids. It's actually worrying how secluded his life has become, although I do think it's more to do with his OH.

I have been at two of his immediate family's celebrations in the mean-time, and he has literally stayed for one pint, a bit of food and left early. This despite his own siblings having kids too.

Even his wedding was under the guise of a christening but was a surprise ceremony. Noticeably, a lot of his wife's side were present, but very few of his own cousins/friends. It seemed to be her day only.

I happened to bump into him randomly at the annual town festival in summer 2018, and he hadn't heard that one cousin had broken-up with a long-term girlfriend, or that my own brother had emigrated. I mean how out of the loop can you get. He must be the first man ever to be under the thumb. Even then, he was allowed have one drink, and it seemed like he was being monitored.

He used the ring me every weekend when he was single, and I always did my best to accommodate him if he wanted to go for a pint. Now, not even a text. Strange.

Might be worth having a chat. If he's that under her thumb as you say, thats not good. Monitored? Allowed? This makes me uneasy. The danger is he will end up totally isolated.

dubstarr · 13-02-2020 5:07pm

Antares35 wrote: »

This! We are expecting our first and I don't know how many times people have shouted prophecies of doom - "oh just you wait now" or "you're life is no longer your own" etc. Of course there will be changes but it's not like we will be shackled to the floor and not allowed out. I've spent a good chunk of my adult life juggling full time work, part time study and many additional responsibilities and constraints on my time. I think it is only if you live vicariously through your child with zero other interests or you are a very bad time manager that you will find yourself without a life*.

* I promise to report back if I eat these words

:D

Come back in 6 months:D.My kids never ruled me,but unfortunatley they do have personalities of their own.And some dont sleep,take 6 hours to eat.They dont like the cold/heat.
So what im saying its not really down to you for a few years.They rule the roost.

Widdershins · 13-02-2020 5:13pm

Antares35 wrote: »

Ovulation I can understand. We are designed to be more attractive during this time - with a glow, nicer skin, more fertile and generally feeling an increased libido.. it's natures way of ensuring we procreate! :P The pregnancy one I don't get however - why would we be designed to look more attractive to males of the species when we are already impregnated with someone else's child? From an evolutionary perspective, I don't get it. Also from a practical one, have never had said glow! I just went from tired and grumpy to looking like I ate too many doughnuts to now just looking like usual me with a basketball stuffed under my dress :D (and am still grumpy though that could just be state of being for me)

I was thinking this.

Well, I thought for a man to sense his wife/partners pregnancy would make more sense than the family dog sensing it while he has no instinctive idea. Less so random men sensing it. Seamus post v. Interesting though. Never thought of that.
Shame not all men are more drawn to or protective of pregnant partners by instinct but I guess the man's personality is a huge factor too.

Millicently · 13-02-2020 7:07pm

castletownman wrote: »

I have a cousin who has essentially disappeared off the face of earth since he had kids. It's actually worrying how secluded his life has become, although I do think it's more to do with his OH.

I have been at two of his immediate family's celebrations in the mean-time, and he has literally stayed for one pint, a bit of food and left early. This despite his own siblings having kids too.

Even his wedding was under the guise of a christening but was a surprise ceremony. Noticeably, a lot of his wife's side were present, but very few of his own cousins/friends. It seemed to be her day only.

I happened to bump into him randomly at the annual town festival in summer 2018, and he hadn't heard that one cousin had broken-up with a long-term girlfriend, or that my own brother had emigrated. I mean how out of the loop can you get. He must be the first man ever to be under the thumb. Even then, he was allowed have one drink, and it seemed like he was being monitored.

He used the ring me every weekend when he was single, and I always did my best to accommodate him if he wanted to go for a pint. Now, not even a text. Strange.

Maybe he's just happier living the life he lives now. A lot of men are quite happy to use the wife not letting them out to play lie as an excuse for avoiding social occasions they don't want to attend. I know that if I didn't nag my husband into phoning his parents they'd hear from him a lot less than they do.

whisky_galore · 13-02-2020 7:22pm

castletownman wrote: »

I have a cousin who has essentially disappeared off the face of earth since he had kids. It's actually worrying how secluded his life has become, although I do think it's more to do with his OH.

I have been at two of his immediate family's celebrations in the mean-time, and he has literally stayed for one pint, a bit of food and left early. This despite his own siblings having kids too.

Even his wedding was under the guise of a christening but was a surprise ceremony. Noticeably, a lot of his wife's side were present, but very few of his own cousins/friends. It seemed to be her day only.

I happened to bump into him randomly at the annual town festival in summer 2018, and he hadn't heard that one cousin had broken-up with a long-term girlfriend, or that my own brother had emigrated. I mean how out of the loop can you get. He must be the first man ever to be under the thumb. Even then, he was allowed have one drink, and it seemed like he was being monitored.

He used the ring me every weekend when he was single, and I always did my best to accommodate him if he wanted to go for a pint. Now, not even a text. Strange.

P*ssy whipped.
Lads that have a domineering mammy don't mind being under the thumb of their nearest and dearest. It's like being institutionalised.

vriesmays · 13-02-2020 7:30pm

A few years back a former Boards member directed a non-Hollywood science fiction movie for 10 million dollars. It made 25 grand at the American box office. I don't get why he's not in jail.

Gretas Gonna Get Ya! · 13-02-2020 7:39pm

I don't get why people fill up their lives, with so much pointless sh!t...

Most of which just tires them out, and leaves them stressed and always rushing around trying to fit everything in.

Makes no sense to me. Free time to relax, is not just a luxury... it's a necessity for good health!

I really do think all these Cancers and other illnesses, are at least partly brought on by this busy-bee always on the go style of modern life! It's a total disaster for your health...

13-02-2020 7:39pm

Gretas Gonna Get Ya! wrote: »

I don't get why people fill up their lives, with so much pointless sh!t...

Most of which just tires them out, and leaves them stressed and always rushing around trying to fit everything in.

Makes no sense to me. Free time to relax, is not just a luxury... it's a necessity for good health!

I really do think all these Cancers and other illnesses, are at least partly brought on by this busy-bee always on the go style of modern life! It's a total disaster for your health...

Lazing around would be far unhealthier.

Redneck Reject71 · 13-02-2020 7:51pm

Widdershins wrote: »

I don't get when people say your life goes out the window when you have a baby. Only if your life is all nightlife in pubs but you can bring them with you most places. There are baby wraps.

For me, I don't see it as that at all. When my daughter was born it was like an awakening. I really can't describe the wonderous emotions of it.And over the years watching her grow, I got to relive another childhood through her. Nothing can beat that IMO.

Now she is of the age where I am old and ignorant and she knows best,heh.But still I would do it all over again.

Gretas Gonna Get Ya! · 13-02-2020 8:16pm

ReginaldSmythV wrote: »

Lazing around would be far unhealthier.

Relaxing and being lazy are not the same thing!

Although, I can see why some people might get them confused tbf.

smilerf · 13-02-2020 8:22pm

Questions when joining a Facebook group. They are stupid and annoying
You could just use Google for the answers.
They are not going to weed out scammers etc

Widdershins · 13-02-2020 8:27pm

Gretas Gonna Get Ya! wrote: »

Relaxing and being lazy are not the same thing!

Although, I can see why some people might get them confused tbf.

That's true. I have difficulty relaxing. Some have difficulty motivating themselves. Tricky

Pawwed Rig · 13-02-2020 8:39pm

whisky_galore wrote: »

P*ssy whipped.
Lads that have a domineering mammy don't mind being under the thumb of their nearest and dearest. It's like being institutionalised.

Classic spousal abuse signs tbh

Millicently · 14-02-2020 8:13am

whisky_galore wrote: »

P*ssy whipped.
Lads that have a domineering mammy don't mind being under the thumb of their nearest and dearest. It's like being institutionalised.

Whenever I hear that expression it's usually from grown men who haven't grown up and who resent the fact that the rest of their male friends have grown up settled down and don't want to be down the pub with them anymore because they'd rather be at home living a grown up life. There's a ridiculous number of men children out there who even at 50 will have the mentality of a 15 year old. The fact is most people grow up and don't want to do the same old same old with the same people they used to hang out with before they settled down. It's sad really that so many are going to pubs perving on girls who are young enough to be their daughters.

Gretas Gonna Get Ya! · 14-02-2020 8:58am

Millicently wrote: »

Whenever I hear that expression it's usually from grown men who haven't grown up and who resent the fact that the rest of their male friends have grown up settled down and don't want to be down the pub with them anymore because they'd rather be at home living a grown up life. There's a ridiculous number of men children out there who even at 50 will have the mentality of a 15 year old. The fact is most people grow up and don't want to do the same old same old with the same people they used to hang out with before they settled down. It's sad really that so many are going to pubs perving on girls who are young enough to be their daughters.

Yes, but we all know that "grown ups" are just dead inside...

This is why they have children. Their children give them a daily reminder, of what it was like before that "magic" died inside them. They can't ever get it back themselves... the best alternative they can find, is to live through their children instead!

However, some adults successfully manage to never fully "grow up". It takes great skill to achieve this... very few ever manage to pull it off though!

14-02-2020 9:47am

Millicently wrote: »

Whenever I hear that expression it's usually from grown men who haven't grown up and who resent the fact that the rest of their male friends have grown up settled down and don't want to be down the pub with them anymore because they'd rather be at home living a grown up life. There's a ridiculous number of men children out there who even at 50 will have the mentality of a 15 year old. The fact is most people grow up and don't want to do the same old same old with the same people they used to hang out with before they settled down. It's sad really that so many are going to pubs perving on girls who are young enough to be their daughters.

Most men don't want to give up on life after having kids and most that do disappear are put under pressure just as that poster has said. I've yet to meet a man who won't go for a scatter of pints because he wants to "live a grown up life" whatever that is.

I can say that kids has not had a major impact on any of my peer group. Nights our are still regular, still at least once a week for many. Obvioulsy not the same freedom but far far from the disappearing of the face if the earth some describe and I refuse to accept people actually enjoy this not ever getting out and meeting friends etc.

Things you just "don't get"?

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