Gossiping about people you don't even know.

Akrasia · 01-02-2016 09:55AM #1

I've just heard this conversation between two people of the fairer sex

Gossiper: 'Do you know that girl with the blonde hair who sits over there, I don't know her name?

Gossipee: 'No, which girl?'

Gossiper: 'She's tall, I think she's Polish or Ukrainian or something'

Gossipee: 'Eh, I think so, eh, yeah, I know who you're talking about'

Gossiper: 'I think she's just gotten engaged'

Gossipee: 'Oh really, wow! I can't believe it!'

......

I don't get it.

Akrasia · 01-02-2016 09:56AM

And before anyone points it out

Technically, I was just gossiping about two people I don't know because they were gossiping about someone they don't know....

20Cent · 01-02-2016 09:58AM

what's he like?
Did he get down on one knee?
Did he ask her father?

Need to know!!!!

conorhal · 01-02-2016 09:58AM

A) Women

If women stopped gossiping about people they don't know or never met half the magazines in the market aimed at them would go out of business in the morning.

stoneill · 01-02-2016 10:03AM

Was it you they were gossiping about?

Akrasia · 01-02-2016 10:16AM

20Cent wrote: »

what's he like?
Did he get down on one knee?
Did he ask her father?

Need to know!!!!

Don't know any of that, but I think he used to go out with Claire from Accounts!

smash · 01-02-2016 10:17AM

That's all well and good, but I heard that Akrasia is a compulsive liar!

Sam Kade · 01-02-2016 10:21AM

Does anyone know the op? Must be an awfull eejit starting silly threads on a Monday morning

Akrasia · 01-02-2016 10:35AM

Sam Kade wrote: »

Does anyone know the op? Must be an awfull eejit starting silly threads on a Monday morning

I just want the weekend to never end

Akrasia · 01-02-2016 10:37AM

smash wrote: »

That's all well and good, but I heard that Akrasia is a compulsive liar!

So you mean his penis isn't 9 inches long?

MilesMorales1 · 01-02-2016 10:41AM

I despise gossiping of all kinds. Completely mean spirited, and pointless, and the people that engage with it need to find something better to be doing with themselves if they're so uninteresting they need to crawl through the underbelly of someone else's life.

Kev W · 01-02-2016 10:48AM

Wouldn't the "gossipee" be the person being gossiped about?

Graces7 · 01-02-2016 10:54AM

MilesMorales1 wrote: »

I despise gossiping of all kinds. Completely mean spirited, and pointless, and the people that engage with it need to find something better to be doing with themselves if they're so uninteresting they need to crawl through the underbelly of someone else's life.

Always reminds me of the wartime slogan, " Careless talk costs lives." I lived many years on a small island where lives including mine were wrecked by gossip; ie lies disguised as truth... I never believe anything I hear now. Unless I know it as fact. Some here have spread terrible gossip about me when i was a newcomer with an unusual life style. It can have devastating effects; even led to an assault on me. Thankfully the local Gardai know truth and know that if anything happens I will call them. Small communities can be lethal and surely they seem to have nothing better to do. I feel really sorry for them . truly I do.

cowboyBuilder · 01-02-2016 10:55AM

Look at that guy over there with no shirt on ..... dick!!

The Backwards Man · 01-02-2016 11:01AM

Nothing wrong with gossip as long as it isn't malicious or intentionally untrue.

What would we have to talk about it we couldn't talk about people?

Graces7 · 01-02-2016 11:03AM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Nothing wrong with gossip as long as it isn't malicious or intentionally untrue.

What would we have to talk about it we couldn't talk about people?

:rolleyes:

Akrasia · 01-02-2016 11:04AM

Kev W wrote: »

Wouldn't the "gossipee" be the person being gossiped about?

Or the person being gossiped to, the recipient of said gossip

The addressee is the person a letter is sent to, not the person the letter is about...

Anyway, I made up the word, I can use it any way I like :P

Akrasia · 01-02-2016 11:10AM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Nothing wrong with gossip as long as it isn't malicious or intentionally untrue.

What would we have to talk about it we couldn't talk about people?

Sperm whales?

Face mites

Ballooning spiders

phagocytosis...

Shrap · 01-02-2016 11:38AM

Graces7 wrote: »

Small communities can be lethal and surely they seem to have nothing better to do.

I think it happens in every small community in the world - human nature! Was a newcomer here over 20 years ago and there was a daft rumour floated by my (also blow-in) landlady that I was a heroin addict! She based this on the two tea-stained silver plated teaspoons that I hadn't polished before moving out. I blame my mother, as she did the last bit of washing up in that house! I confronted the old bag of a gossip on that one.

Another one that "grew arms and legs" was that I was pregnant again (I had just put on weight, is all...) and that one lasted 18 months! The last person to ask me outright got "do ya think I'm having an elephant, or what?".

You have to grow a thick skin pretty quick in a small town.

maudgonner · 01-02-2016 11:53AM

Akrasia wrote: »

Sperm whales?

Face mites

Ballooning spiders

phagocytosis...

I hear that new wan down the road has face mites...

01-02-2016 03:57PM

There was one in work recently.

Gossip: "See him now, he's going out with that blonde girl from x department"

Others: "oh really?" (I don't know either of these people so I just shrugged).

Gossip: "Yeh, they came in this morning together and then they had breakfast together"

Another: "eh, he's engaged to the other girl from xx department".

Gossip: "Oh right".

Fcuk sake like. Spreading untrue rumours based on people sitting with each other at breakfast!

MilesMorales1 · 01-02-2016 04:10PM

Deleted User wrote: »

There was one in work recently.

Gossip: "See him now, he's going out with that blonde girl from x department"

Others: "oh really?" (I don't know either of these people so I just shrugged).

Gossip: "Yeh, they came in this morning together and then they had breakfast together"

Another: "eh, he's engaged to the other girl from xx department".

Gossip: "Oh right".

Fcuk sake like. Spreading untrue rumours based on people sitting with each other at breakfast!

Well quite. Absolute nonsense. There's tons of things you can discuss with people that doesn't involve being mean and malicious. Tv, films, sports, weather, what you did at the weekend, what your going to do at the weekend, etc. Can't think of anything to say? Say nothing.

Graces7 · 01-02-2016 04:28PM

When I was new here some really nasty gossip was started. It amounted to allegation of criminality and the Gardai were involved. Which I was fine about as we were able to authenticate and affirm truth at a high level. In spite if this, years later, there is still hostility and suspicion. Poison pollutes. Very recently I was chatting with a tourist at the beach and this women gets out of a car, comes over and attacks me verbally and viciously with all the old gossip. I was shattered. Should have had the wit to say, eg Oh dear; you have not taken your meds today!..... Or referred her to the Gardai who have had to sort a few folk out all because some nasty folk decided to start evil rumours years ago.. Needless to say I do not go to that village to shop and am only there once a week in summer for business purposes.. Putting a question in a separate post. but my rule is; if you cannot say what you are saying to that persons face do not say it to anyone else. There is nothing in me, in my life etc that cannot be seen and shown without shame.

ScumLord · 01-02-2016 04:31PM

Graces7 wrote: »

Small communities can be lethal and surely they seem to have nothing better to do. I feel really sorry for them . truly I do.

Small towns run with gossip even when they know it's blatantly untrue. Nearly every nit of small town gossip ends with "but you know yourself, it probably wasn't anywhere near as bad" It's taken for granted it's over hype.

The city folks seem to completely buy into their version of the small town gossip, newspapers. The poor city folk just have no experience with this type of news. Most newspapers are exactly the same as small town gossips, they take a bit of truth and turn it into an elaborate story that they could have only made up.

Graces7 · 01-02-2016 04:31PM

A question for you on this! What do you do when.if someone starts talking to you about someone who is not there in less than approving terms? Are you scared to front up to them lest they start on you? Or to lose their approval? Do you just listen and say nothing? It is difficult I know. But gossip only thrives if it is listened to and spread.

Neyite · 01-02-2016 04:39PM

Akrasia wrote: »

I've just heard this conversation between two people of the fairer sex
Gossiper: 'Do you know that girl with the blonde hair who sits over there, I don't know her name?
Gossipee: 'No, which girl?'
Gossiper: 'She's tall, I think she's Polish or Ukrainian or something'
Gossipee: 'Eh, I think so, eh, yeah, I know who you're talking about'
Gossiper: 'I think she's just gotten engaged'
Gossipee: 'Oh really, wow! I can't believe it!'
......
I don't get it.

Isn't this just an Irish Mammy thing? Telling you a big story about nobody you ever heard of before?

Akrasia · 01-02-2016 04:45PM

Neyite wrote: »

Isn't this just an Irish Mammy thing? Telling you a big story about nobody you ever heard of before?

Do all Mammys do this? I thought it was just mine

In fairness to my mother though, her stories are often about people who I actually have met before but I'm so terrible with names that I have no idea who she's talking about.

Shrap · 01-02-2016 04:47PM

Akrasia wrote: »

Do all Mammys do this? I thought it was just mine

All do it. I'm doing it now to my kids..."Do you know yer wan, who used to be going out with that fella with the hair that you know...yeah, him....well it's her gran I'm talking about"

01-02-2016 04:51PM

Akrasia wrote: »

Do all Mammys do this? I thought it was just mine

In fairness to my mother though, her stories are often about people who I actually have met before but I'm so terrible with names that I have no idea who she's talking about.

Ah you do know her.

Remember Pat from down the street? Well she was married to Henry, who was Pat's Brother in Law that came over from England.

Ah you do.

01-02-2016 04:51PM

Ha, snap Shrap :P

Neyite · 01-02-2016 05:05PM

Deleted User wrote: »

Ah you do know her.

Remember Pat from down the street? Well she was married to Henry, who was Pat's Brother in Law that came over from England.

Ah you do.

"Well. She died."

Gossiping about people you don't even know.

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