Things others do that bother you - but you do the same

I guess the only one I can think of is people who forget there might be a back story to every situation you walk in on. They - with a simple glance at you in a moment - find all they need to know about what you are doing and why.

Someone acting a particular way might have a very good reason you are simply oblivious to. Someone driving a bit too slow might be genuinely lost or running out of petrol or some other technical issue - someone coming out of a disabled toilets who looks fine might have a disability you simply can not see - someone who's child is screaming blue murder in the super market might have a genuine reason - ok I am crap at examples today - but the point is that we often see people acting in a way that bothers us - and we get irate without knowing the full picture - and the genuine reasons they have for doing so.

A fun one recently was this old woman came screaming up to me that I did not have a coat or hat on my child on a particularly cold (but dry) day while walking into a shop. All she saw was a child with no coat or hat and she filled in the blanks herself. In fact the house we just left was very warm - the car we just left was equally warm - as was the shop we were going into. There was literally 20 metres between the car and the shop.

But she did not know - or even stop to imagine - any of that. She just saw a coatless child on a cold day and instantly assumed parental neglect. Oblivious to the fact the child required no coat as their exposure to any cold was measurable in mere seconds.

And yes I catch myself doing it on occasion. Some irritation or judgement of another person that I later realise may have had genuine explanations that I was merely ignorant of.