Single life as a guy...

woodchuck · 12-01-2016 02:19PM

Confucius say wrote: »

It's really not! Why is it a hassle using something within a week? That 3 days thing is nonsense anyway.

Maybe only buy enough meat for one? Or freeze what you don't need?

I hate cooking in bulk because even if I cooked enough for 4 portions I'd eat it all at once.

It's just annoying because it means you end up having less variety of meals. Instead of having a different meal every day of the week, you end up having maybe 3 or 4 different meals, and the rest are repeats/leftovers.

And yes, you can freeze what you don't eat. But it's just the annoyance of having to do that. I know it's only a minor inconvenience in the grand scheme of things, but having to divide food out into freezer bags, let it cool, remember to put it into the fridge/freezer before bed (jumping out of bed when you're about to fall asleep or tossing it the next day because you forgot about it), remember that it's even the freezer for later use (finding uneaten bags taking up room in the freezer weeks/months later!) and then having to plan ahead to defrost it another week. Personally I just think it's a lot easier to cook for two rather than one. And fresh food is always nicer than leftovers or frozen food.

Confucius say · 12-01-2016 02:20PM

woodchuck wrote: »

It's just annoying because it means you end up having less variety of meals. Instead of having a different meal every day of the week, you end up having maybe 3 or 4 different meals, and the rest are repeats/leftovers.

And yes, you can freeze what you don't eat. But it's just the annoyance of having to do that. I know it's only a minor inconvenience in the grand scheme of things, but having to divide food out into freezer bags, let it cool, remember to put it into the fridge/freezer before bed (jumping out of bed when you're about to fall asleep or tossing it the next day because you forgot about it), remember that it's even the freezer for later use (finding uneaten bags taking up room in the freezer weeks/months later!) and then having to plan ahead to defrost it another week. Personally I just think it's a lot easier to cook for two rather than one. And fresh food is always nicer than leftovers or frozen food.

ok well I pretty much eat a variation of the same thing monday to friday and then treat myself at the weekend because I pretty much have an eating disorder and count calories etc.
It works well for cooking alone though

None of the above would be any kind of hassle for me though. Planning ahead to defrost a piece of meat means opening a freezer door and putting something onto a plate to defrost for the next day.

woodchuck · 12-01-2016 02:26PM

Confucius say wrote: »

ok well I pretty much eat a variation of the same thing monday to friday and then treat myself at the weekend because I pretty much have an eating disorder and count calories etc.
It works well for cooking alone though
None of the above would be any kind of hassle for me though. Planning ahead to defrost a piece of meat means opening a freezer door and putting something onto a plate to defrost for the next day.

Yeah something like that in isolation is grand. If it's prepackaged meat you're just taking out of the freezer, I can usually handle that :P But when it comes to having to actual divide up and repackage stuff it gets annoying (for all the reasons above and the realisation of "omg I'm out of freezer bags" :P). Again, not a big thing, but all the little things that are annoying! I'm not a big fan of preparing food anyway though... prefer to eat it :P

Confucius say · 12-01-2016 02:32PM

woodchuck wrote: »

Yeah something like that in isolation is grand. If it's prepackaged meat you're just taking out of the freezer, I can usually handle that :P But when it comes to having to actual divide up and repackage stuff it gets annoying (for all the reasons above and the realisation of "omg I'm out of freezer bags" :P). Again, not a big thing, but all the little things that are annoying! I'm not a big fan of preparing food anyway though... prefer to eat it :P

You can just rip up shopping bags etc you lazy get!

SarahMollie · 12-01-2016 02:37PM

woodchuck wrote: »

Yeah something like that in isolation is grand. If it's prepackaged meat you're just taking out of the freezer, I can usually handle that :P But when it comes to having to actual divide up and repackage stuff it gets annoying (for all the reasons above and the realisation of "omg I'm out of freezer bags" :P). Again, not a big thing, but all the little things that are annoying! I'm not a big fan of preparing food anyway though... prefer to eat it :P

I always go in to the butchers and ask for what I want all packaged separately. For example even if I'm bulk buying something simple like chicken fillets, i ask them to be bagged up in 2's because thats what I'd use on one dinner for 2 ppl. Likewise in getting my beef for stirfry in bags of 250g, and then freezing the lot and it make it easy to only take what I need as I want it.

When I was single I used to ask for each chicken fillet bagged separately - I'm sure they really loved me then!

If you buy meat from the supermarket when cooking for one its much more annoying because the smallest package is likely for 2 ppl.

woodchuck · 12-01-2016 02:43PM

Confucius say wrote: »

You can just rip up shopping bags etc you lazy get!

Where do you be going that still gives out plastic shopping bags!? :eek::P

SarahMollie wrote: »

I always go in to the butchers and ask for what I want all packaged separately. For example even if I'm bulk buying something simple like chicken fillets, i ask them to be bagged up in 2's because thats what I'd use on one dinner for 2 ppl. Likewise in getting my beef for stirfry in bags of 250g, and then freezing the lot and it make it easy to only take what I need as I want it.

When I was single I used to ask for each chicken fillet bagged separately - I'm sure they really loved me then!

If you buy meat from the supermarket when cooking for one its much more annoying because the smallest package is likely for 2 ppl.

Yeah asking for separate packaging is a good idea

The problem is the best value stuff is often in those prepackaged things for 2 or more people though! Although I should probably compare the cost when I take all the freezer bags into account :P

And like I said, I'd rather cook it in 'bulk' anyway, but then the hassle of cooling and freezing it afterwards... there's always something :P

the evasion_kid · 12-01-2016 03:26PM

dont mind cooking at all,but cant stand a messy kitchen when your sharing with some people.there are nights when the effort of cooking is too much.....nothing wrong with pot noodle...but stay away from the chicken flavoured one.....the chicken must have walked through it on stilts!

silverbolt · 12-01-2016 09:14PM

the evasion_kid wrote: »

dont mind cooking at all,but cant stand a messy kitchen when your sharing with some people.there are nights when the effort of cooking is too much.....nothing wrong with pot noodle...but stay away from the chicken flavoured one.....the chicken must have walked through it on stilts!

woodchuck wrote: »

Yeah something like that in isolation is grand. If it's prepackaged meat you're just taking out of the freezer, I can usually handle that :P But when it comes to having to actual divide up and repackage stuff it gets annoying (for all the reasons above and the realisation of "omg I'm out of freezer bags" :P). Again, not a big thing, but all the little things that are annoying! I'm not a big fan of preparing food anyway though... prefer to eat it :P

Confucius say wrote: »

You can just rip up shopping bags etc you lazy get!

Lads, we have some SERIOUS first world problems dont we?

:D:D:D

Mister Vain · 12-01-2016 10:58PM

Jasus the single life as a guy thread has turned into a cooking thread.

Dial Hard · 13-01-2016 12:30AM

Mister Vain wrote:

Jasus the single life as a guy thread has turned into a cooking thread.

Single men still gotta eat.

13-01-2016 12:41AM

I'm a terrible cook. I do try but if there's too much going on I'll make a bags of it. I'm one of those rare women who can't multi-task

I do agree with Confusious. Cooking for one is just as easy as cooking for a few.

Jesus Wept · 13-01-2016 09:42AM

As usual, Louie surmises my feelings and fears perfectly and succinctly.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zTGYIc74zBc

Mister Vain · 13-01-2016 08:05PM

^^^ "I know too much about life to have any optimism." Yep, if you've had your fair share of bad luck, dodgy dates, rejections, or just a lack of success romantically over the years, its very difficult to muster any enthusiasm when an opportunity does come along. It's almost like you assume nothing will happen. When I meet someone who I think may be interested in me, I go with the flow and see what happens but I wouldn't have the same optimism or expectation that I had in my 20's.

I see this a lot with single women in their 30's too. They're a bit more cynical about the whole thing. They've had their fair share of assholes and wonder if there are any decent men out there, and some of them have no qualms about stating this on their dating profiles either.

Potatoeman · 14-01-2016 11:05AM

Mister Vain wrote: »

^^^ "I know too much about life to have any optimism." Yep, if you've had your fair share of bad luck, dodgy dates, rejections, or just a lack of success romantically over the years, its very difficult to muster any enthusiasm when an opportunity does come along. It's almost like you assume nothing will happen. When I meet someone who I think may be interested in me, I go with the flow and see what happens but I wouldn't have the same optimism or expectation that I had in my 20's.

I see this a lot with single women in their 30's too. They're a bit more cynical about the whole thing. They've had their fair share of assholes and wonder if there are any decent men out there, and some of them have no qualms about stating this on their dating profiles either.

That's pretty defeatist. Most people are good, there are not that many bad people. A bit a getting to know someone, honesty and quality control goes a long way.

Confucius say · 14-01-2016 11:38AM

Potatoeman wrote: »

That's pretty defeatist. Most people are good, there are not that many bad people. A bit a getting to know someone, honesty and quality control goes a long way.

Most women I meet these days seem to need years of therapy. Swings and roundabouts.

Pat Mustard · 14-01-2016 01:27PM

Confucius say wrote: »

Most women I meet these days seem to need years of therapy.

Mod:

Confucius say

This kind of casual sexism is unacceptable.

You have been running between the raindrops with the standard of your posting and your posts have required more than one on-thread warning, recently.

Let this be the final warning, please.

Confucius say · 14-01-2016 01:33PM

Pat Mustard wrote: »

Mod:

Confucius say

This kind of casual sexism is unacceptable.

You have been running between the raindrops with the standard of your posting and your posts have required more than one on-thread warning, recently.

Let this be the final warning, please.

You guys seriously need to chill out with the modding here. Just ban me already.

Pat Mustard · 14-01-2016 01:37PM

Mod:

Done

Mourinho · 14-01-2016 08:24PM

Pat Mustard wrote: »

Mod:

Done

"Now that the banning is done, I'm off to ride Mrs. O'Reilly"

:pac:

Mister Vain · 14-01-2016 08:30PM

Mourinho wrote: »

"Now that the banning is done, I'm off to ride Mrs. O'Reilly"

:pac:

Careful now.

Dial Hard · 14-01-2016 08:38PM

Is it just me or did a load of posts from this afternoon disappear without any mod explanation?

Wibbs · 14-01-2016 11:07PM

Dial Hard wrote: »

Is it just me or did a load of posts from this afternoon disappear without any mod explanation?

Actually not DH, only one (off topic) deleted, though I'm getting twitchy with you and the previous two yahoos Mr V and M .

Joking aside, let's get back to the topic guys and gals(which apparently includes recipes for one *OT or not? Twitches again*

Wibbs · 15-01-2016 12:52AM

Mister Vain wrote: »

I see this a lot with single women in their 30's too. They're a bit more cynical about the whole thing. They've had their fair share of assholes and wonder if there are any decent men out there, and some of them have no qualms about stating this on their dating profiles either.

As I said before, I have found women in general to be much more adaptable on this score. I've seen it with women mates. They'd be bending my ear about how men are bastids and cads(while at pains to tell me I was grand, mainly cos I was usually supplying the vino. Mercenary Merlot wenches

). However 9 times outa 10 they'd come along with some bloke they reckoned was a Nice Man(™) and would give all or mostly all emotionally to them. I've known very few men beyond a certain age or life experience who would do that. Actually, just one, but even he is keeping something back in check.

It would be my humble and experience, such as it is, that men are the less emotionally adaptable, even less "forgetful", with less of an emotional reset button gender as a general thing. Less into getting caught up in the good parts and ignoring the possible bad that may happen down the line. Me, I've been deeply emotionally involved a couple of times in my life, would I go again? Honestly, no, or at least no way to that degree. I have found it's generally advantageous not to.

TBH I wish I could reset the mechanism. I really do. I'd give anything to be the wide eyed emotionally open guy again. Cos it's fantastique when that kicks off, but for me anyway, it's not worth the resulting scars.

That's another factor with some(and again more men IME), they have a certain "capacity" for attachment and all that and once it's used up, it's not very refillable. I actually knew a guy who was tapped out at 30, another just under that age and 20 years later they're the same.

Dial Hard · 15-01-2016 01:12AM

Wibbs wrote:

Joking aside, let's get back to the topic guys and gals(which apparently includes recipes for one *OT or not? Twitches again*

I was sure I'd written a lengthy post about men and "crazies" (which you and I have actually discussed at length, without friction, under my previous username) but both the post I was responding to and my own reply weren't to be seen afterwards.

(Actually now that I think of it, my post seemed to be taking forever to load and I just put the phone in my pocket and forgot about it til hours later. I suspect now I was trying to reply to a deleted post. The app is VERY buggy that way.)

Dial Hard · 15-01-2016 01:19AM

Wibbs wrote:

That's another factor with some(and again more men IME), they have a certain "capacity" for attachment and all that and once it's used up, it's not very refillable. I actually knew a guy who was tapped out at 30, another just under that age and 20 years later they're the same.

I dunno if it's just the menfolk, Wibbs. I married at 26 and was separated two weeks before my 30th. I'll be 34 on the 26th of this month and have had one "kind of" relationship in the meantime, which wheezed to a very undignified end just before Christmas.

At this stage, I'm very much of the same "Done now" mindframe that you describe above. I just honestly cannot see myself putting my hand out there to be slapped again. I haven't got the energy to get myself through the aftermath again.

the evasion_kid · 15-01-2016 02:50AM

Wibbs wrote: »

As I said before, I have found women in general to be much more adaptable on this score. I've seen it with women mates. They'd be bending my ear about how men are bastids and cads(while at pains to tell me I was grand, mainly cos I was usually supplying the vino. Mercenary Merlot wenches ). However 9 times outa 10 they'd come along with some bloke they reckoned was a Nice Man(™) and would give all or mostly all emotionally to them. I've known very few men beyond a certain age or life experience who would do that. Actually, just one, but even he is keeping something back in check.

It would be my humble and experience, such as it is, that men are the less emotionally adaptable, even less "forgetful", with less of an emotional reset button gender as a general thing. Less into getting caught up in the good parts and ignoring the possible bad that may happen down the line. Me, I've been deeply emotionally involved a couple of times in my life, would I go again? Honestly, no, or at least no way to that degree. I have found it's generally advantageous not to.

TBH I wish I could reset the mechanism. I really do. I'd give anything to be the wide eyed emotionally open guy again. Cos it's fantastique when that kicks off, but for me anyway, it's not worth the resulting scars.

That's another factor with some(and again more men IME), they have a certain "capacity" for attachment and all that and once it's used up, it's not very refillable. I actually knew a guy who was tapped out at 30, another just under that age and 20 years later they're the same.

i was tapped out at 30, a few mates it took to 35,even if i think of a relationship now i have to stifle a yawn,i do think with age between your own dating experiences and watching others down through the years it becomes a case of "the clearer your vision...the more you wish you were blind"

Wibbs · 15-01-2016 09:46AM

the evasion_kid wrote: »

"the clearer your vision...the more you wish you were blind"

That nails it, yep. I really wish I was more naive. I struggled to hang on to that and actually made it to 40 odd years of age before going cynical. It wasn't any single relationship/woman that did it(though I got dropkicked in the nuts too often), it was more a case of seeing the banal patterns behind relationships. I just stopped being surprised really. That and realising that you, or at least I, act like a complete bloody moron when in love. It's frankly embarrassing. Never mind dangerous to heart and head(and bank account if married then divorced).

silverbolt · 15-01-2016 09:47AM

Wibbs wrote: »

As I said before, I have found women in general to be much more adaptable on this score. I've seen it with women mates. They'd be bending my ear about how men are bastids and cads(while at pains to tell me I was grand, mainly cos I was usually supplying the vino. Mercenary Merlot wenches ). However 9 times outa 10 they'd come along with some bloke they reckoned was a Nice Man(™) and would give all or mostly all emotionally to them. I've known very few men beyond a certain age or life experience who would do that. Actually, just one, but even he is keeping something back in check.

It would be my humble and experience, such as it is, that men are the less emotionally adaptable, even less "forgetful", with less of an emotional reset button gender as a general thing. Less into getting caught up in the good parts and ignoring the possible bad that may happen down the line. Me, I've been deeply emotionally involved a couple of times in my life, would I go again? Honestly, no, or at least no way to that degree. I have found it's generally advantageous not to.

TBH I wish I could reset the mechanism. I really do. I'd give anything to be the wide eyed emotionally open guy again. Cos it's fantastique when that kicks off, but for me anyway, it's not worth the resulting scars.

That's another factor with some(and again more men IME), they have a certain "capacity" for attachment and all that and once it's used up, it's not very refillable. I actually knew a guy who was tapped out at 30, another just under that age and 20 years later they're the same.

I can contest to the women part with one of my friends. She was complaining about no good men left. Then she meets a new guy, has a couple of ONS with him, complains that he was messing her around, goes back to him Three months later, shes totally besotted with and now they are starting the whole dating thing. My other female friend (who i like and had a fling with) is currently not ready emotionally for a relationship (she has had some really bad ones tbf) so shes pretty much not even going to attempt anything.

I dont think id want to go back to the wide eyed look again. I got burned so badly with that role. ID rather be a cynic. But a hopeful cynic. I do beleive everyone can be happy with someone - but i also know theres always the risk of it going tits up. But then I've been described as having a cynical head but a romantic heart

Dial Hard wrote: »

I dunno if it's just the menfolk, Wibbs. I married at 26 and was separated two weeks before my 30th. I'll be 34 on the 26th of this month and have had one "kind of" relationship in the meantime, which wheezed to a very undignified end just before Christmas.

At this stage, I'm very much of the same "Done now" mindframe that you describe above. I just honestly cannot see myself putting my hand out there to be slapped again. I haven't got the energy to get myself through the aftermath again.

But if you dont roll the dice you cant win the game. You never know who your gonna meet. There are good people of both sexes out there. Just a case of finding them. Im not saying you have to be searching for someone but you never know who you'll meet.

silverbolt · 15-01-2016 09:48AM

Wibbs wrote: »

That nails it, yep. I really wish I was more naive. I struggled to hang on to that and actually made it to 40 odd years of age before going cynical. It wasn't any single relationship/woman that did it(though I got dropkicked in the nuts too often), it was more a case of seeing the banal patterns behind relationships. I just stopped being surprised really. That and realising that you, or at least I, act like a complete bloody moron when in love. It's frankly embarrassing. Never mind dangerous to heart and head(and bank account if married then divorced).

everyone does

Confucius say · 15-01-2016 02:13PM

silverbolt wrote: »

everyone does

Which is why I almost view it as kind of a mental illness now and I think I'd rather avoid it for the rest of my life, or hopefully my maturity will be able to handle it a lot better and realistically if it happens again!

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