Do you think you're a good friend?

Stigura · 31-05-2016 07:47PM

Seriously though; Does ye mind set not ring of something like they'd now term " Autism ", or what ever?

I knew a bloke once. His son has Autism. Guy nearly beat the fcuker to death, trying to make him think right. Then, they sussed it.

I had doings with the lad. He was weird! This sort of detached attitude. Yet, he held a driving license?!

I'm genuinely not being funny. But, your presentation just smacked of that.

Stigura · 31-05-2016 07:55PM

Eviltwin; Not wishing to divert the thread, but; Nothing sad about it, as far as I'm concerned. Far from it. Honestly.

People are people. Dogs are Dogs. The better part of a century around both has simply taught me, through up close and personal experience, that Dogs are best

Now; Back to MilesMorales1 and his thread

Keane2baMused · 31-05-2016 07:56PM

Stigura wrote: »

Seriously though; Does ye mind set not ring of something like they'd now term " Autism ", or what ever?

I knew a bloke once. His son has Autism. Guy nearly beat the fcuker to death, trying to make him think right. Then, they sussed it.

I had doings with the lad. He was weird! This sort of detached attitude. Yet, he held a driving license?!

I'm genuinely not being funny. But, your presentation just smacked of that.

Jesus H. Christ on a bike!!

Are you for real?

Stigura · 31-05-2016 07:57PM

Keane2baMused wrote: »

Jesus H. Christ on a bike!!

Are you for real?

How would You define Reality?

MilesMorales1 · 31-05-2016 08:03PM

Stigura wrote: »

Seriously though; Does ye mind set not ring of something like they'd now term " Autism ", or what ever?

I knew a bloke once. His son has Autism. Guy nearly beat the fcuker to death, trying to make him think right. Then, they sussed it.

I had doings with the lad. He was weird! This sort of detached attitude. Yet, he held a driving license?!

I'm genuinely not being funny. But, your presentation just smacked of that.

Who has autism sorry?

31-05-2016 08:08PM

MilesMorales1 wrote: »

Do you think you're a good friend?

I think you're probably a better friend than you give yourself credit for. And I think you're probably much better all round than you give yourself credit for.

Don't be so hard on yourself!

Stigura · 31-05-2016 08:10PM

Miles; I used to work for Cliffy. His son, Trevor, had since been diagnosed with Autism.

Trevor was a queer fish.

Maybe you were just trying to make an 'interesting' post, stating how ye mind supposedly worked? Personally, if I read one more person typing that they're " Weird ", I'd like to punch them in the throat.

Not saying, for a minute, that you've said that. My original post was an off the cuff and completely genuine response to ye own initial post. Maybe my not reading the entire thread has lost something, to me?

Sorry if I've in any way derailed the thread. Get back to it.

31-05-2016 08:13PM

Autism is a complicated and multifaceted condition that needs many years of training and expertise to diagnose properly.

It's not something you can just spot, in a post, on a discussion forum, on the internet.

The Masculinist · 31-05-2016 08:14PM

I'm a selfish bollox.

Stigura · 31-05-2016 08:17PM

Stigura wrote: »

Sorry if I've in any way derailed the thread. Get back to it.

Candie wrote: »

It's not something you can just spot, in a post, on a discussion forum, on the internet.

Sorry. Is there some aspect of my last post ye missed?

MilesMorales1 · 31-05-2016 08:23PM

I am diagnosed with aspergers syndrome (by a doctor diagnosed I mean, not by reading on the internet) if that counts.

31-05-2016 08:23PM

I've lost a lot of friends. It was just a natural moving apart with some but with others it was more complicated. At the time my life was very difficult and I felt they weren't there for me. Looking back now I see things a little differently. I pushed them away. They were so happy and everything was working out in their lives. I couldn't bare to be around them. There was a huge gulf between us.

These days I have a small number of close friends who mean the world to me. I'm very very loyal to them. If they need anything, be it an ear or a shoulder then I'm there. If you are important to me then I will move mountains to help you. I also like to think I'm a bit of craic to be around

Sometimes I can be very introverted. It might be weeks or months before I'll make plans to meet up.

31-05-2016 08:25PM

MilesMorales1 wrote: »

I am diagnosed with aspergers syndrome (by a doctor diagnosed I mean, not by reading on the internet) if that counts.

All that counts right now Miles is the thread title

It's not fair that a poster comes along and attempts to give you some kind of hamfisted diagnosis

MilesMorales1 · 31-05-2016 08:27PM

Deleted User wrote: »

All that counts right now Miles is the thread title

It's not fair that a poster comes along and attempts to give you some kind of hamfisted diagnosis

Aye fair enough so.

And one would need friends to get an opinion from friends on stuff

Stigura · 31-05-2016 08:29PM

MilesMorales1 wrote: »

I am diagnosed with aspergers syndrome (by a doctor diagnosed I mean, not by reading on the internet) if that counts.

Bingo! Forgive me, but, there we have it. See? I genuinely wasn't trying to be clever. I certainly wasn't trying to suggest there was anything 'wrong' with you ..... schit ..... or Was I?

Dunno.

Anyway, there ye go. Ye Do have a 'Condition'. That's what I'd picked up on.

Hey; I have a Condition myself, man. Makes me the way I am. No doubt yours makes you the way you are? Fcuk 'em! We're us, right?

31-05-2016 08:33PM

MilesMorales1 wrote: »

Aye fair enough so.

And one would need friends to get an opinion from friends on stuff

One thing to always remember Miles, you are not trash. You are a person with hopes and dreams and fears and insecurities like us all and your opinions do count.

HS3 · 31-05-2016 10:01PM

I can be. I look to my best friend and try to be the friend to her that she is to me. But I can be lazy and sometimes have to set reminders on my phone to cheer her on. But on the other hand I feel a friend is under attack or is feeling poop I can not turn my back. No matter what that might mean for me, I will defend and protect as best I can.

MilesMorales1 · 31-05-2016 10:02PM

Deleted User wrote: »

One thing to always remember Miles, you are not trash. You are a person with hopes and dreams and fears and insecurities like us all and your opinions do count.

Thank you, thats very kind

31-05-2016 10:07PM

MilesMorales1 wrote: »

Thank you, thats very kind

Come along to the night out and we'll have a bit of craic

Keane2baMused · 31-05-2016 10:08PM

I'm a good friend.

I listen, I offer advice and am a good shoulder to cry on. I make lots of time for friends regardless of having a very busy family life and a child with special needs.

Unfortunately over the years I haven't been so lucky with friends

I have been very much a 'back burner' friend and a go to when the boyfriend is busy. While I listen to all of their problems I never get the opportunity to chat about anything going on in my life. As a result I had to walk away from most of these 'friends'.

It's hurtful and upsetting and can be quite lonely at times but cest la vie.

31-05-2016 10:15PM

Keane2baMused wrote: »

I'm a good friend.

I listen, I offer advice and am a good shoulder to cry on. I make lots of time for friends regardless of having a very busy family life and a child with special needs.

Unfortunately over the years I haven't been so lucky with friends I have been very much a 'back burner' friend and a go to when the boyfriend is busy. While I listen to all of their problems I never get the opportunity to chat about anything going on in my life. As a result I had to walk away from most of these 'friends'.

It's hurtful and upsetting and can be quite lonely at times but cest la vie.

The further I moved away from my teens, the less likely I was to allow myself be used as an 'audience friend' for other people.

I spend a lot of time as a teenager and in my early twenties, being the reliable listening ear to friends who where nowhere to be seen when things were tough for me.

The advantage of all that is that at least I know who my true friends are, and sure enough they're the ones who listened as much as they talked all along.

Chain Smoker · 31-05-2016 10:24PM

I'm generally an amazing friend when things are going bad; very good to talk to, help figure **** out with, empathy and all that

Unless it's a very particular type of depressive where I know they can handle my... awareness of things, I'm a dreadful friend when things are going good, can kill the mood of just about anything so I kind of have to distance myself. Also very bad if things are going bad for me personally, will not let people in at all and am kind of good at hiding it if needed.

Considering how closed off I generally am, I do okay on the friends front really. Pretty aware it's important so I consistently make ways to meet new people, keep in touch, etc. Reckon if I stayed in one place for more than a few months now that I'd be able to build up an okay network.

Your Face · 31-05-2016 10:27PM

I use people for biscuits.

Do you think you're a good friend?

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