How to be more mellow?

Hannibelle Smeeeth · 11-03-2016 03:23PM

I would love to be more mellow....but people just set me off!! :pac:

Speedwell · 11-03-2016 03:24PM

I just remembered about this, too... nothing better for helping me sleep http://www.rainymood.com/

elstingeo · 11-03-2016 03:28PM

I've an anxiety disorder so I'm always stressed or high strung.. But I'd recommend practicing mindfulness, avoid caffeine, deep breathing, meditation, no smoking, good nights sleep and exercise.

11-03-2016 03:33PM

I used to be a stresshead. Always worrying. Wouldn't sleep all that well.

Now I rarely get overly stressed. The first sign that I'm stressed is that I get a pain in my right shoulder!

Things that you worry about can be broken down into two categories:

1. Things you can change.
2. Things you can't change.

If you can change things, change them, or do something to begin the process of changing them.

If you can't, then what good are you doing yourself by worrying about something you cannot change? Answer: None. The problem will be there whether you worry about it or not. Better not to worry!

Try to always think of things logically - sit down and break things down into little pieces. If you're thinking of a HUGE BIG THING THAT MIGHT HAPPEN of course you'll be stressed over it. Think of the steps and the smaller pieces of THAT BIG THING and maybe you can change/control some of the pieces, so change/control the ones you can and leave the ones you can't for someone else to worry about!

LDN_Irish · 11-03-2016 03:38PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Smoking banana skins.

I only do this when I'm too lazy to catch a psychoactive toad.

Huntergonzo · 11-03-2016 03:46PM

'Don't worry, about a thing, cause every little thing, gonna be alright' :-)

donegaLroad · 11-03-2016 04:40PM

shamrock2004 wrote: »

I consider myself highly strung and at times get stressed about stupid things. Would you consider yourself stressful? If not, did you used to be a stress head and if so how did you learn to 'give less of a sh*t' about things?

just say to yourself... 'the world is going to explode in about 5 millions years, none of this really matters'

Maximus Alexander · 11-03-2016 05:12PM

shamrock2004 wrote: »

I consider myself highly strung and at times get stressed about stupid things. Would you consider yourself stressful? If not, did you used to be a stress head and if so how did you learn to 'give less of a sh*t' about things?

I noticed that most people don't have it together nearly as well as they project; nobody has any idea what they're doing or what's going on; worst case scenarios are rarely as bad as you expect in the long run; no matter what happens the world keeps turning and the sun will rise tomorrow; I'll be old and then dead before I know it.

Now I just laugh at people who take themselves too seriously.

shamrock2004 · 11-03-2016 05:17PM

ChickCave wrote: »

Sounds great, I must look into the meditation side more myself. I've gotten a lot from other methods but it's still a work in progress thanks

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. People go to the gym to exercise their bodies, why not exercise the mind with meditation? I think kids should be taught the importance of mental health and equipped with practical tools for maintaining mental health.

Ruu · 11-03-2016 05:20PM

Meditation everyday, even if you can only spare 10 mins.

Ush1 · 11-03-2016 05:25PM

Intense physical exercise helps blow out that nervous, anxious energy. Best form of meditation available.

Aongus Von Bismarck · 11-03-2016 05:27PM

Mindful meditation. As little as 10 minutes per day. If you can spare 20 then even better. It just requires making it as routine as brushing your teeth or polishing your shoes.

MarkR · 11-03-2016 05:29PM

I probably lead a reasonably stressful life, but I don't let it get to me. Not that i've a mantra or anything, but I've always like "This too shall pass".

Whatever stuff you're going through, others have, or will. You're problems aren't unique, and you can get past them.

I also like the saying, though I can't find the exact one, is that you are the culminations of generations of winners, from the single cell life evolving and changing. From single cells, to simple organisms, through to the earliest animals, ape ancestors, everything your ancestors did brought about you, and me. And i'm sitting here on boards. Ah well. ;-)

DEFTLEFTHAND · 11-03-2016 05:31PM

I was always a little fuss arse, even as a child, everything gets me stressed.

diomed · 11-03-2016 05:33PM

Alf Stewart. wrote: »

I find ogling Sheila's in leopard skin whale tail thongs helps me in the stress depatment, that and skullin ice cold tinnies from the eskie.

Welcome to boards.ie. I like your contribution.

DareGod · 11-03-2016 06:57PM

shamrock2004 wrote: »

I consider myself highly strung and at times get stressed about stupid things. Would you consider yourself stressful? If not, did you used to be a stress head and if so how did you learn to 'give less of a sh*t' about things?

I have an anxiety disorder. The only thing that works for me (besides medication) is mindfulness. I know it's a buzzword at the moment, but it's been around for thousands of years, and for good reason.

It's not easy. For it to work for you, it takes time, practice and discipline, and it doesn't solve your issues overnight - these are aspects of it which probably put a lot of people off it and make them give up after only trying it for a very short time, branding it "useless."

But it has helped me massively because I have put a lot of time and work into it. I have a long way to go, but I'm enjoying huge benefits of mindfulness so far. There's no doubt that you will too, if you put in the work. It's worth it more than you can imagine.

11-03-2016 07:02PM

I attended Cognitive Behavioral Therapy a few years ago when I was going through a rough patch. Very helpful. If I'm ever stressed out or feeling down I apply the methods I learned in CBT.

Exercise also helps a lot. And plenty of sleep. Pretty obvious though I guess..

recylingbin · 11-03-2016 07:04PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EjQ5Yw72xtA

paleoperson · 11-03-2016 07:38PM

Sometimes I get horrible OCD, and the more I think about it the worse it seems to get. It's literally a feedback loop based on nothing except my own panic. **** can be incredibly rough though.

I think everyone probably has their own "awful, awful thing", and their anxiety is directed towards it. Like their "outlet" or way of dealing with everything bad. The root cause of the anxiety or unease is one thing while it can be manifested as something completely different.

shamrock2004 · 11-03-2016 08:27PM

paleoperson wrote: »

Sometimes I get horrible OCD, and the more I think about it the worse it seems to get. It's literally a feedback loop based on nothing except my own panic. **** can be incredibly rough though.

I think everyone probably has their own "awful, awful thing", and their anxiety is directed towards it. Like their "outlet" or way of dealing with everything bad. The root cause of the anxiety or unease is one thing while it can be manifested as something completely different.

I have it too. It was meditation which made me more cognisant of it. Going to start CBT to try and fix this crap.

strelok · 11-03-2016 08:29PM

magnesium supplementation did wonders for me

best off with something like glycinate or citrate though, something chelated. so many of the multivitamins and "cheaper" magnesium supplements are magnesium oxide which is barely absorbed at all by the body.

DareGod · 11-03-2016 09:12PM

strelok wrote: »

magnesium supplementation did wonders for me

best off with something like glycinate or citrate though, something chelated. so many of the multivitamins and "cheaper" magnesium supplements are magnesium oxide which is barely absorbed at all by the body.

Chromium also comes highly recommended, as well as Omegas 3, 6 & 9 (in a specific ratio,) for anxiety and depression.

I used to take Sona Multiplus as it was loaded with vitamins and minerals, including Chromium.

I can't say for sure if it made a difference, but nutrition is evidently extremely important in reducing the various kinds of stress.

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