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Narcissistic Ex

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  • #32
    tara73
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,358 ✭✭✭tara73


    poppy_crystal wrote: »
    the last few days of space are telling lots, i've heard nothing from him, he hasn't tried to see me, guess thats a wrap then!

    yeah, thinking the same as poster above, you asked him to give you space, that's obviously what he's doing. but now you expect him to contact you...sorry, that's a bit twisted from your side.

    If you had enough space and you want to be in contact with him again, it's your part to contact him.


  • #33
    poppy_crystal
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34 ✭poppy_crystal


    Big Bag of Chips wrote: »
    Don't be too quick to write him off. You asked him for space. He's not a mind reader. He didn't know that "I need space" means "what I actually want is for you to chase me and let me know that you really want me, and will do whatever you can to keep me".

    You need to talk to each other. Truthfully and honestly. I get the impression neither of you are being completely honest with the other.

    well going from what i have been hearing through the grape vine, honest he has not been..... i think i'm best off keeping my distance now. clearly i didn't mean a whole lot to him and there was more going on that just my ex


  • #34
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 15,660 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    "Hearing through the grapevine" is still not talking to him though. You should always be careful of second hand information.

    As others have said, I'm not saying you should stay with this fella, but when you started the thread a few days ago, he was wonderful, you were cautious, your ex was the main problem. And now suddenly you've asked him for space and are upset because he gave it to you. Maybe he IS a dick. Maybe you are better off away from him and maybe there is no point trying to talk to him because he won't be honest anyway. But you sound completely confused and unsure of yourself.

    I think you need to learn to be happy on your own before you can be happy with someone else. You obviously are vulnerable to abusive/controlling men. And even on this thread alone your opinion and position swayed completely from your original standpoint once other people started offering their opinion.

    You sound like a lovely, woman, with a brain and a good head on your shoulders. Trust YOURSELF. If something doesn't feel right to you, then you shouldn't feel pressured into it. You've survived a bad marriage and are coping very well with your children. Have confidence in yourself. Have confidence in your choices. You're doing a good job so far. Once you know what YOU want, you will achieve it. You don't need a partner making your decisions for you.

    Good luck. I'm sorry he didn't turn out to be as wonderful as you first thought. But at least you found out before your children got involved.


  • #35
    poppy_crystal
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34 ✭poppy_crystal


    Big Bag of Chips wrote: »
    "Hearing through the grapevine" is still not talking to him though. You should always be careful of second hand information.

    As others have said, I'm not saying you should stay with this fella, but when you started the thread a few days ago, he was wonderful, you were cautious, your ex was the main problem. And now suddenly you've asked him for space and are upset because he gave it to you. Maybe he IS a dick. Maybe you are better off away from him and maybe there is no point trying to talk to him because he won't be honest anyway. But you sound completely confused and unsure of yourself.

    I think you need to learn to be happy on your own before you can be happy with someone else. You obviously are vulnerable to abusive/controlling men. And even on this thread alone your opinion and position swayed completely from your original standpoint once other people started offering their opinion.

    You sound like a lovely, woman, with a brain and a good head on your shoulders. Trust YOURSELF. If something doesn't feel right to you, then you shouldn't feel pressured into it. You've survived a bad marriage and are coping very well with your children. Have confidence in yourself. Have confidence in your choices. You're doing a good job so far. Once you know what YOU want, you will achieve it. You don't need a partner making your decisions for you.

    Good luck. I'm sorry he didn't turn out to be as wonderful as you first thought. But at least you found out before your children got involved.

    thank you. i think it might be time to start on the bucket list! i've got time on my hands now lol


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